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Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by davidif: 6:38am On Jan 18, 2017 |
KONJIKILLER: Why do Nigerian guys have to buy stuff for people they are dating? Kai! i tire o. 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by Jonnie29: 6:39am On Jan 18, 2017 |
show her love then she will agree |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by awa(m): 6:39am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Bros stop kidding, ladies are generally like that. Honestly my lovely wife of 8 years now hasn't given me any YES answer of the dating proposals I made like 10 Years back. It could be that funny 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by soloehis(m): 6:52am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Start making moves ..women hardly say yes.. start pecking.. caressing her hair,Hand...start the romantic moves..she will hastenly remove u from friend zone. 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by Sike(m): 6:55am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Dear OP, your usename self na Relationship KILLER. Bye |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by xenten: 6:56am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Bros, she may like you. Did you ask her if she is dating someone else? It is apparent you are not the only one pestering her. Isolate her in a comfy place. Get her to commit else you may end up as a friend |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by creepsyme(f): 7:05am On Jan 18, 2017 |
KONJIKILLER:truth is, she has anoda boyfriend she is attending to, my advice is this try very hard to control ur emotions and also get urself engrossed in a lot of other activities while still keeping in touch with her, I promise she will come needing ur attention soon. 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by wristbangle: 7:14am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Yes she likes you but as what? She is just enjoying your gifts and attention. If she really wants to date you, you won't go this far to be buying her sharwama, bra, pata... etceteras. Some ladies are like this putting guy on a fence while enjoying his comfort and that of others. Dude, to be honest you have been friendzoned. 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by peter0071(m): 7:42am On Jan 18, 2017 |
my Guy, control your emotions right.. Even if she likes you, she still needs time to make up her mind... two months is barely enough to know the lady. you can still be friends and get to know her better. Marriage and love shouldnt be something you should rush into. IF YOU RUSH IN, YOU LL RUSH OUT!!! |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by xyoung: 7:48am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Bros what you should be more concerned about is kissing or smooching or fukcing her. Stop this good boy act. These days, you fukc your way into relationships 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by chiraqDemon(m): 7:51am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Just chill till her bday after the party Bro you mived too slow Ur already in that zone She likes you quite alright BUT AS A BROTHER (ghen ghen ghen) |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by jfleece(m): 7:57am On Jan 18, 2017 |
daewoorazer:imo state for now |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by Homguy(m): 8:00am On Jan 18, 2017 |
KONJIKILLER:Bro, i initially didnt want to comment but i think its not fair to you if i dont. Look, have you noticed you dont really fall for that girl thats unnaturally good to you? That goes out of her way to please hoping that you would ask her out? You most likely wont. For what its worth lemme list what the things you are doing in that paragragh des to her. 1. It shows you are desperate even if you are not. Nobody wants a desperate person close by. 2. Buying her a lot of gifts and treating her like a queen even before she says yes feels like you are simply trying to woo her with gifts instead of your persona, anf charisma. You probably have neither to offer. 3. When you are overly nice to her before youstart dating officially,you become a doormat and act like a wussy. Its a big turnoff to ladies. 4. You might think that your gifts would make her like you, but instead it makes her feel indebted to you. Thats not a fweling she'ld want to have for a long time. Its a burden. 5.When u start treating her like a queen before she says YES, you take the fun out of the chase already. what does she get when she eventually agrees, she might as well keep playing along with commiting while enjoying all the benefits of being in a relationship with u. 6. Acting all nice always is unnatural, you are human, you get angry, you get sad, you get happy, you get to yab her joking sometimes,tell her off other times, warn her wen she crosses lines she shldnt,and treat her good wen sometimes. But this your approach means you are almost always smiling ,and happy with her. Its not natuaral bro. I think you should; 1. Cut off the gifts immediately. They ve done more harm than good to your course. Take her out once in a while and that shld suffix. 2. You havr to tease her playfully too. Its very important. Deliberately annoy her sometimes and then pet her again.You need to stir up emotions. Ladies feed on that. 3. Reduce the time you spend with her trying to make her happy. Threaten her subtly with a possiblity of losing you bro. Then u would seem more valuable. 4. Give her a deadline subtly. Noy right away. But after you have done all of the above. My opinion; if she say yes to u now,she would just be playing you. Cause those gifts and acts at making her feel like a queen are ciunter productve. Please make yourself difficult subtly. 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by peter0071(m): 8:03am On Jan 18, 2017 |
i was once in your shoes my brother.... always around this babe, showing her "love and afection" with so much gifts. but the end story is that she bounced me like baseball and tossed me off like a piece of used rag! i cleaned and licked my wounds and move on....learning my lessons in a bitter way.... and i ensured that i didnt m,ake such mistakes again! selah |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by omolayomi06: 8:11am On Jan 18, 2017 |
