adajiboyy:
U got the will in u if u wana stop it.try not to watch porn again,pray to God,bt above all na u oooo.no one puts ur hand in ur dick now,so when d urge comes,just tell it no,if u can go 3 days,u try,after 3 days aim for 1 week,if u can,u are winning d battle then u go for a month.guy am not sayin it easy ooo,bt it very achievable.I wish u all d best.

Hmm... talking from experiece pple don use (NOT live) life oo, experience is the best teacher!

donTbone:

How it starts!
Before the masturbation starts, it begins with a strange feeling of 'i wanna sex', which then graduates to thinking 'sex'. In this 2 previous process, if one didnt shrug it off by leaving a lonely place, its gonna move on. Then you get to the stage of false imaginations, like maybe previous intercourse ot fantacise about some one u lik or you wanna av fun with. When in this stage, it starts getting a bit hard to stop, but yoyu can.

If still yet you not stopping, then its gonna be like, let my HOOD have some fresh air, lemme just play with it...blah blah blah! By then, that poo has already started!

Way to stop!


1. Determine to stop. Not just an ordinary determination, but the one that will look like...'if i do this again am gonna die'(thou you wont).
But having a strong willed mind will be a starting point.
2. Get rid of porn sites off ur mind and porn movies off your mobile. Thats not so easy, but you have to be disciplined.
3. it might warrant you not staring too long at the opposite sex.
4. Beware of the films you watch, sites you visit and the discussion you have.

My story!

Am becoming an addict(going to 3years) to this too and am gonna stop it. Today makes it a week i last acted it. Though am not guaranteed of freedom from it yet, but i know my determination to overcome will see me through.
Funny enough, fasting and prayer is never enough to conquer masturbation, strong mind, determination and discipline will...
Hope to hear from you after recovery bro!

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Very good post!

In addition to the above, as the father of some teenage boys (You Boys will be Boys at Puberty! ),

Let me state that S.ex itself is an "outward expression of internal energy".

Old people people have less energy = less S.ex!
Younger people are bubbling with energy = More S.ex
Chronically Sick people have less energy.... at least till they start getting better = Less S.ex

So, there is a correlation between wanting to have S.ex ..... and the amount of "unused energy" a person has.

Thus, apart from putting yourself in the proper frame of mind (getting read of porn materials, praying, determination to stop, e.t.c),
You need to channel that ENERGY into something useful!

ENGAGE IS SPORTS of all Sorts: Jog/Run, play ball, swim, Cycle, lift weights..... do just about anything that will sap that "idle energy"

Like somebody said (paradoxically, now) "An idle HAND (mind/energy) is the Devils Workshop"! .....


I did it some decades back in my own teenage years, but now l assist young "men' to overcome it and at least l can count a few on both hands, that have overcome it.

Mind you, its not actually a "biblical sin" against God .... but it is one of those acts that is debasing to the personal "self".
So, its better avoided, if it can be avoided



Lastpage!

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nice advice bro, i know It's not easy tho, all he need to do is to made up his mind and avoid anything that can make him to continue the act.. i believe he will overcome the addiction.

adajiboyy:
U got the will in u if u wana stop it.try not to watch porn again,pray to God,bt above all na u oooo.no one puts ur hand in ur dick now,so when d urge comes,just tell it no,if u can go 3 days,u try,after 3 days aim for 1 week,if u can,u are winning d battle then u go for a month.guy am not sayin it easy ooo,bt it very achievable.I wish u all d best.

whenever the urge comes switch ur mind and focus to some other things like reading a novel,a Bible or better still try not to be alone,always be with somebody cause you can't do it in d mist of someone....i hope this help I have many other things to tell u but if you have the time call me on this 09026115783

the best way to stop any addiction is to replace them. Find something more healthy and clean to do than wanking. Get very Busy with ur life

211Observer:
...It Is totally out of control now. I have read different posts on self-service method, believing that it's only helping me to stop running after girls all in the name of sex.

Often, some people just screw it up by saying that masturbation is not a sin; only to encourage others to continue in the ungodly act.
Either the act is good or bad, right or wrong, all I care is that this shit is sucking my happiness.
I can not go a day without self-service. Although i don't have girlfriend, and I don't care about it because I always believe that girls have nothing to offer me since I'm not ready for marriage soon!

