I am so scared for my baby sisters. When I was their age there was no phone and the TV didn't show anything until 4pm. But nowadays even while walking on the road they hear and see obscene things and even repeat some of it without knowing the meaning. I keep asking myself how I will I instruct them when the time comes. You say one thing and the Internet says another. God help us.

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Estharfabian:
Hypocrite!!


Thunder wee seriously fire You if You're nuh A Virgin...

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damton:


Which souls,

those are fallacies from whereever they might have come from.

i just hope that, it will not be too late for you to realize that its not fallacy.

It's not about advancement in technology or the way Nigeria musicians display nudity in their videos, no! If you go to remote areas (villages) you will see a lot of atrocities over there compared to the civilised areas.
May God just help us, it's the order of the day

murphyibiam15:

since i have been viewing ur thread;this is the only sense making thread of yours
back to the topic....it can only be curbed if there is decrease in technology advancement whereby there will be no need for using the internet and watching TV show...but of course u know is not possible to stop all these,so it cant be curbed

Horlartunji21:
i just hope that, it will not be too late for you to realize that its not fallacy.

I'm at loss.

Can you please elaborate better.

The way forward is for the OP is for him to shut his eyes whenever he is walking on the streets AND he should stop watch music videos. Weather it is pre marital,pro marital or marital marital sex, for as long as it is consensual and between two adults I have nothing against it.




* marriage is not for every body*

blacko:
Well,premarital sex is thriving because of the influence from the western world.This people have no core values or belief system they introduced pornography and other vices of immorality to Africans. If u check the disparity between Nigeria hip pop videos in the 90's to the one nowadays u will see a big difference.music has taken a form of immorality instead of entertainment and moral teaching.
Secondly,the growth rate of the youths is very high therefore they hv seen pornography and other illegal contents increasing their want for sex. The parents are also to be blamed for decay in moral upbringing and focus on western mentality. Pre marital sex led to the introduction of HIV/AIDS to our country.Also I think the enthusiasm in most teenagers made them fall prey to pre marital Sex. So therefore I think until we learn to embrace Africanism and our cultural and historical antecedents also with our societal values pre marital sex will always be a problem.

Every time I read or hear statements like these, I see a denial of responsibility. I wonder for how long some Africans will keep looking for someone else to blame for results they played a part in producing. Last time I checked, getting influenced involves someone who offers an idea and another who embraces it. Who is really to blame? And I think you'll be fair to not make it look like Africans alone have all the values, virtues and morality while the West lacks them. There was sexual immorality before the Westerners came

murphyibiam15:

since i have been viewing ur thread;this is the only sense making thread of yours
back to the topic....it can only be curbed if there is decrease in technology advancement whereby there will be no need for using the internet and watching TV show...but of course u know is not possible to stop all these,so it cant be curbed

are you saying there was no pre-marital sex even before the advent of all that((tv,internet etc),it only enhances it! Pre-msex has been, right from the days of john the baptis.only that its becoming more rampant and seems uncontrolable

temitope28:
Because sex is the main weapon the devil is using to cage the destiny of so many youths,and I tell you the earlier we begin to value our morals nd culture the better. most Nigeria youths are sex addict. It pains me a lot when I hear people say its better to taste what you want to eat before buying it. I wonder where that demonic ideas come from. I think it can be cubed if ladies learn how to say NO and guys should also try to see sex as a forbidden fruit except if you r married

that one wey you dey yan na for ya pocket! Incase you should really know, most guys prefer to "test drive" their products before use. I don't want to date a girl and marry her only to find out that she's frigid or can't withstand my physical strength on bed and will start complaining that "where did I learn that from", or "I don't like this style you're doing". Having sex before marriage is very common, more common in Teenagers (15-19) than youths. Carry this your preaching go Benin or Warri, you go tire finish! Guys I've spoken your minds and the simple truth!

delectablegyal:
I doubt if there is any relationship without sex these days. Even the media is not helping in anyway to curb pre-marital sex instead, they are enhancing it. Can you think of any music video that doesn't display obscene scenes? I doubt. Ladies shaking their buttocks, showing ladies taking bath in the bathroom, ladies putting on mosquito net calling it fashion. Look at that girl in iyanya's okamfo video, she is somebody's future wife.


Almost everywhere you go, you can't do without seeing these half unclad ladies. Even inside b.r.t, u ll see a screen playing fans mi by davido, real mvp by olamide, b.r.t that is for both adults and children. Will u now cover your ward's eyes? Saying "don't watch it, too many half unclad ladies inside".


