Summary of the whole tin be say, I no dey marry now. This thing called marriage is more like a semi-prison.

mayorkyzo:
As a young man if u can save up to 4-500k it's more than enough for a low key wedding...the marriage life is more important than the wedding ceremony...

This is very resourceful

But how long will it take to save such an amount with that salary range? 18-50k

omooba969:

Correct chick!































Will you marry me?

this your proposal tie wrapper o. e wear Gucci sef

here to learn from you guys

Bigmarx:
.....dearest omo na akara nd ogi you dey plan serve guest....babe....lol.... ....on a more serious note, when you ready to get married, parents (bothside) big aunties, uncles egbons plus u and ur babe....at least 1m.....that 100k na 10 bottles of wine o.....lol....but.....God is always there...

1m? That money reach to start business..like seriously,family members would definitely have in mind,they will feed whoever they r inviting..having a low key wedding,one has to have a fixed budget,,if its 100k,nothing more.

My Budget based on my area
1. Pre introduction visit (acquaintance and recieving of list of items) - N40000
2. Introduction (Items to purchase) - N40000
3. Bride price - N50000
4. Cards - N10000
5. Jotter/Program - N20000
6. DJ - 20000
7. MC - 20000
8. Cow - 80000
9. Food - 20000
10. Venue (Church Premises canpopy/decor) - 30000
11. TP (Brides people) - 20000
12. Drinks - 20000
13. Wedding gown - 20000
14. Box and contnts - 70000
16. Cake - 30000
15. Miselaneous - 50000
TOTAL - N530000
That's an average wedding for an average guy as me in my area.
NB: Except dem witches dey follow u frm villa, u will find out that many of the things i listed will b taken care of by your family, friends and relatives. Personally, i know i wont spend beyond 300k frm my pocket. Things like cow, drinks, cake, decor, canopies, jotter among others are virtually settled issue. Family will take charge.
Actually, is easier if u got alot of family members and friends trying to come in. Church members will also come in. Most times, u dont bear the burden alone.

agarawu23:

So how much should an average guy budget for his wedding ?

Simple question. First, it all depend on Her State or Local Government
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If she is from the West = 300
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If she is from the North as long you are a moslem it's almost free of charge or = 10,00 your problem is solved.
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If she is Calabar = 50,000 if she can cook, and 25,000 for the average cook.
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If she is from Kogi, just call her father in private and give him like 20 to 30 yam-heads during the planting season, wedding has taken place.
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If she is Benue (Tiv) just huzzle 5 Giants (Rats) for the elders even without her father's consent your wedding is a done deal, the next this is to start producing children.
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If she is Ijebu, provided you have sexy tribal marks (Like that of Yoruba Nolly 'Afonja's) the girl's parents' would take care of the rest.
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But if she is from the East ...Let me borrow a bigger Calculator for my Eastern Brothers... #Still calculating...

lazeal:
lol I don suffer bro. As in suffer but i do know that I am a good lover but a hard one. I even vex create thread to list my criteria... no girl was bold enough to take the chance. check my last topic lol

I don peep inside but mennn! your criteria strong ohh

our NAIJA WOMEN no be goal getter! na goal scorer then be!

if you fit manage, you no get problem at all!

apart from ur own status as an intending hubby...the amount u will spend on ur wedding will be determined by some prevailing factors
bride's tribe
bride's family status
bride financial position
bride's position in d family ( daddy, mummy's gal or free girl) and finally how considerable d family of d bride are.

if its a Yoruba average family background... 300k
very rich background n daddy's gal...80-120k (only ur stuffs u go buy)
Osun, Oyo girl...70k...dats after 2kids
iloring 200k


Igbo gal very rich... 2.5m ( the richer d family d more u pay & no considerations)

calabar...800-1.5m

Fulani...a room, long dick n 50k with enough strength for enduring heavy beating

white...14k for registry papers...and be ready to go abroad....good sex stamina if you will keep d wife for 10years.

Edo gal...rich... 1m

Edo gal mid range...500-700k ( I say this with experience )

Edo gal poor...a room, CD player, home theatre n 150 after 2 kids...



delta gal... a room, CD player, home theatre, gen, n 200k after a child or pregnant.

now...u just have to pick the one u can afford n plans how to get those girls Dat apply to you.

you will testify.

