echobee:

seriously my sis . Big mistake

Women & pride sef.

How did she make a big mistake? It's better she let d guy knw how she feels, she is supposed to anticipate a yes or no. I don't see anytin demeaning abt dat.

Moreover it will enable her to make a decision & forget abt d guy, instead cogitating abt it in isolation.

Hmmmmmm! This issue is somewhat hard to discern. I really do understand the OP very much on not having feelings for the lady.

But one thing I know, it is better for a woman to fall in love with a man in a relationship, than for a woman to be in a relationship with no atom of love because she has been wooed by a guy.

OP, I wish you all the best in your decision.

menix:


Matured word..
If Nairaland had an E-shop wuld sharply pay 4 ur lunch.

LoL thanks.

dstnd:
hello guys I really need your help on this.there is
this lady ve known for some years now due to
the fact that she was my classmate in my
secondary school days.now we are currently
serving am serving in abia while she at
sokoto.she called me and told me bluntly how
she feels about me and how madly in love she
with me,
I really appreciated her and she coming out
clean to tell me but I can't love I don't think I
can fall in love becos I don't understand how to
fall in love am just a normal guy who loves
writing and thinking.maybe nobody understand
by defination of love.whenever I try to fall in love
in fall in lust..she a lady I respect so much and I
don't want to disappoint her.pls how do I go
about it.....I know how to deal with other cases
but she? she z just too different a good friend is
better than a nice wife

If truly the highlighted are what you really love doing, I must say you truly don't know how to fall in love yet

What is love ? I mean in the sense of loving a girl. I just wanna live a normal life and be on my own. Hope mama won't go against this.

Well Op, everybody is speaking.
But wait, She said she is madly in love with you, did she say she wants you to date her?
Dec.3rd 2014, I made a mistake by asking a lady I so much admire just because she opened up to me that she loved me. I swear, I don't even knw the meaning of the type of love people do these days but because I was scared I would hurt her if I turned her feelings down.

Fast forward to Jan.3rd 2015.
I had to tell her that I could do it anymore. Not because I hated her but because I can't handle it.
But hey, I have done the damage already.

So think again, she said she loves you but did not say she wants to date you.

Anyway, what do I knw sef

dammywapes:
What is love ? I mean in the sense of loving a girl. I just wanna live a normal life and be on my own. Hope mama won't go against this.

Yea. Me too. But if you're the first son or the only son, prepare!
@OP.
She no want designer; she no want ferrari; she wants you: because when she has you, those will no more sit on her budget as options--they're ticked already. And you'll pay. BTW what will someone be doing in sokoto?

Craigston:
Yea. Me too. But if you're the first son or the only son, prepare!
@OP.
She no want designer; she no want ferrari; she wants you: because when she has you, those will no more sit on her budget as options--they're ticked already. And you'll pay. BTW what will someone be doing in sokoto?

da only son. The females ones ave given her enoff children i tink.

wristwatch:


Rubey, I don't think it's a bad idea if the lady sense d guy is the shy type. She can show glimpse of green light and If d guy is not bold enough, U can initiate a conversation to give d guy confidence to speak his mind.

Op u are a gud guy and my advice 4 u is find a genuine excuse like u are in a relationship. That's what I did 4 a lady whom I don't love but she loves me.

Yes, but not going all the way to tell him you "like" him without him making a move at first! It always end up with something bad.

tell me something.

rubey:
This is why it is a bad idea for a lady to be the one approaching the guy and telling him how she feels!

Bae chill
What happened is just like what you do in your everyday life..

You can't love everybody,not even your childhood friend
you know that not possible,
And according to the guy,he said the lady is just too nice for him to fall in lust with..
At least the guy is true to himself

You can't lie to me ,that its every guy,that ask you out,that you say yes to..


And please stop saying..“You guys are useless”
Stop generalising all guys


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By the way...you are BEAUTIFUL
I love and applaud your BEAUTY



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#CUPID

kevinberry:

Bae chill
What happened is just like what you do in your everyday life..

You can't love everybody,not even your childhood friend
you know that not possible,
And according to the guy,he said the lady is just too nice for him to fall in lust with..
At least the guy is true to himself

You can't lie to me ,that its every guy,that ask you out,that you say yes to..


And please stop saying..“You guys are useless”
Stop generalising all guys


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By the way...you are BEAUTIFUL
I love and applaud your BEAUTY



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#CUPID

I am sorry for "generalizing" was pissed with what she did. But let's face it, guys do take women who approaches them for granted

rubey:


Abegi! You guys are too useless for a lady to be the one showing affections at first

useless girl

simply tell her the truth
who knows she might help u face ur love issues
And u'l fall in love 4 real and b happy

rubey:


I am sorry for "generalizing" was pissed with what she did. But let's face it, guys do take women who approaches them for granted

I disagree
It same thing with a girl
Who does not feel anything for a guy who lover her..
For her not to hurt his feelings
She will just accept him,to pass out time,till he sees another guy who she loves
Or use the guy head(maga) plus many more

While the guys,most of them will accept the girl immediately,and automatically turn the girl into a sex machine..am a guy,I won't lie to you,I do this everytime,it better than rejecting her..



