My advice yo you:Run.Run away from him as fast as you can,for that alter personality of his will surely boil over some day

na Mynd_44

veave: na Mynd_44

Naaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...................faaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr from it!
Mynd wld never say any of those things the op mentioned....AT LEAST, NOT ON NAIRALAND!

Two possibilities; he might be who he is on nairaland just for the fun of it; or it might be a sign of true personality inside.
Solution; left for u to weigh both sides and take ur risk or not. Watever u decide na u sabi.
Advice; life is all about risks

I think its Mr Cork

chaircover: I dont buy all this aler ego stuff

You are who you are and you cant give what you dont have.

"For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he"

@Lizzy, sorry to tell you, but your man has it within him to display that alter ego at any time; Its in there somewhere. What you do behind closed doors when people aren't watching is the real you & not the one you show to the outside world.

. .and no its not a joke or catching fun, because there are so many other better ways of joking and catching fun without having to be nasty about it.

There are some online personalities here on NL that I wouldnt wish on my children even if it later turns out that these online personalities are the pope in real life.

If your heart is pure, then only pureness will come out of your mouth. Truth!

.he dt has an ear,let him hear

OP, marry the guy chap chap to find out who he really is. . .

chaircover: I dont buy all this aler ego stuff

You are who you are and you cant give what you dont have.

"For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he"

@Lizzy, sorry to tell you, but your man has it within him to display that alter ego at any time; Its in there somewhere. What you do behind closed doors when people aren't watching is the real you & not the one you show to the outside world.

. .and no its not a joke or catching fun, because there are so many other better ways of joking and catching fun without having to be nasty about it.

There are some online personalities here on NL that I wouldnt wish on my children even if it later turns out that these online personalities are the pope in real life.

If your heart is pure, then only pureness will come out of your mouth. Truth!

At last, some sanity on the thread. I've been waiting for your comment, chaircover. Thank you all for your inputs.

No Jay-bee it's not you. I don't date married men.

@chaircover; would you still call that online character of his secretive even when he doesn't hide his comments on NL from me?

nitlad: OP, marry the guy chap chap to find out who he really is. . .

that's what I'm trying to avoid. Marriage is a serious business. I'd prefer him showing his true color now than in marriage.

I don't want to create a sequel to this thread in a few years time.

I know this is crazy but half of me is hoping he messes up (in the real world of course), so then I know what he's about before deciding to take the leap.

At chaircover, some online characters can be different . Take for example some ppl that comment maybe because their husbands/wives know their username. They just maintain pretending to be holy.
Meanwhile behind close doors, na dem worse pass.

Some have different usernames, maybe one for business, sports,romance etc...all with different personality . You can never know how far some ppl can go.

OP, he may just be catching fun, you cannot define what fun is to people. People choose their own fun.

NA ME

Lizzy651: Hello everyone,

But in the real world, he's my perfect man (well, almost).

Absolutely no point doubting since he is almost your perfect man in the real world

You fell in love with the real him not his online persona

So long as you don't have issues with the real him then quit worrying..


I do hope you've met and spent good quality time with the real him and not just an e-ish

I rily dnt kw why d op is worried. U kw dis guy intoto than any of us, since he's proved to be different from who he is offline, u hv no reason to worry. He's reacting to issues d way he feel or he may just want to sound hard. So relax bt Ilm guessin RR.

jay bee:

Absolutely no point doubting since he is almost your perfect man in the real world

You fell in love with the real him not his online persona

So long as you don't have issues with the real him then quit worrying..


I do hope you've met and spent good quality time with the real him and not just an e-ish

I "fell in love" with the real him then neglecting what people that knew him online said about him to me. It was a little risk taking then coz it was just dating.

Now it seems like a bigger risk.
I don't want to be worried but I am, coz he's maintained that alter ego since the birth of NL.lol I mean why would anyone live a double life (literally) for that long.

Done ranting. I got something out of the comments. Again, thank you guys.

Akinmail:

how come you understand yoruba. I always thought you were one those ibos that hated us and blamed us for everything. I got this from your posts on different topics on frontpage. Or are you not ifyalways ?

Noo you got it wrong

Ifyalways is a naturalised daughter of Oduduwa, Her best food is black amala

chaircover: Congrats Dayo & wishing you a happy married life

Ujujoan: Awww Dayo . . . CONGRATS!