The virtuous woman that you should want to marry will better delight in spending that money on building a life together if you don't have deep pockets. If you have pockets or rich parents maybe 1M naira is not too much

The problem is everyone wants to be featured in wedding digest. How much would spend if u get a close, licensed pastor,have your ceremony by the beach and your few close guest are entertained there? You spend at most 80k if u include cake for pics sake. How about going for court wedding and having your reception at a posh chinese place. Order large portions and you all share?

When u don't have. Don't follow the Jones, think of a unique way of making your ceremony count for less

Click here for thread that launched a thousand debates by agarawu23 and other Nairalanders. Things got really interesting really fast. My head is still reeling.
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https://www.nairaland.com/2862648/budget-wedding-n900k-350-guests

agarawu23:
Good afternoon romance landers,

I decided to create the topic here since this is the section where we have high % of single/dating youths who are planning to get married in future .

My "average" means someone whose salary isn't that much be it from the 18k minimum wage up to 50k.

We were discussing on this thread when the Op called 900k a "budget" wedding https://www.nairaland.com/2862648/budget-wedding-n900k-350-guests

So how much should an average guy budget for his wedding ?

My guy spend less than #150,000 on his white wedding.
And his father was a commissioner then.

agarawu23:
I read your thread and people's comments, what gat me laughing was where u said u dont have 1k yet and u are budgeting 500k .

We don't budget what we don't have yet okay? What you have at hand Is what you should focus on not imaginations.

please what's your definition of a budget? ?

emmijes3:
I don't see why you should worry about the ceremony itself.....just cos u asked,I think 100 k would be enough

lolz. ..The food and drinks alone is how much??

mynduu44:
As a man I will budget the FF:

*Yoruba gal : 300k(as d galz parent will contribute)
*Hausaa gal: 150k(Zobo nd Masa party)
*Bini gal: they will just pack in once u impregnate them.
*Fulani gal: as long as u can escort a cow from from Zaria to Lagos, u re good to go.
*Igbo gal: divided into two group namely Imo nd Others
*Others: Budget 500k-800k naira
*imo galz: u will change their Zinc roof to Corrugated roof, then the village will fine you for marrying their daughter, so all in all budget 3.5 million..

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha! Bros eh you too funny. You want kill me laughter? I don laugh so tey my belle nearly bust. But wetin u talk about Igbos na true sha oo because me I be full blooded Igbo oo and I know wetin dey happen there.

emmijes3:
. Mind blowing ke,...shey dem go follow us dey settle debt...Bleep d ceremony...my wedding won't be over the top..just family friends,nd relatives....I don't mind just goint to da registry.get da wedding cert nd home..mumsi keeps saying ""god forbid" though

don't worry, when the time comes, we will see how serious u re with this philosophy

NICENEDU29:

Bros eh you too funny. You want kill me laughter? I don laugh so tey my belle nearly bust. But wetin u talk about Igbos na true sha oo because me I be full blooded Igbo oo and I know wetin dey happen there.

Nwanne nah watin I see I write so..

riadrims:
The problem is everyone wants to be featured in wedding digest. How much would spend if u get a close, licensed pastor,have your ceremony by the beach and your few close guest are entertained there?

sounds good but people might view the wedding somehow especially if you didnt invite a lot of guests (even if you did, actually).


they can say mammy water wedding or something like that.

Marriage is not easy, yet it isn't hard either... but after reading many case studies on the topic matter, the pre wedding agreements seems to be the problem seeds thats planted in the relationship.

1. Be the man, decide your budget and stick to it, do not let the parents of the bride decide for you, how much you will spend. Neither should your wife to be. Once they've held their meeting and dictated to you and you agreed to whatever it is they've lobbyed, that will always be the trend in your marriage. it will be forever difficult to Dictate in your own house.

2. Marry within you level, people always say this as if its an insult but it isn't. You can marry a woman with 50K and she will be with you forever and you will make billions and children together. your wedding is not an investment that will yeild money in the near future. so look for someone that shares the same idea as you, fall in love, marry them and live happily ever after.

