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| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by UjSizzle(f): 9:32am On Dec 06, 2014 |
jaybee3: Lmao!!  Booboo I don't know what greenlights are biko. If a guy comes to my rescue, I assume he's being kind. If I help a guy out, I know it's all because of kindness. Don't quite get why people have to make a big deal out of nothing. If I enjoy your company, I'll hangout with you.....no strings. If you enjoy my company, then same goes.....no strings. If you enjoy my company because you want a relationship I'm not interested in, then no hanging out. No time to be labeled a green lighter. All these 'color variations' just tire me. Nobody should try to read my colours (hian ) or paint me one because I am colour blind. If you have something to say, then please say it. If I have something to say, I'll do the same. Btw Mynd44, writing this topic is a green light |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by UjSizzle(f): 9:34am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Tymax:This hard to get game has become a big problem. What if she's not playing hard? Maybe she just doesn't want to date you, and those things you considered greenlights weren't even lights at all? Just asking. |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 9:35am On Dec 06, 2014 |
UjSizzle:You know I will gladly do you...I hope jaybee does not have a gun |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by jaybee3(m): 9:36am On Dec 06, 2014 |
F UjSizzle:Please upgrade me.....I don't want to be permanently stuck on amber  |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by UjSizzle(f): 9:36am On Dec 06, 2014 |
jaybee3:Colour variations Traffic light detector You're killing me |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by jaybee3(m): 9:37am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Mynd44:Anu eh shey mi Oun fi iru oka shey re |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by UjSizzle(f): 9:38am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Mynd44:Biko define this 'do' jaybee3:Hehehe Cyan update rolling out soon 
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| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 9:39am On Dec 06, 2014 |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 9:41am On Dec 06, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Send me your number and I will tell you *wink |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by UjSizzle(f): 9:46am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Mynd44:Wait small. How much will you pay into my account for the number? |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 9:47am On Dec 06, 2014 |
UjSizzle:I will give you my heart ❤ |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by UjSizzle(f): 9:53am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Mynd44:Hian. Dem dey chop heart  1 Like |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by JoeCutie(m): 9:54am On Dec 06, 2014 |
mayapop:But tell me; why would a girl wink at you? That's a clear message, you know... Unless she's a close friend who you could ordinarily roll with. 1 Like |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by naijaboiy: 9:59am On Dec 06, 2014 |
samflexxy:Sigh |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 10:00am On Dec 06, 2014 |
JoeCutie:Ehen, una don start..... |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 10:02am On Dec 06, 2014 |
UjSizzle:bad market |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by JoeCutie(m): 10:05am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Mynd44:I don't get... 1 Like |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by ihedinobi2: 10:05am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Chai! Long story. I shall still read. But I shall comment first. Because I'm an impatient son of a god.  Mynd44, some history. In old England, women indicated interest in a man with subtle signs. There was the hanky drop. There was the fan signal. Even the glove drop. All kinds of subtle signals that could be interpreted in any of two ways. Here in Igboland, our marriage tradition is significant. There is a reason why in traditional ceremonies the woman is handed a cup of wine to give to her man. At bars, there are subtle cues and alterations in body language a woman uses to indicate availability and interest. No, it has never been in question whether women give off signals. They have always done. And they still do. Whether they admit it, even know it, or not. The real question is why. Women have to be protected and to protect themselves from unwelcome interest. And men have to be careful to avoid taking a woman against her will (men are generally physically stronger, whatever feminism says). For this reason there has to be a communication of interest that preserves a woman's dignity and attracts the man she wants. Hence hanky/glove drops, funny things with handfans, funny things with dances, funny play on words and a host of other half-madnesses. In the modern world, because of the mad rebellion, there isn't any societal coherence anymore for the cues. It used to be something of an open secret. Now it's a confusion. Women give off strong communications of interest and then insist that they didn't. Half their fault really. The other half is for the loss of education on the part of society and our elders. Women need to learn that one reason men start to attack them when they rebuff their