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Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 12:37pm On Apr 09, 2017
CoolFreeday:
Our parents, The society and our culture put unnecessary pressure on people because of marriage. The pressure to me is not necessary. Life shouldn't be all about marriage, those that are married today are mostly managing their homes but not enjoying it, husbands and wives sleep outside with their lovers and yet young once are being pressurise to venture into it.

Making up your mind to live your life without worrying yourself over it will be a wonderful decision, if it will happen, it will definitely happen so why all the trouble, after all, you're just 28, you're too young for all the marriage pressure thing.
Happy weekend.

Exactly

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Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 12:39pm On Apr 09, 2017
Pinkpetals:


Ah she smiles cheesy

But haven't you ever been in love... Where u thought you could literally stay with this person for ever ...It just made sense?

Lol, I'm actually dating someone but marriage that's a whole different story /level. We shall see, I might change my mind
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 12:43pm On Apr 09, 2017
lovelygurl:


Lol, I'm actually dating someone but marriage that's a whole different story /level. We shall see, I might change my mind

Not to get personal... But how old are u?

I didn't even think about marriage until at 27 lipsrsealed
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 12:44pm On Apr 09, 2017
In as much as i feel for your anxiety, but at 28 you need not panic, be positive and believe in yourself and God, marriage with the right person will come.
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 12:53pm On Apr 09, 2017
lovelygurl:



Can you just STFU. I swear you are irritating the hell outta me
Will u chill d fvck out!!!! Ur ruining my palm Sunday!!!! undecided
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 12:54pm On Apr 09, 2017
Pinkpetals:


I don't understand

She is pissed!!!
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 12:55pm On Apr 09, 2017
luminouz:

She is pissed!!!

Oh Hmmmm lol....

Teach me some swear words in Pidgeon cheesy
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 12:57pm On Apr 09, 2017
Pinkpetals:


Not to get personal... But how old are u?

I didn't even think about marriage until at 27 lipsrsealed

Hahaha very young. I'm 18. I think you are just thinking of marriage because of the pressure surrounding you. Marriage is not something to rush into, especially since you will be on your own, going through whatever marriage throws at you.
Those pressuring you now, will also be the ones to pressure you to stay in a bad marriage, if you make a bad decision.
It's a lifetime decision and it will be your choice to be happy or not. More reason why you should think about it throughly. The fact that a lady marries earlier doesnt mean she is happy with her marriage. To me there's nothing worse, than living just the 1 life you have to live in unhappiness.
I've seen so many marriages crash, I'm not feeling the vibe anymore.

You'll be surprised to see how many young girls who would rather stay single than marry

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Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 12:57pm On Apr 09, 2017
anikwenze:
In as much as i feel for your anxiety, but at 28 you need not panic, be positive and believe in yourself and God, marriage with the right person will come.

Thank u... I will keep this in mind
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 12:58pm On Apr 09, 2017
Pinkpetals:


Oh Hmmmm lol....

Teach me some swear words in Pidgeon cheesy
Lmao!!!
Which kain wahala be dis...
U no dey hear word...
Nawa for u oooooo....

Lemme stop dia... grin
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 12:59pm On Apr 09, 2017
luminouz:

Will u chill d fvck out!!!! Ur ruining my palm Sunday!!!! undecided

Stop whining around.....you quoted me first lipsrsealed
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 1:02pm On Apr 09, 2017
lovelygurl:


Hahaha very young. I'm 18. I think you are just thinking of marriage because of the pressure surrounding you. Marriage is not something to rush into, especially since you will be on your own, going through whatever marriage throws at you.
Those pressuring you now, will also be the ones to pressure you to stay in a bad marriage, if you make a bad decision.
It's a lifetime decision and it will be your choice to be happy or not. More reason why you should think about it throughly. The fact that a lady marries earlier doesnt mean she is happy with her marriage. To me there's nothing worse than living just the 1 life you have to live in unhappiness.
I've seen so many marriages crash, I'm not feeling the vibe anymore.

