sillyboy:



Most of you girls now-a-days are mum'girl . . . . and it's really disturbing. . . am serious. When it comes to girls and their mums now-a-days, a times I wish I was born in the 50's and not 80's

Maybe
But i think when you get married, u dont have to run to mummy everytime there is a misunderstanding.
I dont want anyone else involved in marriage at all, even my mother
she has lived her life so she shud let m live mine.

chika, ozii is married so he's pretty much the only one to be taken seriously.

KarmaMod:

chika, ozii is married so he's pretty much the only one to be taken seriously.

I see. Married or not . They are the same in that aspect.

tope2000:

Maybe
But i think when you get married, u don't have to run to mummy everytime there is a misunderstanding.
I don't want anyone else involved in marriage at all, even my mother
she has lived her life so she should let m live mine.

Well said, I think sitting down and talking with ur patner helps rather than always invovling a third party>

Coco29:

erm? erm? king we were made that way, that is why you are alive, so although we are like that we were ment to be like that sooooooo shall we go back to the begining then ? KING!

Thanks  
I just felt the responsibility to correct that statement

TOYOSI20:

Well said, I think sitting down and talking with ur patner helps rather than always invovling a third party>

Excatly, immediately there is third party opinion in ur marriage, its Over already

U know what they say Tope, too many cooks spoil the broth, and didn't one of our legends also sing that song. . .

"Ese wun e pada Ija de ti tan oh",  , LMGBO. . . . . . . .

tope2000:

Excatly, immediately there is third party opinion in ur marriage, its Over already

Somethings in marriage do require a third party. As long as it isn't something you do often or all the time.

KarmaMod:

chika, ozii is married so he's pretty much the only one to be taken seriously.

Thanks for your complement.

chika98:

I see. Married or not . They are the same in that aspect.

Why do you sound pessimistic, don't you think a man can fall in love with you just because he finds home in your heart?
There are brothers out there who know what they want except you're theone who make a wrong choice.

tope2000:

Maybe
But i think when you get married, u don't have to run to mummy everytime there is a misunderstanding.
I don't want anyone else involved in marriage at all, even my mother
she has lived her life so she should let m live mine.

Tope the agony aunt!!!

@ Tope and Toyo.

I think most ladies when faced with relationship challenges that involves their man. . . .  prefer talking to their moma instead of their pals. I really dont blame them for that you know?

My sister was once was told by her friend to scream at her hubby while the same friend was a muppet to her hubby. The worst case scenario though is when a woman runs to her pastor telling him about her man.

TOYOSI20:

Well said, I think sitting down and talking with ur patner helps rather than always invovling a third party>

What if your girl is the stubborn type? How do you solve that problem?

oziomatv:
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Why do you sound pessimistic, don't you think a man can fall in love with you just because he finds home in your heart?
There are brothers out there who know what they want except you're theone who make a wrong choice.

What does love have to do with it? You're a bit of point now.

TOYOSI20:

U know what they say Tope, too many cooks spoil the broth, and didn't one of our legends also sing that song. . .

"Ese wun e pada Ija de ti tan oh",  , LMGBO. . . . . . . .

Gbam

chika98:

Somethings in marriage do require a third party. As long as it isn't something you do often or all the time.

Maybe when ones husband impregnated som1 else sha

sillyboy:

@ Tope and Toyo.

I think most ladies when faced with relationship challenges that involves their man. . . .  prefer talking to their moma instead of their pals. I really don't blame them for that you know?

My sister was once was told by her friend to scream at her hubby while the same friend was a muppet to her hubby. The worst case scenario though is when a woman runs to her pastor telling him about her man.

I think if you are having problems in ur relationship, the best to speak to is the person u having them with .i.e. bf or husband

Only impregnate??

tope2000:

Gbam

Maybe when ones husband impregnated som1 else sha

I think if you are having problems in ur relationship, the best to speak to is the person u having them with .i.e. boyfriend or husband

Sometimes Tope that is not possible.  If both parties are stubborn or refuse to bend a third party can help alot, trust me I know.  I would not turn to my parents, closer to daddy then mommy, because i dont want my parents in my marriage.  

There should be one person thou that one can go to, to help mediate and communication break downs.

chika98:

What does love have to do with it? You're a bit of point now.

