JONNYSPUTE:
. If this is the case,then they should not be complaining or deactivating because someone send u a pm. We re all matured here Nd this sort of things happens everywhere even in real life. Look at it this way,so because alit of guys sees u on the road Nd try chicking up will make u not to walk on the rad again?. They also should be matured enough to know where to draw the lines. Then coming to the issue of bashing,its not only the girls that receive bashing,we also receive it from them. If we all here can show respect for each other,I think nobody will ve problem with anybody.Somebody was bashing me yesterday on a thread Nd I believe he expected me to retaliate, but I didn't Nd he was disappointed when I told him thank u sir Nd that I ve heard him. If both genders here can show maturity,all these complain wouldn't be. By the way,did the girls told him the ones they replied their PMS?. I don't think so.

sexybbstar:
I agree with your post. The first and only Nairalander to curse my parents later sent me a pm telling me he would marry me immediately, I should just say yes to his proposal. Lol, kole werk!

lefulefu:
you got a point here though.on the issue of deactivation by some ladies there could be different reasons.its not the reason of pms per say.some who reject pms from some guys get trolled by the same guys and in some cases these guys issue them physical threats.the trolling here can be very vicious and psychologically damaging for someone who hasn't a thick skin.try and witness any of the trolling and u will see wat i am talking about.for some ladies it could be the reason of being slutshamed like the one that happened in the caringguy/ flame episode.

JoeClef:
Mtcheew! I want to fight with you joor! Get ready for me. Make I go ready for you.

JoeClef:
That's funny. Everyone is hiding. Please, where is Jessicaseth? I want to see all the guys that PMed her.

JoeClef:
Lol. Lie ke! It's the truth.

lefulefu:
dat jessicaseth incident was damm hilarious.

JoeClef:
Okay, Sir.

JoeClef:
Okay, Sir.

Tuham:


Kikikiki

Assume they af read his msg here, How he wan take get the mind to meet his in-law

Rukkydelta:

Like you were not among those that PMed her

JoeClef:
Warning to All Male Romancelanders

This is to all the guys here on Romance section.

I don't like what you guys are doing to the female gender here.

The abuse and the stalking is too much!

Yesterday, I was online and got messages from 3 different female Nairalanders. Two on WhatsApp and email.

The first one said, "Legend, I have been trying to deactivate my account for more than 20 times now but it isn't working. Maybe it's network."

I teased her by saying, "Climb a pole to get a better reception," and she laughed. Seconds later, she sent me a screenshot of her deactivated account and I teased her again by saying, "You see? Now you've climbed a pole, it worked," and she laughed my calling me crazy.

As this was happening, I began to wonder why she deactivated? This forum is fun and educative 60% of the time. "Why did you deactivate?" I asked. "Male Nairalanders are assholes," she replied.

Now, let me analyze this. Some of you (men) read online where some dating coaches say women love bad boys. The moment you read this, you become excited, create an account on social media platforms and start abusing innocent women for no reason or maybe, you want to be seen as a bad boy.

My brother, you're doing it wrongly. Good-bad boys don't abuse women. They're smart, intelligent, and futuristic. Only typical bad boys (aka touts) abuse women. Good-bad boys "tease and lead." The only time they abuse women is in the room—I mean, satisfying her in za oza room—be it slow, rough, or BĎSM.

Minutes later, another female Nairalander messaged me with the title: I Deactivated. Then she wrote something which I won't say. I was surprised, so I asked, "Why?" and her reply was about guys stalking her.

Minutes later, another one again. "Ah ah! What's going on? Abi una do deactivation meeting?" This one was about stalking, too many PMs, and abuses. These same people abusing her are the same people PMing her.

If she doesn't reply because of too many messages, they start to stalk with alternates or create a new thread with an alternate to abuse them. No real man does these. This is childishness. Rejection sucks, but men should learn to deal with it. We've all been there.

One thing you guys should know is, lots of monikers you see with (m) and male names are actually women. Some people posting numbers when a Nairalander shares money or credit are women. They have devised a means to hide under a male moniker. Almost all female Nairalanders have a male moniker.

And another thing for the guys, if all women deactivate, this forum will become boring. The yin and yang energy is what's keeping this forum fun. The feminine and the masculine energy is contagious, except you've been Bobriskylized.

If all these girls leave or secretly convert to male monikers, most of you guys will deactivate saying this forum looks too archaic and boring. Only those who use this forum resourcefully will stay. What you guys are doing is to the detriment of my boss, Séun. He won't be happy knowing you guys are making him lose visitors.