You'll be surprised to see how many young girls that would rather stay single than marry

Lol now it all makes sense cheesy

You sound really smart... I agree though

Hmmmm I don't think I sounded like this at 18 lipsrsealed

Career first... But don't be like me though during varsity... Date with a purpose . I just dated and was too focused on on my studies ( not a bad thing) but you need balance
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 1:04pm On Apr 09, 2017
luminouz:

Lmao!!!
Which kain wahala be dis...
U no dey hear word...
Nawa for u oooooo....

Lemme stop dia... grin

No I understand ... But you took it too far previously tongue
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 1:04pm On Apr 09, 2017
lovelygurl:


Stop whining around.....you quoted me first lipsrsealed
Ur what? 18? Now I understand!!!!! Bye!!!!
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 1:05pm On Apr 09, 2017
Pinkpetals:


No I understand ... But you took it too far previously tongue
cheesy grin
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 1:08pm On Apr 09, 2017
Pinkpetals:


Lol... What's going on here.... Hmmm I sense some sexual tension grin
Lmaoooooo!!!!! She get wahala abeg!!!!
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 1:09pm On Apr 09, 2017
Pinkpetals:


Lol now it all makes sense cheesy

You sound really smart... I agree though

Hmmmm I don't think I sounded like this at 18 lipsrsealed

Career first... But don't be like me though during varsity... Date with a purpose . I just dated and was too focused on on my studies ( not a bad thing) but you need balance

Lol to be honest I am very focused on my studies, and I strive for being independent in every aspect of my life but I do understand where you are coming from. I don't have a problem with socialising or balancing studies and social activities. I just haven't seen something to convince me that marriage is sweet but like I said earlier that might change in the future


Besides everybody says I sound way mature than my age, kind of feeling like like a grandma now grin
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 1:09pm On Apr 09, 2017
luminouz:

Ur what? 18? Now I understand!!!!! Bye!!!!

Uncle respect your age undecided
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 1:10pm On Apr 09, 2017
lovelygurl:


Uncle respect your age undecided
Lmaoooooooooo!!!!!! I will... Niece!!!!
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 1:14pm On Apr 09, 2017
lovelygurl:


Lol to be honest I am very focused on my studies, and I strive for being independent in every aspect of my life but I do understand where you are coming from. I don't have a problem with socialising or balancing studies and social activities. I just haven't seen something to convince me that marriage is sweet but like I said earlier that might change in the future


Besides everybody says I sound way mature than my age, kind of feeling like like a grandma now grin

You are so well spoken... Really rare at your age.

All the best though...

Sigh let me go do some work and stop procrastinating cry
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 1:20pm On Apr 09, 2017
Pinkpetals:


You are so well spoken... Really rare at your age.

All the best though...

Sigh let me go do some work and stop procrastinating cry

Lol..wishing you the best too. Especially when it comes to your future husband. I don't know you but I think you are worth it
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 10:27pm On Apr 09, 2017
ZarZar:


Hmmm...seems we have things alike smiley I don't like to share either. If I didn't know better, I'd say I've met a rare breed tongue


If I try analyzing these sentences to fish out their meanings, you will likely confront me with the epigram below:

In 19th century, a drummer was always on transit between Iwo and Ibadan -- major towns in Western region of Nigeria. Lalupon, a town manned by a powerful border official, was a border town between Iwo and Ibadan. Oyo is also a major town. The most loved drinks for entertainment purposes in those days was palm wine. So, the border official had been lavishing the drink on the drummer while shuttling around.

To repay the gesture, the drummer had to sing the official's praises to high heavens. But instead of praising him, the drummer invented an abusive song he would pass with his talking drum. He ensured the song could also be interpreted as a praise. The drummer took cognizance of the official's physique, which was below par in term of his mouth that resembled that of a beetle.
The drumming goes thus:

"I drank palm wine in Ibadan and Oyo joints and paid for it, but the largesse of high quality palm wine was extended to me by Lalupon border official."

