Oliviaarims:



How do u propose a girl should make the first move? Pls, give an ideal example.

ronald4lif:


Nicely written. But pardon my ignorance. You said that if you're a lady who's insecure and egoistic one shouldn't ask a guy out. I've restated earlier that women who initiate romance are confident, bold and not afraid to go for what they want. Your admission of insecurity is to say they lack confidence, frightened by the thought of failure. What does that say of them?

In another instance, you said if a woman knows the man in question is a confident type, one who can't stigmatise her and if the lady is certain she won't be slighted she can make the first move? What you're saying here is that any lady who can't muster the courage and find a mind worthy of asking him out has no reason to be with such man, even if he's the initiator of an affair. The man is simply unfit for her. So my question to you is why should a woman involve herself in a romance with a man lacks confidence and unsuitable for her even if the man is the initiator?

Oliviaarims:
To all the guys saying it's okay for a woman to make the first move, u've simply been very opinionated about it and seemed offended that some women won't even contemplate wooing a man.

At least when I made my stand, I made it clear that there are instances where it could be permissible.

And may I say also, that most of u are simply being idealistic and quite far from being realistic?

And to the others saying there are diplomatic ways to go about it, pls, do us the favour of citing at least one diplomatic way of going about it.

Also, it seems as though most of u do not fully understand what I mean by making the first move. Most of u, it appears are basing ur arguments and dissatisfaction on perhaps, not showing the greenlight.


Finally, everybody's entitled to their beliefs and where they decide to draw the line as regards what they can and cannot do. Therefore, there's no need attacking anybody who doesn't share the same views as u.


Cc. Ronald4lif.. Doskie. I'd like to know what u understand as "making the first move" and then to state diplomatic ways to go about it. Thanks

Estharfabian:
Truth be told...

I'd never ask A guy Out!! even if my life depended on it! how degrading!! My ego won't even let me...

I'd keep giving him signs(Green, blue and yellow lights), I'd talk sweet to him, Change my voice around him, be all touchy n mushy towards him, Act overly caring, maybe call him like TWICE A month?...if he still doesn't get those Obvious/vivid Romantic signs.

He should go hang himself for all I care!!! fûck him!

Dating isn't my priority...There are plenny "Sharks" in the sea...I only have to choose from so many.....!

francizy:



I know say you must counter her! Kudos bro!

MizmyColi is to the ladies what you are to us on here!!

BUTCHCASSIDY:
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Wildngent:


Girlfriend! any move beyond that may seem rather too desperate if you asked me. i really don't know what you mean but if you walked up to me and passed a compliment at me*even though it ain't true* you should have gotten my attention now. This is a move, but not an ambitious one. Now there is a common ground between two people, which is an ongoing conversation that had just ensued. Say i was a fair guy and you continued;"i noticed you are about the only dark dude in the building and i stopped by to say hi!" That should lighten the mood for an ongoing talk. If you smell the dude is being all arrogant, can't see or keep up with what you are trying to do, then the cookie might crumble too soon. HE AIN'T WORTH THE TIME*she should know by now cos Ladies are masterfully calculative with manipulations far better than dudes in this regard, after all who run the world??* then it's time to pull the plug even though the chit chat may have ended awkwardly. She shouldn't loose too much of her self worth, should she? Now think what if the dude was a brilliant chap and acted along. She got what she wanted, and It may well have ended in a healthy relationship.

Laveda:
Nah... I can't try that shít again..
Imagine being turned down when you've surmoned the courage to talk to him

I dont advice that...keep flashing that green light..if he's too dumb to see it...fùck him .

francizy:


Really, I expect all feminists to practice that act of walking up to men they find appealing oh..
Maybe we'll soon get to the era where all men will have to wait to be asked out by females..

iAmCharis:
I didn't want to comment on this thread but well,.......... Buuaahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaa

zanga420:
its an instinct thing. But lemme use my buddy's case as an example.
He said, he's seen d babe b4 but getting into relationship was not his headache then. While d babe had eyes on him n had even run a check on him(his relationship status n all that). On a day they were together chatting, d lady asked, 'dude I love ur personality, I dont mind dating a person like u'. And that straightforwardness attracted him to her. And since then, they've been solid. Though presently, work have kept them in different cities. I think all things being equal, they might walk down d aisle. The only thing he has complained about d babe is her temperament. She's too hot tempered. Hope u understood my long epistle.

kinglekan:



Don't mind tosyne2much, thats how he wee be vibrating like jelly fish at the mention of anything Olivia....

She's just a friend with no strings attached

Oahray:
lol. I be no even see this post sef.

Laveda:
Nah... I can't try that shít again..
Imagine being turned down when you've surmoned the courage to talk to him

I dont advice that...keep flashing that green light..if he's too dumb to see it...fùck him .

francizy:


Really, I expect all feminists to practice that act of walking up to men they find appealing oh..
Maybe we'll soon get to the era where all men will have to wait to be asked out by females..

Oliviaarims:




Ur left ventricle!!!

See ehn ! If I like you, I will definitely show you a greenlight and it's expected of you to woo me.. And if you can't, I will drastically lose interest in you

MCFRESH:
making sence thou

Thankyou!

TaiKuun:
what you said was right but you are too rude. Thats repelling

I'm sorry?

tosyne2much:
See ehn ! If I like you, I will definitely show you a greenlight and it's expected of you to woo me.. And if you can't, I will drastically lose interest in you

kinglekan:



The undiluted _FUCKING TRUTH.

Kachisbarbie:
Some ladies expect guys to know when they are in the mood to be wooed, if they are his level or not... like he is psychic _ yet they can't do same.
Guys get turned down everyday, and they are not dead.

You don't go about approaching every random guy, those signs you expect a young man to watch out for, you should be smart enough to watch out for same signs.

Observing a guy closely (especially when you guys have established a reasonable degree of familiarity), you would notice if he is into you but has issues expressing himself probably for fear of being turned down too. That's the time to strike...

akachidi:

It works differently for every body,and I don't think it really matters who makes the move wether in wooing or in bed.

Actually, it does!

tosyne2much:
Baba, abi I lie ni?

wristbangle:


At the bolded, Please can you explain in details.

Oliviaarims:


That's very fair. But as I said, what I meant goes beyond that. It could involve asking for a relationship and declaring intentions and feelings of love or whatever.

Owlcity2:
Feeling funky, abi?

Oh, yeeeeeah!

DharmyYinks:

So does he @bolded and its even easier for him. Guess u havnt seen sum1 u lyk so much...if not..u wont Ve said he can hang himself : P


It depends on d way she approached him (n d kinda Guy... some will be glad while some wont) Dropping it suddenly may scare him.

You're right!


That's why I said I'd give him signs...

tosyne2much:
She's just a friend with no strings attached

If dem born u well attach string na, u go know as water take enta coconut.

Oliviaarims:



Lekan, where did you hear that one again? Lol.

I don't want all these bois to be disturbing u anyhow.