@msy: what made you think it was love?

I dont know . Wasn't it ? I think i loved her at some point , not sure which point though .

Part 4

By about 2:30 PM we went over to the Restaurant where we were going to have our dinner and party.
Prior to that we had a reception for my colleagues and some other people that were not going to attend in the evening. Everything went smooth and we received some absolutely beautiful flowers and plants.

After the reception, the usual stuff took place: eating, drinking, chatting, ... By 7 PM, they were bringing the wedding cake that we had to cut. What I didn't know was that inside the wedding cake they put two doves. We opened the cake an to everybody's surprise two doves appeared in perfect union.

At about 8 PM we were opening the dance with the song 'Seven Seconds' by Youssou N'Dour and Neneh Cherry. This song still gives me us a very warm feeling and brings us back to that day. The dancing went on until about 5 in the morning. When we were entering our apartment, a big surprise awaited us. While we were at the party, 3 of my friends went back to our apartment and filled our bedroom with balloons. That's what friends are for, right? There were so many balloons we couldn't even enter the room. It took us about 2 hours to clean up the mess so that we could go to bed and have some time for ourselves.

Next part: our honeymoon

@ Bagoma

Thank you for sharing your story.
I truly hope you'll be able to overcome your loss and find someone to love again and to be there for you and the children.
Life has taken too much from you, let's hope that happiness is just around the corner for you

AngelaZ ans Bagoma, your stories are very touching and these are my prayers for you both

Bacause the Lord is for you, you will smile and not cry, you will lend and not borrow. You will lead and not follow, you will always give and not beg, you will gain and not loose. You will exploit and triumph with your children. Amen

Thanks so much for sharing your experience with us.

Angelaz, Bagoma, what more can i say? Ekpele oh! It is well!

Nferyn, your story gets better and better!

Kenflavor, Thanks and God bless you too, May He never make your eyes see evil, let everything you lay your hands to do prosper, as you bless others, your blessing will continue to increase. I appreciate your thoughtfulness. Ciao

My marriage will be one year old by Nov. 6th 2005.

I met my wife in the second tier orientation camp 1999/2005 in potiskum yobe state Nigeria.before this time I had been praying and believing God for a life partner.

I saw her first on a book/tapes stand of the nigerian christian corpers fellowship.

Her humility,cheerfulness,respect and acceptance of my person made her the woman i thought I would love for a wife.

One month later I Proposed to her in her place of primary assignment in Damaturu Yobe state and in less than a month she accepted.

Her pastors opposed the marriage on the ground that I should have seen them first before proposing to her.When I was called to their marriage commitee,I explained myself and told them of the Pastors in Damaturu and Maidugri we took counsel from and by February 2004 we were cleared churchwise/medical and by Nov 6th 2004 we were at the altar in OAU Ileife.We planned honey moon either in ghana or redemption camp of RCCG but couldn't as ran out of funds and also family friends wanted us in lagos. two weeks later we moved to PH and I was back to the work(field) by 24th nov.04.

Till this moment I've never regreted my choice and have not by God's grace given in to temptations of extra marital affair and I hope not to.

By Aug 05 our twins a boy and a girl arrived .

nferyn, kenflavor, fabian, what else can i say? save to say thank you. to everyone, thanks a million. your love is overwhelming. God bless us all. it is well.

meanwhile, i'm enjoying your stories.
congratulations! chiditaiye, a boy and a girl. WOW!

@chiditaiye
No honeymoon till date?
Also means ur wife took in same month u got married. wazup christian bro?
Nice story I like it.

First and foremost I have to thank those who have shared their experiences in this regard.

Now to the main thing.

I met my wife about 11years ago now. We met during the period of sympathy strike by the Primary school Teachers 4 their secondary school counterpart during the Babangida regime in 1994.

When I met her it was like Brother and junior sister thing. But, inside of me I couldnt hold it. I have to come out frankly after about 2months. Telling her that I want her to be my wife.

After about another 3months, we started it all. We got married last year August, and God has blessed us with a baby girl (Temmytope).