I'll give you guys some tips.

1. Stop stalking women.
2. Stop abusing women.
3. Stop asslicking women.
4. Stop bombarding women with PMs.

I'll use myself as an example.

If you really want to have your way here, be known like Explorers, Airfoce1, Tosyne2much, Lefulefu, IamSinz, and many more.

You can't be unknown and want her to reply you. If you don't have the time to make yourself known, then forget about female Nairalanders and focus on making money.

Another way to be known is to make sensible posts like Explorers, controversial comments like Nwamaikpe, be friendly with the ladies like Lefulefu without asslicking like Deadrat, or be unstoppably on your lane like Airforce1. It's called, "IDGAF. I dey my house. Cum and beat me."

All I'm trying to say is, you must stand out. No woman wants to associate with the unknown. If you're unknown, then you should be intelligent or rich.

You can't be unknown, unintelligent, or broke and expect a woman to reply you. This is not about gold digging, but replying sensible and potential men.

The people you mingle with will influence your attitude and this is why women want to mingle with the best or at least, the known, or the intelligent.

Read this: I haven't PMed more than 5 ladies here. The only ones I PMed were to wish them Happy New Year. I didn't woo them.

You'll be shocked to know I have 500+ Nairalanders on my WhatsApp. Most are my students / clients. And I have 1000+ Nairalanders registered on my site.

Everything happened in less than a year. "How did you do it?" you asked. It's my darling secret. I won't reveal it yet.

In summary:

Stop abusing women like IamJ thinking you'll be seen as a bad boy. No, you'll be seen as a tout and a hoodrat. #Yaga

Stop asslicking women like Deadrat thinking it will make you appear humble. No, you'll appear desperate and needy. #Skiboroboskibo

Stop mentioning your crush in all threads to appear lovely. No, it'll make you lose your value and appeal. #Zagadat

Stop stalking women like that guy that stalked Ivyy or Mimzyy last year. I don't even know his name. #OBO baddest.

Stop bombarding women with unsolicited PMs and don't even solicit for PMs either. Learn the way we do it like smooth criminals. #Yes o! Nothing dey happen

"Wisdom is free but kneeling and asking God for our portion of weed is where the indolence lies." — Joe Clef, 2017.

Stop smoking everything you see. Smoke wisdom, not weedsdom.

Best regards,
Thank you.

Joe Clef (iLegend)
(www.wetclef.com)

lefulefu:
nah i didn't pm her.i knew she was a troll right from day one..if i recall, the dude behind d moniker did release screenshots of those who sent her messages but mynd was appealed to..to take down the thread and of course our great mod heeded the request.

lefulefu:
nah i didn't pm her.i knew she was a troll right from day one..if i recall, the dude behind d moniker did release screenshots of those who sent her messages but mynd was appealed to..to take down the thread and of course our great mod heeded the request.

sexybbstar:
just imagine, abusing my parents that you haven't seen before. What if I marry him, he'll start beating them. No be so?

Rukkydelta:

Kikiki
One thing I love about romance section is the drama, very entertaining

LordHiffy:
I've noticed most guys on nairaland are just desperate young lads and its becos of the bad examples that we the older ones have set for them.

Tuham:


It's so bad ehn. They feel this is a forum they can just bash people anyhow and earn respect or fame from it

Things ain't gonna work like that. But yuh for give am the chance nah

Rukkydelta:

Lol I prefer physical combat instead
So that I can make you toothless and give you countless of punches

IamArleck:
Joeclef Be Lying, we are listening...

Dey pm'd you.. to complain as per say na only yhu jesus christ die for abi weitn?

NoFavors:
Please learn to speak for yourself

LordHiffy:

pls learn not to invite yourself where u are not needed

NoFavors:
Well, when you said 'We' you automatically included all elders around which is an indirect invitation. So like I suggested, learn how to speak for yourself. Kajiko?

NoFavors:
Well, when you said 'We' you automatically included all elders around which is an indirect invitation. So like I suggested, learn how to speak for yourself. Kajiko?

iamJ:
lets begin with who cares about ur opinion

who cares abt nairaland girls opinion


if u dont like me, i dont care

if ure ugly, i will tell u, call it wetin u like, i wouldnt still stop

LordHiffy:

when ure no longer faceless we'll talk, but for now, I'm not in any mood to get dirty by fighting in the mud with any pig.