Is now 13yrs I been doing this shit!

I want to stop. I know i'm addicted to it; so many times I have vowed never to engage in it again, but the more I shake It the more it stinks.

pls what can I do?

I want to quit! I don't want to believe that my life depend on it.

I know some of you might have once involve in this mess before, please just tell me what I need to know.
why I need to stop, and how to stop it.

Help a brother!!!!!

I will strongly advise you Get a copy of this book STRONGER THAN DIAMOND BY BISI ADEWALE it help my friend overcome mastubation after more than 10 years of addiction,it will help you. You can get it on Konga.com or call this number,I got it on the book 08056457013. I pray to God to deliver you from something that keep you busy and take you no where.

13 Yrs ? Wow ... we must have started jerking about the same time. Lol. When I saw your post I thought it was me that posted it.

Well I'm currently working on myself seriously, it's really not been an easy one. But I can tell you I'm not the same person I was a couple of months ago. What did I do ? Being an addict means you're easily triggered by whatever you watch or see. in my case, the slightest erotic thing I watch or see leads me to masturbating. I tried every means to stop but I couldn't help myself.

I honestly can't remember what promted me to stop but I think I saw a girl I liked and we started getting close ... you know the rest. Lol. She didnt agree though, LOL. Well, we are still friends though. I thought long and hard about how well to stop menace and I decided to get rid of every thing that triggers my addiction. I deleted all the downloading apps on my iPhone (I also permanently deleted it from the Apps purchase). I stopped watching erotic music videos, I watched stuff with zero erotic contents like CNN, Aljazeera, SS223, and Chanel 110 ... Action I think.

Coupled with the new hustle, I started going out more so I wouldn't be idle, I guess you know the saying about an idle mind, right ? Please if you ever feel the urge, don't jerk, visit an olosho at least, that's what I do just not to self-service and surprisingly it's been working for me.

I'm not where I want to be because in the last 2 months I have jerked thrice but I sure know I'm definitely not where I used to be 4 months ago or even a year ago.

I'd like to be friend and we can both help each other. Inbox me if you're interested. God bless and I wish you the best.

Cheers.

lastpage:


Very good post!

In addition to the above, as the father of some teenage boys (You Boys will be Boys at Puberty! ),

Let me state that S.ex itself is an "outward expression of internal energy".

Old people people have less energy = less S.ex!
Younger people are bubbling with energy = More S.ex
Chronically Sick people have less energy.... at least till they start getting better = Less S.ex

So, there is a correlation between wanting to have S.ex ..... and the amount of "unused energy" a person has.

Thus, apart from putting yourself in the proper frame of mind (getting read of porn materials, praying, determination to stop, e.t.c),
You need to channel that ENERGY into something useful!

ENGAGE IS SPORTS of all Sorts: Jog/Run, play ball, swim, Cycle, lift weights..... do just about anything that will sap that "idle energy"

Like somebody said (paradoxically, now) "An idle HAND (mind/energy) is the Devils Workshop"! .....


I did it some decades back in my own teenage years, but now l assist young "men' to overcome it and at least l can count a few on both hands, that have overcome it.

Mind you, its not actually a "biblical sin" against God .... but it is one of those acts that is debasing to the personal "self".
So, its better avoided, if it can be avoided



Lastpage!

Hmmmmmmmmm... nice one. Thanks for the compliment sire!
I would actually say its time parents come in in this too.
If we have a dad we can walk up to and discuss things with when we wer teenagers, its really gonna go a long way. Funny enough, i started myn few weeks after my 21st bday, and that was d same period i had my first FUN.
It was just like an had i known situation.

To any teenager reading this that doesnt have that BUBBLING ENERGY yet, i'll advice you dont go near it when you are not ready. There are better things to do with your data than browsing the porn site. May the Lord see us all through!

211Observer:
...It Is totally out of control now. I have read different posts on self-service method, believing that it's only helping me to stop running after girls all in the name of sex.

Often, some people just screw it up by saying that masturbation is not a sin; only to encourage others to continue in the ungodly act.
Either the act is good or bad, right or wrong, all I care is that this shit is sucking my happiness.
I can not go a day without self-service. Although i don't have girlfriend, and I don't care about it because I always believe that girls have nothing to offer me since I'm not ready for marriage soon!

