KONJIKILLER:
Good day, Nairalanders, I don't know what the females here have to say about this but I'll gladly welcome any criticism.

So there's this girl, Sharon(not her real name), I met her November last year. Ok, she's smoking hot, very attractive and absolutely smart. We got so close and told each other a lot of things, darkest secrets, and stuff she wouldn't even tell her mom. She concluded that we become best friends but deep down, I wanted more than that because I was already falling, I just didn't know what to say. Every time we talked on the phone, it was usually for more than 30minutes that my friends would be wondering if we were dating, even my close pals made fun of me that I was being friendzoned. One night in December, I called her and from the way I was talking to her, a normal girl would catch the cruise that a nigga was flirting although it wasn't obvious. After the call, I texted her that I had something to tell her but then, I just told her I'd say it later. She laughed and told me she knows what's up with me but that she's been waiting for me to spit it out. I asked how she knew, she said by behavior towards her and everything was obvious that I had these feelings for her. She added that I should be patient and not rush it, I was totally relieved, even my buddies said 'she go gree, no worry, the babe like you die'.


Guys, from that day, I've been treating this girl like a queen, buying her stuff, calling her and doing the regular things a boyfriend would do, hoping she'd eventually agree to date me. Her mom even saw the stuff I bought her, she asked her if we were dating and she told her we were talking about it. All these events happened late last year and she still hasn't made a brother happy. The last time we talked about it was on the 30th of December and she specifically told me she had feeling for me but that "she wants to get her emotions right". Sister what does that mean now?

We stepped into the new year, the first week passed, so did the second week, she hasn't said a word about "US". Her birthday is coming up in two weeks and I plan on confronting her day before her birthday to know exactly what she wants with me.

Am I moving too fast? Am I impatient? Some of my friends are saying she might be too shy to say the three letter word, that I should try and make a move by kissing her or something. NAIRALANDERS, what am I missing

daewoorazer:



Aww..u far from here bossman...im someplace near Lagos

daewoorazer:



Aww..u far from here bossman...im someplace near Lagos

jfleece:
no lele baba.. We go still relate na.... If u get clients wey wan travel out.. Hit me up. Wen e pure u give u ur cut..

daewoorazer:

FTC.. Dedicated to all real niggaz reppin!




How about you buy her more stuffs, literally assume d position of a maga boyfriend, spend all ur hard earned cash on buying her chocolates and pata.


U don't know u dey spoil Market For other real niggaz...

Just so u know, d patas u buy today, niggaz will remove it tomao.




Make I free u small, stop doing like yemi my lover, where u shld have assumed d position of a boyfriend shld be in gestures(kissing, caressing... Anything dat disturbs her).... Not spending

Some gals don't do d toasting and yes parole





#zanga

daewoorazer:



Countries like and how much... ??

jfleece:
we gat a list of like 6 counties for now.. My guy go add more next week.. Just bring clients come... D price ranges frm 1m to South Africa which is 250k..

daewoorazer:



Countries like and how much... ??

jfleece:
we gat a list of like 6 counties for now.. My guy go add more next week.. Just bring clients come... D price ranges frm 1m to South Africa which is 250k..

Fabulousb36:
@ KONJIKILLER here is wat u shud do
Wait till after her bday. Buy her sometin regular don't waste too much money on any girl it won't make her luv u any beta.
1. After her bday, give her some real space. No texting, no calling, no showing up around her ... For some1 uve been talking to for a while. now she wud definitely miss u nd wonder wat happened. Even if she calls, go monosyllabic and claim to b buzy with sometin. Try dis for a week. This will give her d tym to miss u nd really tink abt ur r/ship wit her even if she doesn't lik u.
2. After week chat her up and act cool as usual, if she acts lik she didn't notice ur 1 week brk den she doesn't lik u at all or uve been deeply frndzoned so forget her sharp sharp. But if she noticed nd begins to ask wat happened den dat means dat she likes u and u stand a lil chance so move on to step 3
3. During d chat/call tell her uve missed her nd dat u want to see her. When u see her don't ask her anytin abt r/shps let ur body lang do d asking. For instance give her a hug, hold her hand, give her a peck, hold her really close... Buttomline upgrade urself to d bf level without her permission if she has an issue with d new development she shud complain. By d end of d evening get her to a lonely place nd kiss her...pls don't ask her b4 doing it JUST DO IT. Den go home no matter how it ended.
4. Her reactions will tell u if uve successfully moved urself out of d frndzone or not. Then from dia take it one step at a tym.
P.s its a lil old fashioned to do d will u b my gf tin. The first kiss nd d permission to kiss her again later pretty much summarizes d whole process.

jerrywill:
Op, she likes you...thatz a sure banka.