He who finds a wife findeth a good thing . . . HML!

pickabeau1: thats a nice one bro

Happy Married Life Dayo

Thank you all. ooo Nagode, Ese pupo, daalu

nitlad:
OP, marry the guy chap chap to find out who he really is. . .

another example here.
This dude is a grumpy middle age man on nl, but off nl he's such a darling...

that's why am still weighting my options

Lizzy651:

I "fell in love" with the real him then neglecting what people that knew him online said about him to me. It was a little risk taking then coz it was just dating.

Now it seems like a bigger risk.
I don't want to be worried but I am, coz he's maintained that alter ego since the birth of NL.lol I mean why would anyone live a double life (literally) for that long.

Done ranting. I got something out of the comments. Again, thank you guys.

So, it's:

~ An old nlander whose been here since the birth of nland. So definitely someone with greater than 20,000 posts...

~ A guy with an alter ego and a strong personality to go with it.

~ Someone whose smart (smarter than you for sure) and you'll never catch him with his pants down

~ Someone with a good command of English, swears fluently, comes on hard on people - even ladies don't escape his 'whip'

~ He's shy and decent on the outside...

~ He's definitely not a frequent visitor of the Romance Section. That was just a poor attempt at misleading us - didn't work though. Infact, you never should have mentioned that bit of information because you've effectively put the final nail on the coffin - so to speak.

Conclusion: I definitely know for a fact who YOU are, and who HE is...

Lord! I love puzzles!

chaircover:

So what are you doing here on the family section, besides you dont call women Biatches and you dont say that all men cheat.

Youve failed the test. its not you

Lol!

Even you too?

^^ True.

Jaybee isn't that crass and neither is Dayo.

Besides, they're both married...

Efemena_xy:


So, it's:

~ An old nlander whose been here since the birth of nland. So definitely someone with greater than 20,000 posts...

~ A guy with an alter ego and a strong personality to go with it.

~ Someone whose smart (smarter than you for sure) and you'll never catch him with his pants down

~ Someone with a good command of English, swears fluently, comes on hard on people - even ladies don't escape his 'whip'

~ He's shy and decent on the outside...

~ He's definitely not a frequent visitor of the Romance Section. That was just a poor attempt at misleading us - didn't work though. Infact, you never should have mentioned that bit of information because you've effectively put the final nail on the coffin - so to speak.

Conclusion: I definitely know for a fact who YOU are, and who HE is...

Lord! I love puzzles!

What exactly is tickling your fancy ? Is this your own advice ?

Btw, who am I and who is he ?

Lizzy651:

What exactly is tickling your fancy ? Is this your own advice ?

Btw, who am I and who is he ?

Send that cheque then I'll tell you what you want to know.

On a more serious note, why're you getting hot under the collar?

I didn't start the riddles here - you did

Efemena_xy:

Send that cheque then I'll tell you what you want to know.

On a more serious note, why're you getting hot under the collar?

I didn't start the riddles here - you did

Aw, come on Efe! The woman has given you the go ahead to tell us all the secret. Now spill the beans and stop being greedy!

Efemena_xy:

Send that cheque then I'll tell you what you want to know.

On a more serious note, why're you getting hot under the collar?

I didn't start the riddles here - you did

no go ahead, you tell us. Who am I and who is he? Whats the worst that'll if you tell us.

I'm not getting hot under the collar i'm just wondering why you're so excited

ileobatojo:

Aw, come on Efe! The woman has given you the go ahead to tell us all the secret. Now spill the beans and stop being greedy!

What!

And miss out on all that potential earning??

No way!

Lizzy651:

no go ahead, you tell us. Who am I and who is he? Whats the worst that'll if you tell us.

I'm not getting hot under the collar i'm just wondering why you're so excited

Exactly!

Shouldn't you be asking yourself that question? You're the one with the secrets, not me - so maybe you can do us all a favour and stop hiding...

Afterall, you're just monikers on nland - so why the big secrecy and drama??

chaircover: He is viewing the thread now as we speak

Choi!

You bad eh...nor be small thing!

***Even CC don crack the code ***

chaircover: He is viewing the thread now as we speak

Lol I'm not the one. I don't do NL girls

Dayokanu congrats mate, say hello to J

chaircover: He is viewing the thread now as we speak

Blasted! I must have missed it. People viewing now don't seem to fit the bill!

You ladies are killing me! Especially that money grabbing Efe! Okay, let me give you an iou, you give me the name. We shake hands on the deal.. What say ye?

Dk really got married recently? Congrats dude!

congratulations Dayokanu!