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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:28pm On Dec 08, 2014
totoakins:

from her post does it look like she is willing to learn? she came out dressed from the bathroom for crying out loud. she should change her attitude first then talk to her husband am sure he would be willing to teach her

And the next he did was to threaten her and start manhandling her. Is that how to go about it? Is rape the solution? what sort of man enjoys rape? Ive made my point clear. we must not agree. the man is still a beast.
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:28pm On Dec 08, 2014
Tholuwaniey:


when they were visiting tantalizer and KFC..Chopping the guys money like Akara... Even putting your friends bills on him she thinks she don catch maga... You then came up with a crazy rule of no sex for 3yrs? kai.. the lady is a complete mugu... I for tear the puna!!!...

Rapist on the loose!!

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:31pm On Dec 08, 2014
Sophyrocks:


All i know is that the man is a beast!! He no sabi bedmatics! Most men think bedmatics is all about satisfying the man. Mbanu!! Its satisfcation of bothe s.exes. Since he knows her disposition towards it, it is required of him to teach her. He is not romantic and his bedmatics styles are very poor thats why he manhandleds her. Two wrongs dnt make a right. Dnt be a beast because of your d1ck. S.ex is meant to be beneficial for both s.exes.

how about i date you and you don't want to let me be romantic? can you agree with me some men would have gotten really angry and kill her? and the dick is a mans brain. guys beg, lie, kill and even die for sex. sex=guys, you can't separate those two couples. As for me, i won't even date without sex. even with this your loud mouth, i'll still prefer sex before dating tongue
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:31pm On Dec 08, 2014
Pyrrho:
Sister, three years no be joke. The guy must have tried all the available bedmatics skills, and tutoring. Now that they are married, he must have ran out of ideas. Another three long years isn't in his plan anymore.
All she needs is a bad girl like u as friend who wld teach her how to handle, and take responsibility for sexual intercourse.

How do you know he must have taught her? you didnt read her story well. no wonder other men sleep with peoples' wives. No single patience to handle a woman well. you allow another man handle your wife well for you because you are too impatient. SMH.

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:35pm On Dec 08, 2014
donnypool:


how about i date you and you don't want to let me be romantic? can you agree with me some men would have gotten really angry and kill her? and the dick is a mans brain. guys beg, lie, kill and even die for sex. sex=guys, you can't separate those two couples. As for me, i won't even date without sex. even with this your loud mouth, i'll still prefer sex before dating tongue

That was why i said marriage isnt by force. The man wasnt comfortable with how they were dating. why didnt he just quit and walk away? Many men have honourably walked away and found women of their type. Is itt a bad thing to do? Will you rape your wife to punish her? Is that best solutiion to this? Now he has been raping her so she wouldnt feel free with her hubby any longer. Or uve forgotten rape has a huge negative effect on a woman? how will she have to mind to loook forward to having s.ex when all the man does is rape her?
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:38pm On Dec 08, 2014
Sophyrocks:


How do you he must have taught her? you didnt read her story well. no wonder other men sleep with peoples' wives. No single patience to handle a woman well. you allow another man handle your wife well for you because you are too impatient. SMH.
Wait a minute. Whose responsibility is it to make a fore-play in a marriage. So you wldnt showcase ur assets for ur husband, you wld wait for him to make the first move? When girls all over the streets are out for an exhibition.
Girl go ask ur mom some questions, you might lose ur man.

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:41pm On Dec 08, 2014
Pyrrho:
Wait a minute. Whose responsibility is it to make a fore-play in a marriage. So you wldnt show ur assets for ur husband, you wld wait for him to make the first move? When girls all over the streets are out for exhibitions.
Girl go ask ur mom some questions, you might lose ur man.

In this case, the man here is to do so since she is inexperienced. have you forgotten what you are discussing? Please i cant keep repeating myself. her husband no sabi do. He doesnt know how to teach and handle her. End of!
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:43pm On Dec 08, 2014
Sophyrocks:


That was why i said marriage isnt by force. The man wasnt comfortable with how they were dating. why didnt he just quit and walk away? Many men have honourably walked away and found women of their type. Is itt a bad thing to do? Will you rape your wife to punish her? Is that best solutiion to this? Now he has been raping her so she wouldnt feel free with her hubby any longer. Or uve forgotten rape has a huge negative effect on a woman? how will she have to mind to loook forward to having s.ex when all the man does is rape her?

