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Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by nomanicole(f): 11:00pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
@namun thanks dear! @enitan please dont misunderstand my point,i'm not praising the man for cheating.i said if he really loves her 2years is too long a time for him not to realise she has a child for him, who knows maybe the guy is even married to some one else, i mean before he met her. according to her,they got married ,did she state if it was contract or the church thing where his family will be involved? she said they got married cos he was about to be deported,excuse me?did i make that up?yes the man is not justified for cheating but i believe they had an agreement and maybe it has expired,she said he doesnt like condoms.lets face reality,was the marriage for love,companionship,help and multiplication? or for helping him out get his papers to avoid being deported?at least we have heard alot of stories where people do the contract agreement thing?she and the guy dont even stay in the same place,oh please! she wants him,he doesnt want her,why kill yourself? move on with your life or better still keep enduring and wait for heaven to change his mind.what if this guy has kids and a happy family in naija already?he married on contract to get what he wanted.i dont why i'm seeing things from this angle but its reality. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by nomanicole(f): 11:11pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
@poster you have a life of your own,move on please! its clear he doesnt want you.you wont die if you stay without him,please. maybe one day he'll come back for his son,get out of your misery please,he is not worth it. ok! his papers aint complete right except he has a child,thats why he hasn't said "leave" how do you know some one doesnt have a child for him some where else and thats his strenght or worst still treat you like cow dung,knowing you love him get through with you and leave you in the worst of conditions.on my part,2 years is enough patience,now that you have the strenght,follow your heart,and i believe its saying "GO" |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by chukwuify: 11:15pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
n-guage: |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by arramyjay: 11:15pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
No you are not being too harsh,I suggest you move on.and leave his soory ass. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by chukwuify: 11:17pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
nomanicole: No, but I might die with him, emotionally I mean |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by chukwuify: 11:19pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
shegirl71: That's the plan |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by PurestBoy(m): 11:38pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
@poster, Leaving your husband is not the solution as you may jump from frying pan to fire if care is not taken but I suggest you seek your Pastor's help to counsel your randy husband. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by Nobody: 11:41pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
My own belief is that, a man who dosen't play the part of being the normal, godly husband should be negleted. Don't leave him, becos of ur kid, but treat him as if he dosen't exist. Go on with ur life. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by chukwuify: 11:44pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
PurestBoy: I did call his pastor. No help coming from there either. Well, what can be expected as SHE's a member of that same church too? tomba: But he is negleting his son. Should I expose the young innocent child on such behaviour? |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by SisiJinx: 11:55pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
PurestBoy: I'm sorry but what does that mean. . . jumping from frying pan to fire? What exactly is the frying pan and what is the fire in this situation? |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by PurestBoy(m): 12:01am On Nov 26, 2008 |
chukwuify: |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by SisiJinx: 12:07am On Nov 26, 2008 |
PurestBoy: Let's see if I have this right. . . ACTION REACTION He cheats on her - She shows him more love. He cheats on her - She gives him more sex He cheats on her - SHE buys him gifts Is that so? Gotcha! Thanks. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by PurestBoy(m): 12:18am On Nov 26, 2008 |
Sisi Jinx: What do you think she can do? cheat back? Tell us your opinion on this matter |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by PurestBoy(m): 12:24am On Nov 26, 2008 |
Sisi Jinx: What do you think she can do? cheat back? Tell us your opinion on this matter |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by SisiJinx: 12:42am On Nov 26, 2008 |
PurestBoy: My opinion? Oh let's just say I am no expert like you. I'm still waiting for the part where you tell her make her bed ready for her husband and his girlfriend to carry their loving or maybe she'll just drive him to his girlfriend's home, wait in the car until he's done, drive him back home, draw his bath, feed him and cap the night off by giving him a massage? |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by PurestBoy(m): 1:02am On Nov 26, 2008 |
Sisi Jinx: I do not agree with those at they are inhuman act from any man but do you think fighting back or packing out of the house will change the man? |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by nomanicole(f): 1:18am On Nov 26, 2008 |
ah! this man has actually brain washed you,so you actually think if he had been deported, he would have still married you? even with his naija wife? oh, please! all his talks then were strategies to get you to make his stay possible,any desperate hussling naija guy can say anything to satisfy their thirst,gal,open your eyes.what more do you want to hear? oh! you might die staying with him?? exactly,cos he'll keep frustrating you.one day he might just come and run away with your kid,leaving you with nothing.shine your eyes ,or you plan to come to naira land again? make hay while the sun shines |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by SisiJinx: 1:33am On Nov 26, 2008 |
PurestBoy: But why now. . . Isn't that the next logical step after the gift buying you suggested earlier? but do you think fighting back or packing out of the house will change the man? So she sits there and keep buying him gifts right. . . I mean since it's obvious he isn't going to change. Oh well, I sure hope she has Kenneth Cole or is it D & G on speed dial! |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by gamechange(m): 1:42am On Nov 26, 2008 |
