Nonso23:


The law is not absolute, never has been, never will be. Smart people get away with a lot these days

An independent lady is either unmarried or married to a person who resonates on her frequency or above. That is the reality.

Just stick to having fun.. I pray you jam my type, you go hear wen funny dude

This is not a case of cheating. It is a silly argument that went out of hand with somebody running her mouth and daring the other person.
There was NO condom at anytime in anyone's possession.

5minsmadness:
This is not a case of cheating. It is a silly argument that went out of hand with somebody running her mouth and daring the other person.
There was NO condom at anytime in anyone's possession.

The husband is here.

Now we can look at the issue from different angles.

I was working before relocating so I have my savings. I called my in laws and my dad in the afternoon. They told me not to leave the house and right now, he is on the phone with them.

Nonso23:


Taa! No excuses, it is your bad weed in action

You know what they say about naija dudes:
Whether in attack mode or defence mode we are always guiding

Guiding where?

Yesterday I decided to have a good conversation with my husband on certain matters affecting our marriage for its good. And it turned nasty. Though i expected it but not to the extent of how it ended. My husband doesn't know how to handle certain issues. He told me my own faults which I agreed to work on and I also told he him his fault but he refused to accept it.

To cut the story short, it turned out to be a heated argument because he always insists he does the right things while I do the wrong ones. And it became a tongue lashing thing. I am not the abusive person but i was surprised at what I said maybe because the issue has been Piling up which I feel bad about. He too said hurtful things to me later on.

I also said I wasn't interested in the marriage if he can't accept his fault and make efforts to change.

And so you decided to bring those issues to Nairaland and accuse of cheating? Where? When? Because you cannot apologise for your foul language yesterday now am d culprit?

That's why they so love Nigerian marriage setting and would do anything to paint western system of marriage bad.

There the house belongs to the man and his wife is a tenant.
If not how does he have the guts to tell the gate man to lock the gate after her.

Ewuro4:


What

Nna Mehn.. You new-wanna-married-guys stirs my curiosity , I don't blame you sha, I blame those ambition-less ladies that puts their whole % livelihood on yous.

He fit yarn that kain dust with a radiant ,independent & well to do lady that arguments household monthly bills after all your monthly earning has gone into Mortgage and crazy school fees?

HIS KEYS MY FOOT!

Nonso23:


That's a slang for 'being alert'

You're welcome.

You guys should be.

cococandy:
That's why they so love Nigerian marriage setting and would do anything to paint western system of marriage bad.

There the house belongs to the man and his wife is a tenant.
If not how does he have the guts to tell the gate man to lock the gate after her.

His wife is a tenant life sucks with these guys Mehn I hope wanna-marry dey take clues from this thread. He has tha guts #1 I don't want to imagine how the scene played out..

Him: adamu, lock that biatch out of my house and retrieve my keys

Nonso23:


I never jam person wey sharp pass me elder sister and even as she sharp reach i still dey win awoof on steady basis. Anyway I dey find who i go jam. You get younger sister.

God FORBID BAAAAD THING

You scare me

Ewuro4:


Him: adamu, lock that biatch out of my house and retrieve my keys

cococandy:
That's why they so love Nigerian marriage setting and would do anything to paint western system of marriage bad.

There the house belongs to the man and his wife is a tenant.
If not how does he have the guts to tell the gate man to lock the gate after her.

It depends on the wifes financial stake in the house. A wife who doesnt have any financial contribution in a family for over 10yrs what do you call that

Do you think if it was the woman who owned the house, paid the rent or contributed about half of the rent would be have the keys taken from her and tell gateman to lock the door?

raumdeuter:


It depends on the wifes financial stake in the house. A wife who doesnt have any financial contribution in a family for over 10yrs what do you call that

Do you think if it was the woman who owned the house, paid the rent or contributed about half of the rent would be have the keys taken from her and tell gateman to lock the door?

it depends on their agreement and arrangement.

While I always encourage everywoman to be independent, if the agreement was that she quit her job to mind the home and kids while he makes the money, then their contributions to the home is considered equal as both are important aspects of family needs.

The home and all in it are equally owned by her in the same percentage as the husband.

Your point would count if they never had the agreement that he would make all the money yet she's not doing anything to help in the home support.

Once the topic became cheating.... See hyperventilation

Her self professed evil mouth has been forgotten

Her self professed faults thrown in the abyss

Na today?

pickabeau1:

Once the topic became cheating.... See hyperventilation

Her self professed evil mouth has been forgotten

Her self professed faults thrown in the abyss

Na today?

Not forgotten, perfectly justified.

pickabeau1:

Once the topic became cheating.... See hyperventilation

Her self professed evil mouth has been forgotten

Her self professed faults thrown in the abyss

Na today?

hehehe



but pick' jokes apart, couples are meant to argue. Even the śhittiest argument. In fact any marriage devoid of it is scary and must be paid attention to. My grouse is not even with his way of life after all she was aware of this prior tying the knot. When couples fight, they should sit and thrash it out , he has no right throwing her out like he did, it's disrespectful and belittling way of treating one's partner and future mother of his children. He's very rude and be reprimanded for that.

His behaviour is way more crude that her runny mouth sef. Or is that how women are being treated in your neck of the woods now??

Nonso23:


on the foundation of assumptions

evidence

Nonso23:

Yeah right..
Like Buhari's oluwole waec certificate

More like wiki leaks kind of revelation.

carefreewannabe:


Not forgotten, perfectly justified.

Not so

If you read the op

She agreed she has some faults which she agreed to work on

What ticked her off was the fact her did not accept some of her feedback

Then the verbal fisticuffs

She threw down the D word


Everyone condemned her

Then now she brings up a story of condoms

If it is true he is cheating.. Its best she moves out for her sanity.

But if she just said it to troll....