jeffizy: Many people have a wrong perception of the reality of marriage.
To start with, in courtship , you can describe it as being in secondary school, having time to grow up, make mistakes, do well in some subjects while performing low in others.
But marriage is a tertiary institution! You are in to study just one course and it is for a lifetime.

Regarding your observation, it only becomes boring when both couple let the pop ups get bigger than them. The kids, financial status , extended family , etc.
Time and time again, I always advocate the coming together of friends in a marriage.
Let your spouse be your best friend.
That's the way to cure your observation.

Bigcake: Iyammi, awor afo ikpong asangha adi? Ikpa nammkpor sung sung. Mukiteh se anam nam se akid.

CFCfan:
Serious?

Safari29:

yes bro. not that I don't associate with girls at all but the friendship is having enough distance. when she starts coming to my house or we start going out together am sorry na to nyansh remain. I don't do bestie. now tell me how this is different from having dating a girl then marry her and marrying ur best friend

lonelydora:

How do I change my moniker? Check my profile and see when I joined Nairaland. U were still in pre-Nursery.

dytbabe: Aproko
No go marry, dey dia dey visit un and down
Shior

jeffizy: Many people have a wrong perception of the reality of marriage.
To start with, in courtship , you can describe it as being in secondary school, having time to grow up, make mistakes, do well in some subjects while performing low in others.
But marriage is a tertiary institution! You are in to study just one course and it is for a lifetime.

Regarding your observation, it only becomes boring when both couple let the pop ups get bigger than them. The kids, financial status , extended family , etc.
Time and time again, I always advocate the coming together of friends in a marriage.
Let your spouse be your best friend.
That's the way to cure your observation.

Yungwizzzy: If he has money it won't be boring at all!!

None of my girlfriends have ever complained of any boredom

Because of my seven digit account balance!!

Domwiz4all: Marriage won't be boring if you marry your best friend. Have seen few couples who were married for over 30 years yet behave as if de were just starting dia honeymoon.

obongproff: Yes!

Why are some marriages so boring? Why do some couples live like room mates and odas like next-door neighbours?

I've been observing couples for a while and d few I've observed all had one tin in common - dia marriage was boring.

Am talking about my own definition of boring which is d lack of excitement, enthusiasm, adventure, spontaneity, fun, and lafta. Most marriages I know lack these.

I hav some married friends and I hav stayed with three different couples in d course of travelling around some naija cities. And I noticed 3 tins abt dem -
1. Dia marriage hav become monotonous.
2. Day hardly play together as a couple.
3. Dia kids hav become more important dan dia spouse.
Dont get me wrong. Am not saying dia marriage is bad. Day are both good people. Peaceful couple. But its so boring. I spend two days with a couple and am already immersed in boredom. To me boredom has an odour, I can smell it on some couples. Just d way u can smell d nice aroma love on two people who are in love with each oda. Its always in dia eyes and dia countenance.

Am beginning to tink dat dating is more interesting dan marriage, and dat being single is more enjoyable dan being married. I mean, u can hardly see a marriage u wd like to model afta dis days. Yet dis same guys are encouraging us single guys to get married. And if u choose to hav a chat with one of dem u'd hear dem say crap like 'Oh boy! Marriage is not easy oh!' and if I say I no go marry again, dem go say 'Oh boy! Ur not responsible'.

Iyanmi! Nsido!

Why are most marriages so boring? Is it dat d fire just naturally fizzles out over time, unto law of diminishing returns? Or is it dat once kids start coming in everytin changes (cos dis is usually d case)? Is it family responsibility dat kills all d fun? Or is it dat most people just enjoy monotony? Or maybe my definition of boring is not d same as dias?

I wd rily appreciate some ansa plz. Tanx a million guys.

Yungwizzzy: If he has money it won't be boring at all!!

None of my girlfriends have ever complained of any boredom

Because of my seven digit account balance!!

Eidosky: Bro it's alarming, am also scared of it.
I don't want to marry.. I will keep dating till I die Abeg.
If I get bored of the lady, I'd just leave peacefully

Eidosky: Bro it's alarming, am also scared of it.
I don't want to marry.. I will keep dating till I die Abeg.
If I get bored of the lady, I'd just leave peacefully

Hexzyz: The reason is people don't depend on God for his perfect will in marriage. They go by what they see. God knows the heart of every individual and who is perfect for each other.

jeffizy: Many people have a wrong perception of the reality of marriage.
To start with, in courtship , you can describe it as being in secondary school, having time to grow up, make mistakes, do well in some subjects while performing low in others.
But marriage is a tertiary institution! You are in to study just one course and it is for a lifetime.

Regarding your observation, it only becomes boring when both couple let the pop ups get bigger than them. The kids, financial status , extended family , etc.
Time and time again, I always advocate the coming together of friends in a marriage.
Let your spouse be your best friend.
That's the way to cure your observation.

parki:
Marriage is not dating. All those formings when the boy and the girl do before marriage, ends the very day they say i do. Also there are few other things that make marriage boring. Few are thus:
marrying a wife that looks like mercy johnsonn (ugly woman). If one has such wife then one is most likey going to have a boring relationship.
marrying for what you want to gain. These days women/men consider where the guy/girl is working before they accept to marry him/her. If it is not a well ppayng job no marriage. with this consideration, a lot of women/men end up in wrong marriages.

There are countless factors why people have shitty marriages. The views above is just a few from my personal observation so far.

damlady:

Am a lady, married but bored. If you are a man, married and bored let's talk. Pls I need a very matured in mind person. Thanks. My contact 07033347854,whatsup Lagos

merit1988:
we are in the same shoes

Kendumazy:


Didn't you guys court?

merit1988:
yeah we did... But not for long anyways, but thats not the point.. there is a reason for the boredom

Kendumazy:


OK. May God help you.

dania30:
Marriage actually begins when love ends...