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Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Nobody: 2:56pm On Mar 31, 2016
At 20, i have come to realise the joy and fulfilment in living life to the fullest. Coming from a noble home, i was not raised to be a man's stooge not to talk of an animal's. My worth was defined from the day i stepped into earth and has been shapened overtime. I was taught the right and the wrong. And that moral laws condone no breaker. If a woman must be condemned and despised for a crime, a man must by all means face the same. I believed this and i knew before God and men it was the truth. I didnt just believe, it became real to me and has influenced my judgement.

However, the society has flung half of this truth and has held on to a part because of how drunk in power it has become and the advantage this fist had fetched it.

We are aware now of this evil conditioning that a woman who sleeps around is a slut and should be desired less but a man who does same a stud and should be the craving of every woman. Many men have quietly nodded in agreement and a few mouthy ones have not failed to vocalise their agreement. And women? So many to the shame of dignity and womanhood have sang along with the men. And you wonder which would sacrifice her pride to make a stud!?

Because to make more studs we need more sluts. Can any of you women come out and offer yourself to a man who would dump you for another. If you cannot hold your peace and stupidity!

A stud is a man who is sexually attractive to so many women. So they say! but i see a stud as an animal who is unable to control its sexual desires, hates monogamous relationships and (therefore) deserves to be judged and condemned.


Women who say they are attracted to studs and hate inexperienced men need not only their heads examined but their consciences and should not take offence when they are called sluts. Cos only a slut or zombie would reason this way.


A stud has nothing tangible to offer except to toy with my emotion, cause me heart breaks and render me unproductive.

For every stud out there there are ten whores rendering my gender useless and subjecting me to prove myself as a woman of pride and esteem all the time. Nothanks.

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by firstEVA(f): 3:04pm On Mar 31, 2016
Op you want to be the one to teach him how to do? tongue


To me studs are are just studs, they should be allowed to serve their purpose then move onto the next. tongue

They are just date or boyfriend material, definitely not husband material, marry him at your own peril. tongue

You date the stud, then marry the good guy, simple. cool

grin

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by asadike(f): 3:04pm On Mar 31, 2016
I don hear. Good for u but how will u know?

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by akinloluwao: 3:05pm On Mar 31, 2016
How will you know the man that has slept with many women? may God help you.

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Mynd44: 3:07pm On Mar 31, 2016
*sighs* someone else falls to societal pressure.

Before you turn on me, societal pressure happens if pressure fromthe society makes you take actions/decision solely based on the overwhelming influence of your society.

A man who has slept with a lot of people (male or female) is not a stud, he is merely a man with a colorful sex life.

A woman who has had (or has) a lot of people(male or female) she sleeps with is not a slut, she is simply living out her sexuality.

If you allow society corner you into taking a myopic decision, you are not doing me or society, you are doing yourself tongue tongue

If you find a man that you like and likes you but has a "colorful" past, it is not a big deal as long as he is willing to be faithful and understand that he is with you now.

The same way if a man finds a woman with an active sexual past(or present sef) she is not a slut.

As ling as you are happy, stay happy with the person you find happiness with. Dont allow the bullcrap society says get to you.


*goes back to sipping Lipton*

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Peacefulgold(m): 3:08pm On Mar 31, 2016
See long talk...definitely u r going to marry a liar or u remain unmarried....u for enter convent at least na there u for dey useful pass... Nonsense....

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by obiorathesubtle: 3:09pm On Mar 31, 2016
*yawns*


More bitter bxtches wearing out my lenses with endless nagging..


Prepare to die single, kid!

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Nobody: 3:11pm On Mar 31, 2016
I was all amen sister amen!!!
Yeeessss tell it!!!!......

Until you called the female version of the"stud" (player/love-vendor whatever they callin' themselves these days)a hoe.
That derogatory term is hung on the necks of women to shame us for daring to do as our male counterparts do.
To degrade us.
You speak against conformation to this but you make some to wear this tag

IF a sexually liberal woman is a hoe then A sexually liberal MAN IS A HOE!!!

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Creamish(f): 3:11pm On Mar 31, 2016
Mynd44:
*sighs* someone else falls to societal pressure.
Before you turn on me, societal pressure happens if pressure fromthe society makes you take actions/decision solely based on the overwhelming influence of your society.
A man who has slept with a lot of people (male or female) is not a stud, he is merely a man with a colorful sex life.
A woman who has had (or has) a lot of people(male or female) she sleeps with is not a slut, she is simply living out her sexuality.
If you allow society corner you into taking a myopic decision, you are not doing me or society, you are doing yourself tongue tongue
If you find a man that you like and likes you but has a "colorful" past, it is not a big deal as long as he is willing to be faithful and understand that he is with you now.
The same way if a man finds a woman with an active sexual past(or present sef) she is not a slut.
As ling as you are happy, stay happy with the person you find happiness with. Dont allow the bullcrap society says get to you.
*goes back to sipping Lipton*

I was going to say sumthing very similar to your post till I saw your post... My thoughts exactly.