Nobody opposed our union. Because God has a hand in it.

I want to still use this medium to appeal to efrybody that God has role to play in all these. We should not think we can do it all. god is the author of efrything, we should deem it fit to consult Him on efrything.

We are happily married and honestly speaking I am enjoying her. She came from an humble backgroung and that is paying off now.

Talk of cheating on her. Though, I still have toasters, but that would not burge me to take advantage of that, by the way, who told you she has no toaster too. So, I will implore efrybody. Do unto others, what you want them to do un to you.

I love you all!!

layi:

@chiditaiye
No honeymoon till date?
Also means your wife took in same month you got married. wazup christian bro?
Nice story I like it.

Layi! Layi! Layi!

I reserve my comments until Chiditaiye's response.

@ Layi, that is quite an observation.

We have our first child 30 days after our wedding ceremony

Was the baby premature? ........ or........ ...okay.............i understand.
Moreover...how was ur 8month-pregnant wife 'steppin to vibes' on d wedding day?

Part 5 - our honeymoon

My wife absolutely wanted to go and visit London, so we decided that we would have our honeymoon there. Unfortunately, we would not go immediately after our marriage. We went to the UK embassy to find out what the visa regulations were for her to enter. As we were only just married, we had to wait 6 months before she could apply for a UK visa. that meant postponing our honeymoon for 6 months. Well, we just stayed home for 2 weeks, made some day trips and went to the Ardennes region for a long week-end just to enjoy nature. After 6 months, we finally decided to go and apply for a visa. The consular staff in the UK embassy was very wary and uncompromising. It seemed like they wanted to go through my complete past, just to find out whether or not we would settle down in the UK.

By that time my wife was 6 months pregnant (yes, Layi conception happened after our marriage - not that this means anything), so we would have to take it easy on our trip. We had to take it easy and passed by all the usual tourist attractions, but at a leisurly pace. After about a week, my wife finally could contact some of her family and we could stay over in their house for the last days of our trip. Even though they were not the closest of family, we probably have not found any of her people that we are still so close to. We regularly spend Christmas with each other.

Anyway, after we came back, her pregnancy has becoming rather hard on her and she had to take it very easy for the last 2 months. We were looking forward to the birth of our first baby.

To be continued

This is a summary:

How you met your husband or wife.
I met my wife at the university, I was 22 years old and she 21 when we meet and got married. Quite early by 9ja's standard.


- What attracted you to your husband or wife.
She was so caring and supportive. Her motherly way of relating with me bonded us.

- Who proposed marriage, and how.
I did but she just taught it is a joke, but when she missed her "period", she knows am serious.
How: Took her to a club, enjoy a lovely dinner, went about town and gave her a note expressing my feelings, with a mug and a teddy bear "ratty".

- Who opposed the marriage, and how you prevailed.
Nobody did, at least not to my face or knowledge. then that she is pregnant for me even doused all opposition

- The wedding, and the honeymoon Kiss
Had a court wedding, engagement, introduction and all the necessary marriage rites observed in yoruba land. Kissed at the Engagement ceremony, at the courtroom (in front of my father-in-law )
used an hotel as the moon, though the height of the "belle" really affected the licking of the honey. 4 weeks after, we have our first daughter.

- DO you think you made a mistake choosing your partner?
Nope, it is my best choice (even better than my choice of computer as career)

- How often you're tempted to be unfaithful and how often you fall Grin.
temptation comes and go, especially when there is a crack, some you fall, others you overcome.

- How long you think the marriage will last.
Forever by God's grace, we are both enjoying it.
My wife nicknamed me honey, and my children also call me honey, (never dad) We are bless with 2 smart kids (a daughter and a son).

@ Layi, Conception was before the marriage, the child was born in wedlock at her time hale and not premature,
my wife couldn't rock and roll during the ceremonies as she might want to, it was cool all the same.

ha layi you are putting the men on the hot seat eh, no be so? ok.
we shall see what happens during your turn. we are here and we'll be watching!