Is now 13yrs I been doing this shit!

I want to stop. I know i'm addicted to it; so many times I have vowed never to engage in it again, but the more I shake It the more it stinks.

pls what can I do?

I want to quit! I don't want to believe that my life depend on it.

I know some of you might have once involve in this mess before, please just tell me what I need to know.
why I need to stop, and how to stop it.

Help a brother!!!!!

download brainbuddy.. It is an app on iOS and android.. It can change your life

Avoid loneliness. Thank me later.

Makks777:
in as much as this is not a solution, it is a very true point...in situations, you already know what you wanna do... you'll end up doing that. People around would say, he had two options, he pondered on each, he chose one... but you know within you, at the first thought, you already know what you want to do.... it might not be right, but you're already at that point where you have no second thoughts... it's like the decision has been made for you already. Now they say it's a part of the brain... many would say it's spiritually related..... whichever one, it's ruining a lot of people. For masturbation, I would say, you need someone to monitor you 24hrs... you have to limit your private times... always be involved in something interesting to you... the thoughts would be coming, that brain stuff would tell you to get rid of people and things that will prevent you from doing it at that time,,, now this is the solution..... don't hide the fact that you have the urge, in the midst of your close friends, just say it.... like you're joking... they will make silly remarks... let it be the topic of that moment... they will say a lot of things about it... jokes and stuff... it will relieve you of that urge... knowing that it's no longer a private issue, your mind will give you some breathing space.... just always confide in someone close.... the best way to fight a private issue is to make it public.... after hearing opinions of others, you wouldn't want to try it again... a problem shared is a problem half solved....... once again, LIMIT PRIVATE TIMES, LONELY PLACES, ALWAYS BE WITH SOMEONE, ALWAYS POUR OUT YOUR OVERFLOODED MIND TO SOMEONE YOU CONFIDE IN.

Good point.


In order to actually stop the act completely, he has to replace the masturbation with something else that is equally satisfying. like being among friends.

Twaci gave a good advice, but I'm afraid it won't suffice. When serious konji hold u, u no go remember that one.
See, if stopping masturbation is all u need Jesus for, u'll very likely never see an end to it. Jesus wants to do more for u than just help u stop masturbation.

I've been doing that stuff since secondary sch, Twaci doesn't have a clue what it is.....she's female. U have to give all of u to Jesus, I mean.....everything. Just surrender. U've gotta be born again. Brother, its the only way out, trust me. If u give ur life to HIM, u'll not only see an end to masturbation, u'll usher in a new begining for ur life.

I'll be very very glad to help u.

1)i hope you are working if not get a job to keep you occupied most time of the day and even when you feel like to self service in your free time you might fall asleep during the process due to tiredness
2)get a girlfriend,stop deceiving yourself that having a gal is a total waste of time(except your not straight) be involved in a committed relationship i believe u are an adult so having a girlfriend gives you some sense of responsibility
3)you must be introverted to some extent as this is one of the major reason why people self service,try to be in the gathering of people often and engage in stuffs that will keep you distracted,don't be indoor most of the time except you truly need a you time.
4)i reiterate to you self service is a perfectly normal thing and even healthy but it comes with an addiction and that seems to be the problem,don't for a second think its spiritual as that might be a new chapter to your problems
5)i luv sex and i think about it most of the time and this is a major concern but i have learned to control the outcome so it doesn't get the best of me,if you happen to think about sex a lot and watch pron on your phone or dvd then you need to get rid of any source of excitement because these they easily make you want to get in the act


if this doesn't help then you should go see a shrink because it has become registered in your mind

Ayo081:
13 years? damn
The best way is to get a job
Idle hand is the devil work shop

I endorsed this. Get yourself busy with something meaningful.

OP let me assure you that it is very possible to quit masturbating so don't be discouraged. Masturbation is not a good act and it comes with negative effects:
1.Low self esteem
2.LOW SPERM COUNT
3. Drowsiness
4. loss of concentration
5. Loss of Talents
6. Reduces brain efficiency

How to stop
1. Delete all porn on your phone
2. take up new interest
3. Stop isolating yourself
4.Perseverance
5. Stop visiting Porn sites and start searching for nudes(Maheeda and co)
6. Get a gf
7. Start deciphering and enjoying he good effects of graually quitting the act
8. Anytime you feel the urge,gather enough strength to leave where you are and get yourself busy with something or go hangout with friends

I wish you good luck

211Observer:
...It Is totally out of control now. I have read different posts on self-service method, believing that it's only helping me to stop running after girls all in the name of sex.

