obongproff:

U are so wrong. Am young and single, but am not stupid. I go to church and its not boring.

Der are two people dat prove my claim dat claim dat it is not wot u do or how u do it dat makes it fun. 1. Pst. David Ibiyeomie. He is a pastor and he makes pastoring so much fun. 2. Richard Branson. He is a businessman and work is fun to him. Der are many odas who are having wit wot day do.

Back to our argument. If u wd tell urself d truth and just onserve most marriages today, u wd agree with me dat marriage is more like a 'chore' to many people, and I believe dats d truth.

chore? funny word.
husband: u wake up 5am so u get to work by eight, you get there and u attend to a truck load of files that should be done by 30 staffs, after that you sit down in front of a computer monitoring some stupid data checking for error..at the end of the day u get home 9pm u play with your kids(thats if they are still awake), make love to your wife( thats if you still have any strenght left).
my point :life itself seems like a chore. let me guess, if thats your huaband u'll be calling him boring because hes not giving you titanic love and all those stupid concepts you read on the internet?

Ishilove: Isn't it odd that people who are commenting on this topic are singles who have never been married??

it doesn't stop them from identifying a seemingly boring marriage when they see one

God knows I love having fun and making merry, l have no business with a boring person

snowytee: Kai!only if d mods understood this thing.Your ban for thick.Song idem dah awo

Da, ntang siba. Apedor ufa awan adogho virgin, esit aya unem tutu ke usen amayom ndi siak anye itid. As in you go feel the joy and e go last long. Uwanghake?

banega: Relationships end/gets boring because once the person has you,. They stop doing the things it took to get you in the first place...

in dis age n tym, can someone really ''have'' anotha?

Relationship is lyk a fruit tree...it grows n produces 4eva..

Relationship (fruit tree) stops being interesting (productive) when d nutrients dt supplements it is lackin....

Thus, you av ur own quota to add to d life of d relationship...

shizzleStar:
it doesn't stop them from identifying a seemingly boring marriage when they see one

Boredom is a matter of perspective. You might complain that a marriage is boring, yet the couple are perfectly comfortable with the routine of their marriage and wouldn't have it any other way.

iwonbaoko: Excitement adventure spontaneity etc. Obviously you are still a child . Marriage like life is hard . very very hard . As you become acquainted with the facts of life you will realise that.
The first fact is DEATH we all die and that is the one thing we refuse to acknowledge and acquaint ourselves with. Then there is suffering. The suffering of disease, disability of self loved ones and even children. Looking after children with blindness, or even more severe conditions. Looking after aged parents daily. Living with addictions etc. Young people are only interested in "enjoyment" but that is not why we are here and whilst there is nothing wrong with enjoyment. Suffering too is very useful.Even if we are not suffering there are many who are. He who reflects on the suffering of others and seeks to ease their suffering can never be bored. He who seeks enjoyment will always be bored

The evolved human is he who is not detached from the suffering of others. So looking for excitement and all those things is just searching for what is not lost. If you are complete inside you can never be bored and you cannot be complete if you only understand pleasure and shun suffering whether directly or vicariously. First of all learn to love yourself and then share your love.

QED.

Because of boring tradition and culture each spouse must abide by to keep each families happy.

Annoying inlaws tends to suck joy out of everything.

Ishilove:
Boredom is a matter of perspective. You might complain that a marriage is boring, yet the couple are perfectly comfortable with the routine of their marriage and wouldn't have it any other way.

True! but the op spoke from a personal POV too, i also believe he spoke from his expectation of the kind of 'air of bliss' he expected from a married home, hence his disappointment at what he found out, which even dampened his feelings toward marriage ...lol

how u doing?

daryoor:

chore? funny word.
husband: u wake up 5am so u get to work by eight, you get there and u attend to a truck load of files that should be done by 30 staffs, after that you sit down in front of a computer monitoring some stupid data checking for error..at the end of the day u get home 9pm u play with your kids(thats if they are still awake), make love to your wife( thats if you still have any strenght left).
my point :life itself seems like a chore. let me guess, if thats your huaband u'll be calling him boring because hes not giving you titanic love and all those stupid concepts you read on the internet?

I've learnt one tin in life, so long as we kip telling ourselves dat d bullshit we are going tru is 'reality', our minds will give us enof excuses for us not improve and thus we end up living a life of unfulfilment all d days of our lives.

