dabrake:
An indirect manner of begging for cheap 'LIKES'. Forget, we understand.

bigheart2013:


Thanks and God bless you for addressing my questions. I want to keep helping but asked the questions to know how to avoid the pitfall of others. I have a little 26yrs old sister. After the death of our mom, being the last born and only girl, she became the queen of the family. I saw her through university in Nigeria. She's in Canada now doing her masters at almost $36,000 USD. Being the oldest son I sold one house, and going through 'hell' now to pay her tuition in Canada. I just don't want to ever think she will be ungrateful to me one day after this. I haven't even married because of carrying the burden of others. Maybe my expectations from them is high. I just don't want to regret all this one day. This is why I'm asking experienced people for guide. I got some points already. God bless you all.

Khalessi: Can these jobless douchebags on nairaland stop making the Nigerian female look bad!!!! This nonsense points you've just listed ain't exclusive to Nigerians ladies only, people from all over the world do it.

bigheart2013:


Thanks and God bless you for addressing my questions. I want to keep helping but asked the questions to know how to avoid the pitfall of others. I have a little 26yrs old sister. After the death of our mom, being the last born and only girl, she became the queen of the family. I saw her through university in Nigeria. She's in Canada now doing her masters at almost $36,000 USD. Being the oldest son I sold one house, and going through 'hell' now to pay her tuition in Canada. I just don't want to ever think she will be ungrateful to me one day after this. I haven't even married because of carrying the burden of others. Maybe my expectations from them is high. I just don't want to regret all this one day. This is why I'm asking experienced people for guide. I got some points already. God bless you all.

WackyJ1:




Why do Ladies like defending themselves with the same thing..

Last last they will use their favourite defense "All Girls are not the same. It must be the girls that you Move around with that are ungrateful"

lirusehn: is dia anyfin like NIGERIAN women y'all crazy or wot?

Area-Fada:
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Spot on. Humans are generally ungrateful.

You see it among Naija women because you deal with them in your Naija environment or social circle.

Agreed Naija case is particularly bad.

Number 1 is lucky that the lady is not working in his company. Don't be surprised if she would somehow engineer his sack from that company.

I helped a Naija woman who was like 7 months pregnant when she arrived in Europe. You know some women 7 months pregnant can have small tummy like 5 months pregnancy.

When she delivered I was helping her with the authorities, birth registration, translating for her, being a non-English speaking country.
She later told the authorities that I was responsible for the pregnancy. Just because they put her under pressure to declare who the dad was to ensure he pays child support.

Nna, na so I see oyinbo officials land for my house to interview me.

A woman I just pitied, never knew her before, not my girlfriend. No be something o.

Ayoolla: Are you a male or female? If youre a male youre sfae but if a female there are two things involved; either you are an aristo babe or you ask for recharge cards always. If you are aristo ure safe but if otherwise you better watch it coz u'l not find it funny now that guys are vexxing.........

Guy I've my own money, I don't need a man to pay my bills. What is Aristo and recharge card?

lirusehn: is dia anyfin like NIGERIAN women y'all crazy or wot?

StateOfMind:

Mr, what exactly is your problem? Do you help people just because you want them to worship you after the help rendered? I can't even believe you are already lamenting and whining about helping your own blood sister. You should be ashamed of yourself.....

I also don't understand how being ungrateful is now a gender thing. I bet if a non-nigerian came here to generalise about nigerians being ungrateful, many posters would have pounced on him and cursed him for the foolish generalization. Now every BOY has a story to tell about ungrateful nigerian women..

Iaz93: No! Pity yourself instead. The OP didn't generalize. So why the fuss?

nnenna311: Pls not every woman is ungrateful,my huby saw me through school from my first degree to two Msc and a PhD. He is stucked with just OND 'cause of his job and. my studies. Married him just yrs ago. I owe him every thing.

Area-Fada:
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Spot on. Humans are generally ungrateful.

You see it among Naija women because you deal with them in your Naija environment or social circle.

Agreed Naija case is particularly bad.

Number 1 is lucky that the lady is not working in his company. Don't be surprised if she would somehow engineer his sack from that company.

I helped a Naija woman who was like 7 months pregnant when she arrived in Europe. You know some women 7 months pregnant can have small tummy like 5 months pregnancy.

When she delivered I was helping her with the authorities, birth registration, translating for her, being a non-English speaking country.
She later told the authorities that I was responsible for the pregnancy. Just because they put her under pressure to declare who the dad was to ensure he pays child support.

Nna, na so I see oyinbo officials land for my house to interview me. Dude I could imagine the shyte you went through

A woman I just pitied, never knew her before, not my girlfriend. No be something o.

Ayoolla: Are you a male or female? If youre a male youre sfae but if a female there are two things involved; either you are an aristo babe or you ask for recharge cards always. If you are aristo ure safe but if otherwise you better watch it coz u'l not find it funny now that guys are vexxing.........

Khalessi: Can these jobless douchebags on nairaland stop making the Nigerian female look bad!!!! This nonsense points you've just listed ain't exclusive to Nigerians ladies only, people from all over the world do it.

freecocoa: I was having a debate with my cousin yesterday about giving, he is of the idea that when you give it is only right to expect in return and I was telling him that means you didn't genuinely give cos I believe giving should be done with no expectations, the same thing with helping people.

If you decide to help someone then please count it as nothing, don't even expect a "thank you" true that as a human being, not being appreciated may dampen your spirit to help again but then if you meet someone who helps wholeheartedly, he doesn't notice all these yeye faults and complains.

Btw the debate happened cos my cousin gave his phone in the church as "seed sowing" with faith that he'll get a better one, what mumu thinking.

Polio:

Shut the fu...ck up woman!

prinzeepule: its how u present ursef dat matters.........if yu present ur sef as a mugu,so be it dnt tink is evry naija gal sha

soul_glo:

You're not married because you don't want to get married. Life is about making choices. You made a poor one. Blame no one but yourself.

bigheart2013:


Thanks and God bless you for addressing my questions. I want to keep helping but asked the questions to know how to avoid the pitfall of others. I have a little 26yrs old sister. After the death of our mom, being the last born and only girl, she became the queen of the family. I saw her through university in Nigeria. She's in Canada now doing her masters at almost $36,000 USD. Being the oldest son I sold one house, and going through 'hell' now to pay her tuition in Canada. I just don't want to ever think she will be ungrateful to me one day after this. I haven't even married because of carrying the burden of others. Maybe my expectations from them is high. I just don't want to regret all this one day. This is why I'm asking experienced people for guide. I got some points already. God bless you all.