3. Budget for After your wedding first. save up for the first two year after your wedding and plan what you're going to be doing in that amount of time. too many couples have no long term goals, until when the veil is off and baby is on the way after the honey moon. you are now finding out that your wife, and you together don't earn enough to build your a house. so the struggle is just beginning.

4. Never get conned into wasting money on anything that will only be used ONCE.

5. Set Objectives for your wife to be. Tell her you want her to have X amount in her account post wedding. Then you double it for her.

6. there is a direct correlation between High Priced weddings and Divorce. For those of you whose parents have reached the 40 year benchmark together, ask your mum how much they spend and calculate it with inflation and you will see that, it isn't really that much. My dad bought a small goat and there were a total 20 people at his wedding. They've been together for almost 35 years now, and i can ask them for Millions and it won't be a problem.

7. Emphasize what you want, its not a fight to know what you want. Have fun and save money for honeymoon too. Because that all you're doing at the wedding. show up, say I do, carry your wife and go. everything else is for her, her family and your family. and make sure you find time to hit it before the reception..... best advice ever.


@ OP Wedding = Budget not necessary
Life = budget Needed.


wedding is just a formality.

agarawu23:
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The only way you can have a low key wedding is if you present yourself and your bride to the imam or pastor and ask to be joined in holy matrimony in the presence of your parents and few relatives. A maximum of 10people and you buy light refreshments of meat pies and soft drinks. Any thing aside that ain't low key anymore. It simply becomes an ariya repete

As a JJC in the marriage arena. Here are the few tips that helped my wife and I have a memorable day that is absolutely debt free and with minimum financial burden.

1. Make GOD the "Chief Planner.

2. Make sure you're marrying the right woman! This is the most important of all the factors i'm going to mention.

3. Don't under-rate the tailor sewing your native attires! My suit(s) and my wife's wedding gown cost less than 50k. Designers aren't what will make your home sweet

4. Make a detailed list of everything you need and start WORKING towards achieving them 6 months before the day. Mind the #Working

5. Prune the "Engagement List" to the barest minimum! The ONLY important item is the "BRIDE PRICE"

6. Never borrow ANY amount from anybody! Even if you lend 1k from some peeps they'll make it look like they sponsored ur wedding.

7. Do MOST of the shopping yourself! Some peeps you think are your best pals are actually out to fleece you dry.

8. Never forget the 1st tip...

Will add more as i remember

donpata:
My Budget based on my area
1. Pre introduction visit (acquaintance and recieving of list of items) - N40000
2. Introduction (Items to purchase) - N40000
3. Bride price - N50000
4. Cards - N10000
5. Jotter/Program - N20000
6. DJ - 20000
7. MC - 20000
8. Cow - 80000
9. Food - 20000
10. Venue (Church Premises canpopy/decor) - 30000
11. TP (Brides people) - 20000
12. Drinks - 20000
13. Wedding gown - 20000
14. Box and contnts - 70000
16. Cake - 30000
15. Miselaneous - 50000
TOTAL - N530000
That's an average wedding for an average guy as me in my area.
NB: Except dem witches dey follow u frm villa, u will find out that many of the things i listed will b taken care of by your family, friends and relatives. Personally, i know i wont spend beyond 300k frm my pocket. Things like cow, drinks, cake, decor, canopies, jotter among others are virtually settled issue. Family will take charge.
Actually, is easier if u got alot of family members and friends trying to come in. Church members will also come in. Most times, u dont bear the burden alone.

You too sabi Marriage & Planning Economics. Send me your name, full name, Date of Birth and O'level result. I wan dash you B. Sc. Marriage Planning and Economics.

Alezy:
don't worry, when the time comes, we will see how serious u re with this philosophy

sure its not far,,just 3yrs from now.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...

If the wedding reception is going to be done in the girl's compound, her mom is going to handle the catering, her sis or friends the cake, wedding dress done by the able fashionista at the backyard, friends and family paying for their dresses, decoration done DIY, uncle olumide taking care of the drinks and the crowd is greatly controlled...with 300k, u will take your dream girl home. I swear!

