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Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by pickabeau1: 8:07pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick: 6 year gap Well from what u said and not said Here is my deduction You r a trophy babe. Hes ambitious and needs to make the stash He loves his network and it seems u r not into his friends You don't seem to be interested in his hustle or he does not see your value in his hustle. Summary Make yourself valuable to him or ur feelings of non-relevance to him will increase and u will become a nag Else leave him and move on 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:08pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:If you are a woman and up till this moment you don't know that your man cannot give you all the attention you desire just because you desire it, then you need to be schooled from scratch about men. Nagging and unrealistic expectations from wives is a leading cause of men seeking to escape their homes and eventually leads to cheating and fathering children with strange women. But I'm sure you knew that. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:08pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
FynBabe: Let them keep being in denial while women cheat on them. E go be like nollywood movie for their eye. |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:10pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:I have,he will always apologise thats the problem. |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by damiso(f): 8:10pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
OP what do you mean by attention? As in you guys don't spend time together at all or he is very career/business focused? I am not being funny here but if a man or person is very career/business driven or has certain dreams believe me as a spouse you might have to make certain sacrifices.that is just the hard fact.my mum told me my dad left her at home two days after their wedding on a political campaign that meant she actually rarely saw him for over a week.They later went on honeymoon to 3 countries when I was about 2 years old and left me behind with my grandma My mum knew she was marrying someone with political ambitions right from their courting days and she prepared her mind that he might not always be there due to that ambition.Now I am not saying it was always ideal as i remember late nights,long absences but when he was there the time we spent together formed some of my best childhood memories.My mum knew what she was getting into and I can't really say he was actually not a good father or husband because of the time he spent away pursuing that dream. My long epistle (sorry OP ) is just pointing to one question 'can you deal with it?' If you can't it's ok just think long and hard about it because it might not get better after marriage. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by pickabeau1: 8:10pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
FynBabe: My dear..have u dated a broke dude before 3 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:12pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
freshdude2: The thread is about the Op, remember? We are not in a gender war here. I am simply stating the facts. Accept it or leave it. Dnt deny any woman attention believing money is everything to her. It is not oooooooooooo. If you give all the money but No attention, get ready for nollywood. |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by BABE3: 8:14pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
FynBabe: Guys, listen to this nonsense at your own peril.... Chris brown don talk am finish "When a rich nigga want you and your nigga can't do nothing for you these hoês ain't loyal" most women will rather have a rich and cheating husband than a broke and faithful one that showers them with attention. why did OP say yes knowing "attention" was a major problem? Answer on a big placard pls... anyone 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by coogar: 8:14pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
damiso: attention = lounging in bed all day together, reading poems to her 6 times a day, blowing her phone with 100 calls per day. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:15pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick: My dear, how often does he spend time with you? are you the type that demands a lot financially from him? how often does he spend time with friends? does he take you along for outings? |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by FynBabe(f): 8:15pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
All I'm saying is that there should be a balance between the two. pickabeau1: |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by thorpido(m): 8:16pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:You're partially right but did you notice that the men who help such women in those situations don't have to spend money?If they had to maintain such illegal relationships with money,they probably wouldn't even have the time to see such women. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:16pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
pickabeau1:Hmm.its difficult but i think i am out of options here.i have sat him down couple of time to discuss this matter but instead he bought me my own car so that i dont have to call him to take me around.i have tried breaking up before now but he went on his knees and begged me not to leave him.i truly love him and i know he loves me so much.Is there no other approach other than leaving him? |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by damiso(f): 8:17pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
coogar: Coogar let her answer naa |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by idu1(m): 8:17pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Women are women's enemy. Look at the advise they r giving her. Op if u leave that guy, u go hear am o. This his flaw is nt an excuse. Maybe u want chop the guy nd run b4. As the guy come propose the tin come hang u for neck. Com dey tell us say bicycle jam train. Mtcheew. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by coogar: 8:18pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