I have seen your type, its Girls like you that really knows how to take very good care of their man, you i can bet knows how to satisfy your man and make your relationship move forward. but same you will advise your friends that if their boy friend yell at them they should quit the relationship.

Oyinda a female friend always act as a strong woman and advised all their friends to be less tolerance on their boyfriend behaviour blah blah blah. now her best friend is searching for mr right while Oyinda is getting married.

Why not you teach this young in experience girl how to you keep her hubby happy and make her marriage work rather than scream 'he a beast'. and yes he is a beast so whats next?

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by 100Cents: 8:44pm On Dec 08, 2014
TomiwaDamola:
Get a divorce before he begins to do even worse to you. undecided
Also report him to the police and women's rights groups. You shouldn't have to suffer just because you didn't put out while you were dating.


You are stylishly asking her to end the marriage.

God forbid. This is too early.
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by HopeAlive14(m): 8:45pm On Dec 08, 2014
Let's just suppose this story is true and...

1. Divorce is not the answer, God hates it.

2. Her pastor has sided with her husband, most likely her parents will as well.

3. The husband still continues with his acts which the wife finds unsavoury.

Way forward: Pray for God's intervention (there is nothing God cannot do), plead with your pastor to still talk some more to him, meet your husband halfway (love him more rather than detest him) and live happily ever after!

Though your beginning was rough, your latter end shall be smoother and colorfully glorious!
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Ebymyk(m): 8:46pm On Dec 08, 2014
If dis story is realy true,what made you to fall in love with such a man that you never realy knew,and to even marry him.its realy sad, many ladies marry for the wrong reasons!ask yourself woman..what is marriage?why do people marry?was God involved in your relationship with this man before you married him.?.there are a lot of question,you should ask yourself and answer yourself woman..please,that relationship should not be endured..divorce that so called man and open another page of your life immediately..if you continue enduring this wickedness,evil might creep into your heart,and you might do something unimaginable or crazy..email me..ebymyk@gmail.com for more advise!
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by timpaker(m): 8:48pm On Dec 08, 2014
The guy is a porn-star wannabe. But op. Why are you stingy with the stuff na? But on a serious note, that dude needs to be locked up somewhere with men of his prowess in a jail, as in he needs to feel what its like to be raped. #damn!
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:49pm On Dec 08, 2014
Sophyrocks:


In this case, the man here is to do so since she is inexperienced. have you forgotten what you are discussing? Please i cant keep repeating myself. her husband no sabi do. He doesnt know how to teach and handle her. End of!
You no know the meaning of "sabi do".
A mans part is to do. Not to teach a lady how to carry herself, or sell her wares.
I repeat, her mother, or friends are in the best position to do the schooling, girls like you. Cos no man can teach a lady to be enticing or slutty. It aint our side of the game.

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by adrainuche(m): 8:50pm On Dec 08, 2014
My sister just shut up, is it because of ordinary penis ure complaining for.. You women una case tire me you know how many women complain that their men dnt satisfy them..

My sister bend down suck that Dick before those small girls out there start sucking it, when ure husbands gets home by then he would start telling you is tired be depriving him from sex, he even bought u a car ure are still complaining..

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:50pm On Dec 08, 2014
donnypool:


I have seen your type, its Girls like you that really knows how to take very good care of their man, you i can bet knows how to satisfy your man and make your relationship move forward. but same you will advise your friends that if their boy friend yell at them they should quit the relationship.

Oyinda a female friend always act as a strong woman and advised all their friends to be less tolerance on their boyfriend behaviour blah blah blah. now her best friend is searching for mr right while Oyinda is getting married.

Why not you teach this young in experience to you keep your hubby happy rather than scream 'he a beast'. and yes he is a best, so whats your advice? divorce or counselling

My point still stands o. I will not advise another woman what i cannot take. i will not date a beast like the Op's husband in the first place therefore if she wants to divorce let her go ahead if he continues to rape her.

