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Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Mannylex(m): 8:58pm On Jul 18, 2015
You’ve been dating this girl for awhile now. She’s hot. She’s smart. She doesn’t seem like the other girls you’ve dated. You’ve grown so attracted to her that you don’t mind spending every waking moment with her cause every moment you spend with her seems like a dream. Things are awesome until WAM! You’re hit with a random shit test. These tend to come out of no where so most guys can only react to it.

What type of test you ask? Ever started dating a girl and suddenly she started avoiding your calls? Takes her days to reply? Ever been with a girl whom one day seems to be having a blast only to randomly get bitchy and say “I need my space!” Note most will say this out of no where when days before asked you if you really care about them.

So being the logical creatures that men are we spend more time with her to show her we really do care. Then she turns around and might start ignoring your calls. She says she’s busy and has a lot of things to do. She didn’t see your text message or email. It’s a lie. Ever take a moment to look at women in public. They’re ALWAYS doing something on their phones. In the early morning and even before they go to sleep they’re on their phones. My girlfriend included.

What the heck is the problem?

So why do they do this? Simple. You made yourself too available. You became too familiar and predictable. The magic became a parlor trick she’s seen before and is less impressed with. Your typical pick up artist will tell you that being too familiar is a sure fire way to make the girl easily obtainable to the next guy who seems fun and new. From time to time your girlfriend may use those Bambi eyes to make you think she wants you around all the time but don’t believe it. Thats not what she really wants. Men ask all the time what women want but heres a little fact most guys don’t know.

Women don’t even know what they want. Thats right. Ever go shopping with a woman? You know what you want. You get it and put it in the cart but a woman can be in the super market wondering if she’ll want this or that later. Men go in. Pick and go home. Women are deciding what they think they might want. Now that you know this little fact you can start preparing yourself for what to do when she starts giving you mixed signals.


A solution.

So here’s the common knowledge strategy among pick up artist to keep the girl interested in you. Don’t make her a priority if you haven’t been dating her long. Put you or your career or goals first and her second or third depending how your life is going. Men are built to go and do things. You wouldn’t have the computer you’re reading this on or the house you’re living in if it wasn’t for mens natural ability to go and do things. We need to have a life goal. Something to accomplish. And women are attracted to a guy who is passionate about something he is doing.

From time to time a girl might ask if you care about her and give you a test. This will make you want to give her everything she asks for. Give her a taste then take it back. Start a goal to accomplish. Put your time into other things. Never let your world revolve around one girl cause she’ll grow to resent you for it. As a man it is in you to do more than just spread your seed. Men are the hunters. We go out and hunt. We build. We create our own world and share with the woman or women we chose to share it with.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Another reason to stay away for a while is that it gives her time to miss you. They say absence makes the heart grow founder. It’s true. When you’re away this gives her time to think about you. This is when she’s wondering what you’re doing and fantasizing about being with you. You might of come across this before. You’re at work or are away and you’ll get a text message or email from her asking “What are you doing now?” with a emoticon smily or heart by it. She knows you’ll eventually meet up with her but wondering when is increasing her attraction for you. But you have to have built up enough attraction first.

Staying away and suddenly changing your behavioral pattern can make anyone male or female start second guessing themselves. Don’t feel too bad about this. Your simply doing to them what they do to you. When your girlfriend took a long while to reply to you and made her appearance scarce you ended up wanting her more. You chased her. Girls like to be chased. But it is possible to switch roles and have her chase you. You’ll see examples of this outside the realm of relationships.


You’ll become gold.

Keeping away from her for bit will also cause her to view you as a high value man. It’s simple psychology that people tend to place higher value on things that are rare. You see this everyday. Gold and diamonds when you think about it don’t really help anyone. Can’t eat them. They can’t really do anything that other solid elements can’t do. But we place high value on them because they are rare and hard to find. The same thing works with people as well.

Women tend to be more attracted to men who are not easy to obtain. She will also see you as not like other guys who are sitting around the house waiting for the opportunity to go over and see her. So it’s okay to sometimes refuse dates with her and reschedule them for another time if you’re doing something important. Let her figure out that you’re a busy man who’s time is important.

Lalasticala wink

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Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Nobody: 9:05pm On Jul 18, 2015
If she loses interest, then she's bad business. Sorry, I meant bad at business. cheesy
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Haywhymido(m): 9:06pm On Jul 18, 2015
na true u dey talk
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Aspiregreat: 9:11pm On Jul 18, 2015
Get enuf cash....
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by cheerycoco(f): 9:17pm On Jul 18, 2015
if she luvs u she luvs u,even if u spend 24/7 with her,she won't get tired,it's only guys that get tired of a woman's presence
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Mannylex(m): 9:21pm On Jul 18, 2015
cheerycoco:
if she luvs u she luvs u,even if u spend 24/7 with her,she won't get tired,it's only guys that get tired of a woman's presence

Sweetheart, that's a lie. Love or no love, you ladies would always remain ladies, and would consciously or unconsciously test a man. His actions and inactions could sometimes make or mar your relationship and create an avenue on how you see him as a man.

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Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Luizkid(m): 9:34pm On Jul 18, 2015
pls these applies only to men with a fat bank account ooo, otherwise you will turn from a lover to good friend.. FACT
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by 2Brains1(m): 9:47pm On Jul 18, 2015
So true
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Nobody: 10:13pm On Jul 18, 2015
Mannylex:
You’ve been dating this girl for awhile now. She’s hot. She’s smart. She doesn’t seem like the other girls you’ve dated. You’ve grown so attracted to her that you don’t mind spending every waking moment with her cause every moment you spend with her seems like a dream. Things are awesome until WAM! You’re hit with a random shit test. These tend to come out of no where so most guys can only react to it.

