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Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 11:42am On Apr 16, 2016 |
garfield16: First of all, who says that a woman who sleeps with married men can't have a husband who respects her? Secondly, you don't know me so keep your comments about my self-esteem to yourself. We are discussing the topic here, not my self-esteem. A woman involved with a married man is worse than a street prostitute. You are entitled to your opinion but it is just an opinion and nothing more. How would you feel knowing your mother was sleeping with a married man? if you think that's ok then I have nothing further to add. Her life, her choices. Respect yourselves. Again! I am married so it's not about me and women consciously choose to milk married men and whether you consider them this or that does not matter as long as there is some cash flow. It's the oldest profession in the world. if you are sleeping with a married man sneaking around and going home to an empty bed while he goes home to his wife, then you have no self respect or low self esteem. For your information, many women are happy he goes back home to his wife who has to do his laundry while they are enjoying his money. Not your business. Married men will always try it but because something is available or on offer does not mean it is right. Who says it is wrong? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by abbey621(m): 11:43am On Apr 16, 2016 |
Two things are pertinent to this situation. Firstly, in a sane society this is called assault and battery and the wife should be in jail. Next, it is only a shameless woman that would do something like this, real women don't go fighting outside because their men cheated. They rather confront the man, leave or make life miserable for him to the point that he has no time for promiscuity again. Finally, this single act of stupidity rarely solves anything, most times it gives the man confidence to cheat more as the consequences goes to the mistress not him. 5 Likes |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Amberon11: 11:44am On Apr 16, 2016 |
we are not talking of medieval archaic barbaric societies governed by the myopic sharia law. we are talking of modern western societies.And even at that, the sharia law is gender biased when it has to with adultery and the likes. The women gets stoned to death while the men only receive lashes. This is an established fact. pinceprinz: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 11:45am On Apr 16, 2016 |
Amberon11:+----------------Established fact? Can people get any dvmber? |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Silumi(f): 11:46am On Apr 16, 2016 |
Any woman who follows a married man lacks the fear of God and so deserves anything heathen act done to her for daring to come between what the lord has joined together. D gal never see anything next tym if she see married man she go fly. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Bluffly: 11:47am On Apr 16, 2016 |
mimzy: There are several sides to such events. There is. Possibility of vodoo, physical seduction, or the husband is flirting naturally or the husband don't wan anything to do with the wife again. There are ladies who purposely invade marriages too. Taking out vegeance on concubines depends on the way it happened. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 11:50am On Apr 16, 2016 |
Mindfulness: let me say this to you, we all sin, we lie, we steal, we do bad things but the difference between a good person and a bad person, a morally upright person and an immoral person is that a good person, a person with good morals knows right from wrong even when they are doing something bad. You my dear are clearly an immoral person and I feel sorry for your husband who married a woman with low morals, because for sure you will cheat on him. Furthermore I feel sorry for your kids and the kind of values you will instill in them. 1 Like |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by AyeeIdris(f): 11:50am On Apr 16, 2016 |
daretodiffer: Usually I agree with u but on this? Nah. Go after the one you signed the dotted lines with How many women will one fight? The concubine owes no obligation to the wife. 1 Like |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by MarieSucre(f): 11:52am On Apr 16, 2016 |
olrotimi: What happened to his own moral decency to not have an affair at all? Did they put a gun to his dick? So he knows that another woman cooks yam for him and he decides to go and share it with another woman se? Do you know how painful it is for your husband to disregard the vows he made to you because of outside punanii? perhaps after laboring together, setting the home, polishing and grooming the man and perhaps making him what he is today. Do you also consider her children? How would they feel? Violence is wrong, very wrong but hey gentlemen, prevention is always better than cure. When a you're a married man stay faithful to your vows! Cos whatever comes after that, na ur headache **edited 3 Likes |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by freecocoa(f): 11:55am On Apr 16, 2016 |
The mistress is a mumu sha, that's the only reason this woman and her goons will go scot free. 4 Likes |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 11:55am On Apr 16, 2016 |
garfield16: Then the "good person" who knows right from wrong should burn in hell fire as they know what is right and what is wrong and STILL go and do it whereas the "bad people" don't even know. Forgive them for they know not what they do. You my dear are clearly an immoral person and I feel sorry for your husband who married a woman with low morals, f furthermore I feel sorry for your kids and the kind of values you will instill in them. Bla, bla, bla ... do you really think that I care what people here think about me, especially someone who can't answer a simple question without attacking my persona? Let me give you another chance: Why should single people respect the institution of marriage? 2 Likes |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Ngokafor(f): 11:58am On Apr 16, 2016 |
garfield16: ..You sound really terrible.Just read what you just typed to a stranger just because she is of the view that in an adulterous relationship,the concubine should not be blamed alone!...And you think you are morally up-right??...i think your wife deserves more pity cos she married or will marry a man who believes in adultery for men 3 Likes |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by freecocoa(f): 11:58am On Apr 16, 2016 |
daretodiffer:With all due respect, you are the extremely dumb one here. If the assaulted happened to be a relative of mine, walai that woman and her gang would have been regretting the day they were born by now. 4 Likes |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 11:59am On Apr 16, 2016 |
Silumi: First of all, not every human being shares your religious beliefs. Secondly, if God is so angry with the person who crosses his plans, why not leave the punishment to him? 1 Like |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 11:59am On Apr 16, 2016 |
Mindfulness: That's the problem with our society, we do not care about other people as far as your question, read my previous posts, I already answered from the start: because married people are out of bounds and there are many single people. So the only reason to be involved with a married person is for material gain or if one does not have self respect or has low self esteem. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Ngokafor(f): 11:59am On Apr 16, 2016 |