My advice is the man should go and learn how to be more patient and romantic. let him go and meet his mates who had virgin wives to teach him how to handle a first timer. the way you handle a first timer is different from an experienced person. Let him ask his wife what makes her tick, what turns her on, know her buttons to press. He no sabi anything!!! s.ex is for the satisfaction of both s.exes. Simple!! Her husband needs to see a psychiatrist and a counsellor for him to know that he married for the wrong reasons. Shikena!! This is not marriage!

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:50pm On Dec 08, 2014
Pyrrho:
Wait a minute. Whose responsibility is it to make a fore-play in a marriage. So you wldnt showcase ur assets for ur husband, you wld wait for him to make the first move? When girls all over the streets are out for an exhibition.
Girl go ask ur mom some questions, you might lose ur man.

guy see, this girl you talking to knows very well how to keep her man and make him happy. i have seen her type many times. they always argue about stuffs like this because they are not experiencing it, and yet forget the fact that its due to their way of making their man happy.

Ask her if she is denying her man love and affection? ask her if she has sacrifice her virginity for a man? if all this is yes, then you know she is a very good and experience girl

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by satowind(m): 8:50pm On Dec 08, 2014
blesie:
So i narrated how little i can of my ordeal since i got married to this man here last week - https://www.nairaland.com/2030889/he-punishing-me-honey-moon

While i got alot of advises from our dear Nairalanders, i had resolve before not to tell the pastor or my parent but to talk to him as many advised, i couldn't look him in the eye actually, i tried to do that many times since that Friday but I couldnt, so i said ok, after sunday service i will build up courage to confront him and voice out my opinion to him.

So on sunday, it was going to be our first sunday after wedding, i had arrange our wears, his and my own, i woke up early to make breakfast for him and prepare him for church, before he woke up i was already in the kitchen so i ask him to take his bath and lets go early.

He took breakfast (i don't take breakfast so i didnt eat), we were all fully dressed and ready to set out, i packed our bible and writing note into the car and the gift we wanted to give our pastor too inside the car.

it was almost time and i said, so shall we, he said not yet and i said what is remaining, he said you're remaining, you havent given me nothing this morning, i said but you just took breakfast, he said nope, i haven't had you. This is like 10minutes for church to start oo.

He came closer and i said please dont let us waste time lets go. He changed. Don't let us do what? did you just say waste time? he dragged me down the couch and started what i will call rape again, at the process he had rough handled everything i wore, roughen my hair, i started crying, he walk down the wardrobe pick up something and ask me to wear it, i told him i'm not going to church again, he started begging that i can't do that but i keep refusing.

He shouted i should let us go, and i refused. He came back and raped me again till i agree i will go. So i dressed up and just ran into my own car, took off.

He thought i was going to church, he also entered the car and make his way to church. When he got to church he called me. I didn't answer the phone. i came home and was lying on the bed thinking of what next to do. i was actually thinking of running away without a word so he can come look for me forever.

So he got to church and the pastor and wife ask him about me, he said i must be inside. The pastor sensed something. did you say she must be inside? Did you two not come together bla bla bla. After serious enquiries he opened up that we had an issue in the morning.

I was lying down and i heard the door bell, i thought he was the one, i did not open it. The bell rang a thousand times i ignored it. The pastor wife called but i didn't answer, so because my car was parked inside they knew i was around. Finally i opened and here my pastor and wife have left the congregation standing there with him.

So they came in and ask me what happened, i told them i wanted a divorce, that my husband was killing me. They ask me what happened, if he was beating me or denying me of sex of not providing etc. I told them he raped me everything over everything and that my greatest surprise was to know he is doing all of these because i couldn't let him have sex with me while we were dating.

They then turned to him and ask him what happened. I never knew some people can talk so well that will make a bad case look good. Anyway he's a barrister.

He said: "Pastor i don't know why this happen but i knew i never ask God to give me a virgin as a wife. My brother married a virgin and till today he cannot enjoy sex so he has resulted to having sex outside wedlock but i have promised myself that i wont do that. Whether she likes it or not, she must satisfy me.

