spikedcylinder:

I think the OP feels Dammy should have told her she once had a relationship with Jide.

Dammy didn't do a thing - according to you, the problem is that the two brothers (Tunde and Demola) will feel bad that one man has slept with their wives.

At the time you met Jide, you didn't even know that Tunde existed or that you would ever marry him. Why should she tell you she slept with a man when you were barely trying to recover? She didn't interfere in your relationship and you are blaming her for what exactly?

peyton:

@DEBOSKY
DAMMY did a lot , if she had told me that she had dated jide when i started the relationship , i would not have venture into such relationship

and i need to let you know that I MET JIDE THRU DAMMY , I NEVER KNEW THEY HAD A RELATIONSHIP WHEN JIDE SIGNIFIED HIS INTENSIONS, a least as a good friend she shouldn't have encourage me to go out with him when she knew quite well that they had history

that is the painful part of the whole story

surface:

@ poster,since what u want is pity,then am very sorry for what happened,its one of those things,move on wit ur life,shit happens.Goodluck.

You've been chirping like a bird since.

at poster ok so you and dammy slept with the same guy and are going into the same family. ehen? so why are you worried? the only problem starts when jide tunde and adebola are friends. but you havent stated that. ehen you can be mad at dammy but as far as im concerned that wont make a difference. it was in both of you's pasts before you met your husband to be so where is the problem
the issue does not concern your relationships it is strictly between you and dammy (even thogh i dont think theres even a big issue) FEAR is not involved and to be honest self neither is WORRY. it should be more like dissapointment or anger that dammy never told u. which doesnt really matter as normally the problem between two friends dating one guy is that the first girl diddnt approve of her friend dating her ex.

youre going bck to dig up old dirt. like i said mountain out of mole hill.

at poster ok so you and dammy slept with the same guy and are going into the same family. ehen? so why are you worried? the only problem starts when jide tunde and adebola are friends. but you havent stated that. ehen you can be mad at dammy but as far as im concerned that wont make a difference. it was in both of you's pasts before you met your husband to be so where is the problem
the issue does not concern your relationships it is strictly between you and dammy (even thogh i dont think theres even a big issue) FEAR is not involved and to be honest self neither is WORRY. it should be more like dissapointment or anger that dammy never told u. which doesnt really matter as normally the problem between two friends dating one guy is that the first girl diddnt approve of her friend dating her ex.

youre going bck to dig up old dirt. like i said mountain out of mole hill.

@ poster, me nkor?

peyton:

please nairaland i need an advice on ths issue, i had a broken relationship in 2007 and  a month later i met an old friend(dammy) , we graduated from the same  polytechnic, so i told her about the guy that broke up with me  becos she knows him well , she consoled me and advice that i should move on with my  life which i  did but  later she came back and told me that  when i was seeing her off one of his male friend saw us and really liked me , we went to his house and i got to know him well , his name is jide , i fell in love with jide, I was still in this relationship when dammy did her introduction , i went for the introduction too and there i i met tunde,

tunde approched me and reveal his intensions which i declined i never knew tunde was  dammy brother inlaw, i gave him my no and we started communicating, i did not want to start a relationship with tunde, i told tunde to give me time becos then i had a feeling that all jide want is to sleep with me and dump me ,

i later got to know that jide was not the right guy for me, i left jide for tunde who is a junior brother to dammys  husband to be . tunde works in a big private firm in lagos and i have my own job in a bank in abeokuta, but around march last year i got a call from jide and he said he learnt that i was  going out with dammys brother in llaw and he said he heard that we will son get married, but to my shock he said he wanted to tell me something  and that it has benn bothering him since he leant i was going out with dammys brother in law , he told me that he was dating dammy before he met me and they both knew the relationship was just a fling, i was shock, i called dammy and ask her if what jide told me was true

she confirmed it and was apologising saying that she wished me well and she never knew that my relationship with jide would not work and that she never knew that his brother in law would fall in  love with me,

dammy got married last year and my wedding is comming up this december with tunde,

please nairaland  i am confused at this point because i cant imagine this happening to me , i cant live with the fact that jide slept with me and dammy and am  getting married to dammys brother inlaw (tunde)


please what should i do,  brother  ademola who is dammy husband and tunde my own husband to be are from same parent , i cant imagine what would happen if they get to know that  jide slept with there wife

BlueDiva:

If you bring this case to my court,
I'LL THROW IT OUT.

You're just naive.
What exactly is your problem?
NOTHING !!!