| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by QueenSekxy(f): 7:22pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Tahra:
Please fill me in.
imj with bush,,kashy with them girls..
well they later deleted the thread  |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 7:25pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Oyindidi:
can one delete his/her thread? I don't know it was that legend dude that kept advertising it |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 7:27pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
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| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 7:27pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Tahra:
What happened on the thread before it was deleted? sekxy the oweri princess have already explained |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 7:34pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
sunshineG:
sekxy the oweri princess have already explained Ok. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Adaumunocha(f): 7:35pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
coursednigerian:
I have noticed the new trend in Hollywood and some nollywood movies where writers are completely trying to paint the man as the vilan.
Like I may be wrong and any feminist here is free to correct me but what do you ppl want you scream equality like you ppl have new enslaved and maltreated... What do you want you think painting the man as evil and pushing blame for why your not successful or why your life is so shitty will help you.
I know its always fun to have someone to blame but no ... You say you are not given opportunities well that in itself is sexiest no body is just give opportunities (every mans life) but you have to take it you don't see ppl like Adele Hillary Clinton or Beyonce saying they had a hard time because they are good at what they do.
So you ppl need to chill and see life how it is. You are getting it wrong.. I think many ladies are even getting the idealism of feminism all wrong. Feminism has nothing to do with sentimental buttering to d female gender.... Women who wanna make an impact in our society, who won't allow the social norm and gender roles stop her from aiming high... That's a feminist. I trust Nigerians to bastardize a concept to fit their purpose. P.S we have different levels of feminism and we have male feminists. These male feminists actually helped the early female activists fight to be involved in politics, the right to vote. |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Oyindidi(f): 7:40pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
sunshineG:
I don't know it was that legend dude that kept advertising it ilegendd, teach me na |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Augustap(f): 7:43pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
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| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 7:48pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Now, intelligent women are speaking up brilliantly. Not those trashy fools that commented first. Good job brainy girls, not those slay things that can't slay with their brains or a pen. Rather they are experts slayers in bed.
Augustap, reinafarine, sugar97, adaumunocha...brilliant ladies. Good job
Still waiting for the dull popular local champion ladies on nl here.
I love me some intelligent woman. You can pack your endowments to the gutters if you don't have a brain as a part of the bundle |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Sugar97(f): 8:06pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
tosyne2much:
But come all we see are women who display arrogance and are quick to lash out to men?
Feminism is far above your definition. It's becoming more of nuisance these days It is not feminism simply because a woman is saying it |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by MichaelBlake40: 8:10pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
NeeKlaus:
Keyboard warrior. You are going about quoting people and forming tough, shey?
After you will open a thread and plead with us to beg Mr This and Sister That on your behalf.
This virtual life is getting into most of you girls' heads.  As in eh most gals nowadays are lilylivered and manipulative o 1 Like |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Sugar97(f): 8:10pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Tajbol4splend:
I get 3 there, shey I don marry you finish Uhmm...not so fast. It means we can now begin the process |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 8:10pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
ScotFree:
Now, intelligent women are speaking up brilliantly. Not those trashy fools that commented first. Good job brainy girls, not those slay things that can't slay with their brains or a pen. Rather they are experts slayers in bed.
Au.gustap, rein.afarine, suga.r97, dimpl.es129, adaumu.nocha...brilliant ladies. Good job
Still waiting for the dull popular local champion ladies on nl here.
I love me some intelligent woman. You can pack your endowments to the gutters if you don't have a brain as a part of the bundle Hmmmmm, you seem to have an unhealthy relationship with women atm, maybe you should check that out. How's your relationship with your mum and aunties? I don't feel good (by putting others down) so I got zero pleasure from reading this mention. People are as different as your five fingers so enjoy the differences and let people be. 6 Likes |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by MichaelBlake40: 8:15pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
ReinaFarine:
Aww.... Thanks! At least some gals know what they believe and what they want and are proud to stand up for it kudos girl.I enjoyed reading ur post but women are also responsible for some of the points u raised above |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 8:34pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Dimples129:
Hmmmmm, you seem to have an unhealthy relationship with women atm, maybe you should check that out. How's your relationship with your mum and aunties? I don't feel good (by putting others down) so I got zero pleasure from reading this mention. People are as different as your five fingers so enjoy the differences and let people be. I have a problem with a certain kind of women. And i think you should retract the part you asked about the women in my family. Because that's being specific and 'putting people down'. Those were your words. I didn't mention names. I have a problem with certain kinds of people. And i'm serious about retracting those words from your post. You can ignore a mention or ask not be mentioned anymore. Acceptable. But what you wrote...unacceptable. You don't know me and you don't know my family. This is me being nice now |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 8:39pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
ScotFree:
I have a problem with a certain kind of women. And i think you should retract the part you asked about the women in my family. Because that's being specific and 'putting people down'. Those were your words.
