Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 6:37am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1: When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others. Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage
1. No wife materials Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria.
2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.
3. Nigeria weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.
4. In search of a ‘working class’ Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.
5. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships.
6. Trust issues Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.
Also women like you feening for abs and big eggplant |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Mcreloaded(m): 6:48am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Nigerian youths are lazy if not I remember my father in his youth had 3 wives and my grand parents but now our youths are so lazy that even the presidents son is yet to marry because we the youths are so lazy thats why we have this thread in the first place and lots of women sarah for every where and few husband. 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 7:16am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Your post is too sentimental |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Naruto87(m): 7:20am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1: When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others. Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage
1. No wife materials Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria.
2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.
3. Nigeria weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.
4. In search of a ‘working class’ Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.
5. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships.
6. Trust issues Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.
nice write up.. most ladies just want to eat their cake and have it. they want the respect their grandmothers had and the perk of a modern lady. 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 7:23am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat you are copying the West, we want to copy the West too. You are saying feminism is the way forward, we are saying bills sharing like it is in the West is the way forward. It leaves us both balanced. Is it a crime to copy what our females are copying? 5 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Adesolomon2014(m): 7:34am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat Who told U that the mothers then weren't hardworking and do cater for the family. I can see clearly that U are frustrated due to you not possessing 1 & 4 quality... Ur papa aus still dey sweet u, isoorait! Kwatinue! Dey dere dey find Mr Right instead of working on yaself...U neva see anyfin...Slay motherfuckas! 2 Likes |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by ernieboy(m): 7:36am On Apr 21, 2018 |
TheUpsetGirl1:
for the records.
I don't work in a buiscuit factory and can never work in one.
I only made that statement that day to justify my thread.
cc uduju what is wrong with working in a biscuit factory? 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Thegeneralqueen(f): 7:51am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Cutehector: you want money right? Who know like money |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by 1stola: 7:52am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat Painment I see The yahoo yahoo goats that keeps fuckìng and dumping you. Look back in time and we can count 10 dicks now... Shameful I pity who go marry waste product 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 7:54am On Apr 21, 2018 |
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Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by okolet(m): 7:54am On Apr 21, 2018 |
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Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Thegeneralqueen(f): 7:55am On Apr 21, 2018 |
lestat:
I followed all your comments, if you look back at the time you spent responding to comments with the aim of insulting certain users whom you termed as broke guys you would be surprised how much time you could have used to pass a positive message that some young ladies might learn from.
I know it's hard but try to resist the urge to be abusive irrespective of how preemptive the comment may be
You are a lady, (that doesn't signify wekaness) and no it doesn't mean men have Monopoly of acting guttery
But we still hope to look to you women to remind is what a prime and proper character should be
Alot of your posts made me smile though (dark humor)
Oddly enough I find you very interesting, your edgy feminist stance makes you wuite appealing and scary at the same time
But I understand feminism is born out of an oppresive system that tries to subjugate women which is very unnatural
We should be friends Do I know you |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by okolet(m): 7:56am On Apr 21, 2018 |
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Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Thegeneralqueen(f): 7:56am On Apr 21, 2018 |
chisco82: Are you saying that we were actually the people Pmb is refering to in London? I don't know what you're talking about..... you said it with your mouth not mine biko |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 7:57am On Apr 21, 2018 |
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Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Thegeneralqueen(f): 7:59am On Apr 21, 2018 |
lestat:
You haven't answered my question |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 8:02am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: You haven't answered my question If you are asking if we have met before? No we haven't I don't think reading someone's posts for years here can equate to knowing them I assumed this was clear from my first post ? |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Thegeneralqueen(f): 8:06am On Apr 21, 2018 |
lestat:
If you are asking if we have met before? No we haven't
I don't think reading someone's posts for years here can equate to knowing them
I assumed this was clear from my first post ? Hmmmmm if you say so |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Cutehector(m): 8:06am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Who know like money oya come my house make I give you money |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Cutehector(m): 8:07am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Who know like money grammarnazi1 oya come like a dog and lick this poo... |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 8:11am On Apr 21, 2018 |
You always speak with a lot of wisdom like my man Lefu UDUJ:
Okay TheUpsetGirl1 let me give you some inkling as to why most guys are scared of marriage:
Basically it could be the reason of independent decision making which is generally curbed after marriage. A lot of responsibilities , tension ,anxiety creeps in to your mind as you have to make sure you handle everything efficiently which may lead to several health problems thereby decreasing your life span.
