Jupxter:



They are many faithful people. The thing is lots of people are compromised. Some dey wey no dey do am, others dey wey dey do am codedly, like have sex in other to keep my job, afterall, it's just to strip tease, do a lap dance, and not full blown sex, i will be fine. I need this to keep my job. My family needs the money. Compromise has wounded many of us.

shinarlaura:


I totally agree with u

shinarlaura:


My dear looks are very very deceitful. Never u judge a person by his looks. These guys claiming gentle and reserved are very dangerous. Abeg let me not talk

Life is too short to be worrying about unnecessary things. Abeg i no get time to dey stalk on my partner. He knows what and what not to do.

shinarlaura:

;Dyou eh

Jupxter:



I recall calling a chick on day, and she must have picked the phone before the act. And, why she picked i don't know till tomorrow, immediately she picked, it was just like i entered the room, and i laughed. I didn't even tell her i knew, she doesn't even know i knew till now. Maybe she will know later. I laughed. I was like see this " sante ", love is something sha. Someone hurt you, yet you love them back. Na wa !

Jupxter:



As a minister i was assigned to go to a city, though i didn't go. When i did my research when i was contemplating if i should go, do you know that eight out of ten young girls had a child or had done two abortions. I just weak. The whole city looks, OMG. Sex has wounded the young generation. No restrain, no control

elantraceey:



None that I'm aware of

shinarlaura:


Hahahahaha... then u need to go to that city as assigned . You might save some souls

patwhizkid:
Baba xynerio. So you're still here?


Xynerise

Jupxter:



I'll try. I've given things a thorough thought in the past few days. I think it's time to hit the streets...

alexialin:








Na wa o

U have mind o

U are large hearted

For me, it's not like Its easy to stop Loving the person but the betrayal alone won't allow me continue. I just can't move past a betrayal. I can forgive and move on and it's better I move on. Than forgive and stay.
My dear, I can't.

It's safe for everyone involved I move on and leave.

You try, still loving her.

alexialin:







Lol

He don disappear

Him wey bring topic, sef taya
Lol

His eyes don read enough.

Jupxter:




Hahaha, it's a case of commot mind. It's all good anyways. I had to bail, she ended up with a loser like that. What's my own? My mind is intact. Won't happen next time

alexialin:





Better.
It shouldn't.
Yours will come. Patience is the key and you have the right mind to make it work easily. All you need is the right companion.

She will come. Your way

Amen and for keeps this time.

xynerise:


See my first love on Nairaland

How many kids do you have now?

patwhizkid:



Kids? Half o �

How's awa wife?

xynerise:


My brother...it's not a small something o

Jupxter:





I am not repulsed to those who did it to who they love and cared about.....but to those who do it randomly or to peeps they didn't even love but just for the thrill of it....basically to those who just casualize the whole thing....

Don't make me laugh mate, as a friend of mine will say, your future wife is screwing somewhere at the moment, he says this to easen the pain of thinking about such kind of tendencies.Bitter truth is all ladies will say they did it out of love, for guy number one, two, three, four, five, and when it's time to settle, they almost struggle with deriving satisfaction from their loved ones. So if hey claim they do it out of love for every love they came across, then you have some adjustment to make to easen the pain of the thought.

[/b]Lol @ the lady, may God help us. One lady told me offline recently that the average lady between 20-25 has a body count of 7 guys minimum, she went into details and it made me weak. How would you feel if as a guy you maintain levell-headedness in your sexual control and desire but tag with a lady that has been east and west?

Divay22:
[b][/b]
Let her speak for herself abeg.

Jupxter:



Lol @ yours will come. This sounds tickerish


My mind is focused on work and ministry now. Not even searching anymore, even if i do, first and formost, she must be a fully committed believer of Christ so mutual interests is guaranteed. No time to waste people's time, no time to waste mine either

shinarlaura:


Lol.. my dear that's how it is ooo. It's not easy at all. When i started it was like i was in another planet . I was shocked by the things i saw but i later became used to it. To be honest with you, this world is completely damaged one day a neighbor of mine came to spend some times with his gf. When he entered at saw me at the reception, i could see the disappointment and shame in his face. This is a man i could swear with my life that he was faithful to his wife l. I was like, what the Bleep. That's just one among so many.

But that doesn't mean there re no faithful men and women out there.

alexialin:









Lol its not tickerish

And it's good u are focused on work and ministry.

Who knows u can meet the woman perfect for you, through your ministry.
Keep doing what u do.
Focus on making your life better and along the line, you will find love and commitment again. And the whole getting married and all will look like a dream and you will both look back, smile and talk about the hurdles in the past.

