precisionindepth:
its not actually good to eat same tin every time..u get bored
when the man is tired of only rice and he start putting beans or plaintain, I think whenever the woman is tired of rice too, she shd start putting vegetable soup with different meats cos vegetable can be so nutritious.

justmenoni:
ok oooo but u know in our culture cheating men are a bit tolerated unlike their female counterparts,what do u think would hv happened be the op caught his SIL kissing another man even 10 years after 10 years of marriage to his brother? we aint oyinbo nah

Temptee101:
This man did the traditional marriage of my sister on the 3rd of January 2015. I went to club last night which was Friday with some friends. On arrival, one of them ran to me narrating how he saw my in-law in the club.

On getting to the corner where my friend told me he saw him; i saw my sister's husband with another lady. In fact they were kissing.

On sighting me after few minutes, he became uncomfortable and stopped dancing with her.

It wasn't up to 5minutes he left with the lady. On their way out i rushed to him and greeted him to make sure he actually saw me.

My sister is already pregnant for him. What should i do to save my sister's marriage?

Should i let my family know because he fears them so much?

radicalove:


Gbam, u have done justice to the question, this was the same point I was going to raise... It's obvious this E-DIOT was having two girlfriends as at December 2014 and his mind was on the girl you saw at the club, when your sis told her about the pregnancy, he married her just because, like you said, he is afraid of your family, shekina.....

GemB:
Almost every man's got tendencies of cheating "even you." While some men are naturally dogs , others do for different reasons. You don't want to be the one coming between your sister and her husband. It might turn against you in the future if she truly loves him.
I am not saying it's right but I am being realistic in advising you to suck it up(Swallow it) and act like it never happened.
You mentioned your sister is pregnant. Apart from pregnant women being all grumpy most times, not every man enjoys making love to their pregnant wife every time plus not every man can stay so long without sex.
You are probably not married so you might not understand my point of view very clearly. You might find yourself in the same situation in the future and just because you are lucky enough no one catches you wouldn't make you any better..
He respected you enough by leaving the club so be matured enough by not reporting to mummy and daddy hehehe or even your sister..
Let her catch him and decide and not you...

precisionindepth:
]I Dont concur to the last part of your reply. I v seen ladies marry men DAT are flat broke in the beginning with virtually nothing not cos the ladies never had better options but cos dey believe they can work with the guy and become something...
but lol and behold, few years later after all the toiling and pulling of resources together , and greatness achieved..what then happens? cheating starts , bulling, getting to see prettier ladies and boom! " u will hear d guy saying I will pay u and buy anything u want just cos he wants to marry another"

I just hope we all , both men and women stop entangling ourselves in vanity and stop carrying extra burden.

I really Dont know y sex is so overrated cos all still bounce back to wanting to sample another 'V'

like I said b4, if men wants to sample every V, let women also do same to different D..DT way nobody will feel cheated and every body will b apy

humilitypays:
lol, nobody is stopping women from sampling men and cheating like men na....its women that are stopping themselves because of their natural making.

I am sure if I tell u to come so we can just be sex mates, nothing attached, u will scream, curse me and call me names, and this your reaction may be because u are dating or married to one guy somewhere sampling other prettier/hotter women. so its just nature not your fault.

Women need to understand this and deal with it.

if nature or biology wanted women to be sex freaks and explorers like men, it would have also made it possible for men to get pregnant.

If a woman chooses to be sleeping around, na her body go tell her...lol

precisionindepth:
I like your point, let everybody continue whatever he/ she deem fit. at least nobody is gonna question anybody. like I said earlier I just hope we all stop putting extra burden on ourselves both male and female all just cos of sex. cheers.

humilitypays:
The hypocrisy of people once they are on the internet is really scary! Why are we acting surprised that a man cheated on his wife and his wife's brother caught himn y the surprise like u nver heard such stories or worst stories b4

Men will always be men no matter what u do!

