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Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:30pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita: You are not yet married and he is stressing you this way? Please what is the level of commitment? Has he shown seriousness? Or attempted to meet your parents or even siblings? Can we know the sacrifices he has made for you? How well does he regard you or take care of you? Please answer these questions .atleast to a large extent it will assist many nairalanders in reaching a conclusion Let's please get to have a clearer pix of your relationship and then know some facts about the bobo 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Hemanwel(m): 3:30pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
OP,you are one of those who are easily influenced by what people think and not by what your heart takes. Come on!That you're in a relationship is suggestive that you're mature for it.You should be able to take this personal decision on your own! You are not comfortable with doing your boyfriend's laundry means you do not think it's proper.So why asking us? I like girls who can take decisions on their own and stand on it,even if the whole world kicks against it. 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by haibe(m): 3:31pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Wendy80:tell her not to collect money and gifts from him too, the woman that will marry him will marry him weda he gives gifts or not. 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by iluvweed(m): 3:33pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Chai! Nigeria is more like a bush! See someone complaining about washing clothes in 2014 So you mean there are no washing machines and dryers in naija Still surprised cos its been long i saw someone washing clothes with bare hands That been said i wont even bother to ask how they wash dishes in naija lol... 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by nikkymehmeh: 3:34pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
mutter:Exactly!!!is he feeding u or d one taking care of all ur expenses? if he is....den he would expect much more from u btw if he is not...he has no ryt to tell u such talkless of him gettin angry |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:34pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Zapence: Okay.........being his glorified washerman is part of the fun abi? If its that easy how come he isn't the one washing his own clothes? I guess he will also wash her clothes to reciprocate the fun right? Let's not be selfish here, please.the lady also has her own life and schedule. No woman just create life around a man Any way am waiting for the chick to response to some questions I flung at her before I conclude 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by ellechrystal(f): 3:35pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita:My dear, please if u love ur relationship, learn how to wash ok. What if u get married to a man who wants u to help him wash? Please drop d idea of not being in love with washing, it's important a woman learns usual house chores. But if ur not comfortable with the amount of clothes he brings or d manner at which he asks 4 d help, u should discuss it, n if ur totally not comfortable n there's nothing u can do please resign ... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by haibe(m): 3:36pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
mutter:the only sensible post so far. It amazes me how some ladies are telling her not to wash it, do we know what she receives from this man and why the man expects much?.. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:36pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita:....if you love him,wash the guy's cloth.if you don't love him,don't bother.in the so near future don't complain you're still single@70 years... 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by delors(m): 3:36pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Listen to me sis, let him do his own laundry. You are not his wife yet, you are not his slave or househelp. Before he met you, who was doing his laundry? You? If all you do is do his laundry every now and then, you are either jobless or you are being taken for granted. Do his laundry when and if it is convenient for you, it is not your responsibility and he should see it as a privilege not a birthright. If you do his laundry every time, on the day u don't, he's gonna call u lazy. He can't be piling up dirty trousers and raising his shoulders expecting his darling slave to come wash his dirt off. Be wise woman, be thou wise. 10 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by royalnikita(f): 3:37pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
chaircover:I soooooo love this, especially d last paragraph. 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by rigarmortis: 3:37pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
WASH, CLEAN, COOK, SUCK AND FUKC, THATS WHAT A GOOD GIRL DOES. YOU WANT TO BE A GOOD GIRL DONT YOU. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by delors(m): 3:39pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Omotolu:So love means wash my cloths? That's a twisted love idea. She can wash the guy's cloth if it is convenient for her...it's not a prerequisite for true love. 7 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by crackhaus: 3:40pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Wendy80:That's the point @bold text. Doing chores does not automatically mean she'll be taken for granted, neither does not doing chores automatically mean she'll get proposed to - don't sell your experience like it's the universal rule. Err, never mind about what I make ladies do for me 3 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:40pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita:Gets angry over gini? U don turn into washing machine abi? Na by force that he wore those clothes and got dirt on them? Who was washing his clothes before u came into the picture? 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:40pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Rapsainot: ok, it's nice knowing how your reasoning is wired. So, the fact you spend on a lady means she should become a washer-woman' That's cool 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:42pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Zeemoor:listen to you!! "you can't wash or what??" Hmmmm.. This one be like complete kitchen/bathroom wife not housewife but domesticated wife or girlfriend! Unless if she wants to put herself in that position, she should reccomend they buy a washing machine! LG 5kg or so na N30k. The man sef suppose correct him head by not forcing/making his babe/wife-to-be a washawoman & domesticated partner! Na agbero him be? Or soldier/ police? Or bus driver? This is year 2014 in this time & age if y'all fit go online & chat meaninglessly for hours, carry smart phones up & down worth 100k+ then buy a washing machine! Its as necessary as having a lightbulb in your house or room at night! 3 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by JoeCutie(m): 3:42pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
