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Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by justwise(m): 4:05pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
Missy B: I don't think ANY man with a single brain cell would want to nurse the feeling of getting married WITHOUT having a job. Hey! to some ladies here, having a job is not enough but his pay cheque. I don't mind marrying a jobless woman IF we are inlove but i wouldn't marry a woman with list of materia things i must have cos when those materia things are gone she goes. Women like that don't think beyond handbags, shoes, cloths and how to outshine other married couples. |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by Nobody: 4:13pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
justwise: justwise: Am with you 100% What people dont know is that money has wings. It can fly away anytime. 1 Like |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by justwise(m): 4:18pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
ifedy: Oh! thank God u are one of those who can see beyond figures |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by N101: 4:32pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
Some of you are talking at cross-purposes, the fact that some of you ask a question without checking the reply well makes me wonder about your cognitive skills. Some of you were all over the place - please explain to me how a "jobless" man could afford to marry. Borrow from family? Get himself into debt to impress a woman? That is just silly. As for a man earning more, what's the advantage? So if he takes a lower paying job you'll divorce him? Finance does not equate to respect, unless a person worships money, which it seems some men and women here are guilty of. Guys like bawolomo, Siena and axeman85 have basically said it all for the (sensible) male perspective. There is a difference between a lazy jobless man, and a man with potential and character but with no job. Likewise, The Amaka, ThoniaSlim and rotiaku also make valid points from the (also sensible) female perspective; some kind of income, no matter how small, is a contribution, but a man should postpone marriage when he is jobless. Note that the majority of women who responded did NOT say they wanted a millionaire or loaded guy. Yet some of you guys fly with the wind that they are looking for rich men. There are some women out there who are money-hungry, but not all Nigerian women fall into that category, any more than presuming that all Nigerian men are unfaithful. Both are untrue and cheap shots. Some people have been in relationships for a while where the man has graduated and is jobless, that is different to meeting someone new who is jobless. Likewise, there's a difference between losing a job after marriage and having none before marriage. It is better to marry someone who is sensible with good character and potential than someone unscrupulous with money. No one should underestimate a jobless man, but one should be able to differentiate jobless liberty takers versus a jobless man for whom it is only a temporary condition. Love isn't blind. |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by highland(m): 4:51pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
;d |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by gugus1(m): 5:11pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
please is this case for nigeria alone or other countries as well?, most people here don't understand the the unemployment situation in nigeria,and for the ladies i read all your replies, but don't you think its subject to the understanding of the people in love, there r also a marriage with all the basic comfort but no peace, lol. you should know your partner, is he\she lazy,violet ,unreasonable etc. |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by Nobody: 5:43pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
justwise: I see within and beyond figures |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by justwise(m): 5:46pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
ifedy: Very rare quality then . |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by Nobody: 6:58pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
justwise:thank you |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by GL(f): 7:12pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
I don't think i can marry a jobless man, probably except if he loses his job very close to the wedding. i won't put wedding preparations on hold but i would seriously encourage and help him to find a new job. this doesn't mean i can't love a jobless man, i can. i just think there should be financial stability before we even start discussing marriage. i cannot break up with a guy just because he lost his job, or because he isn't rich (afterall i should have noticed that before i started dating him). what would make me break up with a jobless man is laziness, inability to keep jobs, or some other negative attitude that he refuses to seek help for. 4teelaw: they were already married, it'll be cruel to divorce a man just because he lost his job. besides the man was keeping busy and actively searching for a job; that's the good kind of jobless man. some jobless men wake up by 11a.m., and all they do is eat, read newspapers and watch tv. |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by ayettymama(f): 7:45pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
well everyone is different is all i can say i can see from some of ur views- esp when its not possible for the man to afford a lavish lifestyle but remember there is a woman for everyman- some women will marry a jobless man some wont- it depends marriage is not all abt money- money only depends on the lifestyle speakin for myself my husband MUST have money- cos of my lifestyle! its simple he MUST earn more than me- cos i believe its shameful if he doesnt he MUST be hardworking- its plain plain! |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by honeric01(m): 8:07pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
@Siena What about if the girl in question is the jobless type too? what if the girl doesn't work? |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by 0hsisi: 8:17pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
