whitelexi:

Well, go ahead then and keep checking everyone out, but u need to know that some of we naija men absolutely hate it when a woman sticks her nose into what does not concern her.

When you have just started seeing someone, there will always be loose ends to tie up, there will always be girls on the side whose relationship have to be tidied out. . .  

u dont just come into someone's life and start placing tabs on them or start posting pictures of the 2 of u everywhere to scare off other women, leave him to tidy things out first - the time for all that will come when you will be free to post anything and have his support. . .  

u have no right to call up his friends to ask or gossip about him - without his permission, that is just unacceptable - u have no right to do that. . .

u have no right to curse him to his face, once is good enough to let u go - no matter what he feels for u at that stage, he can decide not to put up with that part of u. It doesnt make him thin-skinned or less of a man, no, it is a way of avoiding stress which will be caused by u when the relationship matures.

Finally, it may be worth your while to know that u dont force things when u've only just started a relationship, u need to turn a blind eye for a period of time and then slowly start asserting your control otherwise u create a wrong impression at an early stage. Keeping tabs on your husband is different from keeping tabs on a bf u only just started seeing.

In all u do though, i still wish u the best, however if he's a naija man, it may not go far until u learn to accord a good level of respect.

whitelexi:

Me thinks u drove him to another woman with your cursing and name-calling. . .  I told u earlier that it was a silly thing to place all those tabs in the first place, i think when a man discovers that his partner does not as much as trust him in a relationship - the result is usually simple and straight-forward.

Beyonce sang a very silly song and called it irreplaceable, truth of the matter is that no woman is irreplaceable - no matter how good she is. . .  If one woman cannot replace u, 2, 3, or 4 will make up for all your abilities - it is not that easy for a woman to do the same. Some men will tolerate your mess for longer than other men, but some will not tolerate it at all.  If i were him, i'd have walked a long time ago.

davidylan:

why old men and women are playing around on facebook makes me wonder. At 40 your life shld not be on facebook!

prittigrrr:

You do not need to "fight for your man." The man should be fighting to prove himself to you. Any man you have to fight another lady for is not worth having.

hotteju:


You would be surprised to know how seriously some people take Facebook
To me Facebook has done more harm than good
I can't begin to count how many relationships have crashed because of Facebook
@poster

Only you can advice yourself
cos no matter what anyone says here
you would still have to listen to your heart
wish you the best!!!

TEXASGIRL:

I love my boyfriend very much. I have meet his family and spend the weekends at his home. I have also meet his daughter. Everything has been perfect until this weekend. In the middle of the night his phone kept ringing. I tried to turn it off and saw a message from some other girl. I looked at all of his messages (he is very angry I did this). I found that he is still involved with a woman from Nigeria. She lives in his home there, and he says they have a business dealings. He says he has tried to break it off with her but she will not go easily. The messages I read were all innocent, like call me etc,  When we first started dating he a picture of her on his facebook. When I asked about it he took it off. He also has pictures of another woman on his facebook but states she is a friend on his comments. I do know his sister in law is trying to hook him up with her.
The next day when I put up pictures of he and I that said my love he removed them. He says the girl in Nigeria will take his money if she hears about it. I messaged another woman on his page who posted "I miss U". She says she has been seeing him on and off for a couple of years. He was so angry I did that he blocked me from his page! I feel justified in what I did as I was trying to decide if he was a cheater & whether I should continue the relationship.
He would barely speak to me the next two days, he acts like this is all my fault. I called him (while drinking) and told him he was stupid to do that to me & called him an a**. He says he is not sure if he wants to continue the relationship and will not tell me "I love you". Finally last night he said he does want to be with me still and we will come back together like we used to be. I am a very attractive woman, and could easily move on. But, I love this man. I feel like he is my soul mate. Am I being stupid by wanting to continue the relationship? Is he a cheater? Was I wrong for what I did? Any advice is greatly appreciated. I do not know how things work in Nigeria, but we occasionally have misunderstandings due to our cultural differences.

TEXASGIRL:

Well it's done. haven't spoke to him in 2 days. I've meet someone else already too. Maybe this one will be a good man. Nigerian again, I must like ya'll. Lol. Honestly I really appreciate how kind and happy the Nigerians I have meet are. Also, how God fearing and smart. I guess that is the positive I gained from this experience. The ability to see another culture and way of life. Thank everyone for the advice & support. Very appreciated. Much love & all God's blessings!

Wow! You met another man in 2 days already? You haven't even been able to sort the other relationship out -- at least amicably. Well, you must have them quite handy. If you could easily have men in a relationship as you want, now I'm wondering . . . . . Wow!

TheSeeker:

Wow! You met another man in 2 days already? You haven't even been able to sort the other relationship out -- at least amicably. Well, you must have them quite handy. If you could easily have men in a relationship as you want, now I'm wondering . . . . . Wow!

na2day?:

it is never too late for u to join the line, i am sure she will consider u if this other one dont work out

TEXASGIRL:

Lol, I told you I was attractive. See men are replacable just as women. I'll make sure never to curse in front of this one, just for ya'll.

na2day?:

it is never too late for u to join the line, i am sure she will consider u if this other one dont work out 

LMAO!!! Really? What about you? Oh I remember we made a choice sometime ago that you'd get to heaven and reserve a space for me, if women were going to send men to hell; given that you can do that before me, I'd like us to follow suit with this one. Be on the line first, I'll be at your back.

Kelvinj:

C'mon, watz ar u guyz beefing 4? Or haz d advice turn 2 quarrelz as usual?