I didn't mention names. I have a problem with certain kinds of people. And i'm serious about retracting those words from your post. You can ignore a mention or ask not be mentioned anymore. Acceptable. But what you wrote...unacceptable. You don't know me and you don't know my family. This is me being nice now OK. Calm down dear... that was a cheeky psychology 101 dig... it's cool, nothing to retract because it was a question and not a statement. Stay nice and good night. |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by laliga01: 8:52pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
ReinaFarine:
Hiya... My cockswinging XY counterparts....
I think you're having a misconception of the word feminism in the first place...
I love Chimamanda Adichie's definition of the word... 'A person who believes in the social, political and economic Equality of the sexes'
I'm just gonna state few facts....
As popular as Chimamanda is for her work...
She was tipping a valet who had brought her car around for her. Her friend, who just happened to be a man, was sitting in the passenger seat, and as she handed the boy the money, he looked at the man and said, “Thank you, sir.”
I along with millions of my fellow NLers have heard of instances of divorce, witch hunting and brutality because of a woman's repeated conception of the female child....
It is a known fact that 60% of northern Nigerians marry at the age of 16 and only about 40% of them continue with their education....
I know for a fact that employers will most likely pick a man over a woman with equal qualification... I love my dad but he does this too... They give reasons like she will concentrate more on her home than her job... But I think that's because she was brought up to think that's what she's suppose to do....
I will use the most popular reason some Nigerian women are fighting for feminism...
A sexually promiscuous boy Vs. A sexually promiscuous girl...
A boy that drinks, smokes, does drugs and others will grow out of it with time... But a girl is an 'omo wobe' that is never marriageable
I think you will find very rare instance of an African woman saying she's going to work and her husband should sit at home... But intelligently stupid (forgive my language) men say that all the time without fear...
Yes.... You say you're not enslaving the for child... But how many times have you castigated Tiwa Savage for her manner of expression and laugh when Burna boy shows the same kind of morality....
When I went to serve, I wanted to get an apartment and my dad was like.... What are people going to say... A single Teenage girl.... Living alone.... Heeyah... His hands are not there oh!
I'm just 20 and I cannot count the number of wedding pictures my mum sends to me in a week....
We are free to do what we want... Ha!
How many actually know that....
I must reiterate that, gender is not as a result of accomplishment in previous life.... You just came out either with a swinging rod or a hole beneath.... So when I hear... A woman is not suppose to take like that.... Or a woman is not suppose to do that.... I just feel.... Adichie rightly said;
The problem with gender is that it prescribes who we should be rather than who we are
I don't know.... You think women are not enslaved...
Ha....
We are not asking for pity and favours... We are asking for us to be treated without gender discrimination.
How many of you will hire a female electrician to wire your house....
If the only reason I'm not allowed to do something is because there are sacs on my chest, that is sexist....
Paranoid? Insecure?
I agree with you on some of this... I think the best way to break them outta that shell they've got wrapped around them is by informing them of who they are and who they can be....
It is by educating the girl child...
It is by stop calling girls Olosho on social media
It is by saying no to underage marriage....
It is by treating everyone without consciousness of the gender....
I mean will you actually hit your best friend the way you want to beat your wife.... She's more than your best friend.... She's your everything.....
Paying for dates.... Lol.... Well.... If your woman is financially buoyant, I don't see why the heck not....
I'm just gonna say.... Whether it is paying the bills.... Or doing your laundry and house chores.... Everybody does something in the relationship... And it is god damned important....
I'm proudly feminist....
Truly African....
When we talk about feminism, I will love us to emphasise on sharing the bills more since we equal. 1 Like |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Daeylar(f): 9:02pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
laliga01:
When we talk about feminism, I will love us to emphasise on sharing the bills more since we equal. The problem is that you guys love to talk about sharing the bills. Can you guys truly deal with sharing the bills? Can you guys truly handle a woman who is independent and can handle half the bills in a home without messing with your ego and the need to be seen as head of the house and provider of the home? Can it truly work without causing problems? Secondly, feminism means equality, equality of the sexes, so if you guys want equality in handling bills that means that there must be equality in cleaning cooking and taking care of the kids, note I didn't say the man will help the woman do the above, I said equality, meaning the wife will be at home while the husband will go to the kitchen to cook and bring the food and serve himself and his wife, she won't do anything. And they rotate the cooking cleaning and taking care of the kids like that, Or another way they both cook, clean and take care of the kids together? If you can handle these 2 points then there is no big deal in sharing the bills 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 9:13pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Double post. |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 9:13pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
harry2sexy:
I'll start respecting the feminist movement when i see a woman drilling borehole.