Most men that cheat on their wife or partner don't do it because they don't love their wife or partner; they just do it most times for no reason aside the desire to explore or inability to resist temptation; and I can boldly tell u that over 95% married men in the whole world today cheat on their wives- deal with it! The few that don't cheat must be very spiritual and close to God else, no man can marry for 30 years without cheating on his wife unless the man is broke or very poor and lack the opportunity of meeting other prettier/hotter women with irresistible sex appeal temptation.

And to the guys acting surprised, if u have cheated on your girlfriend b4 or cheating on her and u believe once u marry that u will stop, u are just fooling yourself because once u marry, the desire to cheat on your wife will become even more.

To the ladies, you all shouldn't be shocked reading something like this because I am sure most of you must have done it with another girl's boyfriend or husband while coming online to pretend like a saint.

I insist that the op should just bottle it up and maybe talk to his sister's husband if he has the guts...telling your sister will only hurt her and her unborn baby because it won't make any difference.

And u thinking that your sister is a PhD holder, a lecturer, bla bla bla and feeling she's too good to be cheated, I laugh at you because men who married beauty queens, super models, female MDs, professors, female ruling politicians, etc still cheat on their wives, or didn't you hear that the husband of Queen Elizabeth of England cheated on Queen Elizabeth not long after they got married as Queen and Prince of England and u are here talking about your sister having PhD and being a lecturer, I laugh

So your sister's husband cheated not because your sister is not good or outgoing, he cheated because cheating and exploring other women is a natural curse on men, which u the op is a partaker of that curse until u become a complete practising born again; which u are not by going to night club!!

keppyy:



Gosshhhhh...It's truly scary..

Life is just life...

Temptee101:
I do appreciate your comment. Thanks alot.

cbrass:


Don't let humilitypays becloud your good sense of reasoning with his unpopular hypothesis Yes I call it a guess cos it's unconfirmed that 95% of men are cheats
.this is what most cheats say, my boss is one of them too. But we all know this is a lie, it just show high level of indiscipline and cowardice with this men that talk like this. Many do not understand the meaning of love cos if they do they won't even stare at another woman let alone cheat with her. Many confuse lust with love

keppyy:



HmmmmMmm...Are you married

Because most married men on this thread seem to agree with him...

In abuja, I've seen worse...Sometimes, it scares me...

Goshhhhhhh...

cbrass:


Don't let humilitypays becloud your good sense of reasoning with his unpopular hypothesis Yes I call it a guess cos it's unconfirmed that 95% of men are cheats
.this is what most cheats say, my boss is one of them too. But we all know this is a lie, it just show high level of indiscipline and cowardice with this men that talk like this. Many do not understand the meaning of love cos if they do they won't even stare at another woman let alone cheat with her. Many confuse lust with love

cbrass:


No I am not married but that won't make me cheat on my future wife never!!. How many married men is on his side Some may not be married here so you can't just conclude like that

keppyy:



Why are you so sure

Have you ever been in a long term relationship

cbrass:


Yes very sure. It's just simple and by this code I live: DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO DO TO YOU

keppyy:



Wow!!!
That's really nice...

Thank you...

GemB:
Almost every man's got tendencies of cheating "even you." While some men are naturally dogs , others do for different reasons. You don't want to be the one coming between your sister and her husband. It might turn against you in the future if she truly loves him.
I am not saying it's right but I am being realistic in advising you to suck it up(Swallow it) and act like it never happened.
You mentioned your sister is pregnant. Apart from pregnant women being all grumpy most times, not every man enjoys making love to their pregnant wife every time plus not every man can stay so long without sex.
You are probably not married so you might not understand my point of view very clearly. You might find yourself in the same situation in the future and just because you are lucky enough no one catches you wouldn't make you any better..
He respected you enough by leaving the club so be matured enough by not reporting to mummy and daddy hehehe or even your sister..
Let her catch him and decide and not you...