attempts to woo them is because they've wounded their pride. A man lets his pride down to go after the woman he wants. For that reason he looks for some assurance that she is even open game to him. So he'll look for cues. Women too radiate their interest with specificity because they don't want the wrong guy. They choose the man they want and tell him without words that they're open for business. Thus, cues. Typically, the cues tell the man that she likes being with him. The hanky/glove drop used to be the second stage, if I remember correctly. It was the woman's offer of an excuse that the man could use to visit her at her chaperone's place. The fan was first stage, to tell him that she was open to his physical approach to make introductions and first conversation. It kept increasing in degree as the two got closer. Our agitation against societal codes and norms has cost us quite a lot, don't you agree?  3 Likes |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by naijaboiy: 10:06am On Dec 06, 2014 |
marieolae:We are not detectives,,how do you expect us to understand that just a simple eye contact means an invitation for a conversation. You girls are just too complex.  As for me I follow my instincts. If she agrees fine,,if she doesn't..Life goes on. |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by JoeCutie(m): 10:08am On Dec 06, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Chai! Na so so 'chop chop' girls want. Uj nwanyi oma, even you? Wetin una want?! Chai! 1 Like |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by UjSizzle(f): 10:11am On Dec 06, 2014 |
JoeCutie:Lol. Friendly banter hun. Don't take anything me and Mynd say to heart 1 Like |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 10:12am On Dec 06, 2014 |
@Ihedinobi2, in those days, those sighs were clearly defined. Everyone knew what a handky drop was and the ish with the fan. These days , there are not defined rules and we mix things up. For all you know, the signs Shola give is what Nnkechi does naturally hence the cancellation of signs. Before you conclude on a sign, be sure 1 Like |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 10:13am On Dec 06, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Huh? But I wanna do you na |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by UjSizzle(f): 10:14am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Okay! So the green light in this age and anyone at all then, is simply a mental construct. Something a guy needs to assure himself that the woman he is interested in, also shares same interest. End of discussion. |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by UjSizzle(f): 10:16am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Mynd44:Go away. My battery is dying  You've failed in your duty to provide me a new one  Don't talk to me again |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 10:17am On Dec 06, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Go and charge. GEJ has given us unlimited power so what do you need batteries for? |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by jaybee3(m): 10:20am On Dec 06, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Is it about battery? Make i begin beat chest sharpish....nwanne, i will build you your own personal battery factory for nnewi |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Dreyl(m): 10:21am On Dec 06, 2014 |
naijaboiy:exactly! |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by jaybee3(m): 10:23am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Mynd44:Big brother thingzzz My/our eyes are on you! |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Mynd44: 10:26am On Dec 06, 2014 |
jaybee3:I am protected by Obatala and Zeus oooo |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by Franchise21(m): 10:40am On Dec 06, 2014 |
naijaboiy:Confirm |
| Re: Lets Talk About The "Green Light" by ihedinobi2: 10:47am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Mynd44:In other words, you agree with me. Now, if those signs not only exist but have a real, logical place in male-female relations, the question is how to deal with today's confusion, is it not? How is a man to be sure what a woman means when she sends him music tracks with one single theme running through all of them? What is a woman supposed to think when a man routinely drops everything and comes running when she has a problem? How can a man be sure that a woman is not saying that she would like him to woo her when she returns his calls religiously and routinely talks for hours even when there's nothing to say? How do you know for sure when there are no more single codes? Here's how I think you can be sure: women who want a man tend to want to be around him a lot. Men who want to be with a woman tend to want to impress her and prove that he's a man she can trust. Thus, behaviors consistent with these desires are green lights. That they are green lights does not mean that when you see them they are intentionally given. Today's screwed up world has very many of us stuck in infancy in a lot of things. It's like talking gibberish and managing to deliver a coherent string of meaning sometimes. So what to look for is consistency of behavior. If the person keeps doing it, ask them why in whatever subtle manner (I'm just saying subtle to be accommodating, beyond a certain point I quit subtilty) you know how to and take what they say and act on it. |
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