Nice 1... Am actually planning something like this come this year Match and I don't even have a dim at the moment. May God help me out.

emmijes3:
. Mind blowing ke,...shey dem go follow us dey settle debt...Bleep d ceremony...my wedding won't be over the top..just family friends,nd relatives....I don't mind just goint to da registry.get da wedding cert nd home..mumsi keeps saying ""god forbid" though

The highlighted is one of the biggest problems intending couples do face, mostly from the bride's side. There is a hidden competition among these mothers on whose daughter's wedding will outshine.

Only if intending couples will listen; don't bend yourselves over for a dream wedding. It is, (I repeat) it is not worth it. The success of your marriage and the peace within it is more important than what people think of your wedding. In less than 2yrs, everything would have been forgotten. All that will be left is the couple and the challenges that everyday living presents.

bfatoba:
Marriage is not easy, yet it isn't hard either... but after reading many case studies on the topic matter, the pre wedding agreements seems to be the problem seeds thats planted in the relationship.

1. Be the man, decide your budget and stick to it, do not let the parents of the bride decide for you, how much you will spend. Neither should your wife to be. Once they've held their meeting and dictated to you and you agreed to whatever it is they've lobbyed, that will always be the trend in your marriage. it will be forever difficult to Dictate in your own house.

2. Marry within you level, people always say this as if its an insult but it isn't. You can marry a woman with 50K and she will be with you forever and you will make billions and children together. your wedding is not an investment that will yeild money in the near future. so look for someone that shares the same idea as you, fall in love, marry them and live happily ever after.

3. Budget for After your wedding first. save up for the first two year after your wedding and plan what you're going to be doing in that amount of time. too many couples have no long term goals, until when the veil is off and baby is on the way after the honey moon. you are now finding out that your wife, and you together don't earn enough to build your a house. so the struggle is just beginning.

4. Never get conned into wasting money on anything that will only be used ONCE.

5. Set Objectives for your wife to be. Tell her you want her to have X amount in her account post wedding. Then you double it for her.

6. there is a direct correlation between High Priced weddings and Divorce. For those of you whose parents have reached the 40 year benchmark together, ask your mum how much they spend and calculate it with inflation and you will see that, it isn't really that much. My dad bought a small goat and there were a total 20 people at his wedding. They've been together for almost 35 years now, and i can ask them for Millions and it won't be a problem.

7. Emphasize what you want, its not a fight to know what you want. Have fun and save money for honeymoon too. Because that all you're doing at the wedding. show up, say I do, carry your wife and go. everything else is for her, her family and your family. and make sure you find time to hit it before the reception..... best advice ever.


@ OP Wedding = Budget not necessary
Life = budget Needed.


wedding is just a formality.

ummmm are you seeing anybody ? lol

Its depends on financial bouyancy or thinking. From my experience your wedding ceremony can't be the most expensive for life time but for a while. For instance my wedlock was done 7years plus i got my wife the prettiest wedding gown i could afford worn just that day. My advice on wedding is moderacy because it is a school given a certificate before lectures or exams. 50k - 150K is manageable. Take her to registry, 6-10 witnessess is okay, take pictures for memory sakes and face what marriage entails after ceremony matters most not ceremony for a day.That is my opinion Loptos.

4 both engagement n white wedding,70-100k shud be enuf.just make ur parent's parlour ur hall n ur papa compound ur reception area.it's cool 4 a lowkey

anumide:



this your proposal tie wrapper o. e wear Gucci sef

you dey shy to answer me abi?

I go wait na.

In Nigeria we are yet to know d many plusses an efficient wedding planner can give us...An planner knows lot of vendors,that is,DJs,photo n video graphers,caterers,bakers,decorators etc and can get u the cheapest deal possible. A planner take care of every tiny details from d onset till d and of d event...yeah even down to making sure ur honeymoon room is well setup..d music flowers wine etc... A planner is quite conversant and experiences with market prices and where to shop at a lower cost.. A planner who is a good budgetor will ensure ure not cheated and that you don't spend excessively..A good planner can work with any budget and still give you a wow event.. with good experiences sense of management you don't have..your guests will think you actually spent much more than you did...I've budgeted and planned weddings on a budget of 200k..it was a wow event..d guests till date have refused to believe d groom spent just 200k..Whatever your budget is..we can make it work. you don't have to spend millions before you cab have a good wedding.... Call Lady J on 08038824959..to coordinate that wedding or any event for you asap .. we just take d stress off you...xoxo