tellwisdom:

henribj:
better tell your friend not to proceed with that marriage o
he should just have his own share of the national cake and move ahead.

fxbot:
This why it's not good to accept such from a girl.

I was a victim of what you have written and believe me when I say it hurts so bad.

If you read this, follow my advice.

Leave any girl who claim virginity and say she would wait for marriage. It's a big lie, especially if she isn't the religious type. They often fantasize on it and would give in with a little pressure.

Did you read about the good guy bad guy thread yesterday? If not, please do.

The average Nigerian girl want fork and good forks. You are not respected if you can't fork them. They want to be forked real good.

The guy in the compound already saw she wanted it but your friend was blinded by what he watches on movies and read in novels. A bad guy knows when make moves.

Over the years I have perfected the art and I can know when to fork a girl if I want.

Samostical:
SAME EXPERIENCE. She told me she was a virgin, that she don't want sex. so I went back to school, on my arrival I began seeing her attitude display. I know the did is done. Later she confess, but I know she is still cheating till date. I won't let her be till I collect my own share

torqque7:


@adazinnie..the issue is the betrayal here,she starved her fiance for years only to happily give someone just days of meeting him..if she wasn't a virgin in the first place then we can understand but clearly shez taking the fiances Luv for weakness and foolishness..

x6blade:
This story brings anger to me. It's similar to my story I disvirgined my girlfriend but after some months I had to travel out of the country after 2 months this girl slept with another guy I was very suspicious and I questioned her which she confessed to. I broke up with her faster than the speed of light it took her 3 months of begging to get me back. But ever since then I don't see her the same way , and I always have this thought that there's always a guy in the corner. I know I wouldn't stay long in the relationship as I feel nothing.

Dozzmani:
Hello friends

I have been a reader in this forum for a while now,usually see the help through advise being given to people,which made me to bring this issue here because at this point,I don't know what exactly to tell this my guy becuase this issue is beyond me.

My friend has been dating his girlfriend for two years now,the babe is know to us(his friends) and his family as the only woman for him. It was a no sex relationship as the girl said her virginity is her pride. My guy accepted to wait till when they get married as he truly love this babe. Last year ending, one guy moved into the compound of this girl, that was when stories entered their beautiful relationship.

To cut the long story short, recently my guy's girlfriend that never wanted sex started disturbing him of sex, he was surprised about it, later agreed as she made him promise her to indulge in it with her. Alarm blew on the supposed day they were meant to have the sex as he wanted to cover his white sheets because of possible blood stains, she told him blood won't come out. He went in and blood never came out. Since then, she had been lying and swearing she was a virgin which my guy persisted she was not.

She opened up to him of recent that she lost it to the new guy in their compound who as of then almost made them to break up but was pleaded with him not to break the relationship by her aunt and some good friends of hers'.

She doesn't have anything to do with that guy she lost it to because the issue went out of proportion then in their compound, which made my guy to start growing faith in her again upon knowing she slept with that guy in her compound few times when she cheated with him.

She recently confessed to him she knew blood won't come out as she slept with the compound guy once before the day they had sex. The twist now is that who he met a virgin could not hold on to it for him but gave it away to another guy.he is questioning the girl's love on how she could have done such.he still loves her but can't say if he can trust her not to try such if eventually he marries her.she begged for forgiveness.but to be honest,I don't know what to say to this guy.

Please, friends, your candid advise will go a long way in shaping someone's future here as of life partner as he plans on getting married by next year ending..

shota:


LOL all women do the same thing .

chrisbaba1:
oh well.... the guy must be a really sharp dude, yu lost bro, break up with her cos she wont stop smashing that guy nor thinking about him. move on

wagazala:


You do have a good point. Good girls like bad guys. I realized this in my school days when I lost my gf's to bad boys. I was the love forming romantic mushy mushy guy. Stories, changed when I changed hand though...
OP, my question is have you also slept with another woman within this period? What intentions do you have towards this lady (to marry?). If you forgive, would you ever forget? There's no template to relationships, the answers to your questions lie within you. Be wise.

olakumby:
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basille:
One of the reasons why i don't do Romantic Love. It's too damn complicated.

OP tell your friend to break up with her, she is a trained unrepentant liar. She would probably do it again sometime in the future.

EggovinMma:

victorazy:


Is that the size of ur brain?

AreaFada2:

Abeg follow me ask o.
A girl once told me she was a virgin. I nor ask am o.

With some pressure, we did it o. But na the regular express way I see dia o. Nothing like virgin.

Anyhow, since I wasn't after a virgin in the first place I didn't really care.
If non-virgin was the only matter, no sweat all all.

But the supposed virgin had used abortion to ruin her womb much earlier!
And that was girl I wanted to marry. Wasted a couple of years with this girl o.
Luckily found out about ruined womb before marriage.
That was EOD sharply.

The lies and deceit still hurt a bit till today. Even though I have moved on.

Virgin forming is one the most common lies some girls peddle to obfuscate guys.
Never fall for it.

4stylz:
Don't forgive cos she will still cheat on you and plead with you; don't pity her, let her go.

Omotayor123:

I'm one of 'they'

4stylz:
Don't forgive cos she will still cheat on you and plead with you; don't pity her, let her go.

tosyne2much:
Actually looking foward to the day OPs on nairaland will stop being cowards hiding under the canopy of "it happened to a friend"

It happened to your friend and you being the third party narrated it like you were actually te one that practically slotted your joystick into her kitty-cat? smh


I will advise you tell your friend to open the thread himself b4 i can offer my own advice