Ever since i met her over 3 years ago, i loved her, even though she told me no sex, i thought she was just been careful so i left her. For 3 years i never touched any woman. Here i was thinking she was practising romance, or sex style she will give me on wedding night because she did not have any virgin trait on her. She was exposed (works in the media), talks fearlessly, gives me headache so i thought oh she is a tough girl.

But on our wedding night, my wife here comes into the room. Before i could finish a call, she rushes to take her bath, cover herself up like she is going for a Mecca trip. She comes here lying with her back facing me. I thought to myself, but this is the same lady that smiles and laughs throughout na. What would have happened? i said ok pls come and bath me. She refused. i had to beg. Then she came standing 50 metres away, throwing water on my body, i got so angry i wanted to beat her up but i calmed down and before i could say jack, she got angry that she is not bathing me anymore. I met her again in the room and she said she tired and want to sleep, i tried to beg her she refused I then say to myself, so after begging her for 3 years to date me, kneel down to propose, beg her parent, beg the church i have to beg again for sex in this house. Not in my life! So i had my way, and i made sure i wasn't hurting her because i realised the first time she was a virgin.

Just to please her that she was a virgin which wasnt much of a big deal to me, i entered a car shop, got her a car, i told her this is for you, she said thanks like i bought her a biscuit and the next morning she left to her office in her own car.

She returned and i wanted to kiss her and she said i was disturbing her that she is tired. I was so angry. Whenever i I'm angry, i just have sex with her to calm myself down so i dont go drinking or even beat her. The only day i can admit to raping her was when she returned from work and i had sex with her. She stayed on the couch crying. I took wine in two glasses, gave her one but she pushed the wine glass away from me.


He continued. "I then said jokingly, 'you see its your time to cry now, im giving you those hot sex so you remember the times you used to punish me, insult me and make me go through hardtime but you've got to change now because I'm your husband, if not you will be crying like this.

Then my wife stood up and said to me, 'God will judge you for your wickedness!'

What!!! So i am wicked for having have sex with my wife? The same woman i paid a huge ransom to her calabar relations to marry her? I got so angry so i raped the hell out of her that day. She almost fainted, though i felt bad afterwards.

So this morning, we were set for church. I wanted to kiss her and just touch her a little because she was looking beautiful. She started that stubbornness again. She pushed me away like trash so i showed her I'm more powerful by having sex with her and she said she wasn't going to church anymore.

I brought something else for her to wear she refused and i remember she does anything i want her to do while having sex with her so i gave her another round and she ran out to the car. I thought she has left for church but no. So, this is what i have been passing through."


My pastor wife was first to comment. She said "What!!! Did you do all that i heard?"

I said, "No ma, he is not saying it the way it is. He raped me."

So they started asking the questions one after the other. ''Did you bath only you on your wedding night?''

My husband jumps in. "Ask her if she ever bath with me together since we were married!"

At that point, i felt like asking him to stop talking. My pastor said, "how old are you again? In case i have forgotten". i said "26, sir".

He said "Why na.. why, did you not read? But you are learned na. Why did you have to do all of these?"

The pastor turns to the wife and said, "mummy, did you not put her through counselling?"

They all started blaming me and apologizing to my husband. My pastor's wife had a one on one with me. They asked me to kneel to beg him.

They ask me to dress up lets go to church, it was suppose to be our thanksgiving sunday. I told them, "i wont be able to go as my eyes was already red". In my mind I'd rather sit and start thinking of how i can satisfy this man.

As advised, i bath with him last night, as expected he had sex with me in the bathroom, i felt like fainting but i kept quiet this time. I bear it like its a price i have to pay.

We had sex 3 times before the night was over. Now he is happy.