I still don't understand girls. Why do they always want to have everything go their way? Must everything be about them? OK, you'd want this guy to buy you everything in the world, take you out to every known eateries & joints in town, give you all the money in his account, give you all the attention you need, listen to you & accept your own views all the time without judging, and now... To wash his clothes & you're here complaining? Most times ladies cry foul - "Double Standard". And this isn't fair on the guys at all. Babe, if I were you, I'd not only wash his clothes. I'd buy, wash, iron & help him put them on. So if something happens to your relationship & you're asked why, you'd say it's because your man asked you to help him do his laundry? I think you need to go back, relax & have a rethink. If you know anyhow you can assist your man to make him happy, in so far as he's not 'using' you, why not do it? I would do it if I were you. Thanks. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by abbey621(m): 3:42pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Wonders shall never end! You can't wash abi? When a guy treats his girlfriend as a wife this is what happens. It is customary in African traditions that the woman cater to all the man's needs as long as the man does his part too. Forget about not being married yet, you did not complain when you spent the night or started living with him. You did not complain about cooking or collecting gifts or him paying some or all of your bills, so please chillax! Any girl that does not want to be treated as a wife while in a girlfriend status should stop putting herself in situations, you can't eat your cake and have it. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by haibe(m): 3:44pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
siralos135: Sorry have you met her? How sure are u she is too young for such a relationship? And why the conclusion that the guy doesn't see any potential in her? I mean what exactly is wrong in expecting ur partner to wash ur clothes, we are in Africa Man and it is very normal. The lady does the house chores while the man brings the food. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Henrypraise: 3:45pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita: Just kip waitin 4 dat matured advice till anoda girl wit an immature advice starts washin his clothes, d next update we will see is he left me cos I cudnt wash his clothes. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:45pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
I charge him for every shirt or singlet I wash for him, ever since then, he stopped heaping his dirty clothes. Now he washes his clothes himself. 4 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Goldenboy007(m): 3:46pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Let me ask you a question, Is your boyfriend obligated to take care of your expenses? Or let me put it this way - Is it his duty to make sure your financial needs are met? - Please don't wash his clothes, it's not your duty but don't ask him for money or gifts too because it is not his duty! If you contradict this then you are the problem in that relationship - you are not his washing machine and also he is not your father!!! Until people begin to realize that relationship is finding a balance between responsibilities and prerogatives, then it's better you remain single!!! Remember we marry the values we see in people..sex and love will fade but values won't! 4 Likes |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by haibe(m): 3:47pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie:for a serious relationship, the lady should help her man with such chores. Of course the man can assist too. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by AshantiDimaria(f): 3:48pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
For my own point of view, I don't see anything bad about washing your or my boy friend's (love) cloths since his my man I have to help him his №t d only one that ll be helping me... Is a saying that if dis left hand washies dis right one d right too will do thesame. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by benedima1990(m): 3:48pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
If it's a serious relationship. Then my dear, u have to do it because if you don't, you won't get use to it to wen u get married. Do u know that little things impress guys. I don't want to believe you're the only gf he has. Read btw the lines dear |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:48pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Ogoanita:chai..pej. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:51pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
delors:...hmmm.since i won't be part of the decision making,i won't be part of the problem.every man to himself. She should make her relationship a success,not a public forum... 1 Like |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Sleekyshuga(f): 3:52pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
And please where was it written that because I am dating a man, I should become his slave? Please, do things you are comfortable with.. It's a CHOICE.. Btw, who still washes with hands when washing machines are affordable .. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:53pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
haibe: Truetalk. I am not arguing that, but saying he pays her bills - that's sounds myopic to me. I only do things I am comfortable with, and washing clothes has never been one of them. She does every other, except washing clothes...every one has that chore -he/she doesn't just agree with. Maybe this is hers. |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by ijaola(m): 3:54pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
I think you should help out with that. Make him happy, am not saying you should turn to his slave or make him take advantage of you. Is he worth it in the first place. Does he take care of you? Do you know his people by now? How many year relationship is it. To conclude, you go to his house and u do the normal thing on his bed, would you wait for him to wash the bedsheet for you? |
Re: Nairalander's Boyfriend Wants Her To Keep Washing His Clothes. Please Advice by Misogynist2014(m): 3:54pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Are you so poor that you can't afford washing machine? That's sad. 1 Like |
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