She wanna get her emosions right...hmm...shez trying to get over something.

Are u rushing her? No.

What should u do? Show her ur getting tired...by talking it out with her and withdrawing a little bit.

#jerrywill

ismart:
Including your mother, your sister and your future daughter. I wonder the kind of home people like you came from. Someone broke your heart and you are still dragging it...

goingape1:
piece of shiit

slydog:


Na so I withdraw a little bit and that was the end of me and Iyanu

ismart:


I am in similar situation as he. However, the girl in my case says she as a boyfriend but respond to my advances like someone who isn't in a relationship. She even agreed to be with me on 25th of December, an important date to be with her supposed boyfriend. She also invited me over to her side on 26th. I have been confused really.

I decided I wouldn't talk to her for a month and let us see if she will show signs of interest by calling me etc....

ismart:
what did she do when you withdrew?

ismart:
you mean your daughter, mother and future wife are piece of shiit? fool

slydog:


Nothing, she did nothing and up till now, no call or text, so I believe she wasn't interested, no need going round circles

Filashade:
Hmmm. Op, I think you should wait a little but also ask her the day before her birthday because even me I don't like it when a guy rushes things and wants a relationship like one week or two weeks after getting to know me. I literally hate that. It might be she is just not sure yet about you, you know how you Boyz are nowadays.

Anyways, OP there are some girls like her who like to take things really slow. My current boyfriend it took him 5 months before I said yes I would be his girl. Its just I was still in a relationship when me and him became friends so I was still trying to get over my previous relationship and wasnt ready for another one so soon so it might be that.

Just try and talk to her so she can open up, at least that is what I did with my bf.

Just dont rush her otherwise you will loose her.

ismart:
Did you tell him you were in a relationship when he made his intentions known and what were the signs you gave him that made him wait for that 5 months? Were you giving signs that you are considering him, like him etc? how did you exhibit this to make him still hang on?

KONJIKILLER:
Good day, Nairalanders, I don't know what the females here have to say about this but I'll gladly welcome any criticism.

So there's this girl, Sharon(not her real name), I met her November last year. Ok, she's smoking hot, very attractive and absolutely smart. We got so close and told each other a lot of things, darkest secrets, and stuff she wouldn't even tell her mom. She concluded that we become best friends but deep down, I wanted more than that because I was already falling, I just didn't know what to say. Every time we talked on the phone, it was usually for more than 30minutes that my friends would be wondering if we were dating, even my close pals made fun of me that I was being friendzoned. One night in December, I called her and from the way I was talking to her, a normal girl would catch the cruise that a nigga was flirting although it wasn't obvious. After the call, I texted her that I had something to tell her but then, I just told her I'd say it later. She laughed and told me she knows what's up with me but that she's been waiting for me to spit it out. I asked how she knew, she said by behavior towards her and everything was obvious that I had these feelings for her. She added that I should be patient and not rush it, I was totally relieved, even my buddies said 'she go gree, no worry, the babe like you die'.


Guys, from that day, I've been treating this girl like a queen, buying her stuff, calling her and doing the regular things a boyfriend would do, hoping she'd eventually agree to date me. Her mom even saw the stuff I bought her, she asked her if we were dating and she told her we were talking about it. All these events happened late last year and she still hasn't made a brother happy. The last time we talked about it was on the 30th of December and she specifically told me she had feeling for me but that "she wants to get her emotions right". Sister what does that mean now?

We stepped into the new year, the first week passed, so did the second week, she hasn't said a word about "US". Her birthday is coming up in two weeks and I plan on confronting her day before her birthday to know exactly what she wants with me.

Am I moving too fast? Am I impatient? Some of my friends are saying she might be too shy to say the three letter word, that I should try and make a move by kissing her or something. NAIRALANDERS, what am I missing

Filashade:


Well from the day I met him I guess I liked him from that moment and also yes he knew I was currently seeing someone and he would even advise me to take things easy with my ex etc so it wasnt like he was trying to make me breakup with my ex but rather to put up with him. I would say around one month mark he made his intentions to me that he really cared me but knows I am still trying to sort things out with my ex and he told me he will wait and I asked him if he was sure because I am not ready for another wahala and I dont want him to be a rebound but he still waited and I told him I liked him too and he just has to give me time. My head was actually all over the place during that five months but one thing was for sure was that, I realy liked him and he became my best friend.

I would say the signs I gave was going out with him during my free time and talking him on the phone occassionally and I even went to his famiy event as well and we would hug and play around so thats enough signs to show him I genuinely liked him but wanted us to take things slowly. Plus I told him how things were with my ex at the time so he knew a lot of was going on.

So yh the key is to communicate with him so he knows I am not using him coz I dnt like that.