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Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 11:54pm On May 19, 2016 |
amiskurie:Ugwu is more practical than flowers. Flowers are as old as the earth so our forefathers could have easily offered their love interests flowers IF that was part of our culture. What they gave to show affection is what you have mentioned up there, so please don't use flowers as a comparison. If a man gives. me flowers, I will dump it in the wastebin as soon as he turns his back because I have no use for it. Find out what your partner likes and give her! Let us stop all these yeye oyibo copy copy. Buy her plantain, yam, crayfish, palm oil, lovely cards and so on. THAT, for me, is what being romantic is all about 4 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by cococandy(f): 5:24am On May 20, 2016 |
raumdeuter: Why don't we see you guys preaching when it's the turn of Nigerian women to be insulted and labels as hoes and all sorts of derogatory names imaginable? Mtchew. Or you want us to pretend we don't see the misogyny being imbibed into these younger generation of boys so you won't be upset about our complaining? 4 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by PinketteDawn: 5:58am On May 20, 2016 |
darkenedrebel: Thank you! |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by shaybebaby(f): 7:52am On May 20, 2016 |
Onegai:Don't you worry about Baby E. I am raising N to be a fine specimen of manhood and I'm sure lots of other women like us will do the same for our children. We will be coming for Baby E's hand in due course. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by YourCoffin: 8:48am On May 20, 2016 |
How can s/th that's a farce have values? |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by postmann: 9:00am On May 20, 2016 |
joseph1832: [b]You noticed what I noticed, brother. If only the internet have eyes; if only words are true mirror reflecting the writer, maybe some of these kids will stick to writing jamb or doing house chores. But they're taking the advantage of the faceless forum and the vulnerability of the female mind...they know what these females want to hear. It's a game, a ploy, a stratagem to hoodwink, to always be on the side of the proposed targets; to fall in line, to be of a good reckoning, to earn the praise of these ignorant women; and yes to massage an acute inferiority complex disorder, to be seen and heard. But this is the simple test: can someone who openly insult other people's mothers be of any good? Can such a fellow be said to have the fundamental character that respects women and elders? Glance at a thread, then take your leave, then do some Google swipes, get a dictionary by your side. It's going to take an hour to prepare a post! The ladies must be impressed. Dunce!!![/b] 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Nobody: 9:15am On May 20, 2016 |
Onegai: Sometimes what you read on NL might not mirror reality, give anyone a mask and you will see their ugly side. Sorry this might sound contradictory so let me explain, take me for example I am well behaved, mannered, and will never do anything to cause trouble for myself, however the anonymity gives me the power to say anything and avoid repercussions. Most of NL members will never say any of this things in real life because of effects and how they might be viewed. in actual sense, in reality you will not witness this much ugliness because it's supressed inside, not saying it doesn't exists. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by amakoro(m): 9:18am On May 20, 2016 |
cococandy: we are not what your are painting us as |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by joseph1832(m): 9:44am On May 20, 2016 |
postmann:And funny as it may sound, they're always impressed. Some ladies love it when a guy kiss their ass, one would think having brains means one should put it to good use, but heck no, these females always find themselves at the receiving end of their blatant show to accept things at face value. Simple questions like: how old are you? What do you do for a living? Are you married, single? Been in any serious relationship? Etc Evades them like a jet pilot evade a stinger missile. Respect is never known to people who always flare their supposed ego whenever they feel its bruised. This forum provides a safe haven for all and sundry, to come and showcase their narrow minded thoughts about things they absolutely know not, or even understand. They fail to know, there is a fine line between knowledge and information, that's why information can never compete with knowledge. There's a vast difference between what you read online and what you experience in real life. 3 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by joseph1832(m): 9:52am On May 20, 2016 |
amakoro:You should have asked her what are the age grade of those who constitute Nairaland popular opinion? You should also ask her who in their right mind, will even consider taking the opinion(s) of people who they don't even know, who they are, what they do for a living, and what experience have they had in matters such as marriage. Bros, abeg leave mata for Matayas. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 10:05am On May 20, 2016 |
postmann:You know, there are many times when your posts are little steps away from being sexist and condescending. What tha fvck is the 'vulnerability' of the female mind? Do you realise how insulting that is? 5 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by joseph1832(m): 10:13am On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove:The vulnerability of the female mind have to do with some females accepting everything at face value. It also has to do with them, not asking questions, and also, them always letting their hearts lead them on, instead of letting their brain lead them on. I'm sure you know, "all that glitters isn't gold?". 1 Like |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by postmann: 10:21am On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove: Has my love left the chambers of our cozy bedroom to engage me in the blazing heat of daylight? |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 10:26am On May 20, 2016 |
postmann:Nna pu eba!! You aren't getting off that easy. 'Vulnerability of the female mind' is insulting |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 10:27am On May 20, 2016 |
joseph1832:You said 'some females', postmann said 'THE female mind'. You see the difference? |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by joseph1832(m): 10:31am On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove:I'm sure you know by him(postmann) saying 'THE FEMALE MIND' he meant the females who engage in what I mentioned in the post you quoted above. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Nobody: 10:40am On May 20, 2016 |
Nigeria men this,nigeria men that,there are more than 3 billion men in the world,in terms of good looks,nigeria men are below average,since you nairaland female's already conclude thAt both the presents and future generations of nigeria men(including your sons,brothers,fathers and husband)are archaic,rapist,wife beaters,monster etc,I wonder why you guys haven't divorce ur husband or aren't marrying foreign men,if you can't make it to usa or europe,ghana is beside you,togo is there,they are better than nigeria men in all ways 1 Like |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 10:41am On May 20, 2016 |
joseph1832:Nah, he meant females generally |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by joseph1832(m): 10:49am On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove:Oh really? How did you know, can you know legillimency? |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Onegai(f): 10:56am On May 20, 2016 |