I am sure i represent a consensus here That's something women are considered unfit to do. |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by tosyne2much(m): 9:15pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Sugar97:
It is not feminism simply because a woman is saying it I must say that feminism is more of nuisance in Nigeria 1 Like |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 9:18pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
coursednigerian:
how is that trash Not entirely trashy(pardon me) but you do not really understand what feminists and feminism stand for. |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by laliga01: 9:27pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Spare me that poo that feminism is of the sexes. Equity has no sexes. For both party to the happy, everything has to be done 50/50 with due respect for both parties. If you think because you contributed 50% of the bills, you can behave anyhow, not receiving double impact slap is not guaranteed. quote author=Daeylar post=61707503] The problem is that you guys love to talk about sharing the bills. Can you guys truly deal with sharing the bills? Can you guys truly handle a woman who is independent and can handle half the bills in a home without messing with your ego and the need to be seen as head of the house and provider of the home? Can it truly work without causing problems? Secondly, feminism means equality, equality of the sexes, so if you guys want equality in handling bills that means that there must be equality in cleaning cooking and taking care of the kids, note I didn't say the man will help the woman do the above, I said equality, meaning the wife will be at home while the husband will go to the kitchen to cook and bring the food and serve himself and his wife, she won't do anything. And they rotate the cooking cleaning and taking care of the kids like that, Or another way they both cook, clean and take care of the kids together? If you can handle these 2 points then there is no big deal in sharing the bills[/quote] 1 Like |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by kozmicity: 9:36pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Augustap:
The idea of feminism is quite misunderstood. The feminists are not asking for a chance to rule men or even rule the world. They are just seeking equality, they want their voice of reason to be heard. When the girl child becomes an important entity in a family and is regarded as equal to a male, things will be fine. No one is trying to paint men as villains, sometimes misconceptions could arise. The girl child iis given less respect, less care, less education, less love, maltreatments and funny enough more is expected of them. You'll never hear a boy forced into early marriage. Some parents may send their sons to school but not their daughters; all because they think her place is in the kitchen. Most times we forget that women play important roles in every activities of life. Why then do we think that the feminine folks are not intelligent, dignified and allowed to do some certain things? Why are they restricted? It's not up to a month that the women in Saudi Arabia were allowed to drive vehicles. Some countries still prohibit women from getting involved in politics. When a female boss scolds a staff, she is rude and arrogant but when it's a male boss, he has discipline. A spinster is not supposed to have a car cos the guys will run from her. But a man with a car is tagged an achievement. Since men willingly entrusts women with the task of raising their children and helping the family grow, they should also give them the chance to be progressive outside of marriage. Being a career woman, politician, feminist, etc will not stop a responsible woman from managing her home lovingly. Leave the feminists to have peace of mind. I'm not a feminist and i do not support the idealism of chauvinism. I only promote EQUALITY. What are you saying ...we are three boys in our house with an older sister ring the first child,I'm the second...but if you sew the love they shower on her,it's enough to make Satan repent...She'll be at home,I'll be the one to cook,clean,wash and even go to market(excluding other manly tasks).
I even heard a friend of my mum encourage her saying "A MAN IS SUPPOSED TO FO ALL THE WORK IN THE HOUSE FOR HIS WIDE"
She's a strong feminist...and you expect me to support a notion like that...I won't pretend...
If you cross ya lane as a woman,I will show you why God created man firstNuff said  2 Likes |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Nobody: 9:37pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
ReinaFarine:
Hiya... My cockswinging XY counterparts....
I think you're having a misconception of the word feminism in the first place...
I love Chimamanda Adichie's definition of the word... 'A person who believes in the social, political and economic Equality of the sexes'
I'm just gonna state few facts....
As popular as Chimamanda is for her work...
She was tipping a valet who had brought her car around for her. Her friend, who just happened to be a man, was sitting in the passenger seat, and as she handed the boy the money, he looked at the man and said, “Thank you, sir.”
I along with millions of my fellow NLers have heard of instances of divorce, witch hunting and brutality because of a woman's repeated conception of the female child....
It is a known fact that 60% of northern Nigerians marry at the age of 16 and only about 40% of them continue with their education....
I know for a fact that employers will most likely pick a man over a woman with equal qualification... I love my dad but he does this too... They give reasons like she will concentrate more on her home than her job... But I think that's because she was brought up to think that's what she's suppose to do....
I will use the most popular reason some Nigerian women are fighting for feminism...
A sexually promiscuous boy Vs. A sexually promiscuous girl...