Don't let the society define you. This is the same reason why I don't characterize myself under any umbrella/organization. I live my life the way I deem fit...even if the society frowns at it. Its my headache..not theirs.

OP.. U owe no one any explanation rily. Keep an open mind..U just might be the reason why he became a better man.

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Nobody: 3:12pm On Mar 31, 2016
firstEVA:
Op you want to be the one to teach him how to do? tongue


To me studs are are just studs, they should be allowed to serve their purpose then move onto the next. tongue

They are just date or boyfriend material, definitely not husband material, marry him at your own peril. tongue

You date the stud, then marry the good guy, simple. cool

grin

You make me shake my head in pity!

If the article was talking about a man refusing a slut you would aplaud him but here you are saying a stud is a stud. Speaking lightly of something evil. No no and no

I would not encourage philandering, every man should respect himself.

I refuse to be used! Thank u! smiley

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by FlawlessRebirth2(f): 3:14pm On Mar 31, 2016
SOME PPLE SHA



SO HOW ARE YOU GOING TO KNOW? EVEN IF HE LIE TO YOU

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by dayowunmi(m): 3:15pm On Mar 31, 2016
Gender equality abi, And how will you decipher a player from a Virgin? Except you rely on his testimony! And the fact that female virgins are scarce nowadays also means male virgins are scarce. Finally...may God help you in your quest.

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by jaybee3(m): 3:17pm On Mar 31, 2016
Abeg define several since it can be loosely used

BTW: Having all sort of conditions/restrictions actually reduces the chance of finding a suitable man/woman
#Justsaying

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Nobody: 3:20pm On Mar 31, 2016
Mynd44:
*sighs* someone else falls to societal pressure.

Before you turn on me, societal pressure happens if pressure fromthe society makes you take actions/decision solely based on the overwhelming influence of your society.

A man who has slept with a lot of people (male or female) is not a stud, he is merely a man with a colorful sex life.

A woman who has had (or has) a lot of people(male or female) she sleeps with is not a slut, she is simply living out her sexuality.

If you allow society corner you into taking a myopic decision, you are not doing me or society, you are doing yourself tongue tongue

If you find a man that you like and likes you but has a "colorful" past, it is not a big deal as long as he is willing to be faithful and understand that he is with you now.

The same way if a man finds a woman with an active sexual past(or present sef) she is not a slut.

As ling as you are happy, stay happy with the person you find happiness with. Dont allow the bullcrap society says get to you.


*goes back to sipping Lipton*
Well you are redefining what they society has made everyone believe. People dont just do things because it makes them "happy" there are so many factors they consider too.

Ntwithstanding, thanks for contributing still doesnt stop me from staying away from them cos my life is bigger than "personal happiness"

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Eddygourdo(m): 3:21pm On Mar 31, 2016
After all this epistle, a mumu stud will be sleeping with you, while you friendzone the good man in a no sex till marriage agreement.

Women never know Wat they want in life and whenever one sees a woman who says she does. One has just seen the most clueless of the lot

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Mynd44: 3:22pm On Mar 31, 2016
Stupedinluv:
Well you are redefining what they society has made everyone believe. People dont just do things because it makes them "happy" there are so many factors they consider too.

Ntwithstanding, thanks for contributing still doesnt stop me from staying away from them cos my life is bigger than "personal happiness"
How can your life be bigger than your personal happiness?

What is your goal if not happiness? undecided

Abeg make I go sleep

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by jaybee3(m): 3:24pm On Mar 31, 2016
Stupedinluv:
Well you are redefining what they society has made everyone believe. People dont just do things because it makes them "happy" there are so many factors they consider too.

Ntwithstanding, thanks for contributing still doesnt stop me from staying away from them cos my life is bigger than "personal happiness"

Personal Happiness is the ultimate by-product of whatever goals/fulfillment, No?

Why bother strive for greatness if you aren't gonna be personally fulfilled?

Who do you do whatever you do for?

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by jaybee3(m): 3:25pm On Mar 31, 2016
Mynd44:

How can your life be bigger than your personal happiness?

What is your goal if not happiness? undecided

Abeg make I go sleep

That singular statement makes the whole thread deluded sef

I just weak

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Mynd44: 3:26pm On Mar 31, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
I was all amen sister amen!!!
Yeeessss tell it!!!!......

