Tolulope95:


Yes.. he is quite comfortable from a well to do family background.. I think he is only trying to cage me with the proposal or something

IamNawty:
who will be ur bestlady

Trudiee:
my dear, don't listen to all these people telling you to get married to that guy.

okay look at it this way, what guy would sincerely want to marry at 24? like, from the bottom of their hearts, parents are not forcing them, they want to settle down, have kids, responsibility..

shine your eyes! its not genuine. some guys can do that. dont get me wrong. but your boyfriend! I'm sorry to say, he is definitely trying to lock u down babe. why would he insist you sleep over the night you say no to his marriage proposal? babe you get liver. you're lucky he didn't stab you in your sleep. some dudes can't take it when their ego is bruised.. especially in front of their friends.

now coming to you. you're 21, working. you got a bright future ahead of you. do you wanna start having a family now? 21 is too young my dear. travel. go places. you l find guys better than ur boo. then when youre married, you ll start cheating and become miserable??



my point is, see the world first. then agree to be locked down.. cuz that's the reality of life.. lol.

be sure that's what you wanna do. and you're pretty, don't listen to certain ppl saying you look old

Tolulope95:


I commend you on this; I just spoke to my mum about this.. she said it's one thing for my boyfriend to be hurt by me saying no. But he's handling it really destructively. It sounds like he's the immature one for not just accepting that "the timing isn't right" and "I'd like to discuss my future in a proper grown-up conversation before making a life-changing decision on the spot."

Iamhatey:
if you never marry sha , you go be my best lady

Trudiee:
my dear, don't listen to all these people telling you to get married to that guy.

okay look at it this way, what guy would sincerely want to marry at 24? like, from the bottom of their hearts, parents are not forcing them, they want to settle down, have kids, responsibility..

shine your eyes! its not genuine. some guys can do that. dont get me wrong. but your boyfriend! I'm sorry to say, he is definitely trying to lock u down babe. why would he insist you sleep over the night you say no to his marriage proposal? babe you get liver. you're lucky he didn't stab you in your sleep. some dudes can't take it when their ego is bruised.. especially in front of their friends.

now coming to you. you're 21, working. you got a bright future ahead of you. do you wanna start having a family now? 21 is too young my dear. travel. go places. you l find guys better than ur boo. then when youre married, you ll start cheating and become miserable??



my point is, see the world first. then agree to be locked down.. cuz that's the reality of life.. lol.

be sure that's what you wanna do. and you're pretty, don't listen to certain ppl saying you look old

Tolulope95:

Well said, Thanks so much

Gofwane:
Why did you go into dating since you know you are too young to marry?

IamNawty:
c dis one.. Who is marrying first eh? Me dat am still in skul or u serving soon ? Eh ?

RadicallyBlunt:
OP COMPARE THESE 2 LIVES BELOW

YOUR LIFE AT PRESENT;

You're just 21

You're a graduate at 21

You have a well paid job

You have a man who definitely has a well paid job too and ready for marriage

You probably would be a grand mother by 45 and b4 retirement ur last child is married

THE LIFE OF ABOUT 80% NAIJA GIRLS AT PRESENT

They're 30

They've graduated and still searching for job. Infact planning to learn tailoring after years of post nysc unemployment as certificate isn't yielding any good income

They have dated minimum of 5 guys who promised marriage and failed but knack their kpekus katakata..many rods have paddled d canoe


Some saw serious guys who are ready for marriage but snurbed them with yanga just like you're doing now.

The present guy they luckily found is either a garri marketer or doing casual labour at a factory at age 35. But will package like banker or unilever snr staff


Some are even educated than their guys but still try to manage him since there's no other guy and can't afford to lose him

Now op judge by urself, which of these 2 lives would you choose now and in the next world?

RadicallyBlunt:
OP COMPARE THESE 2 LIVES BELOW

YOUR LIFE AT PRESENT;

You're just 21

You're a graduate at 21

You have a well paid job

You have a man who definitely has a well paid job too and ready for marriage

You probably would be a grand mother by 45 and b4 retirement ur last child is married

THE LIFE OF ABOUT 80% NAIJA GIRLS AT PRESENT

They're 30

They've graduated and still searching for job. Infact planning to learn tailoring after years of post nysc unemployment as certificate isn't yielding any good income

They have dated minimum of 5 guys who promised marriage and failed but knack their kpekus katakata..many rods have paddled d canoe

Some saw serious guys who are ready for marriage but snurbed them with yanga just like you're doing now.

The present guy they luckily found is either a garri marketer or doing casual labour at a factory at age 35. But will package like banker or unilever snr staff

Some are even educated than their guys but still try to manage him since there's no other guy and can't afford to lose him

Now op judge by urself, which of these 2 lives would you choose now and in the next world?

