Rexnegro:
even when u re crazily in love with him? what's wrong in making extra effort?

lol its his loss not mine

wristbangle:

So dem plenty?

welll figured

udondeymadt:
A lady can decide to play hard to get, but when a guy eventually gets her to love him and has his way with her in bed, he could still dump her. Also, a lady can decide not to play hard to get, but when a guy eventually gets her to love him and has his way with her in bed, he might end up marrying her and spending the rest of his life with her. What is my point? My point is that playing hard to get does not guarantee anything. It does not make a man cherish a lady any more or less. If a man wants to take a lady for granted, after fasting for 40 days and 40 nights to get her, he will do it. Most ladies who get jilted, after being banged, are the ones who play hard to get. I am not advising for Afrikan ladies to give themselves cheaply to Afrikan men, but I believe they should be smart about how they ride. That's all.

A very sensible comment! Thumbs up! And I agree with you: "playing hard to get doesn't guarantee anything".

misspicy:

lemme tell you a story



so in my early dating years,there was this cool guy in my hood,very handsome and gentle,so I had a crush on him,I started showing it,I gave him attention,we became close,he saw the signs and we started dating,later on the guy cheated and then when his friends confronted him on my behave,he made them realise I asked him out,he never wanted the relationship...lmao
all in all,I was blamed

Something tells me this your anecdote isn't true, you just conjured it up for convenience.

@Op what advice will you give to those of us that are shy and reserved in nature. I've been in situations where a guy is staring and showing interest but am to shy to look back and I get nervous, then he thinks am not interested and walks away

Omotayor123:
Nice post.
But I think a man should be Man enough to make a move on the woman he loves. If he's too shy to do just that, I don't see how he intends to live forever as her husband.! *my view*

And if he is not man enough due to some attitude that chases him off will you rather prefer a player who is man enough by default(their lack of emotions strenghten their confidence and shock absorber)?

I think is very wrong for a girl to make the first move.guys will surely take dem for granted. green lights is enough,if e can get it then he is not yet a man.I rejected some girls years back cos I was scared.and I wasn't into them back then.I didn't insult them,I avoided them cos I was too young n I gat no brain. but my last gf showed green lights, n i immediately grab it.doe,I wanted to enter her friend,but no time for long thing.no time to check time.

Its hard in Nigeria

quiinnBee:
after all this i still wont make a move on a guy.

would rather give him the green light.

if he cant catch the hint then thats his problem

lolz.that's ur problem dear becox he doesn't care or even notice you.and also you re d one dying in silence inside.

pumpindkay:
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1st year(In university)I was sitting in the lecture room, looking at that girl sitting next to me. She was my ‘best friend’. She had nice hair, humble and was very beautiful. I wish I could tell her that I loved her so much, but I didn’t want to break the bond. After lectures, she walked to me, borrowed some notes of the previous class hugged and pecked me goodbye.I wish I told her, I wish she knewThat I wanted us to be more than just friends I loved her, but I was shy I didn’t know why. 2nd year my phone rang, it was her; she called me to tell me how much she was hurt. Her boyfriend just broke her heart. She asked me to go keep her company. I went to see her; coz she was my best friend. As I sat next to her, I looked her in the eye, wishing she was mine. After two hours of having fun and hanging out, she was okay; so I left her to go to bed. Before I left, she looked me in the eye with a beautiful smile, hugged me goodbye.I wish I told her, I wish she knewThat I wanted us to be more than just friendsI loved her, but I was shyI didn’t know why. 3rd year one day, before the grand school end year party, she asked me to accompany her to the school dance. I was very happy, because every moment with her was special. But we went to the party ‘as just friends’. After the party, I sat at the door. I looked at her, as she chatted with her friends. She happened to look at me, and then gave me that killer smile.I wish I told her, I wish she knewThat I wanted us to be more than just friendsI loved her, but I was shy I didn’t know why.Graduation day Days, weeks, months passed. It was the graduation day, so happy and excited we had completed our studies. She stood up,to go pick her certificate. As she walked elegantly, I couldn’t stop staring at her. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn’t notice me like that. Before she left, she came with her graduation gown, looked at me, gave me a smile and told me, ‘your forever my best friend’I wish I told her, I wish she knew that I wanted us to be more than just friendsI loved her, but I was shyI didn’t know why.Wedding day. 3 years down the line, in the church, she walks down the aisle, with her parents on her side.It really hurts me, since my chance is now gone. I love her too much, but I got to let her go. She is being married with another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn’t see me like that. But as she walked she looked at me and gave me that killer smile. Whispered to me “BEST FRIEND EVER” I wish I told her, I wish she knewThat I wanted us to be more than just friends I loved her, but I was shy I didn't know why burial day. Days, months, years passed. 5 years later, I went to mourn the love of my life. The love I was afraid to tell. As I viewed her lain body, it hurt me that she left without knowing I loved her.During the service, they read her diary. The mc began ‘I stared at him; I would love to have him in my life. I try to simulate situations, but he doesn’t seem to notice me.’ I love him, I wish he knew. I would really want us to be more than just friends. I love him but am shy to say. I don’t know why.My strength was over, I Knelt before the crowd, as tears dropped down my cheeks. Those words touched me deeply. I wish I told her. But its now too late, she is gone.I wish I told her, I wish she knewThat I wanted us to be more than just friendsI loved her, but I was shyI didn’t know why.BREAK THE SILENCE> IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE; TELL THEM.

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[quote author=tpiar post=41193696]

you folks should state which cultures you are exposed to where what you are claiming is the norm.

Africa is not a country, different rules of engagement apply in different locations.

In South Africa for example, like many of you are saying, it seems women can make the moves on a man without anyone raising eyebrows. Likewise the US and most of the western world (hopefully the lady wont claim rape if she was sent for that purpose). That's because in such countries, women are sexually liberated and not as conservative as Nigeria.

so, stop acting as if one size applies to all.

if you want to encourage particular women to make moves on you, be more specific.

anyway, make una try ya moves on the site owner sef, even the site admin.am nt disputing d fact dt u are right about norms and value,wat am saying is dt making d first move does nt necessarily mean u wil be taken 4 granted,only boys behave in dt manner.

zeberebe:
liar

oh so u were with me all the times i hav asked ladies out right?

zeberebe:
liar

oh so u were with me all the timese i hav asked ladies out right?

vtcomdegov:
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"PROSPOND THESE" ......Nawa oo

quiinnBee:
after all this i still wont make a move on a guy.

would rather give him the green light.

if he cant catch the hint then thats his problem

green light when youre wearing red shoes

robosky02:


green light when youre wearing red shoes

hehe

quiinnBee:

gladly.

miss lonely.lol

take ur gift

esosa993:
I can't blame girls when we don't show green light, some guys are just plain immature........ but truth be told as a girl if dey form for guy I think u don't really like him ni oooo, u never see a situation whereby u see a guy u like and it just clicks and your face go just glue to him for like 10seconds, sharp sharp the guy sef go get the message