damiso:

If I had to go by what potential might be to most people of the two men my Dad would be the more obvious choice as the lady could become a first lady in future while with my husband she might probably end up with 1, 2, 3 mortgages in the UK 1 or 2 houses in Naija kids well educated a normal/comfortable life with a pension fund/some investments to fall back on in old age.

To highly ambitious people like my Dad frankly that is mediocre and that is why I always believe sucess is relative.

P.S. I am not saying my husband is not driven but he is more family investment oriented.I try not to dwell on the resources that my Dad squandered to realise his ambition cos that was his ambition and we are all entitled to chase what we consider our visions.Funny enough I actually love politics (hubby teases me the way o follow political issues in Nigeria I guess it's in the blood as a teenager my Dad took me to campaign rallies I actually campaigned for SDP and Abiola back in the day ) its just that I feel that ambition or' potential' actually robbed his immediate family of a better quality of life of it had been channeled into more investments.

onegig: Which actually does not tend to happiness. It thins out at a point. Any extra cash you earn does not add a pint of happiness to you. So why push things so hard? Also Prosperity in the context used by her aint greatness or a show of potentials.

marieolae: sick nd tired of men stero typing ladies

2buff: I am a big proponent for ACTION.
This is not about "bros before hoez", I'll say it as it is... some guys are just shameless.
They go through life without the requisite drive and hussle needed to change their situation. They could even be living off family members for years.
All they do is complain about how everything else in life didn't work out for them. How they went to the wrong school. How nobody told them something etc etc. Meanwhile, in the area I live in, small boys are finishing even secondary school and running off to rigs to make sick money.
This is the same person who would want to be opening his mouth to be talking to a full-blown woman about marriage.
How can you be talking to someone about that sort of thing when you can't even take care of your monthly expenses without borrowing money? When you don't even have a career or at least a business powered by PROOF OF RETURNS enough to live off of comfortably (engineer or businessman, all na career).
This just says this is a man that does not count the cost of things before starting them, and no woman will/should subject herself to the leadership of such an unpragmatic person.
But no, you will see a guy that has nothing about themselves, still talking and talking and DOING nothing to advance these talks into reality.
Guys, if you are reading this and it is biting you, then that is your own spirit convicting you. Use some of all that energy you are wasting talking to SHUT UP and FOCUS on getting your sh|t in order.
-2buff

2buff: I am a big proponent for ACTION.
This is not about "bros before hoez", I'll say it as it is... some guys are just shameless.
They go through life without the requisite drive and hussle needed to change their situation. They could even be living off family members for years.
All they do is complain about how everything else in life didn't work out for them. How they went to the wrong school. How nobody told them something etc etc. Meanwhile, in the area I live in, small boys are finishing even secondary school and running off to rigs to make sick money.
This is the same person who would want to be opening his mouth to be talking to a full-blown woman about marriage.
How can you be talking to someone about that sort of thing when you can't even take care of your monthly expenses without borrowing money? When you don't even have a career or at least a business powered by PROOF OF RETURNS enough to live off of comfortably (engineer or businessman, all na career).
This just says this is a man that does not count the cost of things before starting them, and no woman will/should subject herself to the leadership of such an unpragmatic person.
But no, you will see a guy that has nothing about themselves, still talking and talking and DOING nothing to advance these talks into reality.
Guys, if you are reading this and it is biting you, then that is your own spirit convicting you. Use some of all that energy you are wasting talking to SHUT UP and FOCUS on getting your sh|t in order.
-2buff

Moredew:
so its gud for a lady to be in her fathers's house nd feed fat.
Ok o

winner01: most Nigerian girls don't have your type of patience, you'll make a good wife.

kaboninc:

I had to copy this definition from Google to buttress my point

Potential: latent qualities or abilities (sic: skill) that may be developed and lead to future success or usefulness.

You can confirm if you so wish.

Micheal Jordan has a physical attribute (height) but used it to his advantage. Potential here is the ability to 'lift' while tirelessly working on how to perfect it. The result paid off. Same applies to all other athletes you mentioned. There are some guys who are taller than Micheal Jordan but do they play basketball?

red101: Most of us normal people have to settle for guy with "potential" and woman with "inner beauty"

crackhaus:
I particularly like the part about 'vessels'.

Pray tell, what kind of words are you referring to @emboldened?
Positive words? Affirmative words?

Edit:
Let's twist it up a little..yea?

Who is a woman with potential?

Generally, He'll talk about his plans......you'll see him acting it out in the way he can.
The way a person talks generally is an indicator of who they are and the amount of self worth they place on themselves.

A woman with potential.....hmmmmm
I presume in this case we're talking about a wife material?

Okay

Her appearance and the way she speaks in a serious conversation are two good indicators.

TV01:




^{disclaimer: I was not at all interested in what my wife earned when I met her. I noted her impecabble make-up and hair, watched her stride about in impossibly high chunky heels and a tight-fitting mermaid dress. Snap her fingers and run things - all the while nodding my head. Then she knelt down to pick something up, my jaw hit the ground and I said "da.y.um, I do believe I've met my bride". Potential ke? Everything had potented already !}

MizMyColi:

Her appearance and the way she speaks in a serious conversation are two good indicators.

MizMyColi:


A woman with potential.....hmmmmm
I presume in this case we're talking about a wife material?

Okay

Her appearance and the way she speaks in a serious conversation are two good indicators.

MizMyColi:


Generally, He'll talk about his plans......you'll see him acting it out in the way he can.
The way a person talks generally is an indicator of who they are and the amount of self worth they place on themselves.

A woman with potential.....hmmmmm
I presume in this case we're talking about a wife material?

Okay

Her appearance and the way she speaks in a serious conversation are two good indicators.

crackhaus: cococandy, please help throw some light on this as well.

How do you define a woman with potential..

crackhaus:
Unless you're saying a man with potential equates to husband material, then I don't see how a woman with potential equates to wife material.

Your definition @emboldened is a little vague, don't you think?
What I mean is it doesn't touch on some important criteria used in the alternate definition of 'a guy with potential'.

That said, I believe TV's concept of 'Hypergamy' in women (regarding what they see as potential) is becoming more credible

Nashville:

I think a woman with potential and wife material are two different things. A woman with potential may not necessarily be wife material and vice versa.

pickabeau1:

Can you explain further what u mean

Is the desired wife all about appearance and carriage ...?

MizMyColi: Okay, before writing further, I think it's inorder to ask "a woman with potential for what exactly?"

crackhaus:
Potential for long term commitment, same as the topic regarding guys.

MizMyColi: Pardon my asking further; in a relationship or marriage?

MizMyColi: Certainly Not! I just mentioned that they are two good indicators. Carriage has barely nothing to do with the kind of appearance I'm talking of here. It goes beyond the physical, what she wears or doesn't. It has to do with individual perception of the aura surrounding her, the kind of energy she exudes: positive or negative, attractive or repelling...........you get?

pickabeau1:


On a ketro level..metaphysical..

How come some women generally don't use these same parameters for guys

It's a different strokes for different folks thang, methinks

crackhaus:
Lol..you're over thinking it.

What's the first thing that comes to your mind when one is talking about 'potential' in another person of the opposite sex?
I believe there's a theory that states one should not date a person they don't see themselves marrying.

Your answer is, in a relationship that may lead to marriage.

LoL There's nothing I say now that Ihedi hasn't, albeit in different words. You get?