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How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by HeWrites(m): 6:48am On Feb 14
Cheating as a form infidelity can cause you a lot. It can change your orientation about your new partner.

It is completely confusing to discover that your partner has violated your trust. You begin to question the whole relationship, struggle with feelings that you are not good enough and especially ask yourself if the damage may or may not be repaired.

One thing that can offer you at least a bit of comfort? If they have cheated and deceived you, you are not the only one. In fact, in 1/3 of marriages, one or both couples have committed some cheating during their relationship.

Although there are innumerable articles that encourage you to leave your unfaithful partner, there are also ways to help you in case you decide to try your relationship a second time. Many individuals have fallen into abusive relationships.

After all, if Beyonce and Jay-Z could do it, why not? If you have decided to stay with your partner after being deceived, you must know what is needed to heal.

Read on to discover how to rebuild a relationship after cheating.
Take some time to separate yourself
If you discover that you have been deceived, this can lead to severe disputes between you and your partner.

These fights stop being productive quickly. As soon as that happens, they will make cruel turns that can make it much harder for you to move on. If you still live or spend time together in the same environment, you may want to consider leaving. It will be impossible to resist the temptation to cut your partner or ask for forgiveness.

Whether they cheat you or you are cheating, you must lose yourself and your partner for a few days.

First, you can purify your mind. Second, you can request the support and advice of your friends. It will also help you get away from a toxic environment. So book that Airbnb dreams or spend a few nights on your friend’s couch.

Consider Counseling
Improving communication with your partner after being deceived is one of the most important things you can do to heal.
To ensure that both parties are heard and that problematic questions are dealt with fairly, it is a good idea to have a therapist as a mediator and give objective advice.

If you want to find local therapists in your area, you can search online or ask your friends if they know someone who can help you.

Remember that cheating is often caused by underlying problems in your relationship. It may even be the result of your partner’s emotional imbalance. It is essential to address these problems immediately if you want to rebuild trust. You should be careful of partners you choose, read here, 12 types of men you should not date.

Resist The Urge To Smell
20% of men go through texts and photos in a relationship. If they deceive you, the desire to spy on your partner can be incredibly strong. Although it may be satisfying or offer a sense of relief if you do not find anything, it is important to think big.

Remember that spying on your partner indicates a serious lack of confidence. If you want to continue with infidelity, you have to learn again how to trust your partner.

This starts with resisting the urge to check your messages on social networks.

Do not forget that it is a process
If it goes well with your partner, it can be tempting to throw the past through the window and return to your previous routines. It can also be a challenge to stay if the changes you want to see do not happen soon enough.

Give your partner the opportunity to improve and give yourself time to heal. Remember that recovery after infidelity is a process. If you treat it like a race, both lose.

https://sabtrends.com/2018/01/14/rebuild-relationship-cheating/

Lalasticlala Mynd44 Dominique Fynestboi

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by Nobody: 6:52am On Feb 14
HeWrites:


https://sabtrends.com/2018/01/14/rebuild-relationship-cheating/

Lalasticlala Mynd44 Dominique Fynestboi

I don't know about you but as for me once you lose my trust it's gone forever.

I can't be with someone that cheated on me, because everyday I would just be imagining how the dude was pounding her undecided cry

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by OgahBohz: 6:53am On Feb 14
seriously ... ? what if we don't want to redeem ourself?

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by QueenSuccubus(f): 6:54am On Feb 14
grin


When the TRUST IS GONE... It's done deal baby...

Sometimes it's better to let it go sha.. Let ur partner find his/her own happiness coz he/she is not happy being with u obviously..This is what i called self preservation.

Juz be happy with him/her & ur ur life will be light too. grin

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by GreenArrow1(m): 6:59am On Feb 14
It's very difficult o. I started dating a lady in May of last year. Things were moving fine. One little snag, she had a chronic habit of always talking about her exes, even up to the level of their sexual encounters. However, there was one military man (married) she always talked about that was like a father figure to her and also dating her friend. She gisted me of how she frequented the man's office everytime to "disturb him" and even caught him on one occasion banging the said friend.
You know, that feeling you get when you are hearing a story always and your instincts just keep telling you that something isn't adding up abi? Exactly. My spider senses were tingling.
So one day, when she was sitting across the table from me, I asked for her phone and started screening her whatsapp messages. Then boom! I saw a message from her to a guy: "I'm missing you."
The reply I saw was, "You are in a mood for a fvck right?"
To which she replied, "hmmm, you know na."
The rest are quite graphic.
I got to find out that the messages where from the same father figure she'd been always gisting me about.
This na man wey for siddon for my high table if me and this lady were going to get married fa!
Long and short of it, I got mad and she cried heaven and earth telling me it was in the past.
I didn't break up with her o. She and her folks wouldn't let that happen. I've tried working on it but I just can't trust her again. She still assumes she's my girlfriend while honestly I'm just using her to pass time. I just can't bring myself to ever trusting her again no matter what.