shaybebaby: But does your boy like horseriding, "Hey Duggee" and "Teletubbies"? These are the necessary things to make a relationship work with my child. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Onegai(f): 11:13am On May 20, 2016 |
pcguru1: I understand how the anonymity of the internet works, my dear. But my issue is, this is their inner feeling. And if given a chance, this is how they may react. But what is worse is that there are so many kids in this website, absorbing these views and not being able to distinguish between right and wrong (the Family structure and Society in Nigeria has really broken down). So these kids, these young man are being raised not by their fathers (little boys need their fathers) in real life positive interactions, but by random faceless people spewing hatefulness in the most anonymous way, irresponsibly. I once had an interaction with some young boys (university level) who swore that D'banj was part of the Illuminati because they read it on the internet. It's easy for such uninformed minds to absorb "all women are evil and should be subdued by violence of necessary". There's no-one to say "Hey, that's not reality and those thoughts are not helpful". Read any random page of any of the threads in the Ronke Shonde case: you will see a lot of male monikers screaming hate and praying she ends up in hellfire because they are following popular opinion from some commenters that she is guilty of adultery (without a single shred of evidence to the fact). Read the thread in the last who got beaten up by her husband for refusal of sex: you will see male monikers screaming "how dare she, she deserves it". Read the thread about the TVC reporter beating up his girlfriend: "is he her husband, how dare she try and break his career with her evil". See a pattern? In the next 5 years, if not checked, you will wake up and suddenly realise how dangerous it is to be a woman in Nigeria because things will be violent. Go to Mexico, Ciudad Juarez: several mass graves of women murderes by unknown people and a society filled with poverty, apathy and angry men who feel their egos are threatened by the fact that traditional roles are being changed (more earning power for women is changing things). Then look at Nigeria, are we not already having some of those issues? Perhaps that is why the violence is coming much stronger. There was always violence but not this bad and not this accepted and celebrated by other men. Same way, pornography came unchecked into Nigeria years ago (you would see them openly displaying dvds with graphic pictures at busstops) and data became and smartphones more affordable. That was a little over 10 years ago, in uni. Now, strangely rape and child abuse cases are now more common and on the rise. You are what you consume. It is upto menfolk on Nairaland to be their brother's keeper or get used to being bashed as violent predators. I speak up against women who do the same. At one point, I joined in and used to carelessly throw around words. But someone made me realise I was responsible for my anonymous words. That is the definition of an adult: someone who knows that have responsibilities, with no respite. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Nobody: 11:40am On May 20, 2016 |
Onegai: I typed alot of words before but i realized it was too lengthy so i decided to type something short especially since NL members don't read lengthy posts. The real issue is that alot of these young boys/adults who comment here to bash women are actually small-minded people, they are people who are insecure and want some form of control and respect and the only way they can come to terms with such is by bashing women on Nairaland. That's the only way to gain their manhood. No right person in his mindset will believe all women are evil, sometimes most of the words said are just to spite people or rile people up, just like when the Fulani Herdsman issues arises, it's really easy for us to abuse all Fulani's than to attack the individuals involved. We are all guilty of this, so many posts here insight hatred and before you know it, Bashing starts.. read another topic about a woman who cheated on her guy and in the next minutes all women are thrown under the bus and vice versa. TLDR: Nairaland has sick repressed individuals that's my opinion 3 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 11:40am On May 20, 2016 |
joseph1832:It's in the phrasing. 'THE' female mind is a specific adjective ('the' is a qualifier). The vulnerability of THE female mind. That's just so annoying |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by cococandy(f): 11:45am On May 20, 2016 |
I'm not painting anyone anything o. Merely stating what I read here. amakoro: |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by cococandy(f): 11:48am On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove:@bold, Talk about euphemism. Don't you mean smack in the peak of sexist and condescending? |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by cococandy(f): 11:52am On May 20, 2016 |
And let me guess. You're the bad one for pointing it out. Sigh I keep wondering what's the cause of the abundance of sick dudes trolling this forum of recent. I really hope it's a few people with multiple monikers. Otherwise we are not far away from India and those other countries like her. Onegai: |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by joseph1832(m): 11:53am On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove:LOL. In any event, you should know he wasn't referring to you, right?. Lol. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by lezz(m): 12:11pm On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove: And the female mind is biologically programmed to be vulnerable. It is her source of strength and , of course , weakness too. All religious and statistical data , and real life occurrence have shed light to this. Why stamp your feet over a trite truism that is known to both men of letters and nonreaders? |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by lezz(m): 12:14pm On May 20, 2016 |
joseph1832: See how a general comment can be taken in the light of personal assessment? Love, love, love They say love is blind, I say love sees in 3D lens binoculars |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by joseph1832(m): 12:22pm On May 20, 2016 |
lezz:Yea its usually blind, that's why its the major cause of most heart breaks in contemporary times... And the fans usually watch and read in 3D. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by lezz(m): 12:31pm On May 20, 2016 |
joseph1832: Love hurts, chai!!! My heart dey beat like the bomb dropping on sambisa forest See as your friend dey ventilate because of one yeye statement. Ice thawed in the most subtle of manners |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by raumdeuter: 1:01pm On May 20, 2016 |
cococandy: If you see the misogyny in the youth I'm sure it's also prevalent in the elderly. Which is why my first post is that both set avoid one another. Naija men avoid naija women If you claim Naija men are evil and still end up with one of them then you're either lying or an hypocrite. If the guys who bash nigerian women aren't married to nigerian then their case would make sense but for the women I see here who claim naija men are evil yet most of them still marry from these evil set. Maybe they desire to experience some of the evil in the men 3 Likes |
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