Not my portion.

Work! Finances! Responsibilities! All dose are just excuses to not improve on d one tin we hav control over.

Ishilove:
Boredom is a matter of perspective. You might complain that a marriage is boring, yet the couple are perfectly comfortable with the routine of their marriage and wouldn't have it any other way.

Totally agree. So long as day are enjoying dia routine and day do blossom with zest and enthusiasm. No wahala - different strokes for different folks. But if day are not enjoying it den dats just total bullshit to me.

shizzleStar:
True! but the op spoke from a personal POV too, i also believe he spoke from his expectation of the kind of 'air of bliss' he expected from a married home, hence his disappointment at what he found out, which even dampened his feelings toward marriage ...lol

how u doing?

Bros u just spoke my mind.

Marriage is presented as a means to bliss and happiness.............It isn't! and people find out soon enough.

Bigcake: Da, ntang siba. Apedor ufa awan adogho virgin, esit aya unem tutu ke usen amayom ndi siak anye itid. As in you go feel the joy and e go last long. Uwanghake?

Da Owo,insido afo ye itid?
Dem swear for you with itid?

Yungwizzzy: If he has money it won't be boring at all!!

None of my girlfriends have ever complained of any boredom

Because of my seven digit account balance!!

Clown!
"Wife" and "girlfriend" na d same spelling abi?
Come back n comment when u've paid a lady's bride price and lived with her and 3kids for 6years

lonelydora: Mine is not boring at all, mine is fun-filled on daily basis. I'm happy i am married.

And yet u call urself "lonelydora"...how fitting :-/

Dcmg: Da Owo,insido afo ye itid?
Dem swear for you with itid?

ikpa afo anam ntebo ke usukunghor itid?

shizzleStar:
True! but the op spoke from a personal POV too, i also believe he spoke from his expectation of the kind of 'air of bliss' he expected from a married home, hence his disappointment at what he found out, which even dampened his feelings toward marriage ...lol

how u doing?

The op is looking at marriage through the colourfully foggy lenses of naivete.

I'm good. Thanks

Bigcake: ikpa afo anam ntebo ke usukunghor itid?

Da awo! Afo day atta idiok ntokeyen! Sai!

obongproff:

Totally agree. So long as day are enjoying dia routine and day do blossom with zest and enthusiasm. No wahala - different strokes for different folks. But if day are not enjoying it den dats just total bullshit to me.

That's why it is very important that one marries one's friend so that when the passion and excitement fizzles out, comfortable companionship takes over.

Bigcake: ikpa afo anam ntebo ke usukunghoritid?

Akere ke afid owo édo akpara nte ofo?

Yungwizzzy: If he has money it won't be boring at all!!

None of my girlfriends have ever complained of any boredom

Because of my seven digit account balance!!

Pls note the word you used, "girlfriends", not wife. Two different world's apart.

Couples experience boredom in marriage wen they fail 2 do stuf 2geda...be it fun stuf or even borin stuf. Wen partners take on tasks 2geda, it makes it easier 4 dem 2 have d same refernces n believe me, IT IS D 'INSIDE JOKES' OR MEMORIES
DAT KIPS D FIRE BURNING.
PS clear dis notion off ur head, its just d few couples u met dat r borin n nt MARRIAGE
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If u c my parents making jest of each other ehn. My dad keeps telling us d story of how he used to take my mum shoppin. Shining of our teeth galore in my home. Contagious. Couples shld be frnds before anything.the five years gap btw them is like nothing.

For me oooo, being married is d most sweetest and best decision av ever made. My relsp with hubby evn got better, sweeter and spontaneous after marriage. I used to tell my friends who are preparing for marriage who are scared dat dey feel de'll be caged for life, dat I feel like am living legally with my boyfriend. Infact av never felt d way I feel now with another dude av dated in the past. We are forever grateful to God dat we are married to eachoda. If m permitted i'll write a page full of hw blessed and happy I am. To ma hubby; I love you till eternity

frisby:

And yet u call urself "lonelydora"...how fitting :-/

How do I change my moniker? Check my profile and see when I joined Nairaland. U were still in pre-Nursery.

lonelydora:

How do I change my moniker? Check my profile and see when I joined Nairaland. U were still in pre-Nursery.