#CUPID

kevinberry:

I disagree
It same thing with a girl
Who does not feel anything for a guy who lover her..
For her not to hurt his feelings
She will just accept him,to pass out time,till he sees another guy who she loves
Or use the guy head(maga) plus many more

While the guys,most of them will accept the girl immediately,and automatically turn the girl into a sex machine..am a guy,I won't lie to you,I do this everytime,it better than rejecting her..



#CUPID

Finally! A real man who wouldn't tell lies on nairaland

But that doesn't mean its a good thing to tell a guy your feelings for him. Its a girl thing to suck it up

rubey:


Finally! A real man who wouldn't tell lies on nairaland

But that doesn't mean its a good thing to tell a guy your feelings for him. Its a girl thing to suck it up

Nothing kill you more than pretending that you are okay,when you truly know you are not

Pretence and lying to yourself kills you slowly
It top the world deadliest predators


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#CUPID

rubey:
This is why it is a bad idea for a lady to be the one approaching the guy and telling him how she feels!

see your face like tortoise

kevinberry:

Nothing kill you more than pretending that you are okay,when you truly know you are not

Pretence and lying to yourself kills you slowly
It top the world deadliest predators


My piece




#CUPID

Its a girl thing! Lots of girls pretend about so many things especially online. Let me stop there so I wouldn't expose some secrets

temitemi1:
She don find husband tire, nah to turn to available network ni

no b small thing

rubey:


Its a girl thing! Lots of girls pretend about so many things especially online. Let me stop there so I wouldn't expose some secrets

What secrets

We also know how most girls..will lock themselves up inside the room/closet and weep for days..when they see their crush with another guy..

To those who have this mindset
My advice is change it
It won't help anybody..





#CUPID

rubey:


Abegi! You guys are too useless for a lady to be the one showing affections at first

another quote by a very FO0LISH girl

menix:


Sis I don't think she erred expressing herself, this is 2015 nd not 1995.
I pretty much understand d guy cous I somtym fall into such category when I ve issues confronting mii..

Sure doz guyz u turned down even afta emptying a bottle of dry gin jst to approach ve erred?

lwkmd

dammywapes:
da only son. The females ones ave given her enoff children i tink.

Enough? Haha. Women are never satisfied. They're always ready to welcome more. Just wait. When your turn comes, update me. Whenever I tell my mom I'll be just okay with two--both genders--or a max of four, the reaction is inversely proportional to the number stated. I can't find the joy the derive in multiplying like fish.

teewai3:
just tell ar u ar not intrested or give her some reasonable excuses



i dont understand what u mean by that

meaning I only feel like I have a reason y I love them not the real feeling

kevinberry:

What secrets

We also know how most girls..will lock themselves up inside the room/closet and weep for days..when they see their crush with another guy..

To those who have this mindset
My advice is change it
It won't help anybody..





#CUPID

Lol!
Wait, are you a cupid

brainzdh:
Since secondary school? Now she's in Sokoto while you're in Abia....Nna, don't worry urself na boredom dey worry her; activities no dey for Sokoto.

...u think so

lurther:
Hmmmmmm! This issue is somewhat hard to discern. I really do understand the OP very much on not having feelings for the lady.

But one thing I know, it is better for a woman to fall in love with a man in a relationship, than for a woman to be in a relationship with no atom of love because she has been wooed by a guy.

OP, I wish you all the best in your decision.

....thank you oga

rubey:


Lol!
Wait, are you a cupid

Yes I am
Hope you know what cupid means?




#CUPID

theorbiters:
Well Op, everybody is speaking.
But wait, She said she is madly in love with you, did she say she wants you to date her?
Dec.3rd 2014, I made a mistake by asking a lady I so much admire just because she opened up to me that she loved me. I swear, I don't even knw the meaning of the type of love people do these days but because I was scared I would hurt her if I turned her feelings down.

Fast forward to Jan.3rd 2015.
I had to tell her that I could do it anymore. Not because I hated her but because I can't handle it.
But hey, I have done the damage already.

So think again, she said she loves you but did not say she wants to date you.

Anyway, what do I knw sef

....am her dream husband that she go round this world to date me!do u feel the same for David?

kevinberry:

Yes I am
Hope you know what cupid means?




#CUPID

You should be a baby in diapers

Love! The overrated thing. An illusion. A mirage in the desert. Just like opium. Emotions destroying humans since creation. I call it a bug, and I've debugged myself of it. It's a natural way of taming humans. Don't let it be your master. Master your emotions and you'll be on top of your world. Fail to do so and die of the bug.