@ Poster -- I am voicing my opinion based on your utterances alone. If you witheld or gave false information, then my analysis will be completely flawed. It is rather sad that you have been a victim of a well known scam. Pretty much your supposed husband used you to obtain legal status in your country of residence. In as much as you would view this as a horrible thing to happen to a human, but to be candid, to the Nigerian mind, this practice is generally encouraged by all and sundry. Living conditions can be extremely difficult in Nigeria, so most people classified as economic migrants will do whatever is necessary to gain residency so as to have chance at a descent life. All this (the marriage that is) would have been a carefully planned operation, including the participation of his "real" wife, family, etc. Nigerian churches are aware this goes on, but would normally turn a blind eye. I am going to be frank with you, this is nothing new under the sun, there are a lot of children of Nigerian fatherhood who do not know their biological fathers until adulthood, simply because their mothers are victims of this scam. If you are familiar with England , then names like Daley thompson, Sade Adu, John and Justin fashanu are by products of such. Now that you are clued, here is what to do. It is going to be difficult, but you have to take the bull by the horn. Arrange for childcare and both of you go to a fancy restaurant where you are going to have a heart to heart talk. Express what you think has gone on without apportioning blame, and voice that you accept that he is no longer interested in the union and you are not willing to put up a fight, but what you would like is knowledge on what should happen to your child. His answer will determine if he wants to be a part of the childs life, if not, then it is safe to say that you have to cut your losses and bolt. My sincere hope and prayer for you is that you meet in quicktime 'the one' who will bring the right kind of tears to your eyes. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by snazzydown(m): 1:55am On Nov 26, 2008 |
@nomanicole,ah! this man has actually brain washed you,so you actually think if he had been deported, he would have still married you? even with his naija wife? oh, please! all his talks then were strategies to get you to make his stay possible,any desperate hussling naija guy can say anything to satisfy their thirst,girl,open your eyes.what more do you want to hear? oh! you might die staying with him?? exactly,because he'll keep frustrating Uone day he might just come and run away with your kid,leaving you with nothing.shine your eyes Shocked,or you plan to come to naira land again? make hay while the sun shinesu r making me to fall in love with u. see how u normally post ur thread, so lovely all the post. i love the all exp. this one |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by SisiJinx: 2:03am On Nov 26, 2008 |
As one love ends, another begins! The universe knows how to balance itself! |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by okunoba(m): 4:14am On Nov 26, 2008 |
dear chukwuify, I have to confess to u, having more than one woman is standard amongst most Nigerian men. We grow up seeing our dad`s with multiple partners, hence we end up accepting it as the norm. It only becomes a problem when we come to the Western world and start dating white women, then we realise it`s not the norm here but by then it`s usually too late to change and very few of us ever change. My advice to u is, decide if u can take his cheating like his mom had to with the father or leave him if u don`t think u can take it. I once had a Finish girlfriend but was honest enough to tell her I couldn`t commit to her alone which she understood and we ended up being friends. Nigerians love praying to solve any problem they might have , if that was the solution, your husband would not be in finland where they never pray but in Nigeria where they do. Prayer suggestion is just a way of saying they don`t know what advice to give so leave everything to faith. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by okunoba(m): 4:28am On Nov 26, 2008 |
snazzydown, love the pic, who is that? |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by Nobody: 7:09am On Nov 26, 2008 |
@ Nomanicole, i'll give my left arm to be with u, danm @ Poster, U're signature has said it, like Nas, life's a bitch. These are the things we experience on planet earth. Go try and make u'r marriage work. Don't quit. Put ur faith in God |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by baibbieboy: 7:28am On Nov 26, 2008 |
Anyway if you've truly got the evidence that he's that kind of person, then i must ask if u guys are married or u just had the little one outside marriage. and if you are married then u have to make sure u r doin the right thing |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by carmelily: 9:25am On Nov 26, 2008 |
okunoba: The REALEST post here so far. So true. So sad. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by Goldman08: 9:40am On Nov 26, 2008 |
What!!!Did you just mentioned that the lady is from Liberian,i have known some Liberian ladies to be sex freaks, Your husband needs to be tested at the hospital to ensure that he's free and most especially he needs a serious prayer and deliverance. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by Nobody: 9:45am On Nov 26, 2008 |
Hi, I guess Finland has one of the highest rate of gun owner's in the world and i guess you have a gun, if you don't have you can go get one. Simply load it with bullet and kill that guy. That's what other white people like you do when some African punk ass niggas use them to get residence permit to stay in Finland and dump them after getting one. And that's the truth, this is what that guy used you for. If i were you this is what i am going to do. After all finland is your land and the case could easily be closed. This is the only way to relieve yourself of the drama this incident will put into your life. Sorry if this is a bad advice. It won't and would never be the last time a white European does a thing like this. I don't know the kind of heart you've got but if you've got a lion heart i guess this is what you should do. The choice is yours, you can let go of the drama or do as i said. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by bouquilife(f): 10:06am On Nov 26, 2008 |
The truth of this case is that the guy did not love you at all. He married you to have a stay in that country. The bible is against divorce, so I cant advice you to divorce him. Continue praying for him and he will turn around, and may be love you someday. |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by Goldman08: 10:09am On Nov 26, 2008 |
@bigmodo My Guy cool down and also cool ur temper,shey na so you dey vex, I dey look you sef,you bi proper Killer oooooo, Aaaah |
Re: Caught My Husband From Cheating :/ by oYaTo(m): 10:38am On Nov 26, 2008 |
okunoba: Dude you're totally missing the point. Whether or not she can take his cheating, he's going to dump her sooner or later cos he's only using her to secure his residency in the country. She should cut her losses and try to find a better life for herself and her son. @snazzy did u have to post her pic all over the thread? one peep into her profile aint enuf? @nomanicole better remove ur pic from ur profile b4 all these hungry men download on their PCs for you-know-what |
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