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Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 10:51am On Dec 17, 2014 |
[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] Ezedon:bros your english is so convincing. Ezedon:bros your english is so convincing. Ezedon:bros your english is so convincing. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Zapence(m): 11:13am On Dec 17, 2014 |
chaircover: ^^^E easy to know persin wey get sense. Dearie, YOU GET SENSE! Honestly, some (if not most) relationships are way too rigid. And some people just do not know how to make a relationship or marriage fun. it is not just about going out to places/events and buying each other gifts, it's about knowing how to do things TOGETHER and making EVERYDAY ACTIVITY (even 'chores') fun! 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Wendy80(f): 12:06pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Why shd you do his laundry for him? As what na? He's even angry about it. Better tell him to get a washing Machine for himself. A man who will marry you will definitely marry you weda u wash, scrub or mop for him or not. I'm a prove. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by PassingShot(m): 12:13pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
After dem go say there is scarcity of husband! |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by crackhaus: 12:25pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Wendy80:That you're 'a prove' does not mean it will work the same way for everyone else. For all I know, your man could have thought about asking you to help with his laundry, but decided against it because he knew you would easily flair up as you did here, and use the opportunity to tell him to buy a washing machine he can/can't afford...who knows? 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Wendy80(f): 2:06pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
crackhaus:I've had friends who washed, cooked, scrubbed, some even did with their own money yet they were dumped for another. I resolved never to do that and it paid. I know what work for 1 doesn't work for all. Hope u are not one of those men who make ladies do chores for them all in d name of relationship 10 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by zeb04(f): 2:18pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Wendy80:Go wendy....so true. I never did nothing like that for any of the man I dated.I didn't need to learn from experience .....I just had so many crazy elder brothers, a strict mom and an enligtned dad 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Wendy80(f): 2:37pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
zeb04: My Dear Leave dem babes and guys. I notice most babes who does ds begin to see demselves as wives and end up being disappointed. Again most of ds girls can't do their own chores and they keep pretending to dia man. After doing every house chores in dia relationship when they get married/pregnant and d man isn't helping out @ home they will start shouting and opening Husband Not helping @home thread on NL 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by holatin(m): 3:09pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Don't wash it jare. A fool will help him wash it and he will finally marry the fool. You are not an house girl. No wonder some more of you are still single at 36 5 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:09pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita: . |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:10pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Don't do it! 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by ireneony(f): 3:10pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita:she be ur slave ba? |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:10pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita: Either wayz,if u got married to him u still would wash his clothes....I only believe he is testing you,to see the kinda wife/mother you gon be. 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by henryblaize: 3:11pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Y force a lady to do ur laundry? Who has been doing it for u all ur life Well it all revolve around understanding. Its nt a mandatory tin neither is it a sin to do it 3 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Rapsainot(m): 3:12pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
[is he not paying your bills? |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by donMIG(m): 3:12pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Gosh u r only his gf n u doin all dis?exploitation in the highest orda.just imagin wen u Mary DAT guy......washinn tyms 2,u go turn washin machine 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by okiezman(m): 3:13pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita: I have a girl friend who ask for my clothes to wash it for me, I refused her doing that... why cause I don't feel it right to me...she's ma gf I haven't paid bride price. I can't subject her to slavery biko...after she wash am finish theirs no guarantee you will marry her abegi...I dont encourage girls doing that..cook is allowed dress house allowed but washing clothes mbanu never 7 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Francon(f): 3:14pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Wash kini? Are you a dry cleaner? Give him your undies to wash. Even if you were his wife, you should only do that ONCE in a while. Don't make it habitual. If not, the day u will refuse to wash his clothes is the day you will be sent packing. My dear, take his advice from me. If you chose ti live together with a man that you are yet to be married to and you are complaining that he hasn't proposed to you, oh he already did. Whatever he said that made you start living with him was his proposal! 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by mutter(f): 3:16pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
I don`t think it is proper to advice the poster not to wash the cloths if the man expects it. We don`t know what the man does for her. Some people give much and expect much. Now she is young and can do the house chores , why not. BY the time they get married and she gets pregnant it would certainly stop. It is only for a period of time. The household chores are the duty of the woman. It is that way everywhere in the world. Certainly ewhen she is doingthe chores th man would come and sit with her and help her once in a while.. Please let`s give realistic advice. 5 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by chinedusamson(m): 3:17pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