What's the way forward? How can pre-marital sex be curbed?

we're in another generation o. Its already been programmed in us,I'm only afraid of what next generation would look like

delectablegyal:
I doubt if there is any relationship without sex these days. Even the media is not helping in anyway to curb pre-marital sex instead, they are enhancing it. Can you think of any music video that doesn't display obscene scenes? I doubt. Ladies shaking their buttocks, showing ladies taking bath in the bathroom, ladies putting on mosquito net calling it fashion. Look at that girl in iyanya's okamfo video, she is somebody's future wife.


Almost everywhere you go, you can't do without seeing these half unclad ladies. Even inside b.r.t, u ll see a screen playing fans mi by davido, real mvp by olamide, b.r.t that is for both adults and children. Will u now cover your ward's eyes? Saying "don't watch it, too many half unclad ladies inside".


What's the way forward? How can pre-marital sex be curbed?

are you here to discuss pre marital sex issues or u want to discuss music videos?

Estharfabian:
Hypocrite!!


Thunder wee seriously fire You if You're nuh A Virgin...

EstherFabian

Estharfabian:
Hypocrite!!


Thunder wee seriously fire You if You're nuh A Virgin...

EstherFabian

You don't engage in premarital sex but you watch porn or masturbate.

Please have several seats.

tellwisdom:
You still take 70 naira BRT...Are you poor??

So, that's the only thing that caught your attention? Na wa for some pple shaa

Sex is natural. It will continue to happen whether you like it or not, marriage or no marriage.

If you like, blame clothes or dressing. Before the white man came to confuse us, your ancestors were walking around half naked in more skimpy clothes than any modern music video. It didn't turn them into uncontrollable rabbits.

Even if 99% of the whole world promotes it, there will be still be a minute 1% that will stand for the truth.

Even if 99% of the whole world promotes it, there will be still be a minute 1% that will stand for the truth. It's a choice.

because sex is sweet

jonaifame22:
Cos the thing sweet like meat wey them thief frm pot

Sex is over-rated abeg. These are some of the things on which I just wish a bill can be passed. The country is a hell-hole of hypocrites and bigots.

It is freedom. Women are feeling more Hot as a result of constant bombardment of easily accessible explicits and they want to have it just like men.

It is new world,a world that redefines itself as it evolves. Those that are left behind are the ones that refuses to adapt.

Its really difficult say but u cannot be in a serious relationship nowadays without havin s€x.

Because sexual compactability is very very important wen it cums to marriage.
Lets stop deceivin ourselves. In a real sweet relationship s€x must be involve.
Take it or leave

Adaure4ever:
I respect my body very well and guide it with dignity.

Sex is like a Food you will eat to fullest when you get married in the Future.
So why rushing to eat the food now?

You sound like a virgin but don't look like one. my thoughts though

ProudOlodo:


Every time I read or hear statements like these, I see a denial of responsibility. I wonder for how long some Africans will keep looking for someone else to blame for results they played a part in producing. Last time I checked, getting influenced involves someone who offers an idea and another who embraces it. Who is really to blame? And I think you'll be fair to not make it look like Africans alone have all the values, virtues and morality while the West lacks them. There was sexual immorality before the Westerners came

your points are not arguable because let's look it the normal African society in the early 60's all this things were present but they were not much.When Bishop Ajayi crowther was translating the Bible to Yoruba he couldn't find any word matching prostitute to refer to rehab the harlot in the Bible so he used the word "Panshaga" meaning adulteress.Throughout the early life of Africans pee Marital sex was minimal.proostitution didn't occur in Yoruba land until the early 19th century that was why they were called ashewo because they had in possession different denominations of shillings that they could break any amount of money into smaller denominations.If the West have not invaded Africa sexual immorality would have being minimal and to your point of being influenced Africans were cohesed to accept Western culture.

GodblessNig247:


You sound like a virgin but don't look like one. my thoughts though

hahahahahaha. How do virgins look like?

OP. There are many factors that cause this such as western psychological ware fare (our brains have been colonized by the negative ethics of the west) we actually allowed it.

My opinion is that we should start making marriage cheaper and more convenient as it used to be else pre.marrital sex will continue to be more cheaper and cheaper while marriage will become the most expensive thing to do.

Have the fear of God.

I was watching tv yesterday and in one of our nigerian music video, I saw the girl dancing almost naked.
I had to ask myself, "do these popular musician ever marry the girls that do theSe dance for them?"