Trudiee:
my dear, don't listen to all these people telling you to get married to that guy.

okay look at it this way, what guy would sincerely want to marry at 24? like, from the bottom of their hearts, parents are not forcing them, they want to settle down, have kids, responsibility..

shine your eyes! its not genuine. some guys can do that. dont get me wrong. but your boyfriend! I'm sorry to say, he is definitely trying to lock u down babe. why would he insist you sleep over the night you say no to his marriage proposal? babe you get liver. you're lucky he didn't stab you in your sleep. some dudes can't take it when their ego is bruised.. especially in front of their friends.

now coming to you. you're 21, working. you got a bright future ahead of you. do you wanna start having a family now? 21 is too young my dear. travel. go places. you l find guys better than ur boo. then when youre married, you ll start cheating and become miserable??



my point is, see the world first. then agree to be locked down.. cuz that's the reality of life.. lol.

be sure that's what you wanna do. and you're pretty, don't listen to certain ppl saying you look old

Tolulope95:
Hello Guys, There's this thing that has been bothering me i would love to share..

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a over a year, now this past Friday. On Friday we went on a night out with few friends... While gisting he got on one knee and asked me to marry him.

I was shocked; we hadn't discussed being engaged in the immediate future at all. When I didn't immediately scream "YES!" he deflated and asked me what was wrong, and in the most awkward conversation of my life, I had to tell him that [s]I feel like I'm too young to get engaged and it's too soon in our relationship, even though I love him very much[/s]. He was understandably very depressed and told me that he'd decided he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and that he thought proposing in the presence of friends would be really romantic. I told him the truth, that I felt nowhere near ready or old enough to consider marriage to anyone yet. He took the ring back and we went back to his house, where I stayed over for the night at his insistence. I tried to have a better conversation about what had happened, but he told me that he didn't feel like talking about it and that I should just go to sleep.

Around 7 the next morning he shook me awake and started screaming at me, asking me the real reason why I wouldn't marry him: Did I want to "LovePeddler around" with a bunch of guys? Was he too short? He even asked me if I ever loved him and if that was why I turned him down.. I was pretty offended by everything he was suggesting. He called me soulless for crushing him like that, said that me saying no meant that I didn't love him. He has not talked or called me since then.

I do too love him; maybe in a couple years I would have said yes without hesitation. I get that I crushed him and I feel guilty.

It is Wise Enough to get early at a Young And Tender Age!!

No insults Pls.. Im a Graduate And i have a well paying Job *Cheers*

Tolulope95:
Hello Guys, There's this thing that has been bothering me i would love to share..

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a over a year, now this past Friday. On Friday we went on a night out with few friends... While gisting he got on one knee and asked me to marry him.

I was shocked; we hadn't discussed being engaged in the immediate future at all. When I didn't immediately scream "YES!" he deflated and asked me what was wrong, and in the most awkward conversation of my life, I had to tell him that I feel like I'm too young to get engaged and it's too soon in our relationship, even though I love him very much. He was understandably very depressed and told me that he'd decided he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and that he thought proposing in the presence of friends would be really romantic. I told him the truth, that I felt nowhere near ready or old enough to consider marriage to anyone yet. He took the ring back and we went back to his house, where I stayed over for the night at his insistence. I tried to have a better conversation about what had happened, but he told me that he didn't feel like talking about it and that I should just go to sleep.

Around 7 the next morning he shook me awake and started screaming at me, asking me the real reason why I wouldn't marry him: Did I want to "LovePeddler around" with a bunch of guys? Was he too short? He even asked me if I ever loved him and if that was why I turned him down.. I was pretty offended by everything he was suggesting. He called me soulless for crushing him like that, said that me saying no meant that I didn't love him. He has not talked or called me since then.

I do too love him; maybe in a couple years I would have said yes without hesitation. I get that I crushed him and I feel guilty.

It is Wise Enough to get early at a Young And Tender Age!!

No insults Pls.. Im a Graduate And i have a well paying Job *Cheers*

falconey:


explicitly what I told her, she should take her time and persuade the dude to understand she isn't ready cognitively.

Trudiee:
my dear, don't listen to all these people telling you to get married to that guy.

okay look at it this way, what guy would sincerely want to marry at 24? like, from the bottom of their hearts, parents are not forcing them, they want to settle down, have kids, responsibility..

shine your eyes! its not genuine. some guys can do that. dont get me wrong. but your boyfriend! I'm sorry to say, he is definitely trying to lock u down babe. why would he insist you sleep over the night you say no to his marriage proposal? babe you get liver. you're lucky he didn't stab you in your sleep. some dudes can't take it when their ego is bruised.. especially in front of their friends.

now coming to you. you're 21, working. you got a bright future ahead of you. do you wanna start having a family now? 21 is too young my dear. travel. go places. you l find guys better than ur boo. then when youre married, you ll start cheating and become miserable??



my point is, see the world first. then agree to be locked down.. cuz that's the reality of life.. lol.

be sure that's what you wanna do. and you're pretty, don't listen to certain ppl saying you look old

Trudiee:

yea.. and he should try to understand too.