It could alse mean:

"Examine the mouth part of a beetle; compare it with that of a snail, and tell me if Lalupon border official's mouth does not place him in the same biological family with this insect and the snail."

The drummer's traducers, who were experts in the language of talking drums, reported the matter to the border official.

Some days later, the drummer was passing by, and started the same rhetoric. Furious with rage, the official got the drummer arrested. But the drummer defended himself that he actually meant the first interpretation above, and that the second interpretation above was the handiwork of his enemies.

Now to your sentences:

1. It seems you tried to let us believe you have done the digging about me offline, and have come to a conclusion that I'm a wolf in sheep's clothing. The truth is that whatever is thrown forward will be overtaken; whatever is buried shall be dug out. And I will never defend myself that nothing has been thrown forward or buried.

2. Since my moniker was not mentioned, you are at liberty to say that you were not referring to me in the whole remark.

Anyway, I have come to realize that your breed of a woman is what I have [longed for] for ages. But that longing is still a half-truth, because I have no idea of how you look like -- before anything, humans tend to be drawn to each other first by appearance.

Let me tell you why luminous likes you: you brandish almost the same intelligence like that of one Rãine80, and luminous has never hidden his liking for the damsel(Check his past comments). It's not a bad thing to want wise women, but what if there is what we call fate? What if I'm fated to marry a dumb woman? It's understandable why you frustrated my effort to connect with you.

If not that you are an Aquarian, I would have thought that my thread about a business to do with a bike and 20k gave me away. But your ilk don't see money as the most important thing in this life. Peace!

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Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 11:47pm On Apr 09, 2017
Snow84:



If I try analyzing these sentences to fish out their meanings, you will likely confront me with the epigram below:

In 19th century, a drummer was always on transit between Iwo and Ibadan -- major towns in Western region of Nigeria. Lalupon, a town manned by a powerful border official, was a border town between Iwo and Ibadan. Oyo is also a major town. The most loved drinks for entertainment purposes in those days was palm wine. So, the border official had been lavishing the drink on the drummer while shuttling around.

To repay the gesture, the drummer had to sing the official's praises to high heavens. But instead of praising him, the drummer invented an abusive song he would pass with his talking drum. He ensured the song could also be interpreted as a praise. The drummer took cognizance of the official's physique, which was below par in term of his mouth that resembled that of a beetle.
The drumming goes thus:

"I drank palm wine in Ibadan and Oyo joints and paid for it, but the largesse of high quality palm wine was extended to me by Lalupon border official."

It could alse mean:

"Examine the mouth part of a beetle; compare it with that of a snail, and tell me if Lalupon border official's mouth does not place him in the same biological family with this insect and the snail."

The drummer's traducers, who were experts in the language of talking drums, reported the matter to the border official.

Some days later, the drummer was passing by, and started the same rhetoric. Furious with rage, the official got the drummer arrested. But the drummer defended himself that he actually meant the first interpretation above, and that the second interpretation above was the handiwork of his enemies.

Now to your sentences:

1. It seems you tried to let us believe you have done the digging about me offline, and have come to a conclusion that I'm a wolf in sheep's clothing. The truth is that whatever is thrown forward will be overtaken; whatever is buried shall be dug out. And I will never defend myself that nothing has been thrown forward or buried.

2. Since my moniker was not mentioned, you are at liberty to say that you were not referring to me in the whole remark.

Anyway, I have come to realize that your breed of a woman is what I have [longed for] for ages. But that longing is still a half-truth, because I have no idea of how you look like -- before anything, humans tend to be drawn to each other first by appearance.

Let me tell you why luminous likes you: you brandish almost the same intelligence like that of one Rãine80, and luminous has never hidden his liking for the damsel(Check his past comments). It's not a bad thing to want wise women, but what if there is what we call fate? What if I'm fated to marry a dumb woman? It's understandable why you frustrated my effort to connect with you.

