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Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Tymax(m): 7:57am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Hmmm, the ladies (from their comments) don't seem to understand what it feels like to be in the friend-zone. You think a guy wants to remain in that condition of unrequited love? You think he hasn't tried to leave? A man who continues to care is quite irresistible (to you) even though you have zoned himm off. Most of you ladies manipulate such guys to remain attached just so you would feel needed. It's evil of you. Long ago, I had my strings pulled by someone I loved. She never said yes or no. Whenever she felt my attention dwindle, she would yank on my strings. It took cold logic for me to break away from her influence. It was a bad break 'cos, as it stands today, we are no longer friends. You know what I feel when I meet ladies who act like that? Nothing but disgust. Manipulation (of the heart) is nasty business. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Thinkr(m): 7:57am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Nice thread. I met a girl I really loved. She ain that preatty but I loved her so much my friends thought I was crazy. We became close and she gave me so many green lights after asking her out she said she had no feelings for me. I was shocked that night I stopped chatting with her. Stopped calling and all that. It wasn't easy but I made a decision to let her go. Then she started chatting to me but I always responded with one word which frustrated her. Few weeks we met and she said what I did(ignoring her) was heartless and she told me she wanted a serious relationship cos she's born again. But the girl didn't mention that before na. Well, now we just friends and we keep in touch once in a blue moon. We zoned each other ........ Once I ask a girl out and she says "NO. I walk away. One trial, One answer. That's it for me 6 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by sanchezzz: 7:59am On Nov 24, 2014 |
chidiebere2020: True that. But some guys are clueless sha. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Graviton2(m): 8:01am On Nov 24, 2014 |
I feel friendzoning is one of the many inhumane things you could actually do to someone else. It is dehumanizing. If one doesn't share intimate feelings for someone else with the same intensity as that person might have for one, then I reason it would be best to just say so....instead of leading he/she on. That is a pretty wicked thing to do. Any girl that tries to friendzone me is up for a rude awakening. She will soon find that love is not so blind afterall. In an entirely unrelated note: ihedinobi2, I need your help with something really urgent. Let me know when it is okay to send you a PM. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by freecocoa(f): 8:04am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Mightyify:How can you not know she just wants the $ex? This is where most guys get it wrong, y'all think ladies don't get Hot and just want to do, smh, the world is changing so fast that many people are no longer conservative or as conservative as they used to be(women especially), if you can't deal with just having $ex and moving on like nothing happened, then remove yourself from that situation, haba!. 1 Like |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Thinkr(m): 8:04am On Nov 24, 2014 |
My advice for guys. If you don't want to be friend-zoned. Don't just fall inlove but rather Decide to fall inlove there's difference between having feelings and falling inlove. I do have feelings but I never fall in love just like that. I weigh all parameters in reality before jumping. So when I get the negative response I just decide not to love that person again. Very simple. 1 Like |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by BigBen10: 8:06am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Thinkr: same here bro. one trial one answer. if a girl knows what she wants one trial is enough. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by aytuns(m): 8:09am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Honestly u must say, this is one of the most deep and intelligent thread I've come across on nairaland. One without shallow and vain talks. I've learnt a lot, and one thing I will take with me is that one should build a life and one that he/she will be proud of, then let the rest fall into place, friend zoned or not, get a life first. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 8:16am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Can you friendzone a bad player I don't think so.. . |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by mencade6: 8:21am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Mynd44:oya....go use that secret monicker of yours. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Abbey2sam(m): 8:24am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: just like you said "move on with whatever answer that comes from her" it's only nice guys that still stick around......Hoping that she will change her mind |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Dayzzy(m): 8:25am On Nov 24, 2014 |
I had nd stil av a gal whom i luv a lot, we started off as frnds nd our frndship thickens so i askd ha out bt she didnt accede to my proposal. She suddenly startd calln me names i wasnt known wit; darling,swit@,luv nd all names of dat sort. I didnt knw wat it meant then bt later i noticed she frequently seek advice frm me about ha new bf. It was then that i knw av been zoned so i reduced my call tym nd chat rate wit ha, by that, i got my freedom .....she nw calls me virtually evryday to knw hw m doin.i knw she's tryin to get bk bt av made my mind nt to awaken d dead luv. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 8:29am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Emmyactor: Oh yes. I have friend zoned a player. Because i saw he was indeed a player. There is always one special person your heart beats for no matter how many peoples' hearts you play with. players are not always tough. they have a weakness. All you have to do is play his/her game unknown to him/her after gaining their trust. It takes a very wierd and complicated person to be able to do that. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Emperorking20(m): 8:30am On Nov 24, 2014 |