Often, some people just screw it up by saying that masturbation is not a sin; only to encourage others to continue in the ungodly act.
Either the act is good or bad, right or wrong, all I care is that this shit is sucking my happiness.
I can not go a day without self-service. Although i don't have girlfriend, and I don't care about it because I always believe that girls have nothing to offer me since I'm not ready for marriage soon!

Is now 13yrs I been doing this shit!

I want to stop. I know i'm addicted to it; so many times I have vowed never to engage in it again, but the more I shake It the more it stinks.

pls what can I do?

I want to quit! I don't want to believe that my life depend on it.

I know some of you might have once involve in this mess before, please just tell me what I need to know.
why I need to stop, and how to stop it.

Help a brother!!!!!

Dude! Go and marry.

Well, this is one sin that eats you from the inside out, you cant grow spiritually, it affects every area of your live, you feel completely helpless, dirty, insecure just to mention a few.
Been through this, it all started when i was in sec school fast forward 16 years i was under this bondage but to God be the glory i have stopped.
you can kick it. if you are a christian, take out some time to pray and fast, then after make a vow to God that you will kick this habit and if you go back he should make you the poorest man on earth and if you succeed then you you should be successful, take communion and make an offering to seal it up. when you think of poverty, you will kick the habit

1- Pray about it alot

2- try avoid been lonely cus lonelyness give birth to masturbation...try occupy urself always..

3- try not to be sleeping late...sleep early like 8pm to 9pm...cus when ur awake for long when other are asleep..masturbation thought will arrive in your mind..


4- stop watching porn..


5- if ur not a saint then mayb ur sex starved...

Teempakguy:
This one is strong!


to those saying you should get rid of porn from your phone . . . well, what about the porn on the streets?

the truth is, there is probably not much you can do about it yourself. it's become an addiction. your body thinks it's normal.(apparently it is . . . or not . . . who even knows.)

so you might want to use what is called neuroassociative conditioning. where you reward yourself for not wanking off, and punish yourself for doing so. or you can have someone else do it for you.

the problem here is you have to actually find an equally satisfying venture to replace your urges for this to work. how you are going to do that . . . i have no idea. but if you are unable to replace the faux happiness it gives you with something equally satisfying but otherwise more . . . acceptable, you'll just find yourself going back to it.

my opinion.

have you ever been an addict to any thing ?
from your two comment i inferred that you possess a deep understanding of the ops issue
speaking from experience

Teempakguy:
hahaha.

There's no bloody way this is going to ever work. you know why?

because at that point, the limbic system is dominant. the part of the brain that controls the basest desires of humans, is in full force. and when this is happening, the cerebral cortex cannot do anything. the order of priority is clear, when the limbic system wants something, the cortex cannot override it.

so at that point, philosophizing about what Jesus is thinking would be totally pointless. he won't even be able to reach a conclusion as the limbic system continues to bombard the mind with urges that cannot be overcome by logic or reasoning.

this is probably why rapists and murders blame the devil for their actions. they are yet to realize that the real culprit is their own malfunctioning limbic system.

Dr abi na psychologist e don do...
Ur big big grammar no go fid solve dis problem for now

Teempakguy:
hahaha.

There's no bloody way this is going to ever work. you know why?

because at that point, the limbic system is dominant. the part of the brain that controls the basest desires of humans, is in full force. and when this is happening, the cerebral cortex cannot do anything. the order of priority is clear, when the limbic system wants something, the cortex cannot override it.

so at that point, philosophizing about what Jesus is thinking would be totally pointless. he won't even be able to reach a conclusion as the limbic system continues to bombard the mind with urges that cannot be overcome by logic or reasoning.

this is probably why rapists and murders blame the devil for their actions. they are yet to realize that the real culprit is their own malfunctioning limbic system.

Biologist abi na psychologist e don do...
Ur big big grammar no go fid solve dis problem for now

Have you considered telling a close person who you want to remain accountable to regarding this issue.