freecocoa: ....i dey tell you |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by doveda: 12:01pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
freecocoa: With al due respect, you are a bigger dumbo Read the post I quoted,let it sink in. Then read mine. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 12:02pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
Ngokafor: Please follow the discussion not what you want to discuss or think was said. that is not what she said and I did not say only the concubine should be blamed, please show me a post where I said so, in fact I specifically said in my 1st comment in this thread that the husband is equally at fault. I said single people should respect marraiges and stay off married people because there are plenty single people out there and she responded by saying "why should single people respect marriages". that last comment is what started it all my discussion with her is not about whether the husband is to blame or not it is about single people respecting themselves and staying away from married people. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 12:03pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
Ngokafor: Thank you. The problem is that people think that everyone shares their views on marriage and that everyone shares their religious beliefs when in fact not everyone considers marriage a holy institution. Moreover, some people believe in polygamy and so see nothing wrong with a person having multiple partners. What is so difficult in accepting that everyone has a different set of beliefs? 1 Like |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by freecocoa(f): 12:07pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
doveda:I guess you are the same person as daretodiffer, I read both posts and walai, you dumb gan. 1 Like |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Amberon11: 12:08pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
you just might be the smartest male on NL. I'm surprised a lot of folks sanction this babaric inhumane act of wickedness. This goes to show our level of moral bankruptcy. joseph1832: 1 Like |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 12:09pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
garfield16: I care about many people but what some strangers online think about me is none of my business. You can judge me as much as you want, I love myself and that's all that matters. as far as your question, read my previous posts, I already answered from the start: because married people are out of bounds and there are many single people. So the only reason to be involved with a married person is for material gain or if one does not have self respect or has low self esteem. No, these are not the only reasons. It happens that people fall in love with people who are already married. That's life. And there are also people who believe in polygamy. Some people get involved with married people because some married folks lie about their marital status. Other people do not respect the institution called marriage because they do not share your religious beliefs (I guess your views on marriage are based on your religion). |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 12:09pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
Mindfulness: fine have your own views about marriage but if you go and interfere in the marriage of a woman who holds a monogamist and "holy" view on her marriage, then you be prepared for the consequences. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 12:10pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
garfield16: Don't worry about me. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by doveda: 12:11pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
AyeeIdris: I used to tow that line but when you read about women who purposely set on making married couples break their vows, you would realise that it is better to blame both parties for working together to break the marriage. The man owes an obligation to his wife. He set out to break it. The mistress knew but could care less. He didn't cheat with himself. He had to do it with someone else. But then, mindfulness's perspective is quite convincing. Why indeed should single women respect the institution of marriage? Outside moral(which is subjective) or religious reason, I am afraid I can't see other reason why mistresses should be held accountable. I am not saying that she should have attacked the woman. She might just end up with jail for what she has done. @Mindfulness, I like your point of view. Why should single people |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 12:11pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
Mindfulness: That's a stupid argument, you cannot fall in love with someone before you meet someone, if you meet someone and you know they are married a right hinking woman will walk away so don't put yourself in a position to fall in love. What you call "fall in love", I call having no self respect or low self esteem because a good woman would not put herself in a position to even fall in love with a married man. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Ngokafor(f): 12:12pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
garfield16: ....With all due respect,you are still wrong...instead of mouthing of that single people should respect the sanctity of marriage,saying that folks(both married and single,male or female) should respect the sanctity of marriage makes more sense.... .More for married folks cos they are the ones that took a vow before God and man.I would say the same if the roles were reversed and it is between a married woman and a single guy..good-bye. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by freecocoa(f): 12:13pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
Ngokafor:just imagine the nonsense. I don't get how anyone thinks it's okay to treat someone like this because they supposedly slept with your husband. He's your husband and so? How is that my business? What if I only like sleeping with married men? Just where is that a crime in the constitution? |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 12:14pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
garfield16: You can meet someone at work and fall in love with them. Some people fall in love at first sight. And again, some people see nothing wrong with falling in love with married people because they believe in polygamy or do not see marriage the way you see it. |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by doveda: 12:14pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
freecocoa:Mo sin yin je ma |
Re: A Concubine Should Not Be Made To Pay For The Sins Of A Cheating Spouse!!! by Nobody: 12:14pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
Ngokafor: dont be a ret ard, ofcourse married people should respect their own marraiges but you responded to my comment about single people. If a married man wants to disrespect himself and his wife and his marriage by having an affair it does not mean a single person should join him/her. |
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