Men love to be carefree , absolutely free to do whatever they love to do , which is not possible after marriage for we become tied to our family and its members.
Also many a times there are chances of arguments, quarrels and domestic violence on account of mismatch of ideas, misunderstanding, clash of opinions, etc which disrupts the smooth running of life.
Life is short with an uncertain duration and no one knows what is going to happen with him in the next birth, so he wants to enjoy everything he wants to in this birth itself and tries to avoid marriage as much as possible.
Most of us view Marriage as a Mirage. Peace of mind goes after few days .You feel bonded ,and fall in a dilemma which you cannot share with anyone .
Your personality is shared , you loose your privacy .If your views are not common you develop contradictions.
If your mother develops contradiction with your wife there is another headache. If your wife has some male friend and you are not open minded you develop another psychological dilemma with what to do or not to do. If u have a female friend and you don’t tell your wife you have a guilty feeling and if your wife gets to know 95% of time her reaction will be negative.
If your wife does not conceive you become worried, if she becomes pregnant you remain worried till delivery. After delivery if your child has some handicap your whole life becomes hell. You worry about the family, the future, societal pressures to meet up etc etc.
The truth is, most of us feel this way when we have doubts about the partnership (who we are bonding for life with). Once there are no doubts we jump headfirst into marriage without thinking. We listen to no one and follow our hearts and the heart never fails. That's how you know you've found the right one. But the possibility of finding the right one these days is getting smaller and smaller sadly
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Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by okolet(m): 8:14am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Hehehe TheBiscuitgirl1 TheUpsetGirl1:
for the records. I don't work in a buiscuit factory and can never work in one. I only made that statement that day to justify my thread.
cc uduju 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 8:19am On Apr 21, 2018 |
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Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 8:25am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: I don't know what you're talking about..... you said it with your mouth not mine biko Lee nu way gi nu? |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Thegeneralqueen(f): 8:27am On Apr 21, 2018 |
lestat:
I would.like us to.connect We're already connected |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by 1930revival(m): 8:32am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat What is your definition of laziness.....you talked about the olden days of our fathers, can you compare the priorities, value, standards and economic status with what the nation is now? Let me presume that all your brothers are born with silver spoon and have financial challenges,,,,but fates differs and things do change....moreover it's not bad if a lady supports her man financially if she can....Bible says women are help mates. Abi Na only #bedmatics Dem sabi |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by okolet(m): 8:36am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Anoda Monica spotted oo Issorite highpriestess:
lol,I mark for lecturers. |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 8:42am On Apr 21, 2018 |
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Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 8:42am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: We're already connected touché But you know what I mean Let's connect outside this forum |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 8:59am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Thegeneralqueen: Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat But at least our fathers married mothers as virgins not the hookers we have all over the place today looking for husbands like idiots looking for a pin in the middle of the ocean. When it comes to money and lust for material things, you women don't remember pretend not to remember the gender equality you clamour day and night. 1 Like |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by okolet(m): 9:02am On Apr 21, 2018 |
Hmm Mr. 4G connect lestat:
touché
But you know what I mean
Let's connect outside this forum |
Re: 6 Reasons Nigerian Men Run From Marriage by Nobody: 9:07am On Apr 21, 2018 |
l want to marry... l m thinking btw Ruthdaniels and the Upsetgirl... l m in love with these two ladies but l Dont know which one to take.... help! |