U can if uar comfortable with it bt if not open up and ask him if he would also watch urs. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by ichidodo: 3:18pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
I prefer my gf soak me in a bubble bath.. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:19pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
If you can, why not. For me, I hate washing. I don't even do it. 3 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:20pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Is not by washing clothes oh. we had a male neighbor, his girlfriend comes every weekend to wash clothes. After a while he got another sister in his church pregnant and wedded her. This new sister will cook beans you think you were eating stone. The stew was burnt and watery at the same time. Yet he married her. Why ? Me I dont know. Me and my corper roommate were only going there to eat . As the new wife came onboard we find another restaurant. Who wants to eat burnt food. Anyway, we preach to this young man to marry the 'homely' girl but he didn't listen to us. Wetin concern me, I was just bothered about my stomach. OP, if you want to do his laundry, only do it because you want to and don't feel bad if he decide to marry another. Be yourself . Laundry or not, your man Is your man 8 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:20pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Rapsainot: Please be objective. What's "is he not paying your bills"? Which bills is that' 3 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by siralos135: 3:22pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
My sister,this life has nothing to offer you.Only God does.To your question,I think you are too young for a relationship of this type and magnitude.It is obvious the guy does not really see any potential in you,I mean he does not see what you have to offer else washing of his clothe or not will not be what is "affecting your relationship". BULLET 1. Pls sit your self down and talk to yourself.Ask yourself what do i have to offer this guy apart from romance and sex BULLET 2. Am I willing to be used and dump? BULLET 3 Where is this relationship heading ? siralos[i][/i] 4 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by timmyboy5050(m): 3:23pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
okiezman:Thumbs up bro... why will a guy force someone to wash his clothes for him...some guys are silly sha.. 5 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:23pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
mutter: I dont need to read any post below this to know this is the most sensible post... If you really love your man you'll do things that'll massage his ego as long as he does things that make you feel special... Love is about sacrifice dearie...and d sacrifice comes from both path... Massaging a man's ego is the way to his heart but some ppl here will give you wrong advise... Except the relationship hasnt got to that level yet...it should be a thing of pride for you...just as it makes the guy feel good taking care of you... |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Rapsainot(m): 3:23pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: All her expenses of course? |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:25pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
[quote dont need to read any post below this to know this is the most sensible post...If you really love your man you'll do things that'll massage his ego as long as he does things that make you feel special...Love is about sacrifice dearie...and d sacrifice comes from both path...Massaging a man's ego is the way to his heart but some ppl here will give you wrong advise...Except the relationship hasnt got to that level yet...it should be a thing of pride for you...just as it makes the guy feel good taking care of you...uthor=Ogoanita post=28949920] u said marriage @ least, but this jst friendship na, moreover does it now mean that if i dont do hes laundary i dont love him enough?[/quote] |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by okiezman(m): 3:28pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
timmyboy5050: It ain't making sense to me 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by qtx(m): 3:28pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita:I hope you wont complain if he decides to be giving the monies he gives to you to the dry cleaner o? lol |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:30pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Op, many ladies turned themselves to glorified housemaids for their boyfriends and ended up dumped for ladies who did nothing. Once They meet ladies that touched their heart, just their heart, within how many weeks/months them don marry these ladies o. You are not even living with this man and yet he is asking you to be his laundry woman. You better wise up. Many men have refused to get married because they have many girls giving them benefits of marriage so they dnt "bother buying the cow since they get the milk for free". This is the warning given to single ladies. Never give a boyfriend benefits of a husband. Dnt try it o!! HE WONT KILL YOU IF YOU DNT. he getting angry because of this shows he is using u and does not love u. Its a bad sign my sister. Most of these guys have many girlfriends for different purposes. You even may not be the only one he is dating and the real girlfriend may have not done anything for him yet he may have decided he will marry her but use you as laundry woman. Dnt be surprised if this turns out to be so. Washing a mere boyfriend's clothes isnt by force. Its something you do on your own free will. If you dnt do it, you have committed no sin. Since he is angry that you dnt want to do it then it means he is trying to force you and that alone is a bad sign. It is time for you to ask yourself some questions about the kind of relationship you have with this guy. 6 Likes |
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