Pwettyella:

Seconded

sickstars:


Someone now tells me nairaland is a faceless forum

KINGinVAHALA:

I dnt get you?

Tkini:
I think I exhibit some of the characters of op girlfriend. av had 2 boyfriend's and they all complain DT am boring. the problem is DT I don't kW how to hold a conversation, it just gets boring and i actually don't av emotional feelings to anything or anybody. @op get to kW her and make her trust you she wld be able to confide in you. it may be DT she has be hurt by someone before and finds it difficult to love again,like me.
good luck.

sickstars:

I'm fine no need to call me

Menzy86:
jeeze seems we are of the same stock. I so much detest that attitude in people. Truth of d matter is that people that dont make effort to modify a behaviour u complain about in a rship dont love you! There is no point circumventing relity here. I am doing exactly what u suggested in my present rship n I know its d best for me. Thanks for the affirmation jare.

sickstars:

Me too
wen one is hurt sooooooooooooo mch
U just care bou ur happiness first

Menzy86:
jeeze seems we are of the same stock. I so much detest that attitude in people. Truth of d matter is that people that dont make effort to modify a behaviour u complain about in a rship dont love you! There is no point circumventing reality here. I am doing exactly what u suggested in my present rship n I know its d best for me. Thanks for the affirmation jare.

Tkini:

good.......how's school or work

Menzy86:
So because you have been hurt by someone in d past, u become stone cold hearted to your future partners? How does that change the past? And how are people so comfortable saying they have no emotions these days? I have been seriously hurt by two ladies in d past and actually caught d last one sleeping with someone else but that will never affect my desire to find a girl to still love later. The only thing is that nothing any woman does to me now can take me unawares. I urge u to open up again but just have reservations and while doing the much u can, expect less. The world is tasteless without love.

Ioannes:
have you met any of her family members? it could be a family issue.

she probably was sexually molested as a child and she withdrew into herself since then. and I'll bet maybe a family member, maybe an uncle or somebody did the molesting, hence the lack of emotions from her.

I thought you said you love her? so you gonna dump her like the rest of them.

what length have you gone to help her find a solution to this problem?

if you were in her shoes wouldn't you expect "him" to stand with you in your hour of need?

I'll suggest you try and get close to the family.

Tkini:

the problem av had in my r/p i s av given my love completely without reservation but the end result wasn't pretty......... my first ever r/p was in my 1st yr in sch I was very naive fresh outta sec sch and DT r/p mared my life till now.

Creamish:


It takes a whole lot to get someone to change a behaviour...especially a dominant behaviour. Even if she changes, it's only temporary till she gets what she wants - Marriage. Once she is married, she goes back to the way she has always been..

It's like what you guys drum in our ears daily...a man who cheats cannot change.. U cant change a man..bla bla bla.. What makes this case any different?

@OP... U know how she is. Decide if u can deal with it or not (all sentiments aside). If U can't, please move on. A more patient man/someone more compatible will come her way. That's the reality.

Mascotizer:


Eyah, dnt give up dear. All u need to do is to be humble enough to learn from ur past relationships. I was a very bad lover in my past relatioships, but over time i ve learnt a plethora of things...am nt there yet though, still av a lot to learn. But am better nw.

Tkini:

it's not abt not giving up......av tried a few times to see if it can still work, but apparently am not meant to have or be in a relationship. And for now I think am doing fine without any

Tkini:

the problem av had in my r/p i s av given my love completely without reservation but the end result wasn't pretty......... my first ever r/p was in my 1st yr in sch I was very naive fresh outta sec sch and DT r/p mared my life till now.

Roseey0:

That's what we all say. Love is a beautiful thing. All you need is someone thAt will patiently guide you cos it's not just your thing.
When you experience the real deal,u won't want to be out of relationship even if it's for a second.