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Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by ststyreal(f): 4:50am On Nov 12, 2015 |
fammo:Guy u must marry that lady. Please let me ask u, who do u want to leave her for? after sucking all the juice in her, u now remember u guys are age mate, blah blah blah blah blah, abeg, adjust make u find better excuse give. Habaa! U have being dating a girl all these while, and u said it yourself that u guys have been through a lot together, to the level of introduction, now all of a sudden, u now remembered she is ageing faster than u, please fear God. Think of how she was when u first met, think of her good characters and those beautiful things in her that made u stick to her upto this day and then think deeply and think again, if those things are still there, then u have no problem with her. We all must age at one point in our lives or the other, package her well and forget all these side chick's hovering around to destroy beautiful love God has bless one with and enjoy your precious wife. Abeg, send me my invitation for the wedding, I will gladly attend. God bless your future home. 5 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by ststyreal(f): 5:06am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:My guy, op is just confuse. He has to Marry the lady. He is not going to make her life miserable rather with time, op eyes go clear. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by miqos02(m): 6:05am On Nov 12, 2015 |
quit |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by mckenzieRx: 6:30am On Nov 12, 2015 |
I just feel the need to advise u, sincerely... In my own opinion, her facial beauty or rapid ageing shouldn't be of concern if u really love her as u claim. You said she has made sacrifices to make the relationship work (especially that religion changing part) you need to make sacrifices too, bro! I will also like to inform you that there are many age defying and looks enhancing supplements you can both take advantage of. They are natural and effective without side effects. You are Welcome! 3 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Chanchit: 6:42am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Michellla: Nothing, just asking at least if person put status for bbm, he/she would want to change it after some days/weeks/months. But no problem, I know you would change it when you see something else that inspires you. |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Ashmark(m): 7:08am On Nov 12, 2015 |
I hear people say one shouldn't marry out of pity, then this guy pour out his mind. Some said he's wicked, some said he should atleast pity the girl because of all the sacrifice she has made. Then I think maybe this guy has been in this relationship all this while out of pity for her, maybe he has been fighting this thing for long in his heart. I don't support your idea @Op, but I think many people are going through what you're passing through and even millions of couples marry each other out of pity. You can give it a shoot too. Just pray, I believe whatever your decision is, GOD will help and guide you. 4 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Youngpo413: 7:11am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Some people are so poor and the only thing they have is money.. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Nobody: 7:33am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Laveda:miss it obvious op now see that lady as a burden... Imagine he is feeling pity for her,the last thing i will do is to advise a man to marry out of pity no matter the sacrifice... I will keep on emphasing on that mutual frndship and fondness.... The lady deserve more than that btw how am i nt even sure he have seen a lady he probably wished to be his... This kind man deserved a hot bath 1 Like |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Nobody: 7:34am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Youngpo413:how is this quote relevant 3 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Nobody: 7:36am On Nov 12, 2015 |
ststyreal:if the lady is still in her 20s then op will be doing himself,the lady future alotta good...... |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Youngpo413: 7:37am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:some have brains but can't use it. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by azat: 7:44am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Fact is, there is ALWAYS going to be somebody seemingly better than the person you are going to marry. Note: SEEMINGLY. The longer you stay in a relationship, marriage or pre-marriage, the more likely you will feel that way. Agreeing to stay with somebody for life is NOT a feeling, it is a DECISION....based on good judgement, not on fleeting feelings. If you have stayed together already, so long that your "feelings" are begining to fade -seemingly, then it is time to make a decision. But not a decision based on feelings again. If you had married her at the outset, you would still be feeling same way you do now...the reason many marriages appear to be failing after a few years. 8 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by AVRecruit: 7:49am On Nov 12, 2015 |
kramfonos: the priorities are not misplaced. men commit adultery because of the emulsion paint and stature. it is therefore necessary to get someone you are attracted to avoid fornication. It would be misplaced priorities if he doesn't see beyond youth though. |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by AVRecruit: 7:56am On Nov 12, 2015 |
