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personally i think it is ok to "do" once in a blue moon. but there should be a restraint because it is not yet legally authorized. it is better i know the condition of ones state physically, mentally and otherwise. i do not want to regret anything afterwards.

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legally authorised?

Ask ya pastor

NO! It is NOT!
this is not Jand or yankee! no matter how much u try to trivialiase the issue, u can neva underplay the sanctity of the marriage bed.
Even if u make mistakes sometimes by listening to ur body instead of ur spirit, it doesnt mean u should believe u've done the right thing even though its not easy fighting ur emotions and feelings.
Remember that u cannot compare sexual sin with others because of what God says about it.
Dont try to form ur contrary opinion cos ur opinion does not change the truth and try and get books that will tell u the truth about issues like this.
Afterall if u are a male and believe u r a girl, it doesnt change the fact that u are a male and u cannot conceive.

so God doesnt say anything about other sins?

fornication is said to be worse than murder? Really?

@ TOH: I wouldn't even try convincing folk, they tend to "sin" selectively.

To be frank we are all wrong,cause outta 100% of guyz and girls here.99.9% of us had eaten the forbidden fruity.(Including I) so Lets fi le

YES!!! its okay for me.
As a man, i need to know we are sexually compatible
As a woman, wouldnt u want to know if he is impotent or not?

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Simple question with a simple answer hehe!

Its not ok, don't do it, sex outside marriage is against God's commandment, we all need to ask for forgiveness if we have been involved, GOd help us,

I'm quite interested to see there are people who believe sex is for marriage only, to be perfectly honest.

Apart from the fact that God frowns on premarital sex

i have found out that best to keep sex aside during courtship , sex sometimes give one the feeling that theres something there when truly there isnt .

It is important to find out if apart from sex, there is something else you like about eachother cos sex tends to cloud ur judgement of eachother.

Without sex , u can truly find out the stuff ur relationship is made of and truly how healthy ur relationship is.

A lot of relationships are based on sex, and the worst thing is that both parties know but they push the truth aside and forge on in a sick relationship which sometimes ends up in marriage and guess what happens months after they cant stand eachother , regrets , adultery .

A lot of people hardly have anything in common with their so called partners just sex , and when that sex is no longer forthcoming or becomes boring , u get sick of eachother and boredom can lead to all sorts

It is a fact that good life partners are getting extinct not even scarce so if you sleep with every boyfriend /girlfriend u have in ur lifetime how many people do u want to have slept with b4 you finally get hitched

I think its wise to leave some of u to urself and for ur future life partner and not give it all away just becos

Life is a gamble , so never mind the fear of not been compatible with ur partner when u both get married, u must learn to be sexually compatible!!!

MARRIAGE IS AN EFFORT

The Bible says Husband and Wife should not starve each of the thing.

But my question is, if one is hot on the bed and the other just lie there

like a log of wood with a hole in the middle, how can this Biblical injunction

be fulfilled? What do you do divorce her right after? Even car dealers allow

people to test drive the cars to make up their minds if they would rather buy

this one instead of the other. Again, the Bible says if you look at a sister and you feel like

doing the thing to her and if she has past the age of her flower then do

what you want to do then marry her. Of course I believe they are in courtship

because they want to get married.

Many people here are like the Duck Fowl, they eat and wipe their mouth on the floor

come out to the open and shout you must fast or you go to Hell Fire, Salvation is

important by early desire. Hypocritical hypocrites.

No, it's wrong!
Wait after marriage.

that is y i say run 4rm sex sin ,no oda sin affects d body as dis 1 does.wen u sin dis sin its agains ur own body. na bible talk dis one. so wat isnt gud has no oda name dan bad. but men its not easy

yeah its wrong to sleep wit ones partner during courtship, ur meant to do that b4 courtship

Its simple for those who are wise enough to know that God's ways is different from our ways . the stupidity of God is a million better than best of human wisdom . the name for it is FORNICATION .
Its as sinful as sin , take it or leave it .