If not that you are an Aquarian, I would have thought that my thread about a business to do with a bike and 20k gave me away. But your ilk don't see money as the most important thing in this life. Peace!
Damn DAT was hot!!!! So ur snow84!!!! I like u bro!!! U know what u want n never shy away from it!!! grin
I love wise women! Beauty to me is fleeting! Have had my share of beautiful damsels as a fine boy.....but intelligence in a woman knocks Me d fvck out!!!!
Ur right about Raine80!!!! There is something about her DAT piques me I swear! So down to earth n mature.....just like ZarZar babe(we just jammed recently bro...I admire her intelligence n spirit) !!!!! grin
I wish u luck bro!!!! Am kinda weird about people....I always know who am gonna be cool with n ur one of them......
Am a Taurus by d way(don't know if DAT means shiit) grin
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 7:41am On Apr 10, 2017
Snow84:



If I try analyzing these sentences to fish out their meanings, you will likely confront me with the epigram below:

In 19th century, a drummer was always on transit between Iwo and Ibadan -- major towns in Western region of Nigeria. Lalupon, a town manned by a powerful border official, was a border town between Iwo and Ibadan. Oyo is also a major town. The most loved drinks for entertainment purposes in those days was palm wine. So, the border official had been lavishing the drink on the drummer while shuttling around.

To repay the gesture, the drummer had to sing the official's praises to high heavens. But instead of praising him, the drummer invented an abusive song he would pass with his talking drum. He ensured the song could also be interpreted as a praise. The drummer took cognizance of the official's physique, which was below par in term of his mouth that resembled that of a beetle.
The drumming goes thus:

"I drank palm wine in Ibadan and Oyo joints and paid for it, but the largesse of high quality palm wine was extended to me by Lalupon border official."

It could alse mean:

"Examine the mouth part of a beetle; compare it with that of a snail, and tell me if Lalupon border official's mouth does not place him in the same biological family with this insect and the snail."

The drummer's traducers, who were experts in the language of talking drums, reported the matter to the border official.

Some days later, the drummer was passing by, and started the same rhetoric. Furious with rage, the official got the drummer arrested. But the drummer defended himself that he actually meant the first interpretation above, and that the second interpretation above was the handiwork of his enemies.

Now to your sentences:

1. It seems you tried to let us believe you have done the digging about me offline, and have come to a conclusion that I'm a wolf in sheep's clothing. The truth is that whatever is thrown forward will be overtaken; whatever is buried shall be dug out. And I will never defend myself that nothing has been thrown forward or buried.

2. Since my moniker was not mentioned, you are at liberty to say that you were not referring to me in the whole remark.

Anyway, I have come to realize that your breed of a woman is what I have [longed for] for ages. But that longing is still a half-truth, because I have no idea of how you look like -- before anything, humans tend to be drawn to each other first by appearance.

Let me tell you why luminous likes you: you brandish almost the same intelligence like that of one Rãine80, and luminous has never hidden his liking for the damsel(Check his past comments). It's not a bad thing to want wise women, but what if there is what we call fate? What if I'm fated to marry a dumb woman? It's understandable why you frustrated my effort to connect with you.

If not that you are an Aquarian, I would have thought that my thread about a business to do with a bike and 20k gave me away. But your ilk don't see money as the most important thing in this life. Peace!

Wow, I don't even know what to say to this. But can I ask you a question, who are you? Are you snow84, snowcream or 2bspirits? Like, I'm just so confused by the post & the moniker behind it. Anyway, I can promise you that my reasons for not taking what is going on here to heart, have got nothing to do with you as a person, whoever you are. It's just me being protective of myself & not wanting to get too involved for a number of personal reasons. One girl here, I don't wanna say her name, also tried to reach out to me privately & I didn't get back to her because there's something that scares me about that- getting too close. So it's honestly not about you. I'm afraid to build relationships, period. People are disappointing & I just don't wanna keep going through the same cycle. It's much better for me when I keep my distance so I won't get hurt. I'm very sensitive, hence my shying away from things that would require me to get emotionally involved. I hope you understand my angle.
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 7:59am On Apr 10, 2017
luminouz:

Damn DAT was hot!!!! So ur snow84!!!! I like u bro!!! U know what u want n never shy away from it!!! grin
I love wise women! Beauty to me is fleeting! Have had my share of beautiful damsels as a fine boy.....but intelligence in a woman knocks Me d fvck out!!!!
Ur right about Raine80!!!! There is something about her DAT piques me I swear! So down to earth n mature.....just like ZarZar babe(we just jammed recently bro...I admire her intelligence n spirit) !!!!! grin
I wish u luck bro!!!! Am kinda weird about people....I always know who am gonna be cool with n ur one of them......
Am a Taurus by d way(don't know if DAT means shiit) grin

Awwwww smiley

Do you believe in synchronicities? Something about what snow84 wrote & what you wrote that's guiding my thoughts to a different place unrelated to this topic. Plus I'm wondering why I keep bumping into Yoruba guys tongue Perhaps fate is at play wink
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 8:02am On Apr 10, 2017
Awwww the love story going on this thread is making me emotional grin kiss
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 8:04am On Apr 10, 2017
ZarZar:


Awwwww smiley

Do you believe in synchronicities? Something about what snow84 wrote & what you wrote that's guiding my thoughts to a different place unrelated to this topic. Plus I'm wondering why I keep bumping into Yoruba guys tongue Perhaps fate is at play wink
Lmao!!!!! Babe babe! It might be fate! U never know till u try it! I have never cared about d tribe thing sha..n I instinctively know DAT me n snow84 gon be friends....my friends think am weird like DAT ....reason am called ALIEN....
Awayu dear?
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 8:05am On Apr 10, 2017
lovelygurl:
Awwww the love story going on this thread is making me emotional grin kiss
Do something about it!!!! grin
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 8:19am On Apr 10, 2017
luminouz:

Lmao!!!!! Babe babe! It might be fate! U never know till u try it! I have never cared about d tribe thing sha..n I instinctively know DAT me n snow84 gon be friends....my friends think am weird like DAT ....reason am called ALIEN....
Awayu dear?

Well, it's been a pattern with me lately. I keep meeting Yoruba guys! I'm a big believer in "signs" though. I believe that God/Universe communicates with us through everyday events. If it happens once it's a coincidence, but more than once, it deserves a 2nd look. Shrugs. Anyway, I'm doing great smiley How are you?
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by Nobody: 8:20am On Apr 10, 2017
luminouz:

Do something about it!!!! grin


Lol don't pretend like you are not enjoying the drama too grin

It's like reading a really good book. Storyline:

ZarZar--> the emotional girl, finds it difficult to trust and therefore to love

Snow84--> lover boy, believes in love but will he be able to win ZarZar's heart?


Stay tuned and find out grin
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 8:21am On Apr 10, 2017
ZarZar:


Well, it's been a pattern with me lately. I keep meeting Yoruba guys! I'm a big believer in "signs" though. I believe that God/Universe communicates with us through everyday events. If it happens once it's a coincidence, but more than once, it deserves a 2nd look. Shrugs. Anyway, I'm doing great smiley How are you?
Am good o!!!! Just prepping for SKUL thingz!!!!! Holla@ u later aiit?
Re: Random Thought: What If We Arent All Meant To Marry? by luminouz(m): 8:23am On Apr 10, 2017
lovelygurl:



Lol don't pretend like you are not enjoying the drama too grin

It's like reading a really good book. Storyline:

ZarZar--> the emotional girl, finds it difficult to trust and therefore to love

Snow84--> lover boy, believes in love but will he be able to win ZarZar's heart?


Stay tuned and find out grin


Lmaoooooo!! Coz am staying tuned!!!! But ermmm.....there is a 3rd player in all this dear...ME!!!
So what's my storyline grin

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