HONESTLY IF I KNEW THIS IS WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT, I WOULD HAVE JUST STAYED IN MY MOTHER'S HOUSE. THEY DID NOT PURSUE ME OUT
You are a big liar a calabar gal a virgin @ 26 dat is laughable. Mechie onu gi
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by classicuju: 8:50pm On Dec 08, 2014
If u were on their thanksgiving u wl b lyk"i wish i am this couple" smh
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by totoakins(m): 8:50pm On Dec 08, 2014
Sophyrocks:


And the next he did was to threaten her and start manhandling her. Is that how to go about it? Is rape the solution? what sort of man enjoys rape? Ive made my point clear. we must not agree. the man is still a beast.
i while agree with you. am the kind of person always looking for the way forward
Beasts can/should be tamed,i believe she can tame her husband by giving him more sex than he can handle.
she has no control over him but she can change her attitude towards sex
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by kaybrizzy(m): 8:52pm On Dec 08, 2014
The only human with brains on here
AKMoney1:
Why is everyone blaming the husband? Did you guys read the first part of the story where she clearly stated that she used him to have a good lunch, dinner or whenever she just feel like going to the cinema, that the guy never disappointed her? For good 3 years she played and milked him like wtf? How many guys can stand that? To the ladies if ur brother is in such courtship what will be your reaction?

Still yet the guy didn't give up and went ahead to marry her but only for the girl to start misbehaving on the very night of their wedding. Why won't you wanna bath with/for ur hubby? She even tried to resist the sex on their wedding night, come on we all have blood in our veins na and this guy has spent a fortune up till that moment. And even after the sex he realized she was a virgin and might be hurt, he bought her a car to compensate her. But ordinary kiss she can't give her hubby as a thank you.

Even though abusing her sexually is not the best option but what if he was beating her?

None of you guys here is saint enough to call him a beast except you pray to be treated the way she treated him while courting or you want your brother to be treated thus.

As for the lady in question, my advice for you is to beg him and change to a loving wife he wants you to be. Not always about sex, show him love and affections and if it's sex give him he's your husband.

Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:53pm On Dec 08, 2014
Sophyrocks:


My point still stands o. I will not advise another woman what i cannot take. i will not date a beast like the Op's husband in the first place therefore if she wants to divorce let her go ahead if he continues to rape her.

My advice is the man should go and learn how to be more patient and romantic. let him go and meet his mates who had virgin wives to teach him how to handle a first timer. the way you handle a first timer is different from an experienced person. Let him ask his wife what makes her tick, what turns her on, know her buttons to press. He no sabi anything!!! s.ex is for the satisfaction of both s.exes. Simple!! Her husband needs to see a psychiatrist and a counsellor for him to know that he married for the wrong reasons. Shikena!! This is not marriage!

am sure you have sacrifice your virginity to make a relationship work. i know your type
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:53pm On Dec 08, 2014
Pyrrho:
You no know the meaning of "sabi do".
A mans part is to do. Not to teach a lady how to carry herself, or sell her wares.
I repeat, her mother, or friends are in the best position to do the schooling, girls like you. Cos no man can teach a lady to be enticing or slutty. Aint how side of the game.

^^^^ With this mindset you have, you would end up with a wife you cannot satisfy too. because a man who isnt concerned in sharing and teaching will not be patient to satisfy a woman. All you will do is climb a woman and then come down. Shikena. Your type will end up with a cheat.

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by tlops(m): 8:53pm On Dec 08, 2014
50 shades of grey, Naija style.
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:54pm On Dec 08, 2014
blesie:
So i narrated how little i can of my ordeal since i got married to this man here last week - https://www.nairaland.com/2030889/he-punishing-me-honey-moon

While i got alot of advises from our dear Nairalanders, i had resolve before not to tell the pastor or my parent but to talk to him as many advised, i couldn't look him in the eye actually, i tried to do that many times since that Friday but I couldnt, so i said ok, after sunday service i will build up courage to confront him and voice out my opinion to him.

So on sunday, it was going to be our first sunday after wedding, i had arrange our wears, his and my own, i woke up early to make breakfast for him and prepare him for church, before he woke up i was already in the kitchen so i ask him to take his bath and lets go early.

He took breakfast (i don't take breakfast so i didnt eat), we were all fully dressed and ready to set out, i packed our bible and writing note into the car and the gift we wanted to give our pastor too inside the car.

it was almost time and i said, so shall we, he said not yet and i said what is remaining, he said you're remaining, you havent given me nothing this morning, i said but you just took breakfast, he said nope, i haven't had you. This is like 10minutes for church to start oo.