KONJIKILLER:guy i tell you ,, you are just playing assistant boyfriend game if you don't open up,, some girls can be very smart, try tell her patapata she will say no and you go think am for two weeks and you will move on with your life |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by ismart: 8:19am On Jan 18, 2017 |
goingape1:Including your mother, your sister and your future daughter. I wonder the kind of home people like you came from. Someone broke your heart and you are still dragging it... 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by Eleniyan15: 8:21am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by xpressive(m): 8:21am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Oga wan pickrace as birthday show face,don calculate the spending an him no dey certain.jus continue sha diz her birthday fit determine ur heartbreak or happiness 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by ismart: 8:25am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Quintessential1: I am in similar situation as he. However, the girl in my case says she as a boyfriend but respond to my advances like someone who isn't in a relationship. She even agreed to be with me on 25th of December, an important date to be with her supposed boyfriend. She also invited me over to her side on 26th. I have been confused really. I decided I wouldn't talk to her for a month and let us see if she will show signs of interest by calling me etc.... |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by fitinwell: 8:44am On Jan 18, 2017 |
KONJIKILLER: Op i don't get She as not said Yes... are you thinking well at all..? don't you know assumption in relationship kills faster than HIV.. you spend money daily on her ..what kind of investment are you doing that is yielding no returns.. charity organisation? huh? i expected when you chat are up on the phone for 30mins whats stopping you for telling her your fears and worries.. you are a bombocrat, you better start acting like a MAN.. and leave that level of school boy thing... obiviously from your thread you are one. call her if you cant confront her.. babe.. na Bleep i want... or i want date or marry you ..then you take charge ,,. confuse her.. seal it with a deep kiss.. and Bleep her response... |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by northvietnam(m): 8:51am On Jan 18, 2017 |
daewoorazer: baba.... Twaleeee.... dem born u wellaaaa Aswear 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by Allergic(m): 8:54am On Jan 18, 2017 |
This OP is still learning. Most people that commented are even still learning but some pretty nice submission so far. OP, do the following: 1. Too much attention sometimes is BAD. So, lower the attention you give to her. 2. Don't attend that birthday, don't call her that day - just send her a text. 3. Reduce how often you call her 4. Try to invite her over to your apartment 5. On first visit, just gist and make her comfortable 6. While you reduce communication, take her out 7. Invite her over again, don't touch her. 8. Repeat 6 9. Invite her again, now you're ready to hit the cookies. I swear she wouldn't be able to resist. Stop asking girls out formally, no girl will tell you YES! 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by AngelsAndStars(m): 8:54am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Simple law of demand and supply you supply too much of affection and gifts and calls. and her demand seems constant. when supply increases where demand is constant price reduced. here price is her commitment which you seek reduce your supply a little bit lower than her demand and see her lick your foot if not walk away with dignity... the little you give her make it a quality one. do not be predictable or desperate. This is basic economics |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by daewoorazer(m): 8:55am On Jan 18, 2017 |
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Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by daewoorazer(m): 8:59am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by samsam2019: 9:10am On Jan 18, 2017 |
This guy dull sha abi your name na dullarpo ni? So you're buying her stuffs already all because you think she loves you? When your mates are smashing her real good 2 Likes |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by navite: 9:15am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Bros what you're feeling for the babe might just be infatuation. After all, you met her just November last year which is barely 3 months. I suggest you still be friends for now and not rush things like she said. I once met a corper who I thought was my soul mate. Just like you, we were so close and became almost inseparable . I foolishly rushed things by taking her home to mama only to discover that this babe lacked common courtesy. If she was being corrected by my mom over some things, she would start nagging me that she was being embarrassed. She saw every little chastisement as embarrassment yet she claimed she was willing to learn. She really rushed me to the extent of introducing her to my parents. Her cooking Let's not even go there. I'm a better cook sef. She was only good in bed. I was still fortunate to quit the relationship though because I discovered all I felt was mere infatuation. And please limit how you shower her with material things. I made that mistake too. When I stopped giving her attention and gifts just before we quit the relationship, she was practically at my mercy!!! So abeg, look well before you leap. Take your time. She should even be the one rushing you and not the other way. All the best!!! 1 Like |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by ashala(m): 9:21am On Jan 18, 2017 |
daewoorazer: haaaaaaa haaaaaaa |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by slimmdree(m): 9:22am On Jan 18, 2017 |
guy just pass me her number |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by daewoorazer(m): 9:26am On Jan 18, 2017 |
Re: Nairalanders, Help Me Out, She Hasn't Said Yes by talk2alabama: 9:31am On Jan 18, 2017 |
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