Why d insult? He was only infering dat ur username contradicts wot u sed.

Nna women una day try oh!

obongproff: Yes!

Why are some marriages so boring? Why do some couples live like room mates and odas like next-door neighbours?

I've been observing couples for a while and d few I've observed all had one tin in common - dia marriage was boring.

Am talking about my own definition of boring which is d lack of excitement, enthusiasm, adventure, spontaneity, fun, and lafta. Most marriages I know lack these.

I hav some married friends and I hav stayed with three different couples in d course of travelling around some naija cities. And I noticed 3 tins abt dem -
1. Dia marriage hav become monotonous.
2. Day hardly play together as a couple.
3. Dia kids hav become more important dan dia spouse.
Dont get me wrong. Am not saying dia marriage is bad. Day are both good people. Peaceful couple. But its so boring. I spend two days with a couple and am already immersed in boredom. To me boredom has an odour, I can smell it on some couples. Just d way u can smell d nice aroma love on two people who are in love with each oda. Its always in dia eyes and dia countenance.

Am beginning to tink dat dating is more interesting dan marriage, and dat being single is more enjoyable dan being married. I mean, u can hardly see a marriage u wd like to model afta dis days. Yet dis same guys are encouraging us single guys to get married. And if u choose to hav a chat with one of dem u'd hear dem say crap like 'Oh boy! Marriage is not easy oh!' and if I say I no go marry again, dem go say 'Oh boy! Ur not responsible'.

Iyanmi! Nsido!

Why are most marriages so boring? Is it dat d fire just naturally fizzles out over time, unto law of diminishing returns? Or is it dat once kids start coming in everytin changes (cos dis is usually d case)? Is it family responsibility dat kills all d fun? Or is it dat most people just enjoy monotony? Or maybe my definition of boring is not d same as dias?

I wd rily appreciate some ansa plz. Tanx a million guys.

you this lazy fowl, instead of you to go marry, you dey do "boring marriage stat" for people.

selflessmaya: Um? Nigerian marriages are hell chai!!! Most couples are just together because they dont want the stigma of divorce in society. Reasons why Nigerian marriages are boring..
1... Nigerians make having children a priority in marriages, when they date it's all about them but when they get married they dont take time to adjust to their new lives as a married couple and they just start shooting out babies. Soon they neglect each other to look after the babies. In 5 yrs time they'll start ranting of how "fed up" they are and how they're just gonna stay for the sake of the kids.
2....Nigerians don't know how to mind their own business, Marriage is not for everyone, some ppl just dont have it in them to cut all ties and settle down but society ensures that they pressure these kind of ppl just well enough to get them to marry just so they can say they fu.ck1ng did it and this is how they'll find a sacrificial lamb who will never be able to keep them happy and over time, they'll both be stuck in an extremely unhappy marriage.
3....SEXI5M in Nigeria: THIS IS THE BEDROCK OF ALL BEDROCKS THAT RUIN NIGERIAN MARRIAGES AND WE'RE STILL PRETENDING IN THIS 2014 IT'S NOT EVEN AN ISSUE. Whether you believe it or not, "nna anyi syndrome" is ruining the hell out of us. most nigerian women are married to someone who perceives them as beneath them. most nigerian men are domestically very lazy. They cant help with any house work cos they"re "THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE" so what exactly does the head of the house do? sit around and fart? The average nigerian woman works and earns and contributes to the family and still comes home to clean up and feed a grown man who was home hours before she came back but couldn't do anything to help out cos that's the way he was raised, to sit back, be a liability and do absolutely nothing and wait for food to be served. Marriage in Nigeria is like glorified slavery. If you hear nigerian men describing their dream wives, she must be fine, can cook, iron, clean and wash. If you want to establish your self as "LORD and MASTER" get a maid not a wife. A happy home can NEVER have an unhappy wife, most nigerian wives are miserable, stressed and overworked, how can i keep you happy if i'm unhappy myself?

you couldnt have said it any better

Safari29: hmmmmm.
All of you saying marry your best friend. Some guys like me don't have platonic girl friends? ere kinni aja mbekun se? ?

Serious?

Dcmg: Akere ke afid owo édo akpara nte ofo?

Iyammi, awor afo ikpong asangha adi? Ikpa nammkpor sung sung. Mukiteh se anam nam se akid.