An understanding man of God or a friend who sticks closer than a brother will be the best person to be accountable to.

There are very kind people who are willing to help you through it until you overcome it. It is not what can be stopped in a day but gradually and even more effective when you are accountable to someone.

Check out this site and register for their course online for free. It's a 60-day practical course that helps one get free from sinful bondages.

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Enjoy your victory within 60 days.

Shalom.

Masturbation is more than a habit- its PERVERSION! It can ruin your sexual life. Its a major reason why many men don't enjoy sexual relations with their wives. Yes, stopping it can be herculean especially in sex-starved environment we live in. I have had struggles with it-but I noticed whenever I prayed a lot in tongued, it subdued. So praying much in tongues helps to subdue your body under your spirit. I counsel you seek this vital spiritual experience.

Firstly, don't stay indoor alone, and secondly get married..

yilly: how abt u confessed to someone close to u. It'll help u to stp.

wow, your reply is simple, good and complicated. As hard to do as it is, i ave a feeling it will work.

Kill urself

Ayo081:
13 years? damn
The best way is to get a job
Idle hand is the devil work shop

Avoid being idle or alone for too long . this might help.

LEXYCOM:
If I had saw this post like 2hrs early, maybe I would not have gone into the act of masturbation........I did it and am feeling the guity since then......I know have sin against God.......Can God still forgive me again?

That guilt, is what satan wants. he will use that as an evidence sort of to accuse u before God. When you feed negative thoughts into your heart, you are transmitting negative force or energy into the spiritual realm, those bad spirits sees the signal and an opening to come in and settle in your heart. They encourage u to commit these lewd acts, and when u realise what u are doing is wrong, they make u intensify the act, making u feel guilty and miserable, deceiving you that God can't forgive you and your case is hopeless. That is a lie. God forgives and is always able to assist us only if we make a conscious effort to be helped and be free of our addictions. Repent and let Jesus into your heart, acknowledge that masturbation like all sins is wrong and it is controlled by unclean spirits which you allowed into your life. Stop making your life and mind a fertility ground for these unclean spirits. know that if u sin, there will be harsh consequences because satan wasn't happy that u let christ into ur heart and will be seeking for every avenues for u to sin and him to enter and deal with u. Fill your heart with and engaging in spirit filled activities like prayers, fasting and songs of praise. Fast and pray for those specific things u want God to correct about ur life. All these may not take away the urge to have sex or masturbate, but it will give u the grace to overcome these temptation.
Remember, u may fall in to a few sins at the initial stage, don't accept the devil's lie that it is over for u ( that is what satan wants so that u would not get back to God and he will have the access to deal with u) , get on ur knees immediately in prayers in order to get back in God's grace.
God bless you.

sauceEEP:
Get yourself a girlfriend @ op.

So you think bleeping a girl you are not married to is better than self servicing right?

End time thinking.

211Observer:
I know u can say something beta than this, bro

Cut off your dick

211Observer:
...It Is totally out of control now. I have read different posts on self-service method, believing that it's only helping me to stop running after girls all in the name of sex.

Often, some people just screw it up by saying that masturbation is not a sin; only to encourage others to continue in the ungodly act.
Either the act is good or bad, right or wrong, all I care is that this shit is sucking my happiness.
I can not go a day without self-service. Although i don't have girlfriend, and I don't care about it because I always believe that girls have nothing to offer me since I'm not ready for marriage soon!

Is now 13yrs I been doing this shit!

I want to stop. I know i'm addicted to it; so many times I have vowed never to engage in it again, but the more I shake It the more it stinks.

pls what can I do?

I want to quit! I don't want to believe that my life depend on it.

I know some of you might have once involve in this mess before, please just tell me what I need to know.
why I need to stop, and how to stop it.

Help a brother!!!!!

Brother u need Jesus in your life...... Something d@ u r doin even wen u dnt find Joy in it its definitely an attack..... All u need his Jesus...u have used 13yrs to try and stop it bt I promise u broda jst accept Jesus with all your heart.... In less dan a day it will be gone......

Becus notin is too big for our lord Jesus.. I'm a Living testimony broda.... Just accept Jesus and tell him u wnt to stop it frm d depth of yur heart.........

Good luck broda