Not actually, But sister, you sound like you don't trust men anymore.

oziomatv:

Not actually, But sister, you sound like you don't trust men anymore.

This has nothing to do with trust. Just stating a fact really.

Men are more emotionally stable than women. . . . . . .I know that much.

n-guage:

What if your girl is the stubborn type? How do you solve that problem?

NO big deal, all u do is give her a little pampering, like take her out to dinner,

let her constantly know how much u care about her, and hopefully eventually she'll lighten up. . . . . .

sillyboy:

@ Tope and Toyo.

I think most ladies when faced with relationship challenges that involves their man. . . .  prefer talking to their moma instead of their pals. I really don't blame them for that you know?

My sister was once was told by her friend to scream at her hubby while the same friend was a muppet to her hubby. The worst case scenario though is when a woman runs to her pastor telling him about her man.

I agree, very close to ma mom as well but there comes time u draw the line. . . . .  .

marriage is for life afterall, we do learn from these things u know.

~Sauron~:

Men are more emotionally stable than women. . . . . . .I know that much.

I agree

Of course they are. The same way they are more selfless than women right??

sistawoman:


Sometimes Tope that is not possible.  If both parties are stubborn or refuse to bend a third party can help alot, trust me I know.  I would not turn to my parents, closer to daddy then mommy, because i don't want my parents in my marriage.  

There should be one person thou that one can go to, to help mediate and communication break downs.

Then the third party shud prolly be marriage counsellor

@ Tope,

Did u say impregnate, . . . . now way oh. . . . all hell would break loose, are ya kidding me?

TOYOSI20:

@ Tope,

Did u say impregnate, . . . . now way oh. . . . all hell would break loose, are ya kidding me?

Lmao
u know shit happens
What are u going to do, divorce him

sistawoman:

I agree

Thank u.

chika98:

Of course they are. The same way they are more selfless than women right??

Men are selfless. . . . . .and they have proven to be the best company anyone can have.
Most women keep male friends for a reason. Respect that.

~Sauron~:

Thank u.

Men are selfless. . . . . .and they have proven to be the best company anyone can have.
Most women keep male friends for a reason. Respect that.

I beg to differ.

tope2000:

Then the third party should prolly be marriage counsellor

Why should we go pay someone $200.00 an hour to help us talk out something that a friend can help us settle for some veg. soup and pounded yam.

Only very severe cases are taken to our mediator.  We work out most problems/conflicts on our own.

I dont like involving family because i dont want to ever paint a bad picture of my husband.  Often in fits of anger women can say things they really dont mean and then cant take them back later because the family remembers what you said.  So I would rather not say it all to them just our mediator.

tope2000:

Lmao
u know shit happens
What are u going to do, divorce him

Hum, that's a tough one, would't want to find myself in that kind of mess I know that much. . . . . .

~Sauron~:

Thank u.

Men are selfless. . . . . .and they have proven to be the best company anyone can have.
Most women keep male friends for a reason. Respect that.

I would have to say good men are selfless, I married one.

And yes 2 of my 3 best friends are males.  I think it is because they are dependable and far less emotional, they help keep me grounded.

tope2000:

Lmao
u know shit happens
What are u going to do, divorce him

You think he wouldnt divorce you if the shoe was on the other foot?  

sistawoman:

Why should we go pay someone $200.00 an hour to help us talk out something that a friend can help us settle for some veg. soup and pounded yam.

Only very severe cases are taken to our mediator.  We work out most problems/conflicts on our own.

I don't like involving family because i don't want to ever paint a bad picture of my husband.  Often in fits of anger women can say things they really don't mean and then can't take them back later because the family remembers what you said.  So I would rather not say it all to them just our mediator.

Well you must have really good friends then

TOYOSI20:

Hum, that's a tough one, would't want to find myself in that kind of mess I know that much. . . . . .

I don't pray for that either
but i have been the type of person that always prepare her mind for the worse

KarmaMod:

You think he wouldnt divorce you if the shoe was on the other foot? 

I'm sure he would
but i don't think its wise for a woman to divorce because of that
Do u know maybe the next Man you'd marry would even be a bigger modafcuker
unless ofcos u don't plan on marryin or dating anymore then u can divorce