Four years ago I met and fell in love with this man who became everything to me. Not only was he one of the most handsome men I have ever met in my life but also one with the most beautiful heart as well.
Despite his status and upbringing, he didn’t mind my humble one and went out of his way to ensure he gave me everything to be relevant in his life. He took over the payment of my fees and maintenance, got me a car and a driver.
He didn’t stop there, he also ensured that my parents were relocated and my father was given a good job to enable him play his role as the head of the home.
Unfortunately something terrible happened on his way to Ondo State for his best friend’s wedding. He had an accident that not only disfigured his face, thought that has been taken care of through constructive surgery but also affected his left leg. He now limps.
All these happened last year. While he was in coma, I was by his side and even followed on his abroad trip when his parents decided to fly him out of the country. He insisted he wanted me by his side. I was there too when the doctors say he would be unable to recover and use of his leg. I was there to hold his hands and wipe away the tears.

Honestly, I would have gladly spent the rest of my life. But now, I have fallen in love with someone else, the doctor in charge of him when he was in coma.

I don’t know how it happened, but I am hopelessly in love with him. He has the right looks and has promised to take me abroad, to escape the repercussion of leaving my current boyfriend.
When I told my parents about this new man, my father not only threatened to disown me if I leave him, but has also said he would terminate his marriage to my mother who doesn’t see anything wrong in me falling in love with this doctor. My siblings too are on the side of my father. Except for my mother, none of my siblings or friends is talking to me any more. They all think I am leaving him because of his deformity, but have all refused to listen to me that I am really in love with this doctor.
I don’t know what to do. I am so confused. Meanwhile, the parents of my former boyfriend have requested from my father a date for our ‘introduction.’ Knowing my father, he would give them a date. I don’t want to be around for the introduction but don’t want my parents home to break up as a result of me.

Please tell me how to tell my former boyfriend that it is over and how to make my father see reasons with me that I didn’t plan to fall in love with the doctor. My mother says I should simply ignore my father and my former boyfriend. And that once I travel she too can come over to be with me.
Confused Girl.

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WHERE HAVE MEN GONE WRONG? CAN SOMEBODY TELL ME,

You fall in love, you fall out of love. That is life.
would the former boy rather she stay with him out of pity?
He will find someone else

Please don't even attempt to make this a man vs woman thing. I mean what about the men who have left their wives for something as stupid as gaining weight. . .From bearing their children.

@SISI

ARE YOU JUSTIFYING WHAT SHE IS ABOUT TO DO?

ITS NOT A MATTER OF MEN VS WOMEN, THIS IS JUST A FOOD FOR THOUGHT FOR MY GUYS

WOMEN ARE FULL OF TRICKS, JEEEEEEEEEEEEZ  CHAMELEON

I'm not justifying anything, just saying if you're gonna make a big to do over this, then make sure you bring up all the instances where the reverse was the case.

Gosh you are such an alarmist.

@SISI

TALK ABOUT THE CASE AT HAND NOW

WHY ARE YOU THINKING OUT OF THE TOPIC.

CONTRIBUTE TO WHAT IS HAPPENING THAT IS ALL

Food for thought?

I think what you're doing is wrong. You can say you just fell in love with the dr dude and your bf's deformity has got nothing to do with it but that's not the image you present to the world. You come across as a gold-digger,i mean this guy's your everything,he's helped you and your family out,and now that he's had a problem you conveniently fall in love with someone else? Speaking of which,how did you fall in 'love' with the dear doctor? Love isn't something that just happens. It grows over time. So how did you fall in 'love'? He held your hand? Comforted you? You went out dates? Had your first kiss? Is that what happened? When you knew you were already in a relationship? That's cruel.

Wow, thats messed up. But, shit happens.