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by Olalan(m): 7:00am On Feb 14
Once a cheat is forever a cheat. If you discover your partner cheats its better to kiss the relationship goodbye cause they will always find another reason to do so. If I am faithful and you decide not to then it means we cant be together.

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by Slikbae: 7:01am On Feb 14
grin
Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by modelmike7(m): 7:01am On Feb 14
I'd rather play this track for HER.....

Eamon: DONT WANT YOU BACK...

See, I don't know why I liked you so much
I gave you all,
of my trust I told you,
I loved you,
now that's all down the drain
Ya put me through pain,
I want to let you know how I feel

Fuvck what I said it don't mean sh#t now
Fvck the presents might as well throw em out Fvck all those kisses, they didn't mean jack
Fvck you, you hoe,
I don't want you back
Fvck what I said it don't mean sh#t now
Fvck the presents might as well throw em out Fvck all those kisses they didn't mean jack
Fvck you, you hoe,
I don't want you back

You thought, you could Keep this poo from me, yeah Ya burnt bivch,
I heard the story Ya played me,
ya even gave him head....................

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by Nobody: 7:03am On Feb 14
Really?



Make I go find shukura number ASAP...




Oga the best way to rebuild your relationship with a cheating partner, is to go and cheat too so that everything go balance... 1-1 God no go vex..!

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by BruncleZuma: 7:05am On Feb 14
grin grin grin grin

Your slippers don cut be that ooo...
Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by badmanschatz: 7:06am On Feb 14
A Cheat today will still be a cheat tomorrow

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by CoolextPhoenix(m): 7:06am On Feb 14
Donnot rebuild ur relationship if cheating was involved,it is a complete and total waste of time
Note:A pucci that has been bleeped cannot be unfucked#Fact

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by seunlly(m): 7:07am On Feb 14
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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by chinawapz(m): 7:07am On Feb 14
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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by vchykp(m): 7:07am On Feb 14
Lolx.. some niggas talking trash up there 95% of men cheat even in marriage, if women decide to just walk away on every cheating man, the rate of divorce will raise to 200%..

Most times forgivness is very difficult and trusting a cheating partner becomes a taboo, but sometimes she/he deserves a second chance, considering the time you've spent together and the fantacy you built together.

She/he deserves a second chance only if she/he comes back to apologize with a sincere heart, it may seem difficult but..
"We all deserve a second chance afterall"

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by mespusinglez(m): 7:09am On Feb 14
EVERYONE DESERVES A SECOND CHOICE....IF GOD CAN FORGIVE US WHO ARE WE NOT TO DO SAME.. REMEMBER THE BIBLE SAYS 77X7 TIMES A DAY

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by pastorcyrus(m): 7:10am On Feb 14
HeWrites:


https://sabtrends.com/2018/01/14/rebuild-relationship-cheating/

Lalasticlala Mynd44 Dominique Fynestboi

Hmmmm,just meditating on this piece and the whole write-ups.Not easy to forgive a cheating partner

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by tete7000(m): 7:13am On Feb 14
Anyone not in a legal marriage sleeping with another person is a cheat. If you doubt, check the meaning of the word 'fornication', and for further reference, consult God. Humans have ways of deceiving themselves. They wrap and package lies, then present it to themselves as truth.

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by hedonistical: 7:13am On Feb 14
Bitch be gone. You don't know how filthy and disgusting a woman looks in her man's eyes when she had been found cheating. Yuck. Personally, I'll never be able to get an erection for her. Never be able to touch her again. The pig has to get lost, for ever. Even if we have 10 children. I'll look at the children with the same disdain. They're all gone.

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by AuroraB(f): 7:13am On Feb 14
I will not rebuild a relationship with someone who has slurped someone else's spit and all angry
Heaven forbid it angry
Hell no undecided

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by kambili999(f): 7:15am On Feb 14
well everyone deserves a second chance but the trust is going to be lowwwwww.
Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by Michelle55(f): 7:15am On Feb 14
cry I doubt if I can forgive a cheating partner, the best therapy is to let go. I don't want to imagine what he did with her cos it's gonna drive me crazy, it's best I move on and wish him well. if I was good enough for him, he wouldn't have nurtured the thought not to talk of carrying out the act in the first place.