ihedinobi2:I second this OP! Just openly state your stance undermining the fact that someone might get hurt... Sure, eventually the lover might feel bad, but the loved would have done the lover a lot of good in the end Being direct saves just about everything.. Be it time, effort, whatever.. Its better this way in the long run.. 1 Like |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Thinkr(m): 8:30am On Nov 24, 2014 |
To know how heartless these "Zoners" are. After you leave they'll be calling and texting. Its funny when you tell someone "let's just be friend" and when he stops calling like a lover then they will find that love back. Its so amazingly wicked. Plz girls/guys let's put an end to this thing. Its bad |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by highbeeola(m): 8:34am On Nov 24, 2014 |
tintingz:Na true u talk when u care too much u are being taken for granted. Nd I don learn. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by mencade6: 8:36am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Tymax:tank God for your life ooo. U escaped......ladies dat friend zoned guys are not different from demons. Yes....demons....they kill you silently. U heart is with them while they r busy fvvvvvcking anoda dude. Na to leave d babe for life oooo |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Classicalmusic: 8:38am On Nov 24, 2014 |
LOL, what an interesting topic. Unfortunately friend-zoning is something that is intruging but for some guys. Girls will sometimes ignore you as a congruence test, if your state immdiately tumbles or if you walk away at the first sign of resistance, she's just weeded you out. Ignoring you or saying something snarky is an easy way for a girl to see if you're the real deal or another wuss |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Nobody: 8:39am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Abbey2sam: Of course. Once you make that effort to move on on time, you wont be friendzoned. But you know human nature, we just love to hope for something positive coming out in our favour by being patient. and we can't help whom we fall in love with. Some friendzoned guys have turned out to be lucky and ended up as husbands. You hear some couples say they have been ffriends for a long time before dating and getting married. its a 70/30 chance anyways. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by leki10(m): 8:39am On Nov 24, 2014 |
OrlandoOwoh:i wonder ooo |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by 100Cents: 8:40am On Nov 24, 2014 |
MizMyColi: You accept the gift and call me back 10 minutes call. That's a NoNo. Reject the gift.. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by ashieduplus(m): 8:40am On Nov 24, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: God bless u. That's all I can say.. God bless u. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by leki10(m): 8:42am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Classicalmusic:i dnt f**king care if d gal is testin me.or not.....is she God?.....in dat kinda case, i just find greener pastures. THERE ARE BILLIONS OF GALS IN DIS WORLD 3 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by ihedinobi2: 8:46am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Mynd44:It's a long time I wrote the op and I was responding to a friend's difficulty at the time. But perhaps I wasn't objective enough. It would be very kind of you to point out what the flaws are to help everyone along. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Emperorking20(m): 8:48am On Nov 24, 2014 |
rebella:Dear Rebella! Obviously u haven't been friendzoned at any point in ur life.. This issue isn't as straight up as ure making it to be.. This is psychology we're talking about here.. 1+1 isn't 2.. "They aren't being held back" u say? Oh yes! They are, most times at least.. U still wouldn't understand even if they're pointed out |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by highbeeola(m): 8:49am On Nov 24, 2014 |
That why I love being an introvert shout to fellow introvert goons. We gat dat power of resilience D problem with introvert is that they are attracted to emotional nd needy people nd when they love they could go to any extent to prove. RESILIENCE don't under estimate dis power of introverts. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Thinkr(m): 8:51am On Nov 24, 2014 |
Classicalmusic:You ask a girl out and she says NO and you call it a test? Damn! That's a NO and not a test. If she eventually dates you then know she's out of better options. You get? 6 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by smartigo: 8:51am On Nov 24, 2014 |
yhomz093: When you have lots of ideas flowing, bottling it up will make u sick. 2 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Mightyify(m): 8:52am On Nov 24, 2014 |
freecocoa: I will appreciate if you could be clearer with your reply. |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Richiy(f): 8:52am On Nov 24, 2014 |
To love is exhaustive. It requires so much effort that the only compensation for such tiring activity is the confidence you are loved back in the same way. Friendzoning is brutal. Say NO to it. 3 Likes |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Richiy(f): 8:53am On Nov 24, 2014 |
highbeeola: So what are you saying We that are extroverts should now do what 1 Like |
Re: Closing Arguments On Friendzoning And "Nice Guys Finish Last" by Emperorking20(m): 9:00am On Nov 24, 2014 |
AmINotHuman:All I can say is u've derailed off topic.. I don't believe this is what the OP was trying to say.. Re-read the post.. |
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