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Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 11:08pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
classicB: Exactly, people usually compare everyone to themselves. She kept mentioning see the world lol. That might mean a lot of things (Like a lot of dirty immoral things). But let me just stop here. 1 Like |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by dharay99: 11:09pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Am not here to comment buh jez to look, 0p, hmm....hmm 0hk. |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 11:10pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Trudiee:Marrying later doesn't mean you are happy either. As long as you find the right partner. That to me is the real deal. Some people that married later married the wrong person due to desperation or pressure, but as young lovers, I perceive sincerarity. You think she would cheat cos she's young? How will getting old bfr marriage prevent her from cheating? Check your first post 3 Likes |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 11:13pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
classicB:I don't doubt his sincerity but op is not ready .and i don't think the man will wait until she is ,it may take years before she is. ~~ To accept his proposal is to string him along She can turn it down and they can continue dating, enjoying the relationship for what it is as long as it shall last . 1 Like |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by braine(m): 11:17pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 11:18pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff:I reason with her staying in the relationship other than thinking there are better boos out there both of them should try and build themselves up financially and emotionally. Mama knows best also |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Trudiee(f): 11:21pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
classicB: yea as long as you find the right partner and at the right time for you. if they married out of desperation then its unfortunate. they saw others getting married and felt left out. think of a lady getting married at 18.. realising she wasn't emotionally ready for the responsibilities that come with marriage. she looks on at others.. her mates young, fresh out of school. what would run thru her mind? anyone can cheat. depends on WHY you're cheating 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 11:26pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
classicB:when she turns him down he may not want 2 continue And eh ..there are more good men,marriage minded and not out there,she doesn't have 2 cleave to this 1 . 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 11:28pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff:That's true |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 11:32pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
dharay99:mod locked mzzzErica's thread earlier 2day. |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by fetrillion(m): 11:39pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
kelval:see d foolish advice oooo from d pit of hell my dear,some ladies here Will like to pull u down n discourage you simply bcs dey don't have d opportunity u have...You av a responsible guy dat wants to build a future with you ...both of you are financially capable,d love is intact.. pls dear,just pray about it n if you av d conviction he's d one.. then u are gud to go ooo 1 Like |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by dharay99: 11:48pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff: That's great... |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 11:53pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Tolulope95:Sincerely, I think you made the right decision. You shouldn't go into marriage when you're not mentally ready,I find it funny that people on here are saying because you have a job and he's okay then the next thing is marriage. My sister life is not a timetable don't let anyone coerce you into what you will regret. I'm not saying you should leave your boyfriend but you guys should get to know each other better and worse still should anything happen after now, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Alot of peeps on here talking about the nonsense that you might be 30+ before settling down are bunch of mofos who want other people's lives to be miserable like theirs,hence the quick generalization. Alot of married people are regretting it,marriage is a life time decision and I think you should take your time to decide what's best for you. 3 Likes |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 11:55pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
dharay99:no ~~ Now to the why I quoted you You have a ridiculous amount of monikers,1 of them you own v.icst.ar? |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by doublestrika: 11:55pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
kelval:am sorry tho...don't mean to counter your opinion tho...BT please aw do u mean EXPLORE.. to d op..to me, such issue is not to be treated on a platform like diz... ppl ll gv u advc based on dre life experience, meanwhile our destinies r quite diff..think abt t..pray n if u reali love him drz no point toying wt someone who wants to b wt yhu...blv me these days..its reali hard to find guys DT r serious wt relationship in DAT age range. |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by dharay99: 11:58pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff: Vicstar? that should be one of my protegès or wannabes cuzz ionno that moniker. Why you ask... |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 12:02am On Sep 28, 2016 |