He came closer and i said please dont let us waste time lets go. He changed. Don't let us do what? did you just say waste time? he dragged me down the couch and started what i will call rape again, at the process he had rough handled everything i wore, roughen my hair, i started crying, he walk down the wardrobe pick up something and ask me to wear it, i told him i'm not going to church again, he started begging that i can't do that but i keep refusing.

He shouted i should let us go, and i refused. He came back and raped me again till i agree i will go. So i dressed up and just ran into my own car, took off.

He thought i was going to church, he also entered the car and make his way to church. When he got to church he called me. I didn't answer the phone. i came home and was lying on the bed thinking of what next to do. i was actually thinking of running away without a word so he can come look for me forever.

So he got to church and the pastor and wife ask him about me, he said i must be inside. The pastor sensed something. did you say she must be inside? Did you two not come together bla bla bla. After serious enquiries he opened up that we had an issue in the morning.

I was lying down and i heard the door bell, i thought he was the one, i did not open it. The bell rang a thousand times i ignored it. The pastor wife called but i didn't answer, so because my car was parked inside they knew i was around. Finally i opened and here my pastor and wife have left the congregation standing there with him.

So they came in and ask me what happened, i told them i wanted a divorce, that my husband was killing me. They ask me what happened, if he was beating me or denying me of sex of not providing etc. I told them he raped me everything over everything and that my greatest surprise was to know he is doing all of these because i couldn't let him have sex with me while we were dating.

They then turned to him and ask him what happened. I never knew some people can talk so well that will make a bad case look good. Anyway he's a barrister.

He said: "Pastor i don't know why this happen but i knew i never ask God to give me a virgin as a wife. My brother married a virgin and till today he cannot enjoy sex so he has resulted to having sex outside wedlock but i have promised myself that i wont do that. Whether she likes it or not, she must satisfy me.

Ever since i met her over 3 years ago, i loved her, even though she told me no sex, i thought she was just been careful so i left her. For 3 years i never touched any woman. Here i was thinking she was practising romance, or sex style she will give me on wedding night because she did not have any virgin trait on her. She was exposed (works in the media), talks fearlessly, gives me headache so i thought oh she is a tough girl.

But on our wedding night, my wife here comes into the room. Before i could finish a call, she rushes to take her bath, cover herself up like she is going for a Mecca trip. She comes here lying with her back facing me. I thought to myself, but this is the same lady that smiles and laughs throughout na. What would have happened? i said ok pls come and bath me. She refused. i had to beg. Then she came standing 50 metres away, throwing water on my body, i got so angry i wanted to beat her up but i calmed down and before i could say jack, she got angry that she is not bathing me anymore. I met her again in the room and she said she tired and want to sleep, i tried to beg her she refused I then say to myself, so after begging her for 3 years to date me, kneel down to propose, beg her parent, beg the church i have to beg again for sex in this house. Not in my life! So i had my way, and i made sure i wasn't hurting her because i realised the first time she was a virgin.

Just to please her that she was a virgin which wasnt much of a big deal to me, i entered a car shop, got her a car, i told her this is for you, she said thanks like i bought her a biscuit and the next morning she left to her office in her own car.

She returned and i wanted to kiss her and she said i was disturbing her that she is tired. I was so angry. Whenever i I'm angry, i just have sex with her to calm myself down so i dont go drinking or even beat her. The only day i can admit to raping her was when she returned from work and i had sex with her. She stayed on the couch crying. I took wine in two glasses, gave her one but she pushed the wine glass away from me.


He continued. "I then said jokingly, 'you see its your time to cry now, im giving you those hot sex so you remember the times you used to punish me, insult me and make me go through hardtime but you've got to change now because I'm your husband, if not you will be crying like this.

Then my wife stood up and said to me, 'God will judge you for your wickedness!'

What!!! So i am wicked for having have sex with my wife? The same woman i paid a huge ransom to her calabar relations to marry her? I got so angry so i raped the hell out of her that day. She almost fainted, though i felt bad afterwards.

So this morning, we were set for church. I wanted to kiss her and just touch her a little because she was looking beautiful. She started that stubbornness again. She pushed me away like trash so i showed her I'm more powerful by having sex with her and she said she wasn't going to church anymore.