I refuse to believe that ur falling in love wit dis doctor at d same time ur bf had an accident was a co incidence. I really want to, but i can't. I'm sorry. Tell urself d truth. U never imagined in ur wildest dreams that u'd be marrying someone deformed, right? I feel so sorry for this guy, i almost want to take this case personal. After all he's done 4 u? My God!!! And dont give me dat bull that its not ur fault u fell in love with someone else. Please, don't. Shame on you.

Couldn't have said it better Akingirl. . .SHIT HAPPENS!

Second thought, poster above me is correct. That is very cruel. Hope someone dosent do that to you one day.

And,OP,you sound really shallow. You didnt fall in love with the dr cos he's kind,compassionate,caring and a good human being. You fell in love with him because he has the right looks. I mean,come on! You have a good man. Sure he's not the cutest man in the world,but to use your words,he's got a beautiful heart. Be content and stop lusting after the guy with the 'right looks'. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

I HOPE WE CAN JUST LEARN FROM THESE

SHE HAS MADE UP HER MIND, THE STORY CAME OUT `SHE WAS DESERTED BY FRIENDS AND SIBLINGS

EVEN IF SHE DON`T DUMP THE BOYFRIEND NOW, SHE WILL DUMP HIM LATER

DO WE HAVE  TO RUN AWAY FROM OUR DEAR GIRLS NOW

@DON

I WASN`T THE VICTIM HERE

I AM JUST GIVING THE NEWS OUT TO THE WORLD FOR MY GUYS TO LEARN

I just feel bad for the guy. It's experiences like this that make some men turn into monsters.

I'm just wondering why she couldn't dump him when he was helping her and her family. Only one word rings true in my head; GOLD DIGGER!!!

@STEEZE

SOME GOLD-DIGGER ARE MERCIFUL

BUT HUMMMM JUST WATCH-OUT

LOVE CAN BRING A PAIN OOO

IF THIS IS WHAT IS ALL ABOUT, I WILL RATHER NOT LOVE SHA.

OR

I WILL GIVE MY LOVE TO CHINESE OR KOREAN

How convenient for her to fall for the doctor.
And what happens if he has an accident too. She'll fall for the next man available.
Anyways life goes on. The guy obviously deserves someone better-even her family is disgusted with her change of attitude. SMH

i pity my dear deformed young man

who is anyone really to tell anyone else who to love or not to love.if "loving" this doctor is as shallow as people are saying then surely if its not the doctor the poster falls for itll be someone else.
maybe people need to have a bit more understanding for what the poster is telling us-after all as i know myself if someone in your family has special needs or a disability it doesnt just affect that person it affects the whole family.

clearly, poster is a gold digging slut, but what is the alternative? that she stay with dude outta pity? nah, let her go. karma is a fcukin cold heart bitch!!!

HEARTBREAKING                             CRUEL

DUMPING                                        LIER

JILTED                                               

DITCHED

NEGLECT

I RUNNING OUT OF WORDS,SOMEONE HELP ME PLS

dont know what to say,my dear remember good times.if u want to leave him, remember that things people do lives with them,if u leave him, God in heaven will not forgive u.am a lady like u,if u marry this doctor now,he too now as accident,will u fall in luv with the doctor that is going to take care of him.i think u are loosed and heartless,follow ur mum advice and end i destruction

THANKS FOR YOUR CONTRIBUTIONS

Lmao! Keep thanking people who help you justify your hatred for Naija women.

@SISI

NOW I SEE THAT YOUR PROBLEM IS ABOUT UNDERSTANDING

I WON`T TEACH YOU HOW TO DO THAT,I GUESS YOU CAN FIGURE IT OUT YOURSELF.

GO ON WITH YOUR RETARDED BRAIN, WHAT IS SO HARD FOR YOU IN READ AND COMMENT.

YOU PUT YOUR JUDGEMENT OUTSIDE THE TOPIC.

Typical woman, one gets disfigured, then the other got the right looks.

well the dude learnt the hard way, that women are not worth killling ursef for

cos they know nothing about love. its wld have been better if he did all that for

a dog, at least it knows ow to stay faithful and loyal, no matter what.