dharay99:should have known better,yer a clown and he aint. |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by HornyTiwa(f): 12:06am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Trudiee:This is the problem I have with busybodies. That your opinion of what the OP should do differs from mine,does not make mine wrong or flawed. Did I say anything about my school daughter not completing school/dependent? btw is schooling and independent the new measurement for marital bliss and happiness Do you know my school daughter to suddenly make all the assumptions you just made? this is outrageous. You just brought your self under my mentions amd jumped into conclusion,even overlooking where I typed "different strokes for different folks"? And what is your definition of God's time? Is God's time when the OP is 30 or 60 years old? I really tried to understand the dust you yarned there,there is no iota of sense in it 4 Likes |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by dharay99: 12:07am On Sep 28, 2016 |
KingCheezyPuff: 0h, cuzz he copied my color, font & style of posting? good for you too...Have fun with the non-clown then. |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 12:13am On Sep 28, 2016 |
dharay99:hmmm.... Yer a suspect...Bye |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by ritababe(f): 1:02am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Trudiee: @the bolded is exactly why some girls are still single now, what makes you think there is a better man for her out there? no guarantee, and from what she said the guy is caring and loving. I don't understand some girls. 6 Likes |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by ritababe(f): 1:07am On Sep 28, 2016 |
HornyTiwa: you are quite right, and some girls here are saying explore the world first,what is there to exploit? what if after exploring she return back and found her dream man already married?. 3 Likes |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by codexgigax: 1:11am On Sep 28, 2016 |
@OP Well, my little input is this: By being not ready, what do you mean exactly? Emotionally, Spiritually (if you are religious), Mentally (perhaps, you know little about what marriage is really all about). Marriage as I know it has to do with more than being a graduate with a well paying job (they are not less important though). I will like to recommend a page I found out on facebook, its really going to help you in your decision making because ultimately, the decision to be engaged and married is entirely yours. I would have copied and pasted the fb page content here, but its quite a long one, so do well to check it out. The fb page is : RHEMALOGOS INTERNATIONAL, NIGERIA. *[Just check out their recent write ups]. |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Nobody: 1:46am On Sep 28, 2016 |
braine: |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by An0nimus: 1:55am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Tolu you did a very brave thing and I commend you for it. You didn't allow anybody manipulate you into accepting something you didn't carefully think through. There's nothing like saying yes because he was with his friends. The whole setup looked like it was arranged to coerce you to agree to his proposal. His actions afterwards betrayed his true intentions. If you had said yes and things later went sour, people will still stay stuff like you should have waited. You're pretty young and doing good so there's still a whole lot of people to meet and things to achieve. Bless. 3 Likes |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Tolulope95(f): 7:28am On Sep 28, 2016 |
codexgigax: Thanks..Will look it up |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Jangbajantis: 7:50am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Tolulope95:MTCHEEW 3 Likes |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by waywardpikin: 9:02am On Sep 28, 2016 |
The fact of the matter is OP thinks she's too good for her boyfriend. If you loved him you would have screamed YES without even thinking twice, irrespective of age. You think a young guy who doesn't really love you would propose? Na FineGeh syndrome dey worry you, smallie... Go ye into the world and distribute your tohtoh. I know that's what's itching you last last. |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by waywardpikin: 9:03am On Sep 28, 2016 |
truthsayer007: Not might, that's exactly what it comes down to. Leave plenty grammar. We know her type. |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by waywardpikin: 9:09am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Jangbajantis: Great advice bro, that guy is so selfish! 1 Like |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Trudiee(f): 10:39am On Sep 28, 2016 |
ritababe: i don't understand some girls too. let's face it. you're dating an awesome guy. he loves you and you love him. you're in a commited relationship. but then as time goes on, you meet new people, exciting, sophisticated people. some might even treat u better than your boyfriend does. but as a loyal girlfriend, you understand that love is not just about that. its about commitment. so you stick to him. the fact that u chose to stick to him doesn't mean there aren't better guys. everyone has flaws. understand the point first bae 1 Like |
Re: I am 21 And My BF 24 Proposed; I Feel That I'm Too Young And It's Too Soon by Trudiee(f): 10:42am On Sep 28, 2016 |
HornyTiwa: then don't understand it. just tell yourself the sad truth my dear. different strokes for different folks yea. that's the only sense you made here |
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