What type of test you ask? Ever started dating a girl and suddenly she started avoiding your calls? Takes her days to reply? Ever been with a girl whom one day seems to be having a blast only to randomly get bitchy and say “I need my space!” Note most will say this out of no where when days before asked you if you really care about them.

So being the logical creatures that men are we spend more time with her to show her we really do care. Then she turns around and might start ignoring your calls. She says she’s busy and has a lot of things to do. She didn’t see your text message or email. It’s a lie. Ever take a moment to look at women in public. They’re ALWAYS doing something on their phones. In the early morning and even before they go to sleep they’re on their phones. My girlfriend included.

What the heck is the problem?

So why do they do this? Simple. You made yourself too available. You became too familiar and predictable. The magic became a parlor trick she’s seen before and is less impressed with. Your typical pick up artist will tell you that being too familiar is a sure fire way to make the girl easily obtainable to the next guy who seems fun and new. From time to time your girlfriend may use those Bambi eyes to make you think she wants you around all the time but don’t believe it. Thats not what she really wants. Men ask all the time what women want but heres a little fact most guys don’t know.

Women don’t even know what they want. Thats right. Ever go shopping with a woman? You know what you want. You get it and put it in the cart but a woman can be in the super market wondering if she’ll want this or that later. Men go in. Pick and go home. Women are deciding what they think they might want. Now that you know this little fact you can start preparing yourself for what to do when she starts giving you mixed signals.


A solution.

So here’s the common knowledge strategy among pick up artist to keep the girl interested in you. Don’t make her a priority if you haven’t been dating her long. Put you or your career or goals first and her second or third depending how your life is going. Men are built to go and do things. You wouldn’t have the computer you’re reading this on or the house you’re living in if it wasn’t for mens natural ability to go and do things. We need to have a life goal. Something to accomplish. And women are attracted to a guy who is passionate about something he is doing.

From time to time a girl might ask if you care about her and give you a test. This will make you want to give her everything she asks for. Give her a taste then take it back. Start a goal to accomplish. Put your time into other things. Never let your world revolve around one girl cause she’ll grow to resent you for it. As a man it is in you to do more than just spread your seed. Men are the hunters. We go out and hunt. We build. We create our own world and share with the woman or women we chose to share it with.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Another reason to stay away for a while is that it gives her time to miss you. They say absence makes the heart grow founder. It’s true. When you’re away this gives her time to think about you. This is when she’s wondering what you’re doing and fantasizing about being with you. You might of come across this before. You’re at work or are away and you’ll get a text message or email from her asking “What are you doing now?” with a emoticon smily or heart by it. She knows you’ll eventually meet up with her but wondering when is increasing her attraction for you. But you have to have built up enough attraction first.

Staying away and suddenly changing your behavioral pattern can make anyone male or female start second guessing themselves. Don’t feel too bad about this. Your simply doing to them what they do to you. When your girlfriend took a long while to reply to you and made her appearance scarce you ended up wanting her more. You chased her. Girls like to be chased. But it is possible to switch roles and have her chase you. You’ll see examples of this outside the realm of relationships.


You’ll become gold.

Keeping away from her for bit will also cause her to view you as a high value man. It’s simple psychology that people tend to place higher value on things that are rare. You see this everyday. Gold and diamonds when you think about it don’t really help anyone. Can’t eat them. They can’t really do anything that other solid elements can’t do. But we place high value on them because they are rare and hard to find. The same thing works with people as well.

Women tend to be more attracted to men who are not easy to obtain. She will also see you as not like other guys who are sitting around the house waiting for the opportunity to go over and see her. So it’s okay to sometimes refuse dates with her and reschedule them for another time if you’re doing something important. Let her figure out that you’re a busy man who’s time is important.

Y'all better listen 2 him

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Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Nobody: 7:43am On Jul 19, 2015
Why does all this not apply to me?
This is probably wat one guy read and tried applying with me.
He succeeded in making me change my mind about him.
You make urself unavailable and another sharp dude starts showing me some attention then u're history. Who has time to be chasing men up and down?
Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Then y do long distance relationships break everyday?

Women only get irritated by these if she's not into you.
So plz u guys should correct that notion.
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Nobody: 8:35am On Jul 19, 2015
op is making maximum sense but

Note - the moment u begin to give her excess space then she will tag u as "not caring" and that could be the end of errytin
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Nobody: 9:28am On Jul 19, 2015
I agree with the man above.
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Mannylex(m): 5:49pm On Jul 19, 2015
veegirl:
Why does all this not apply to me?
This is probably wat one guy read and tried applying with me.
He succeeded in making me change my mind about him.
You make urself unavailable and another sharp dude starts showing me some attention then u're history. Who has time to be chasing men up and down?
Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Then y do long distance relationships break everyday?

Women only get irritated by these if she's not into you.
So plz u guys should correct that notion.

Ok... But you feel it's ok out of the dark to test a Man for no reason , living him confused?

Really why do women try to test their Men? What do they aim to achieve?
Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by vas2net(m): 8:23pm On Jul 19, 2015
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Re: Why Women Lose Interest And How To Keep Her Interested by Nobody: 9:36pm On Jul 19, 2015
Mannylex:


Ok... But you feel it's ok out of the dark to test a Man for no reason , living him confused?

Really why do women try to test their Men? What do they aim to achieve?
Guys test girls too. If u can explain y u guys do that then i might have an answer to ur question

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