I brought something else for her to wear she refused and i remember she does anything i want her to do while having sex with her so i gave her another round and she ran out to the car. I thought she has left for church but no. So, this is what i have been passing through."


My pastor wife was first to comment. She said "What!!! Did you do all that i heard?"

I said, "No ma, he is not saying it the way it is. He raped me."

So they started asking the questions one after the other. ''Did you bath only you on your wedding night?''

My husband jumps in. "Ask her if she ever bath with me together since we were married!"

At that point, i felt like asking him to stop talking. My pastor said, "how old are you again? In case i have forgotten". i said "26, sir".

He said "Why na.. why, did you not read? But you are learned na. Why did you have to do all of these?"

The pastor turns to the wife and said, "mummy, did you not put her through counselling?"

They all started blaming me and apologizing to my husband. My pastor's wife had a one on one with me. They asked me to kneel to beg him.

They ask me to dress up lets go to church, it was suppose to be our thanksgiving sunday. I told them, "i wont be able to go as my eyes was already red". In my mind I'd rather sit and start thinking of how i can satisfy this man.

As advised, i bath with him last night, as expected he had sex with me in the bathroom, i felt like fainting but i kept quiet this time. I bear it like its a price i have to pay.

We had sex 3 times before the night was over. Now he is happy.

HONESTLY IF I KNEW THIS IS WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT, I WOULD HAVE JUST STAYED IN MY MOTHER'S HOUSE. THEY DID NOT PURSUE ME OUT
...try get used to the new love making order.anyway,your spouse should be grateful that you're not one of those loose sea girls...
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Janyves(m): 8:54pm On Dec 08, 2014
@ op..... I think you need to watch "GAME OF THRONES" season 2, and watch how kalessi tames karl drogo. Talk to your wild friends to educate you more.... Every beast needs to be tamed (be it husband or wife). If not every copulation will be a disaster...
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:57pm On Dec 08, 2014
totoakins:

i while agree with you. am the kind of person always looking for the way forward
Beasts can/should be tamed,i believe she can tame her husband by giving him more sex than he can handle.
she has no control over him but she can change her attitude towards sex

Nope. He should go and learn how to handle her properly. let him change his tactics. he has been ussing the wrong ones. thats my opinion. we must not agree.
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by satowind(m): 8:57pm On Dec 08, 2014
dechandel:
. You are not romantic
You guys dated for three good years.
All he is asking for is for you to be a classy w.ho.r.e for him angry lipsrsealed
Dechandelluv I know u very romantic. Abeg come romance me joh leave that fake op and his fake account. I can swear de op is a guy.
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by tintingz(m): 8:57pm On Dec 08, 2014
Sophyrocks:


Which patience? didnt the punishment start during the honeymoon? Why cant he use the honeymoon to teach her s.ex and be more romantic? He is a beast!! He doesnt even know how to handle her sef.
You are talking as if the man is the one to do everything, they are married can't she be romantic as well?

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Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 8:58pm On Dec 08, 2014
donnypool:


am sure you have sacrifice your virginity to make a relationship work. i know your type

My virginity isnt the issue and is of no concern of urs. Beast should go and learn how to handle a first timer. simple!!
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 9:00pm On Dec 08, 2014
tintingz:
You are talking as if the man is the one to do everything, they are married can't she be romantic as well?


Let him teach her. Simple!! men who have done that with their wives didnt die. The man no sabi do. shikena.
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by Nobody: 9:00pm On Dec 08, 2014
Sophyrocks:


^^^^ With this mindset you have, you would end up with a wife you cannot satisfy too. because a man who isnt concerned in sharing and teaching will not be patient to satisfy a woman. All you will do is climb a woman and then come down. Shikena. Your type will end up with a cheat.
Baby, I "rock" punnies, boobies...
I trigger, twingle, swingle, wingle, mingle, wangle.... Make I stop here.grin
Let's jst agree that they both shld learn the artistry.
Re: Our Pastor Sided Him For "Punishing Me After Marriage" by dechandel(f): 9:01pm On Dec 08, 2014
satowind:

Dechandelluv I know u very romantic. Abeg come romance me joh leave that fake op and his fake account. I can swear de op is a guy.

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