A boy that drinks, smokes, does drugs and others will grow out of it with time... But a girl is an 'omo wobe' that is never marriageable
I think you will find very rare instance of an African woman saying she's going to work and her husband should sit at home... But intelligently stupid (forgive my language) men say that all the time without fear...
Yes.... You say you're not enslaving the for child... But how many times have you castigated Tiwa Savage for her manner of expression and laugh when Burna boy shows the same kind of morality....
When I went to serve, I wanted to get an apartment and my dad was like.... What are people going to say... A single Teenage girl.... Living alone.... Heeyah... His hands are not there oh!
I'm just 20 and I cannot count the number of wedding pictures my mum sends to me in a week....
We are free to do what we want... Ha!
How many actually know that....
I must reiterate that, gender is not as a result of accomplishment in previous life.... You just came out either with a swinging rod or a hole beneath.... So when I hear... A woman is not suppose to take like that.... Or a woman is not suppose to do that.... I just feel.... Adichie rightly said;
The problem with gender is that it prescribes who we should be rather than who we are
I don't know.... You think women are not enslaved...
Ha....
We are not asking for pity and favours... We are asking for us to be treated without gender discrimination.
How many of you will hire a female electrician to wire your house....
If the only reason I'm not allowed to do something is because there are sacs on my chest, that is sexist....
Paranoid? Insecure?
I agree with you on some of this... I think the best way to break them outta that shell they've got wrapped around them is by informing them of who they are and who they can be....
It is by educating the girl child...
It is by stop calling girls Olosho on social media
It is by saying no to underage marriage....
It is by treating everyone without consciousness of the gender....
I mean will you actually hit your best friend the way you want to beat your wife.... She's more than your best friend.... She's your everything.....
Paying for dates.... Lol.... Well.... If your woman is financially buoyant, I don't see why the heck not....
I'm just gonna say.... Whether it is paying the bills.... Or doing your laundry and house chores.... Everybody does something in the relationship... And it is god damned important....
I'm proudly feminist....
Truly African....
You're awesome. 1 Like |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Tajbol4splend(m): 9:38pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Sugar97:
Uhmm...not so fast. It means we can now begin the process
Which process again after 3 plots of land, you know how much them dey sell land |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Augustap(f): 9:48pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
kozmicity:
What are you saying...we are three boys in our house with an older sister ring the first child,I'm the second...but if you sew the love they shower on her,it's enough to make Satan repent...She'll be at home,I'll be the one to cook,clean,wash and even go to market(excluding other manly tasks).
I even heard a friend of my mum encourage her saying "A MAN IS SUPPOSED TO FO ALL THE WORK IN THE HOUSE FOR HIS WIDE"
She's a strong feminist...and you expect me to support a notion like that...I won't pretend...
If you cross ya lane as a woman,I will show you why God created man first
Nuff said When i listed the challenges of the girl child, i wasn't referring to all families. You don't expect me to start a national census because i want to distinguish families. I also enjoy more than enough love from my family and you didn't see me use myself as a case study. Test the waters b4 u swim 2 Likes |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by kozmicity: 9:57pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Augustap:
When i listed the challenges of the girl child, i wasn't referring to all families. You don't expect me to start a national census because i want to distinguish families. I also enjoy more than enough love from my family and you didn't see me use myself as a case study. Test the waters b4 u swim The bolded statement is what i wanted to argue...every girl/boy knows that its the opposite way and I just decided to use my family as case study 1 Like |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Augustap(f): 9:59pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
kozmicity:
The bolded statement is what i wanted to argue...every girl/boy knows that its the opposite way and I just decided to use my family as case study It's bolded so that those who the statements are meant for takes correction |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by kozmicity: 10:02pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Augustap:
It's bolded so that those who the statements are meant for takes correction And who are those offenders?? |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Augustap(f): 10:08pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
kozmicity:
And who are those offenders?? Jesu Kristi.... If you think my points do not make sense to you, why not move on to other comments. This is a forum, i can't mention the guilty "tribe" 2 Likes |
| Re: Feminists Are Insecure, Paranoid And Unreasonable by Ranchhoddas: 10:23pm On Oct 23, 2017 |
Sugar97:
True feminism recognises that men have roles that are distinct from those of women.
True feminism simply requests that the roles of women are not seen as inferior to those of men, but complementary.
True feminism requires that no one is discriminated against simply because they are feminine.
This is the best definition of feminism I've ever seen and strangely, it's the first time I'm seeing it. It is a definition I will give my full support. But from what I can see, it is not how the champions of the the feminist movement define it. Even Mrs/Ms/Miss Adichie's definition as given by ReinaFarine is not totally in alignment with yours. What are we to do?
Thank you for your definition. It made my night. |