I met my wife through a friend that I use to escort to his girlfriend (though unfortunately he did not marry her due to family interference).

There was a day that I asked her to seach for a decent girl like her to be my propose wife within there compound luckily after a week she give me a name of one of her friend and she ask me to write a letter to her for introduction she will take care of the connection though she told me her father didnt allow his children to make friendship ,after i write my letter 2 pages with full detail of my self to her with out seeing her she refuse to reply me back while then she eas in sss2 i still write 5 letters in different times but all prove abortive but still her friend she is tell me what my heart will feel confortable knowing she is just fooling. after 3 month like that one day i was standing with a friend of mind that is living in that compound i saw one tall chocolate not fat medium beautiful beb coming i rush to ask him who is that girl coming he reply me back that means you dont know the girl that you tell me some thing about her i ask is she maria the one that ima dying for he reply me yes i said hafsat really know my test.

Then i confront with my body shaking and i ask her either she has seen my face before she answered no then i identify my self and she ans i receive your letters fro hafsat but the reason for not repling is she cant just write a letter to unknown person but she is in hess promise to reply me best on her statistics,luckily after one week she reply me with lovely words.

More more more more more more .... I want more............

wow!!!!!!!!! i`m touched. its funny how u can find love in diff places. learnt a lot from u guys. seun thanks for the thread. gosh tears are rolling from my eyes. the word love looks simple but men its complex........

Who Proposed and How: The Story of Us Continues. . . . 

We were in a church were he was invited to be one of the preachers rolling in the new year.  Following the service January 1, 2003 at 12:45a, as I was exiting the church I had a friend come up to me and say I was needed back in the sancutary because there was a problem.  I rushed back inside to find Unit 22 along with some family members and the Pastor of the church stading at the alter talking.

I walked up to them and the Pastor said that he'd like us to go into prayer for new events taking place that year.  As we began to pray the Pastor said, "I'd also like us to pray for this young minister as he takes this step in proposing marriage. . . "  I just dropped my jaw and looked at him.  Unit 22 then took my  hand and got on one knee. 

His words, "Alana, I promise to love you and care for you as the first and last woman my heart will ever know.  Will you marry me?"

I was so touched.  I could hardly get the yes out, I had to nod!  The Pastor then prayed over the ring and over us as he slipped it onto my hand.  We went out and toasted over a glass of orange juice, he dropped me off home, and I called my parents.  I was on cloud nine.


V

interesting. Lucky u

This is by far the most interesting thread I have come across on the site.Keep up the good job guys/gals.Vexxy your story is na wa oh!Incredible,your husband must have guts-to propose out of the blues in church with so many people around!For those who have lost their spouses,sorry oh,may God grant you the heart to overcome,and with time try again.For those who are having difficult marriages,and thinking of seperation,may God give you all it takes to make the right decisions.For those like Seun still searching,may God grant you your hearts desires and soon(Seun,go get your own place pls).For those wondering if am married,very much so,and happy.My story-will come out one day,let me just enjoy more of yours.Hahahahaha

more marriage stories pllleeeeaaaassssseeee.

Nferyn part 3 pleasssseeeeeee. Everyone, tell it, tell it, tell it.
Mine? am not married yet

more marriage stories pllleeeeaaaassssseeee.  

Nferyn part 3 pleasssseeeeeee.  Everyone, tell it, tell it, tell it.
Mine?   am not married yet  

ohh my bad, i didnt read the last sheet

haha! Nice stories goin' y'all

is that all

more pls, more pls.

Okay let me tell my own.

at a point in my line i was lost in space while searching for greener pastures i had to leave earth with a space ship to see if there was someone meant for me out there.

And just at the point where i had no hope, i saw Him, Him i said. Dressed in funny clothings, i was in love. I got attracted by his long neck and big eye balls and he spoke very little words.

After a while in space, we decided to come back to earth and make babies.

I have no regrets, only that i often think am married to an alien.

lioness, you really got mr crackin'! What planet do you think his from?

fabian wetin come be your own now. why you dey ask.

hi fabian don't mind me ooooooooo