A freind of mine guy met his wife when both of them were fed-up of relationships and even thinking they will never see that suitable companion to settle down with.

But low and behold., they met each other in one seminar like that. They are both career people. They becMe friends, then from friends after sharing past experiences and all, the guy noticed the woman had almost all the qualities he needed in a wife and he asked her one day when they were gisting as usual.

Will you marry me?
She looked at him with surprise and she laughed and said look if u are mocking me this afternoon Abeg stop.

He said mocking? God forbid I can never mock u. But why would u feel I will not desire you for marriage and as my long term Companion? U are presentable, u are healthy, u have great values, you are pretty even though u feel otherwise and I admire your strength and resilience. So what stops us from getting married? She said but am older. And I don't have great job and am not that pretty. He said Shhhh! Stop.
Lemme worry about it, even though all these things u mentioned are nothing.

I don't need your money. Thank God we are both working. And I don't need Miss World you are perfect for me. To me, u are the most beautiful, and falls Inlove with u already. I was pondering on when to tell u and I can't hold it back anymore. I love you, I adore you and am ready to marry you in few months time.. Just say yes!
He said she started crying, he held her ,he calmed her down they kissed and the rest is history. They have two kids now, a four year old boy and a two years old daughter. The guy truly loves his wife. He doesn't cheat on her at all. And they are happy and content. And they got married when he was 34,the wife was 37. But u won't notice the age difference between them. They are happy.

So as you continue with your career, don't rule out meeting that lady along the line

It's never too late for God.

xynerise:


She dey jare


So you still dey find husband?

Divay22:

But who's to be blame in this kind of situation.
The girl how couldn't resist the married man or the man who wouldn't let the girl go.

patwhizkid:


Husband keh? No o
Na job I dey find now o

Jupxter:




This touched my heart. I decided this week i wasn't going to mingle anymore but will channel my energy to ministry. I'm starting with a church that needs to be filled within six months, i'm pushing all my ideas to make this work, my energy and resources, i guess along that path love will find me. You're right, this comment of yours is exactly what i'm going through, so i'm going to answer my cal. I've been running away for too long, time to put my selfish desires to rest and go answer the Lord[b]. It's hurting seeing lots of youths wallow in avoidable errors and no one to show them the right path. Time to do the right thing

alexialin:
[/b]






Exactly dear

That's the spirit. Thats it.

Focus on work and positive things and please accept the call. Don't run away anymore.
If you feel the time is here to do what God has been whispering to u 2 do. Then please start, don't delay. Cos delay is denial.
Like the Bible says, even though I rarely go to church o cos I don't know which verse to quote but all I can say is :
Accept God and everything will be added unto you.

For me have accepted God and I know He doesn't fail.

@the bolded, I plan to minister to youths, couples, singles, about the secrets of moving on in life successfully, becoming a conqueror and not a victim. I plan to educate people who are lost, down trodden, sad, desperate on life values and empowering their inner being without allowing external vices and circumstances take hold of their reasoning and inner being.
I see people going about life the wrong way and I shake my head.
Most Pastors are not helping matters, all their desire is to accumulate wealth and show off.. Very appalling , while their congregation is wallowing in self pity, depression and hopelessness even after coming back from church service.

A friend came back from church on Sunday. I was home all morning, I didn't go jare. I Was busy medidating and consulting God in my room, then I received a ping from him. After the normal pleasantries. He said, babe am tired of life .. Honestly am fed-up, biz is so tight.. It's annoying.

I said wait, wait, wait. Where are u coming from? He said church nah? I said church ke? And u have this mindset? Even after listening to your pastor? I can't believe this. A new week is yet to even start sef. Monday never even reach, u are complaining and tired already. Where is your faith? Cause even me that didn't go to church and my biz is not as it used to be, am. Not as depressed as u are right now. Have prayed to my God and I believe he won't let me down.

Don't despair. Give God credit at least. All is not lost. You will make it, just work towards strategies of making the biz blossom. Shebi you've prayed to God in church? He said yes, then believe God.. Don't under rate Him, be strong. You will be happy at the end. It's your right, your legacy and your inheritance. God do not fail.

He said wow! Alexy, u are God sent. I didn't see it that way! Wow! . Mehn thanks so much. God will bless you o... Eeyah u are a real friend. . I smiled I said amen. And you too. It's well.

My dear, may God put us through all the time in Jesus name amen.

Bigbeard:
I'm 100% certain that I will be faithful with my spouse because I'd take my time to make sure we are at least 90% a match so the chances of either of us straying is reduced by at least 80%...






Do I need to go on?

Yes, because change is the only constant thing in life

shinarlaura:

I ll blame the man cuz he has a matrimonial vow to respect.