thorpido:
All other house expenditure will be put into consideration of course.I said in my first post that the rent and transportation has to be put into consideration.If a couple stay in a minflat,pay rent of about N150k a year and live not far from their place of work,they will still have adequate funds to take care of a baby.The first few months,the baby can be on exclusive breastfeeding and they don't have to spend too much on diapers.

It's not my situation but i look around and see that some people wait too long to settle down and for me the advantages of starting early outweigh the disadvantages.

edozie04:
80k? seriously? that money can finish in my hands under 1hour

humilitypays:
One annoying but interesting thing about nairaland is; kids, teens and grown boys/girls just come here to type whatever they feel will increase their reputation and make people rate them high, whereas in reality, it isn't like that.

80% if not 90% of Nigerians are living and raising decent family with less than 80k per month, so what are we talking about here

When will our youths stop these their greed and quest for instant material wealth Every success in life comes with time not instant!!

Most civil servants in Nigeria today earn less than 80k per month after deductions...same with bankers and even those working in big firms you hear about and even wish to be like.

At least the guy earning 80k per month won't get married as soon as he gets the work...he will have to give himself some time; say 1yr or 2 b4 getting married...and within that period, he should be able to save some money to buy a car, have a backup savings (at least 500k) which can help ease off the financial stress when he gets married.


80k per month isn't a bad income to start up a family...its just that we Nigerians of the 21st century wants to start running from the very day our mama gives birth to us, and life doesn't work that way!

To the single ladies, don't be discourage by the nonsense some people are typing here just to appear posh or big, 80k per month is enough to start a decent family, so don't wait till a guy earning 100k and above comes around to marry u because that guy earning 80k now will sure grow in his career and earns more.

The worst is not having something doing...but once a man has something legal and decent doing, and finds an understand/wise lady who agrees with him, he should get married and pray to God for growth.

To the students reading, pray that you find a job when u graduate because we have more capable hands waiting to work than jobs available...and only very few jobs pay up to 80k per month in Nigeria of today.

Remember, in career...you grow as you get more experience, and u stand higher chance of securing a bigger job when u have a relevant work experience...so to the unemployed graduates, pls don't wait for 100k per month job before u start your career...if you see 40k that will give u the opportunity of getting relevant work xprence, pls take it and start.

I started with something less than 40k a few years back and today, I have advanced beyond that...some of my friends and colleagues started with 30k, 35k, 45k and some are earning 100k, 150k, 200k. 200+ today, just after 2 - 4years of working.

Success comes with patience, positive attitude, faith, consistency and smart work....don't wait to start big, start small and aim high, God, nature and time will take u to where you belong.


Pls don't allow peoples' boastful and bragging comments on nairaland and on any social media platform discourage you from getting started in life; all fingers aren't equal...only time will tell who will be who in life.

Wish you all the best, use your wisdom

Larriekay:
God bless u bro, I got married earning 80k. Now I have a son my earning is now 100k while my wife earns 60k and we are doing just fine.

Larriekay:
God bless u bro, I got married earning 80k. Now I have a son my earning is now 100k while my wife earns 60k and we are doing just fine.

Herzumpther:
Exactly.

I know of somebody who receives less than 80 thousand naira and they he is married with kids.

I believe putting heads together to make the family grow is the best. If a man receives 80k and his wife 50k with good planning, the marriage will sure work.

thorpido:
Some children are said to open doors.

Rooneyboy:


my guy , did u read economics in school , all u are spewing here is shocking . (exclusive) for a lady that hardly sees three square meal

believe u me , i earn slightly above a quarter of a mill (30 years+) and i'm NOT yet thinking in that direction.

i want my wife and kids to be more than comfortable

blakky97:
is his wife educated?
educated women don't usually agree for such men oh.
untill they reach 40 years.

Sophyrocks:


I still stick to my opinion. No need for back and forth fruitless arguments! Dnt give birth to kids you cnt cater for. simple!

BoboYekini:
I didn't see where the OP mentioned the wife earning an additional N60k. So how did 80k become (80+60)k?
@OP, unless your wife is just coming off the bus from the village, or somehow she has millions and wants to be the one supporting you, that amount will never work. Which working city babe will even stoop to have a boyfriend who has no car, does not live in the happening parts of town, and does not follow the latest style trends? Much less a husband?

jimi4us:
as in backyard door or front door of a house?

thorpido:
Some children are said to open doors.

edozie04:
80k? seriously? that money can finish in my hands under 1hour

edozie04:
80k? seriously? that money can finish in my hands under 1hour

Sophyrocks:


So just because a child brightens a home, you should just bring one into the world not minding if you can cater for that child? Do you know how much you spend to ensure your child is healthy? I want a breakdown on how a man earning 80k with a wife who earns less will manage with a child plus all other expenses in the home without one aspect or other suffering.

ITbomb:

I beg to disagree, a man earning 80k and a working wife should have a child (I don't mean producing each year), nothing brighten a home than a healthy child, it makes the couple eager to go back home after hustle. Another thing I hate is old age children, imagine a 50 years man still dropping his kids in Nursery school when you he should be arguing with his first son about his career choice

Spending on a child is relative, you don't send your child to a 300k per term school when there are other quality yet affordable school around, you don't make crunchies your child's lunch venue when a pot of soup can serve the family

edozie04:
80k? seriously? that money can finish in my hands under 1hour

Sophyrocks:
withold child birth till wen?

What plan are you talking about when there are expenses such as rent, feeding, transportation to work place to and fro, provision/toiletries in the home, e.t.c? how will you squeeze in the expenses of a child? Except your wife earns more than you do o!! If not that, this kind manage manage life plus squeezing in a child. Haba! Na life of poverty be that now. Dnt just bring in a child to avoid begging people for money. you then become debtor. Its common sense to withhold child bearing with that kind of salary.

Sophyrocks:


So why didnt the numerous children of the poor open doors for them? The numerous children homeless on the streets under bridge around the country nko? why didnt they make the parents rich overnight? Such a belief is for Naive myopic people. Its always good for us to be realistic about life. Do you know the huge chunk a single child slashes from somebody's salary? As the child grows, the expenses increase. This country is over populated already. we need serious population control.