IamMissMarvel:
One would expect this from ladies in their 30s, but my observation is that ladies in their 20s also experience this.

There are lots of wrong decisions that could be takdn just because "all your friends are getting married". Many have rushed into the marriage band wagon so they don't get left out a d quickly jumped out.

So here are pointers that could help, especially for the ladies.

1. Think about why you want to get married. You may know you're ready for the ring...but what exactly is it about marriage that is important to you? Do a little soul-searching and decide if you just want the big party all your friends are having or if there's more to it than that (we're guessing there is). It can be good to articulate those reasons to your partner if you're discussing your own wedding timeline, or just to remind yourself that wanting to be married isn't silly or frivolous.

2. Reward yourself for going to wedding showers, bachelorette parties, and weddings. Pick out a killer new dress, get a blowout and a pedi, buy that new mascara you've been wanting to try...the point is to give yourself something to look forward to during wedding season! Feeling good about yourself can really help get you through the small talk, shower games, and awkward questions about when you're getting engaged.

3. Try not to hate on weddings and marriage. Look, you don't have to love weddings as much as we do, but we hope you can agree that they are often beautiful rituals that mean a lot to those involved. So stop rolling your eyes about the Mason jars (does that really make you feel better?) and try to focus on the couple and their happiness.

4. Stay off of social media. Maybe 150 years ago, people had All the Feelings after reading ye olde engagement announcements in the newspaper...but our guess is the rise of the engagement ring selfie on Facebook has made things considerably harder for twentysomethings who are eager to get married. If you need to hide a few friends on FB or avoid your Instagram feed for a few days, that's OK!

5. Be honest about how you feel. It's completely understandable if you're a little jealous of your friends' weddings (or just the fact that they've found everlasting love). So own those feelings! If you're feeling a little bummed that your BFF just got engaged, you can say to her, "I am so, SO excited for you, but to be honest, your engagement brings up some things I'm not happy with in my own life/relationship and so I'm trying to work through that. I'll totally be here for you during the planning process, but I hope you can understand why sometimes I feel a bit bummed out!" You shouldn't ask her to make huge accommodations for you, but it's better to be up front about why you're feeling a little sulky.

6. Remember that every person and every couple is different. Listen: your life is awesome. We know that. You know that. Your marital status is such a small part of who you are, and while your future wedding sometimes feels like the most important thing, it's not. At all. So focus on your amazing friends, your cool job, your sweet new puppy, or the cool person you just started dating who maybe will turn into something more. Enjoy your life for what it is now, and be patient with the process.

Loverlies, how did you deal when you were feeling a little bummed about your friends' weddings?

RalphTheToner:
oga ur english n ur moniker go well >> DONT 'SAID' THAT,ur english teacher needs to be fired with immediate effect.

IamMissMarvel:


I feel if you can't tell this to your friend, then y'all are not really friends.

Your friend should know your own dating life or relationship isn't as sweet as hers, so some sensitivity and love should be shown.

Don't go all "bridezilla" and not expect bad belle friends.

Isn't it better you know how she is really feeling than for her to bottle it up inside?

You fit even hook her up with one of ur fiancé close friends wey be good guy and also single.

sonofananimal:
bros! the language your papa and mama dey speak before them born you na English

you go school go learn the language were them use take chain ya grandpapa for neck those days come here dey run mouth like Christmas chicken.

by the way! it is English and not english.


Ode.

odinese:
[size=20pt]why do ladies love posting
Stuffs like these, that deals with relationships and stuff??..... Don't get it thou, coz we guys
Have no time for bullshits like this.[/size]

TheSpellChecker:


You must be a fööl!

Someone pointed out an odious error of yours to you. What will it take for you to quietly go back and edit it and then send the person a note of thanks?

But no...

You won't admit to your mistakes. You won't ask for correction. Because you know you are never wrong.

So...

In the typical Nigerian truculent manner of reasoning, you feel slighted and then you come back and start claiming superiority and all-knowing with that stupÎd display of arrogance.

But in the process, you expose yourself by advertising your ignorance some more.

This is the same attitude that ruined the career of that man at the center of the oga-at-the-top saga, if you recall.

Sorry for you... and your English teacher.

5starmilitant:


You mean like this?

IamMissMarvel:


I feel if you can't tell this to your friend, then y'all are not really friends.

Your friend should know your own dating life or relationship isn't as sweet as hers, so some sensitivity and love should be shown.

Don't go all "bridezilla" and not expect bad belle friends.

Isn't it better you know how she is really feeling than for her to bottle it up inside?

You fit even hook her up with one of ur fiancé close friends wey be good guy and also single.

ShakurM:
Don't blame your friends for your unmarried status, why tell her about your relationship when she's getting married soon on one of the happiest days of her life, don’t spoil someone's mood. Save that discussion for another day biko. I really do not want friends like that

IamMissMarvel:


I never said you should blame o.

Menzy86:
I don't really understand what relationships are REALLY about these days. Who told you that your friend that is getting married before you is really "happier?" one thing I know for sure is that the definition of true love and happiness is one and usually has no additives. These days what is convenient for us is what we 'love'. And that's the ONLY reason girls get apprehensive cos of friends getting married. Moving with d trend is 'convenience' and not love. When you have got something special going, live in d present and keep it.

IamMissMarvel:

I never said you should blame o.

IamMissMarvel:

Loverlies, how did you deal when you were feeling a little bummed about your friends' weddings?