BABE3: only a rëtarded male would believe such nonsense. every man must have seen or experienced the role money plays in relationships. women aren't loyal when the money is not flowing. it's the endurance factor that varies. she's ready to dump him at the drop of a hat when his pocket dries up. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by damiso(f): 8:20pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
coogar: Not to derail coogar but he too can dump her or get a side chic at the sight of an extra pound 1 Like |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:20pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
coogar: Coogar, a successful man should know how to manage his time... He should specially make out time for his loved ones, very important. .. |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:21pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
thorpido: Not in all cases. it depends on the type of men women go for or accept to cheat with. If its just roadside men then no spending. If its men who are influential, men who are Exes or past flames, men in work places, forget o. Enough spending and pampering galore. You men dnt know these things. |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by FynBabe(f): 8:22pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Money is not the top priority for most women in a relationship. I don't understand why most guys find it difficult to believe. BABE3: |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by pickabeau1: 8:22pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
FynBabe: Hahhaha...now u r advocating balance I thought u were all about attention not money.. That was an epic fail..Lol . abeautifulchick: I will say it again... Make yourself relevant to him n not be a trophy chic Learn about his hustle Warm to his friends Orr else let someone else have him |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by BABE3: 8:22pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick: coogar are you seeing this?? her own pasanal car.. this thread has to be fake. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:22pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:You're right, this is not a gender war and I'm not instigating one. What you've stated are your opinion, not fact. You've lost the plot, which is, how realistic and, in your words, factful is this report by the OP? Should this really be an issue? Etc etc |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:23pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:The thing is we hang out together attimes but his friends will always appear there and attention will be shifted to them immediately |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by coogar: 8:23pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
damiso: and that would be justified. all kinda illness comes with being fat. MarvellousGod: a successful man isn't chasing women in his late 20s. if you know how much time successful men have dedicated to their craft, you won't be saying this. there's plenty of hardwork & time involved to succeed in this life. BABE3: ............or she's the luckiest woman in nigeria. after collecting his car, she's now asking whether to go ahead with marriage plans. these chics have no loyalty at all. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by pickabeau1: 8:25pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
BABE3: Its all about the money money We don't need your money It's not about the price tag |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by damiso(f): 8:26pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
MarvellousGod: My dear sucess(which is relative sha) comes at a price and sometimes TIME is a currency that most very successful influential people do not have.Now I am not saying you should not make time for loved ones but in essence the quality of the time with folks like this has to take over from the quantity of time. Ask the spouses of most Fortune 500,FTSE 100 CEO's politicians etc.David Cameron had to cut short a family holiday to call a cobra meeting on British nationals joining ISIS imagine Samantha Cameron whining that he Is not giving her attention cos he cut short a family holiday.Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by coogar: 8:28pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
damiso: cheiii cheiiii cheiiiiii damiso kicking knowledge as usual......let the cinderella girls keep deceiving themselves and be looking for attention. |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:28pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick: From your heart of hearts, can you cope with this after marriage? can you stay without the necessary attention from him? can you cope with your fiance spending so much time with his friends? you know this is a part of him that cannot change. |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by BABE3: 8:30pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
FynBabe: abeg make we hear word jare. I understand why girls would say money is not important though; they don't wanna be tagged a gold digger; everyone wants to be 'miss independent'. you don't have to admit it. Do you think OP would have said yes if the man was a wheel barrow pusher? 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:30pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick:I have to be frank with you, you are/will be a burden to that guy because of your unrealistic expectations. You are out with your guy and his friends and you're worried about his attention shifting to his friends? Who says you can't be a part of their conversation or their fun? Haba, what exactly do you want? You need to grow up or leave him now, for his own good. If a friend of mine wanted to marry someone like you I'd pray he doesn't. No hard feelings, just the truth. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 8:31pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
okotv:I am.its just that i need maximum attention from him |
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