Your subsequent responses made nonsense of your advice. You can give excuses and examples from here till Kafanchan Will you wish a jobless man on your daughter? I'm pretty sure your answer is NO so why all these too much talking. If you have no job,as in no source of livelihood,you have no business getting married to anybody's child ho ha! |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by ayettymama(f): 8:22pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
seriously lollon at kanfanchan!!!! |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by 0hsisi: 8:26pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
what this really sounds like is advice to men to do what they can to limit their wive's aspirations in order to preserve their marriages Oyb, I already know you were a good catch before Muniat found you If you were running around with a "flat office file" and came her way with a marriage proposal,you think she would have looked your way? Please tell these young men here the truth i.e get a job, before thinking of marriage You are a father,how easy is it financially to take care of a wife and little kids? tell them it's not like drinking pure water It requires money,a lot of money too. |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by 0hsisi: 8:28pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
honeric01: This is about a jobless man,don't change the topic No woman is ever jobless some work at home, most work outside and also at home |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by 0hsisi: 8:39pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
I have imagined how my life would have been like if I were uneducated and I have told myself that I would have targetted a rich man If God blessed me with beauty but I came from poor parents that couldn't send me to school,maka Chukwu there's nothing that would make me settle for a poor hungry man Even if it were an uneducated trader,it must be a rich one that can cater for my needs ah ah Is it not someone that'll marry the rich men, why not me That's why I can't understand why my beautiful cousin dropped out of secondary school ran off and married this man that sold stickers Stoopid girl !! didn't she see men with their own sheds or several sheds in main market why one that treks round the whole Onitsha selling signs that read "God is good" or "Osondi Owendi" Her mother cried and cried ,I'm sure what pained her more wasn't Nwanneka getting pregnant and dropping out of school but the man she ran to. How can a girl lose both ways like that Education,she doesn't have and on top of that she's drinking garri morning noon and night Tufiakwa If one must eat a frog,you kuku eat a juicy one abeg |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by vislabraye(m): 8:42pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
A man who does not have a job, I wonder how he will propose to a woman and a Naija woman for that matter, Its not proper and i dont think any man would be proud to do such ( there are always exceptions to the rule. Some ladies might just want to go head long for the guy ) |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by sjeezy8: 8:44pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
why would a chick marry a jobless guy? Even if im jobless I can NEVER ask a babe to marry me. |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by 0hsisi: 8:45pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
Now the real men are talking |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by Nobody: 8:48pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
A man who currently does not have a job? Does not mean he will not have a job in the future, I believe I would, but I'd need to see certain qualities within this man, for starters, he'd need be hardworking and have potential, there are many circumstances to consider |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by honeric01(m): 8:49pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
0hsisi: Abeg, stop jumping around, you didn't know what we were discussing together before you flew in. let the right person respond to my post, thanks. |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by 0hsisi: 8:55pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
honeric01: This is a public forum anyone can read or answer any questions posed, if you are not comfy with that,send it as an email message |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by Nobody: 8:59pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
ibkaye: HIGH FIVE |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by honeric01(m): 9:00pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
0hsisi: Yea i know and i apologize if i sounded too harsh with my response, sienna and i were kinda talking about this issue but in another angle, that's why i was expecting him to respond (hence the quoting of his id). be at peace ok? |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
ifedy:woot woot |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by 0hsisi: 9:04pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
ibkaye: Which jobless man is confusing my dear sister? Ib just say No you will sponsor your own wedding,buy your own engagement and wedding rings? |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by ayettymama(f): 9:07pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
^^ my dear not every woman is the same some women dont mind doin those things so leave them to that! some men need it |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by H2O2: 9:20pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
because you love me |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by SisiKill1: 9:33pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
Rolling my eyes @ love. |
Re: For Love Will You Marry A Jobless Man? by Nobody: 9:49pm On Feb 28, 2010 |
0hsisi:What's life without a few risks? Besides, I love him, and as corny as that sounds, think about it this way, what if he doesn't get a job in ages? You won't get married to him? Ever? Life is filled with so many 'what ifs'. Or maybe it's just me, is it just me? Ok, so that's my lazy way of of answering your question, I have like a hundred more things to say running through my mind but I can't be bothered to write them down |
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