ststyreal: when these girls r young they dont know wat they have until they lose it. its the time for them to get the best mate. i will be more inclined to date a 20 year old till she 26 then marry her even if her face is appearing old i dont care because i married her young! 1 Like |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Michellla(f): 7:59am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Chanchit:lol.i hardly notice the signature thingy.. reason i'v never changed it.lol. now that you'v mentioned it means it must be pissinq some other people off too...i should change it 1 Like |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Michellla(f): 8:02am On Nov 12, 2015 |
fexyrich:i tell you.after they'll come here to complain again 2 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by AVRecruit: 8:04am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Michellla: I do agree though. its not a good thing to do. the man should be clear of his intentions from the onset. 1 Like |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Michellla(f): 8:05am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Cutehector:yes.love doesnt necessarily mean marriage.you can love someone and you both wont be compatible..which tends to lead to break up. the reasons why we fall in love with different people is still not yet known to man.lol 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Chanchit: 8:05am On Nov 12, 2015 |
[quote author=Michellla post=39933685] lol.i hardly notice the signature thingy.. reason i'v never changed it.lol. now that you'v mentioned it means it must be pissinq some other people off too...i should c hange it [/quote |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Nobody: 8:38am On Nov 12, 2015 |
kramfonos: On point! |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by RexTramadol1: 8:39am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Na after introduction u com know all these shits! 3 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by menix(m): 8:42am On Nov 12, 2015 |
OP, I will advice u to quit.. As long as u have started checking out her old appearance before the marriage believe me u can neva stop. Time will come u start regretting nd u will certainly resort to cheating. Don't marry out of pity.. 1 Like |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Patented: 8:43am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Haba did she start looking older 2day or just yesterday? i smell a rat or 2 there is more to this than has been written in this thread 2 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Nobody: 8:45am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by 4stylz: 8:46am On Nov 12, 2015 |
misspicy: This is where the problem starts from, You can't sacrifice but you want a man to marry you Abi? Marriage nor be sacrifice? That's why whites are better than Nigeria girls, they don't see all men as same, that's why real love exist there |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by MadCow1: 8:46am On Nov 12, 2015 |
fammo: Your issues are real. I wish I could advise you in person, but all I would say to you is; Search your soul. Nobody knows you better than yourself. Are you superficial? Would her changing physical appearance bother you enough to create resentment in you? Do you love her enough to weather anything that may be thrown your way? Remember that looks are fleeting. Even if she were 6 years younger than you, a simple dermatological disease can change all that fast. I am stressing on this point because her aging looks seems to be a big issue to you. The fact that you have started noticing it means you are no longer caught up in the love fantasy clouds and that is not a bad thing. Now that you are seeing clearly, ask yourself; Is her look going to be an issue for you? Like you said, she hasn't started giving birth yet so it will only get worse with each passing years. And if it is that much of a big deal, then it is what it is.. And its not a bad thing. We all know what we like, our tolerances and such. I believe that love conquers all.. Looks inclusive. If you feel the love bond between you both is that strong, then shake it off and move on. If you feel the love isn't as strong, then you may need to actually have a rethink and reassess your decision. Goodluck to you both. 13 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by GH0sT(m): 8:46am On Nov 12, 2015 |
]At this junction you can't turn back, you have bought the goods already, she's yours. If I get you right you even have a child with her already, guy abeg, happy/unhappy married life awaits you. Bro it would do you good to read before commenting. Did u c anyplc wia he wrote DT De v got children? 2 Likes |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by silversonuc(m): 8:47am On Nov 12, 2015 |
misspicy:bby wat abt me? U mean u cnt sacrifice nothing for me!!!!!!!! |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by Nobody: 8:47am On Nov 12, 2015 |
fammo: Are you interested in having fulfillment in your intended marriage or just want to make front page? My advice to you is to have faith in your spouse , after all she has shown commitment by changing religion, you both have to give the relationship your best shots. |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by braine(m): 8:48am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Cutehector: This is a very effective method. 1 Like |
Re: We Are Engaged, But Im Having Doubts, Pls I Need Your Advice by 4stylz: 8:48am On Nov 12, 2015 |
JumpingChicken: You think marriage na play? Marry a girl out of pity and see problems 1 Like |
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