AJaylee:
I can't say if it's wrong or ryt cos I've been doing dat nd I've been seeing stuff dat kills me internally but wen I take it up to her, she wil start cryin, saying it's nt wat I think, but she still flirt secretly wit guys nd weneva I go tru her phone I'll still see something new which she can't explain, so I wanted to stop bt I can't stop. I feel my relationship is nt secure, she loves me bt she still wants to be free to d world, nd no no no,i won't like dat. So I keep checking nd weneva I'm fed up, I'll just adieu baby.

Nubian113:


But if you won't looking you wouldn't have found it (good or bad)


Like attracts like. It's a simple theory that states "you create your own reality"


I look for the best in my lover and that's what I find.

Cutehector:
true that.. I agree with you. Lol ironically, its even the ladies that are fond of checking guys phones yet they come on social media to play the saint.

Odunharry:

true that.. if she is not ready to be faithful mk she chill one side..
If na olosho things she want do make she enta street and no decieve the poor guy.

Sadly, many people leave that kind of life today

Style007:
I laugh at people here shouting "communication is the key". keep shouting it till u see your gf marriage invitation card a day to the wedding or even contact stds



Its good to find out things your partner won't tell u ordinarily

I don't have problem with my partner checking my phone and I will check hers when I notice fowl play


This is how I found out that my "self acclaimed virgin gf" is a dog that does it everywhere and anyhow

Had it been I didn't read it I will believe her till today



NOTE read at your own risk, because u may see something that will make u...

naijaboiy:

You look for the best and ignore the worst. And then when the worst comes out you don't know how to handle it.

Keeping quiet and ignoring certain things that will cause bigger problems later on will only guarantee temporary happiness and long term heart break.

The moment you notice,act on it once and for all and stop ignoring it so you don't come crying later on.

sonofananimal:
really don't like going through partner's phone as in then but that eedioot take me for granted because of my nature and mumuness for love, but not until I receive the deadliest blow of my life and even went to the extend of tagging me of something through her phone.


If you feel that one is cheating on you, fee free to check he/her phone to calm your feelings about the person.
But this days WOMEN flex ALOT and them don't even hid it (you will just know ) so there is no even need to check that person's phone. Just cut ties with her.

Time is no longer waiting!

Odunharry:

The earlier you take a decision, tell better for you.
Act like the man guy.. those tears are deceptive..

Give her space

Nubian113:



Staying on topic: I have never gone through someone's phone (male or female) because it's rude and antisocial behaviour. It was done to me and innocent banter, flirting was taken as me cheating and the relationship sunk before it even started. Talk, and ask questions don't do your own math.

Rude and antisocial?

In a relationship where you were allegedly flirting?

Flirting that can lead to something else. You can see how you shot your own self in the foot.

Lol...okay bye.

Cutehector:
true that.. I agree with you. Lol ironically, its even the ladies that are fond of checking guys phones yet they come on social media to play the saint.

Thunderlicious:
It is an end time habit

naijaboiy:

Rude and antisocial?

In a relationship where you were allegedly flirting?

Flirting that can lead to something else. You can see how you shot your own self in the foot.

Lol...okay bye.

Odunharry:

lol... Nubian doesn't see anything wrong in flirting with guys but I can bet she will be angry if she sees a gal walking together with her guy..


mhen she's funny ...cause she's flirting that's why she's strongly against it.



Buhahahaahahahah

Lool...I told you na!

They also have shady things to hide too. If not they will be the first to snoop.

In fact once your girl does not give a hoot about your private stuff then start suspecting her too.

The logic is this. I won't check your phone and you won't check mine. Therefore,you can do whatever you want to do and I do mine. But none of us should find out.

So most times it's about who found out first that's the victim. Even though he/she is guilty too.

naijaboiy:

Lool...I told you na!

They also have shady things to hide too. If not they will be the first to snoop.

In fact once your girl does not give a hoot about your private stuff then start suspecting her too.

The logic is this. I won't check your phone and you won't check mine,therefore,you can do whatever you want to do and I do mine. But none of us should find out.

So most times it's about who found out first that's the victim. Even though he/she is guilty too.

Odunharry:

lol.. she's made some funny comments too like, LIKES ATTRACT LIKES. no b everything Man gat quote or reply

Lol...I saw that too. I just chose to ignore that aspect as it was not really relevant.

I guess what she meant was that if i'm suspecting my partner to cheat then I can cheat too. That means when I check her phone it means i'm looking for what I can do too. By that if she can't cheat on her partner that means he can't cheat on her too.

Haven't we had uncountable cases of a good guy or woman coming in contact with a chronic flirt/cheat?

You see the way some people think?

naijaboiy:

Lol...I saw that too. I just chose to ignore that aspect as it was not really relevant.

I guess what she meant was that if i'm suspecting my partner to cheat then I can cheat too. That means when I check her phone it means i'm looking for what I can do too. By that if she can't cheat on her partner that means he can't cheat on her too.

Haven't we had uncountable cases of a good guy or woman coming in contact with a chronic flirt/cheat?

You see the way some people think?

Odunharry:

lol.. her likes attract likes doesn't hold here at all.
U can bet if it's the guy flirting wahala for Don happen since

It doesn't hold at all!

Yes na! That's why I said whoever is caught first is the offender and the finder is the victim.

The guy in question may also have other ladies he's toasting but because he caught her first he will still pick offense.

Abeg make I enter bed jare.

Nubian113:


You'll be judging that person on their past and you're meant to be their future...

#youonlyfindwhatyou'relookingfor

Look for the good in people and you'll find it abundantly so be careful what you search for.

naijaboiy:

It doesn't hold at all!

Yes na! That's why I said whoever is caught first is the offender and the finder is the victim.

The guy in question may also have other ladies he's toasting but because he caught her first he will still pick offense.

Abeg make I enter bed jare.

naijaboiy:

Rude and antisocial?

In a relationship where you were allegedly flirting?

Flirting that can lead to something else. You can see how you shot your own self in the foot.

Lol...okay bye.

YourMain:
There's actually no need. Why would you be insecure in your relationship ? Communication is key.