Tallesty1: To be honest, some "Beautiful women" have alot of personality flaws. We all do but theirs are too many. Some of them are just asses, they believe that "beauty" can get them anything they want.

Some of them are just too picky. They are forever searching for that perfect guy. Their demands are unreasonable and they put down any guy who can not reach up to her level of attractiveness.

Some pay too much attention to their beauty, in fact there are some women I wouldn’t approach or marry based on their physical appearance alone because I dislike materialistic ladies. These type of women attract what I call "The Hunters". These are the type of guys that see a woman’s body as a commodity; and their major aim is to get her into bed. Since she is mostly approached by hunters, she understandably thinks that all men treat women the way hunters do so to be with her you must give her the egg treatment 24/7. Who get time for that?

I’m not surprised anyways. As anyone knows, alot of them habour negative mindset about men, some of them are careless spenders, some of them can't get over their ex, some set their standard and expectations too high that it is unrealistic within their environment, so they end up scaring real guys away while attracting players into their life. The list is just endless. Some of them have fish brain, some cannot manage a home.


Physical appearance will attract a guy but inner beauty is what keeps him.

Shikenan!
and that might just be what's indirectly scaring "make sense" men away

Kachisbarbie:
Thankyou joor. It's annoying, some of them take the husband hustle too serious, it's not that serious abeg.

jennylove7575: God knows marriage ain't for me..I don't believe in spending the rest of my life with one man. Repeating same routine daily. I was watching a TV documentary somedays ago, about how Hungarian families were forcing their kids into marriage at the age of 14yrs. I was indeed gutted at the child abuse..people should be able to have choice...marriage shouldn't be by force but by choice....I recently met this guy on Nairaland, last week we decided to meet up at the Westfield shopping centre...when we met, for 5mins he couldn't say one word. He was startled. When he eventually opened his mouth to speak he said I can't believe am standing with crazy jennylove of Nairaland a very pleasant guy indeed....to be cont......

jennylove7575: For my first alhaji......money box
Second alhaji.........sausage roll
Minister..........zenith ATM
Ordinary poor guy......pleasure booster
The guy i truly love.....the koko
The one I want to marry......homemade.

Tallesty1: Really? Is this not you?

2sExy1: take her words with a pinch of salt. don't say I didn't warn you ooo

dre11:

That's the whole truth.... Everybody to its own and reason for A being single differs from B being single..
So let treat ourself with respect and not disdain one for marrying late



She has never being a lesser being unless she looks at her self has a leaser being.....
And decides to be treated a leaser one....

But the only problem I do have with some of them is that during their growing years they allow their beauty to becloud their thinking faculty and miss the way.....
But those that did have focus and direction.. They always earn mah respect no matter how young rhey are because u have a definite goal and u do set machinery in motion to achieve it

dre11:

That's the whole truth.... Everybody to its own and reason for A being single differs from B being single..
So let treat ourself with respect and not disdain one for marrying late



She has never being a lesser being unless she looks at her self has a leaser being.....
And decides to be treated a leaser one....

But the only problem I do have with some of them is that during their growing years they allow their beauty to becloud their thinking faculty and miss the way.....
But those that did have focus and direction.. They always earn mah respect no matter how young rhey are because u have a definite goal and u do set machinery in motion to achieve it

jennylove7575: God knows marriage ain't for me..I don't believe in spending the rest of my life with one man. Repeating same routine daily. I was watching a TV documentary somedays ago, about how Hungarian families were forcing their kids into marriage at the age of 14yrs. I was indeed gutted at the child abuse..people should be able to have choice...marriage shouldn't be by force but by choice....I recently met this guy on Nairaland, last week we decided to meet up at the Westfield shopping centre...when we met, for 5mins he couldn't say one word. He was startled. When he eventually opened his mouth to speak he said I can't believe am standing with crazy jennylove of Nairaland a very pleasant guy indeed....to be cont......

MizMyColi: Shikenan!
and that might just be what's indirectly scaring "make sense" men away

Adding anything to what you've just said would be mere repetition
Thank You Ma'am.

Kachisbarbie:
It's very possible. Some men like to be pushed into marriage, others take the decision by themselves, one can't be entirely sure which type your man is and you end up taking the wrong step.
I have a friend, she is older than me with about 3-4yrs. We weren't so close in sch, but these days we talk well. Everytime another of our friend or coursemate is getting married, even if I'm not aware, she would bring the info to my doorstep. Then she would say something like, 'babe when will I invite you guys o'...

You know @ that point, she is making me uncomfortable with her desperation. I would tell her the advantages of being single and how best she can utilise it...she would say I'm consoling her, whereas I'm only telling her the truth.

Singlehood is actually an opportunity to build ones' carrier, I have a mini-job that doesn't give me the kind of money I dream of - but enough time to take care of my family, because I am tied in a location where things are not happening and I definitely wouldn't leave my family in search of my dream job.

It's actually a two way thing, one can't easily have it all, every single lady out there has to start appreciating it, being married ain't even easy.

Sanchez01:

mstik:
da hell??

MizMyColi: The OP or the post before yours?

mstik: post before mine

Tallesty1: Really? Is this not you?
Be Real, S/he That Tells The Truth Always Does Not Need To Remember Anything

TrollMan: OP, Your fonts makes things difficult to comprehend.

MizMyColi: LoL
It's like a signature.
Just try okay?

herald9:
hey...

mstik: wow!!! is this you
it's been long tho
what's with the (f) btw?

MizMyColi:

So, I stumbled on a thread on here yesterday on why the “beautiful” ones are still single and the “ugly” ones keep clinching the best mates in town.

I laughed.

I can only imagine the kind of depression it would cause a beautiful guy or lady with different varieties of poor self image or worse still one who just got jilted and vice versa, seeing that post and some comments made there in (especially those who haven’t grown a turtle shell for NL).

The general impression is that, once, according to societal standards, a person is deemed beautiful, he or she couldn’t possibly lack the constant attention and companionship of the opposite sex (same sex in some cases).
It’s even worse for a Nigerian female because she is “supposed” to be married at latest, 25.
If she isn’t, then something must be wrong somewhere.
What about those who are 30, 35 and unmarried
Their own must be a deliverance case!

It won’t be strange finding a lady who is under so much/so little/subtle pressure to tie the knot already or win herself a man (like he is a trophy of sorts) asking herself questions in the lines of:
Why can’t I keep a man?
Am I an Ogbanje?
Am I cursed?
Maybe my stepmother is after my progress?
Is it because I’m not a virgin?
Is it because I’m a virgin?
Maybe I have a smelling character that repels men from afar? (even though she’s consciously working at being better)
Maybe this my dressing is too holy holy
Maybe this my dressing and piercings is/are too Ashi-ish
I could go on and on……..

The opinion of guys, on this subject range from “men are intimidated by her (especially if she’s successful too)”.
“She’s a runs girl” etc.


For me, why a single beautiful girl is single is entirely her business and is not for me or anyone else to puzzle out.
Her being single doesn’t make her less or being engaged make her more.
I say treat ladies with respect, out of the mind-set that they are not incomplete for whatever cause they are single.
Relieve them of the pressure of the lies that they are less without a man in their arms.
#NuffSaid



The quote below might inspire someone out there, so I thought to share here, with permission from my diary:
"I'd rather be the prize you felt you deserved, than be the option you felt forced to settle for. If we BOTH don't feel blessed to have one another, then we shouldn't be together." ~Rob Hill Sr.