GoodFaith:

the man shouldn't have done that wrong
what are other factor that might have led he to the outside
Life is a bitch
we all need God in our lives

GoodFaith:

we know he make 400k
but what is the expensive
it is not about what you make but what you spend that is what i tell people
I know better

GoodFaith:

You young and you are thinking one way
If you not seeing people marry to big banker
year down the road things change the banker might loss his job
but if he is a smart man set up business for the wife that if he loss his job
the wife can carry on

fuckupnation:
Every body in this forum has spoken very well, BUT THIS IS exactly what am seeing in my 3 years marriage right now, we don't have children yet and am seeing this kind or pride from my Igbo lady that brought up in Yoruba land am a Yoruba. her pride is over because she have small money in her hand, she don't see me as a man unless during sex, after sex you become ordinary in her eyes. But i thank God that my incomes is greater than her own, even her mother is in the house now advising her to change but it sees to no way, am planing that she will leave my house with her mother tomorrow morning. My advise is that your father sees that your mum was like that and hope she will change after she have children's. not knowing it will be worst after, if not because of you kids your father know what to do.

prestigiouslady:

Apology doesn't erase the deed

TonyeBarcanista:
Men af suffered..

Your mother gave you a car and instructed you not to allow your father drive it? You even agreed with a smile on your face?

I am sure your sons will be proud of you when they hear the story.

Anyway, it's best your father leave the house, you guys have embarrassed and humiliated him enough. I am very sure that it was due to the misconduct of your mom that he got another mistress.

cummando:

Guy your head dey there.....
The op is the crux of the whole thing. Collecting the car finished the dad. If I be him papa I won't forgive him.....ever....

TonyeBarcanista:
I shake my head at guys that are lashing at the man.

Imagine his mother claiming she spent 80% of house needs, bros if you investigate properly you may be shocked to find out that it was pure lies to make her husband appear irresponsible. If I may ask, when did she started making so much money? Has she been on money before the OP was born? If no, when did she start and who was taking care of bills prior to when she started making her money?

All I see is a family where the wife think money has made her goddess. She disrespect a gentleman, insult him at will, go out on trips (only God knows the real secret) without even the honor of informing the man yet the man kept his cool. Because nature abhors vacuum, he found solace in a better and more responsible woman and impregnate her. Being a gentleman he regretted his deeds and apologised to the person that pushed him away yet her misbehavior tripled.

She bought car and humiliated him publicly, bought more cars and used his own son to humiliate him. Yet, the gentleman kept his cool.

The man is a real man... Leaving the house for the woman and her son is the best.

funmisticqueen:
you still havent proved anything, just repeated what the op said

funmisticqueen:
oh about that,smart people marry smart people i am sure if the man loses his job he would bounce right back up

Mocalypse:
Most of the guys lashing the man for his actions should think very well, because the moment your wife discovers her clit is stronger than your two balls you are finished as a man.
Most of the comments above show how we worship wealth and luxury in this part of the world.
The man was able to cater for his family all along until mamma started balling and went haywire because of power, Money and fame.
Some of us asking what has the man done with his salary couldn't not phantom the[b] fact that N400,000 is not much considering mama's penchant for luxury. Factors like location, expenses, scale of preference should be taken into consideration.[/b]
The same N400,000 could give that man rest of mind and control with his new family, the sole reason he moved out of that house. Despite the corrugated bribes from the Op's mum he still reiterated that the mum started this inferno, that shows there is more to this story thus he confirmed it that he wouldn't be able to write them all.
Just like the proverbial metamorphosis of a caterpillar to butterfly, the woman had a home when she had little but lost her home now that she has more because she couldn't handle wealth, fame, power and family simultaneously.
Lastly, there is no Me and I in marriage rather Us and We. when the essence of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable.

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

GoodFaith:
funmisticqueen:
@funmisticqueen:

"fact that N400,000 is not much considering mama's penchant for luxury. Factors like location, expenses, scale of preference should be taken into consideration."
"there is no Me and I in marriage rather Us and We. when the essence of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable."

GoodFaith:

prove what?
that he make 400k but we don't know his expensive

Like the cost of school fee and rent
if he is working on building a house
or part of his 400k is paying up land
If he has family and younger brothers/sister he is helping through college

Fkforyou:
It seems your Dad is Tbillz while your mum is Tiwa.

There's no point holding on to something that is not there any more.

Your dad better leave and spend the rest of his live quietly with a woman that adores and respect him and not the one that loathes him.

funmisticqueen:
you people have taken advantage of the selfless nature of women, women should start putting themselves first and stop caring about what other people think. It will go a long way to help them find hapiness not in a man that will start another family outside or children that will still leave you and side with their father.

sben2308:




Firstly have u sat ur Dad down to hear his own version before all this because i believe strongly there is more to all this u telling us and I as one am finding it difficult to give my opinion.


Yes bros i have, he really regret his actions as per having extra marital life, when i asked of his spendings he said although he earns that high he has some fam membas children he sponsors which mums isnt happy about


Secondly I want u to understand that d way we all react to things is different and I guess ur dad is going to b a very open man before cuz if not ur mum wouldn't know how much he earns and along d way he discovered somethings which now made him change.


All this boils down mums not bin submissive


Thirdly ask urself r u sure ur mom isnt d one pushing him away cuz I sense she might even b promiscuous n ur Dad found out n withdrawal from her.


Mums is never promiscous and popxy never mention dat


Lastly u said she cater for 80% of things at home and am thinking out loud wasn't he taking care of u guys before properly.

We have bin fine as family, until say 5 years ago when to my best knowledge mums startd to get so involvd and busy


Pls kindly answer my questions so has to do it right n we all learn along d way together