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by OboOlora(f): 7:16am On Feb 14
Once a cheat, always a cheat. Never try to build what has crumbled, it’s like trying to convert an ISIS member, he will always go back to his vomit!

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by peacettw(f): 7:18am On Feb 14
The perfect oxymoron
Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by hedonistical: 7:19am On Feb 14
AuroraB:
I will not rebuild a relationship with someone who has slurped someone else's spit and all angry
Heaven forbid it angry
Hell no undecided
Michelle55:
cry I doubt if I can forgive a cheating partner, the best therapy is to let go. I don't want to imagine what he did with her cos it's gonna drive me crazy, it's best I move on and wish him well. if I was good enough for him, he wouldn't have nurtured the thought not to talk of carrying out the act in the first place.

Yeah right. Even if he's a multimillionaire? You'll leave his riches for another woman? Na so. Even if you have children with him already? You'll leave him and take your children to where? Lol. The rules aren't quite the same for men and women. You know that. Sometimes I wonder what planet some of you females live in, when you express views like this on social media, views that are at complete variance with the stark reality of the real world in our very own Nigeria.

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by kc2hansome(m): 7:19am On Feb 14
Ladies cheat more.
The truth about cheating is that if a man should cheat, he is aware of what he is doing to him it's a physical thing, he knows who he truly likes (His main chick/wife).
But when a lady cheats, it springs out of confusion and misplaced emotions. That's why u will notice the detachment if you were her husband/bf. Her eyes only clears when she starts seeing that the said mam she is cheating with is just doing it for physical pleasures, that's when you see her shamelessly returning to her duties in her main relationship. The truth eventually comes out and she is the bigger loser.

Modified: The reason it seems men cheats note is that when a lady cheats, she begins to misbehave, after a while she begins to say she is not feeling the relationship anymore. If you are stupid to ask why? , she would say " for no reason, I just want to break up". My brother, just know that, the olosho has cheated multiple times, and what to cut ties before you find out.

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by vchykp(m): 7:21am On Feb 14
tete7000:
Anyone not in a legal marriage sleeping with another person is a cheat. If you doubt, check the meaning of the word 'fornication', and for further reference, consult God. Humans have ways of deceiving themselves. They wrap and package lies, then present it to themselves as truth.
why arguing with yourself..? are u sure u read d write-up?
Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by comos: 7:21am On Feb 14
GreenArrow1:
It's very difficult o. I started dating a lady in May of lasted year. Things were moving fine. One little snag, she had a chronic habit of always talking about her exes, even up to the level of their sexual encounters. However, there was one military man (married) she always talked about that was like a father figure to her and also dating her friend. She gusted me of how she frequented the man's office everytime to "disturb him" and even caught him on one occasion banging the said friend.
You know, that's feeling you get when you are hearing a story always and your instincts just keep telling you that something isn't adding up abi? Exactly. My spider senses were tingling.
So one day, when she was sitting across the table from me, I asked for her phone and started screening her whatsapp messages. Then boom! I saw a message from her to a guy: "I'm missing you."
The reply I saw was, "You are in a mood for a fvck right?"
To which she replied, "hmmm, you know na."
The rest are quite graphic.
I got to find out that the messages where from the same father figure she'd been always gisting me about.
This na man wey for siddon for my high table if me and this lady were going to get married fa!
Long and short of it, I got mad and she cried heaven and earth telling me it was in the past.
I didn't break up with her o. She and her folks wouldn't let that happen. I've tried working on it but I just can't trust her again. She still assumes she's my girlfriend while honestly I'm just using her to pass time. I just can't bring myself to ever trusting her again no matter what.

you better discard her, for your own safety

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by ukehnonny(m): 7:22am On Feb 14
angry
its always hard to forget. The memory can't be erased

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Re: How To Rebuild Your Relationship With Your Partner After Cheating by vchykp(m): 7:23am On Feb 14
hedonistical:
Bitch be gone. You don't know how filthy and disgusting a woman looks in her man's eyes when she had been found cheating. Yuck. Personally, I'll never be able to get an erection for her. Never be able to touch her again. The pig has to get lost, for ever. Even if we have 10 children. I'll look at the children with the same disdain. They're all gone.

No wonder your monika is "hedonistical".. you have d "herdsmen" mindset.. Yuck!!

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