RadicallyBlunt:
OP COMPARE THESE 2 LIVES BELOW

YOUR LIFE AT PRESENT;

You're just 21

You're a graduate at 21

You have a well paid job

You have a man who definitely has a well paid job too and ready for marriage

You probably would be a grand mother by 45 and b4 retirement ur last child is married

THE LIFE OF ABOUT 80% NAIJA GIRLS AT PRESENT

They're 30

They've graduated and still searching for job. Infact planning to learn tailoring after years of post nysc unemployment as certificate isn't yielding any good income

They have dated minimum of 5 guys who promised marriage and failed but knack their kpekus katakata..many rods have paddled d canoe

Some saw serious guys who are ready for marriage but snurbed them with yanga just like you're doing now.

The present guy they luckily found is either a garri marketer or doing casual labour at a factory at age 35. But will package like banker or unilever snr staff

Some are even educated than their guys but still try to manage him since there's no other guy and can't afford to lose him

Now op judge by urself, which of these 2 lives would you choose now and in the next world?

Synzu:


Did it occur to you that perhaps she just wants to fucckk

Trudiee:
my dear, don't listen to all these people telling you to get married to that guy.

okay look at it this way, what guy would sincerely want to marry at 24? like, from the bottom of their hearts, parents are not forcing them, they want to settle down, have kids, responsibility..

shine your eyes! its not genuine. some guys can do that. dont get me wrong. but your boyfriend! I'm sorry to say, he is definitely trying to lock u down babe. why would he insist you sleep over the night you say no to his marriage proposal? babe you get liver. you're lucky he didn't stab you in your sleep. some dudes can't take it when their ego is bruised.. especially in front of their friends.

now coming to you. you're 21, working. you got a bright future ahead of you. do you wanna start having a family now? 21 is too young my dear. travel. go places. you l find guys better than ur boo. then when youre married, you ll start cheating and become miserable??



my point is, see the world first. then agree to be locked down.. cuz that's the reality of life.. lol.

be sure that's what you wanna do. and you're pretty, don't listen to certain ppl saying you look old

HornyTiwa:

Accepting his proposal does not mean you must marry him immediately,saying NO to him in the presence of his friends is the worst ego killing any man can cope with(I really pity him right now)
You've been dating him for a year and you don't think he will make a good husband,or you just consider yourself too young?
My school daughter married at 18,she is doing quite well 2 years after with a beautiful kid.

Well different strokes for different folks,but I don't really see the problem here.
Let him cool off and explain your point again,then assure him about your believe.

I just hope its not too late,he might end up proposing to your friend to spite you,yes some guys are crazy like that

Gofwane:
mhmmm...... You have a point. Afterall, konji is a respecter of no man,

Trudiee:
my dear, don't listen to all these people telling you to get married to that guy.

okay look at it this way, what guy would sincerely want to marry at 24? like, from the bottom of their hearts, parents are not forcing them, they want to settle down, have kids, responsibility..

shine your eyes! its not genuine. some guys can do that. dont get me wrong. but your boyfriend! I'm sorry to say, he is definitely trying to lock u down babe. why would he insist you sleep over the night you say no to his marriage proposal? babe you get liver. you're lucky he didn't stab you in your sleep. some dudes can't take it when their ego is bruised.. especially in front of their friends.

now coming to you. you're 21, working. you got a bright future ahead of you. do you wanna start having a family now? 21 is too young my dear. travel. go places. you l find guys better than ur boo. then when youre married, you ll start cheating and become miserable??



my point is, see the world first. then agree to be locked down.. cuz that's the reality of life.. lol.

be sure that's what you wanna do. and you're pretty, don't listen to certain ppl saying you look old

you've said all I wanted 2 ,I cosign this post!!
~~
expect on the level of his sincerity,i believe he's genuine.

classicB:

I suppose you are extrovert, cos for an introvert like me, what do I want to see in the world? Travel places? I'd rather watch movies See the world in what context? I don't mind getting married at 21 as long as I am a successful woman that doesn't need to depend on my husband. I have always pictured myself getting married young, nurturing my kids and have a full blown time for my career afterwards My point is, the OP might not need to leave him, I don't think he wanna tie u down, he loves u enough for only himself, I have worked enough with guys, and I can say that only a crazy in love guy would do that. Just spend more time together and postpone getting married. There are wolves out there while u try to see the world o

KingCheezyPuff:
you've said all I wanted 2 ,I cosign this post!!
~~
expect on the level of his sincerity,i believe he's genuine.

KingCheezyPuff:
you've said all I wanted 2 ,I cosign this post!!
~~
expect on the level of his sincerity,i believe he's genuine.