PunkyOh:


Dankie. And if you Google the word "cousin brother", you'll see that it is not only South Africans that use it, even though it's incorrect. We know it's incorrect but we still use it anyway, in our every day conversations. It's just one of those things.

Smooyis:

"know' and not 'no' please. Always take to correction so you can grow in life! No one is too big to be corrected.

henribj:


we in 9ja also use it, i don't believe anyone here has said the use of it is wrong, what i believe they have said is that it should be used only in certain places and when communicating with certain people, it shouldn't be used everywhere.
correct me if am wrong, but i know am not.

olola4:
It happened last Thursday when my brother-in-law came back from school because of the election. I was outside the house doing some stuff when I heard my wife and her brother arguing over a political matter.

After i finished with what I was doing I went inside the house to join in the discussion, and to my greatest surprise I saw my wife half naked.

Immediately I left the room and she followed me not knowing why I left the room like that. I explained to her that I didn't like it. To my greatest disappointment when my wife will reply me, she just said "it's nothing".

Please to my fellow nairalanders. I want to ask is it right? Because since that time I have been confused.
Maybe That is how they have been living b4 u marry your wife

samonom:
Take it easy, let her know dat she is Married now, some family are used to it. Talk with her she might ignore it first but later she at just.

PunkyOh:


And what's so wrong about using it here? Since when did everyone become so posh & articulate over here that I should check myself? No, no, no, not today!


I think I have enough brain cells to decide when & where to use certain words. I don't need unappointed PAs to give me reminders I don't care for.They can shove it!

PunkyOh:


You got the point is all that matters to me. Bye.

henribj:


Alright young lady, you are entitled to your freedom of speech, keep exercising it.

internetpirate:
Assuming it is your personal slang for your friends etc, do you think it's particularly intelligent/wise to use it in a public forum? Since you are so good in English and deliberately choose words at random! Part of English writing is the address to "audience" and one chooses words that are most appropriate to the audience. What you use for informal narratives is not the same with what you use for formal narratives!

Now, don't take this personal, but I just feel it's time to speak up on this growing trend on Nairaland! Someone writes atrocious English, and when corrected, the bandwagon descends on the critic, often suggesting that he/she should draw meaning from the mumbo-jumbo, instead of correcting the anomaly and setting a standard for intelligent discourse!

Why I am gravely worried by this trend is because I see it as a reflection of our Nigerian society where mediocrity, poor controls and lack of excellence are rife! We spend time chanting change, yet the change we truly need is a "mindset change"!!! Can we start aiming for the sky in all our endeavours?!!!
Can we start criticising our general performance through structured reviews so that lessons-learnt can reflect in improved performance

Cousin brother doesn't seem like a major faux pas (no matter how you try to burnish it!), but it is part of the canker worms that are eating at our national marrow!! My apologies my "cousin sister"!!

kaima1984:
Do the asking n get back t me

softysparky:

Yes ma!

internetpirate:
Assuming it is your personal slang for your friends etc, do you think it's particularly intelligent/wise to use it in a public forum? Since you are so good in English and deliberately choose words at random! Part of English writing is the address to "audience" and one chooses words that are most appropriate to the audience. What you use for informal narratives is not the same with what you use for formal narratives!

Now, don't take this personal, but I just feel it's time to speak up on this growing trend on Nairaland! Someone writes atrocious English, and when corrected, the bandwagon descends on the critic, often suggesting that he/she should draw meaning from the mumbo-jumbo, instead of correcting the anomaly and setting a standard for intelligent discourse!

Why I am gravely worried by this trend is because I see it as a reflection of our Nigerian society where mediocrity, poor controls and lack of excellence are rife! We spend time chanting change, yet the change we truly need is a "mindset change"!!! Can we start aiming for the sky in all our endeavours?!!!
Can we start criticising our general performance through structured reviews so that lessons-learnt can reflect in improved performance

Cousin brother doesn't seem like a major faux pas (no matter how you try to burnish it!), but it is part of the canker worms that are eating at our national marrow!! My apologies my "cousin sister"!!

Osyxcel:


Nice song...

DickDastardly:
Its no big deal truely. Maybe thats how they grew up. Some families are like that. Just let her know you aint comfortable with that. Case closed!

softysparky:

Thanks dearie.

PunkyOh:


Yuuuuuuuuuuuuuup!

wealthywiseman:


Punky I think you are being unnecessarily strong headed. why not let it slide and accept that the phrase you used isn't particularly suited on this platform. However, I do accept that the phrase is well used in an informal group.

internetpirate:
Assuming it is your personal slang for your friends etc, do you think it's particularly intelligent/wise to use it in a public forum? Since you are so good in English and deliberately choose words at random! Part of English writing is the address to "audience" and one chooses words that are most appropriate to the audience. What you use for informal narratives is not the same with what you use for formal narratives!

Now, don't take this personal, but I just feel it's time to speak up on this growing trend on Nairaland! Someone writes atrocious English, and when corrected, the bandwagon descends on the critic, often suggesting that he/she should draw meaning from the mumbo-jumbo, instead of correcting the anomaly and setting a standard for intelligent discourse!

Why I am gravely worried by this trend is because I see it as a reflection of our Nigerian society where mediocrity, poor controls and lack of excellence are rife! We spend time chanting change, yet the change we truly need is a "mindset change"!!! Can we start aiming for the sky in all our endeavours?!!!
Can we start criticising our general performance through structured reviews so that lessons-learnt can reflect in improved performance

Cousin brother doesn't seem like a major faux pas (no matter how you try to burnish it!), but it is part of the canker worms that are eating at our national marrow!! My apologies my "cousin sister"!!

PunkyOh:
It's wrong. No respect.

My cousin brother is two years younger but he'll get out of the house if anyone (female) is about to take a bath. In our culture privacy is very important, just like I can't just enter his room without knocking 1st.

olola4:
It happened last Thursday when my brother-in-law came back from school because of the election. I was outside the house doing some stuff when I heard my wife and her brother arguing over a political matter.

After i finished with what I was doing I went inside the house to join in the discussion, and to my greatest surprise I saw my wife half naked.

Immediately I left the room and she followed me not knowing why I left the room like that. I explained to her that I didn't like it. To my greatest disappointment when my wife will reply me, she just said "it's nothing".

Please to my fellow nairalanders. I want to ask is it right? Because since that time I have been confused.

PunkyOh:


Dankie. And if you Google the word "cousin brother", you'll see that it is not only South Africans that use it, even though it's incorrect. We know it's incorrect but we still use it anyway, in our every day conversations. It's just one of those things.

stonecoldcafe:


Bit.ch let it go! It's been over flogged.

Ishilove:
It's no big deal to me. He's my brother, for God's sakes. What am I hiding from him that he hasn't seen since we were kids?

2tek:
Bro, this is not an English class but i'll like to obverse that it is wrong to say -take it personal. The corect version is - take it personally.

tommysparks:
it's male cousin or female cousin, not cousin brother or cousin sister. God bless

Daresh:


Help me o! MY brother that we slept on the same bed, bathed each other with piss on the said bed. We baffed together, lived together, held hands, laffed and grew up together for 25yrs. What is the big deal. Men of these days are just so jobless I swear

PunkyOh:


I think these things depend on the family & of course culture. Where I'm from (South Africa) & with my people (Xhosa), age is very important. When a boy reaches a certain age, usually puberty, there are certain things or rules that are followed. As his sister, mother or whatever, you're supposed to give him some degree of respect since he is no longer a child. Meaning, you can't be parading naked infront of him & he is also expected to do the same. He should be dressed. It's a sign of respect according to the culture of the people.