Until you called the female version of the"stud" (player/love-vendor whatever they callin' themselves these days as)a hoe.
That derogatory term/ ugly in hung on the necks of women to shame us for daring to do as our male counterparts do.
To degrade us.
You speak against conformation to this but you make some to wear this tag

IF a free woman is a hoe then A LOOSE MAN IS A HOE!!!


There is nothing like a "free woman" or a "loose man"

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Nobody: 3:26pm On Mar 31, 2016
Mynd44:

How can your life be bigger than your personal happiness?

What is your goal if not happiness? undecided

Abeg make I go sleep

Personal happiness in quotes o because what people call happiness today is just temporary joy.

To be completely happy or happy on the long run you must think through so many things.

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Nobody: 3:29pm On Mar 31, 2016
Mynd44:


There is nothing like a "free woman" or a "loose man"

What.That ain't the point.
Live ya life how you will,it's yours I get no say.
Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Nobody: 3:30pm On Mar 31, 2016
jaybee3:


Personal Happiness is the ultimate by-product of whatever goals/fulfillment, No?

Why bother strive for greatness if you aren't gonna be personally fulfilled?

Who do you do whatever you do for?

I am striving for greatness to be really happy in future and one of my watchdogs is to avoid emotional setbacks.

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Mynd44: 3:31pm On Mar 31, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
What.That ain't the point.
Live ya life how you will,it''s yours I get no say.
Yes live your life without anyone getting the right to call you a hoe or stud.

Abeg, hoe is a farm implement
Stud is a place for breeding horses.

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by firstEVA(f): 3:33pm On Mar 31, 2016
Stupedinluv:


You make me shake my head in pity!

If the article was talking about a man refusing a slut you would aplaud him but here you are saying a stud is a stud. Speaking lightly of something evil. No no and no

I would not encourage philandering, every man should respect himself.

I refuse to be used! Thank u! smiley

everyone serves a purpose, the studs aren't left out.

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by jaybee3(m): 3:34pm On Mar 31, 2016
Stupedinluv:


I am striving for greatness to be really happy in future and one of my watchdogs is to avoid emotional setbacks.
Being happy is a present continuous derivative we are meant to derive every step of the way

There hasn't been any mathematical formula that can predict potential emotional setback so in that light you just have to stick to your good values and hope whoever you decide to settle down with share similar values

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by ClassCaptain(m): 3:34pm On Mar 31, 2016
Mynd44:
Yes live your life without anyone getting the right to call you a hoe or stud.
Abeg, hoe is a farm implement Stud is a place for breeding horses.
omo baba comment oo.. I think say oga don close the thread be that

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by deyemia: 3:35pm On Mar 31, 2016
firstEVA:
Op you want to be the one to teach him how to do? tongue


To me studs are are just studs, they should be allowed to serve their purpose then move onto the next. tongue

They are just date or boyfriend material, definitely not husband material, marry him at your own peril. tongue

You date the stud, then marry the good guy, simple. cool

grin

please tell me, how will she know the number of women the guy has had? I lost my own count and I still respect women feelings..

anyway sha, she's just 20, dem just start to toast her

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Nobody: 3:37pm On Mar 31, 2016
MrWhaley:

Hoe ko ...Shovel ni.
Aunty,stop being delusional please...


Mynd44:

Yes live your life without anyone getting the right to call you a hoe or stud.

Abeg, hoe is a farm implement
Stud is a place for breeding horses.
Yeah.Tell that to the folks that hurl them with the intent
ta break the bones of woman.
Because despite what they say words can an do hurt us.
An please don't pretend as if you don't know that one presented as a medal the other in shame

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by firstking01(m): 3:37pm On Mar 31, 2016
Btw, how would you know a man who has slept with several womenundecided??

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by cr7lomo: 3:43pm On Mar 31, 2016
I understand your plight... U still a baby and babies are usually rebellious and confused, especially ladies... I hv nothing to say to u as of today until experience comes as ur lesson teacher to take u on a course called " LIFE"

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by Maxi112: 3:45pm On Mar 31, 2016
firstEVA:
Op you want to be the one to teach him how to do? tongue


To me studs are are just studs, they should be allowed to serve their purpose then move onto the next. tongue

They are just date or boyfriend material, definitely not husband material, marry him at your own peril. tongue

You date the stud, then marry the good guy, simple. cool

grin
can u just listen to ur self ma'ma!
U date stud and marry the good guy


after d stud done chop finish u then carry d raminat to ur husbands house Abi



oh God protect my future wife wherever she is.. cause I don't no what this world is turning in to

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Re: Why I Will Never Marry A Man That Has Slept With Several Women. by oloyede252(m): 3:46pm On Mar 31, 2016
Op God will help you.cos you need serious help.nairaland has distroy your mentality and morals.ehh ya
sorry God is with you

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